{"id":22819,"date":"2022-01-17T11:46:21","date_gmt":"2022-01-17T08:46:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=22819"},"modified":"2022-01-17T11:46:22","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T08:46:22","slug":"nu-le-mai-rani-oleaca","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-le-mai-rani-oleaca\/","title":{"rendered":"Nu le mai r\u0103ni oleac\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Discutau ni\u0219te gigei despre femei. \u0218i zice unul: B\u0103i, e incredibil ce memorie \u0219i ce sete de r\u0103zbunare au femeile. Spui o t\u00e2mpenie, pentru c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 le r\u0103ne\u0219ti oleac\u0103, \u0219i \u021bi-o repro\u0219eaz\u0103 \u00een toate certurile viitoare, apoi o folose\u0219te \u0219i ca subpunct \u00een ac\u021biunea de divor\u021b \u00een instan\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ooook. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ascult \u0219i simt cum \u00eemi pulseaz\u0103 discret o ven\u0103, de enervare subit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum ar veni, problema nu e\u0219ti tu care, hodoronc – tronc, din absolut nimic, “vrei s\u0103 le r\u0103ne\u015fti oleac\u0103”, problema sunt ele, c\u0103 nu aleg s\u0103 tolereze ovin \u015fi \u00eemp\u0103ciuitor decizia ta de a “le r\u0103ni oleac\u0103”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De unde vine nevoia de a “r\u0103ni oleac\u0103”? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Probabil, e tot un derivat al masculinit\u0103\u0163ii toxice. (Adic\u0103, al tuturor atitudinilor de fals\u0103 superioritate, arogan\u0163\u0103 nejustificat\u0103, misecuvenism \u015fi c\u00e2\u015ftigare la belciuge asociate tradi\u0163ional cu condi\u0163ia de b\u0103rbat.) Faptul c\u0103 po\u0163i “s\u0103\u0103 r\u0103ne\u015fti oleac\u0103” pe cineva \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 un sentiment de putere \u015fi de autoimportan\u0163\u0103. De ce e important? Pentru c\u0103, \u00een cazul acestui tip de gigei, rela\u0163ia nu e un parteneriat bazat pe iubire, unde ambii membri fac lucruri pentru fericirea comun\u0103 \u015fi pentru bucuria celuilalt, ci un raport de subordonare, unde el, numit \u00een cele ce urmeaz\u0103 buricul p\u0103m\u00e2ntului, \u015fi-a adjudecat slug\u0103 moca, pe care o poate brusca \u015fi bruftului dup\u0103 pofta inimii, fizic sau emo\u0163ional, deriv\u00e2nd pl\u0103cere din senza\u0163ia de disconfort \u015fi suferin\u0163\u0103 pe care o st\u00e2rne\u015fte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mai vezi genul \u0103sta de lab\u0103 trist\u0103 care \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se valideze prin nepl\u0103cerea pe care o provoac\u0103 \u015fi \u00een sec\u0163iunea de comentarii. Posteaz\u0103 ploaie de insulte, apoi te ceart\u0103 tot pe tine c\u00e2nd \u00eel pui la punct, pentru c\u0103 \u00een min\u0163i\u015foara lui, tu e\u015fti \u00eenscris\u0103 la un concurs de rezisten\u0163\u0103 \u00een care trebuie s\u0103 \u00eencasezi insulte f\u0103r\u0103 ripost\u0103 sau ceva \u015fi c\u00e2\u015ftigi… nimic. Evident c\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a personal\u0103 nu voi tolera niciodat\u0103 acest tip de om \u015fi \u00eei voi da jet de la prima tentativ\u0103 de r\u0103nire oleac\u0103 \u015fi, tot evident, singurele concursuri care m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 sunt cele \u00een care aleg eu s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenscriu, \u015fi \u00een care premiul e suficient de consistent s\u0103 merite efortul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Care e miza \u00een a “r\u0103ni oleac\u0103”? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Miza e nevoia lui gigel de a se impune. De a-\u0163i ar\u0103ta el \u0163ie cine e \u015feful. Da, e exact at\u00e2t de penibil. Iar c\u00e2nd nevoia de a ar\u0103ta cine e \u015feful se combin\u0103 cu un nivel precar de inteligen\u0163\u0103, rezultatul e insulta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei nu e nimic personal. \u015ei gigeii \u00eentre ei se \u0163in \u00een insulte reciproce, p\u00e2n\u0103 negociaz\u0103 o dinamic\u0103 a puterii. E singurul mod al prostului de a se remarca. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum combatem r\u0103nirea oleac\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen niciun caz fiind doamne \u015fi trec\u00e2nd cu vederea. Sigur, dac\u0103 de c\u00e2te ori te r\u0103ne\u015fte oleac\u0103, se revan\u015feaz\u0103 cu un buchet imens de trandafiri, o rochie de designer \u015fi un cec de 5000 de euro, po\u0163i fi o doamn\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 treci cu vederea, pentru c\u0103 iat\u0103, lol. Dar c\u00e2nd nici m\u0103car nu proceseaz\u0103 c\u0103 problema e \u00een dobitoceniile pe care le spune, nu te teme de conflict \u015fi nu te teme s\u0103 ie\u015fi pe u\u015f\u0103. Multe vasilici au o fric\u0103 sinistr\u0103 de singur\u0103tate, dar nimic nu vindec\u0103 \u015fi nu echilibreaz\u0103 ca singur\u0103tatea. Iar unui om singur \u00eei e incomparabil mai bine dec\u00e2t unuia care e perpetuu “r\u0103nit oleac\u0103”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 educi gigelul c\u0103 doamna se respect\u0103 sau se car\u0103 naibii, subit \u00ee\u015fi va controla cu mult mai mult\u0103 grij\u0103 modul \u00een care pune cuvintele \u00een propozi\u0163ii. Dac\u0103 proceseaz\u0103 c\u0103 r\u0103nirea oleac\u0103 prezint\u0103 consecin\u0163e, va evita s-o practice. Iar dac\u0103 nu \u00eei pas\u0103 c\u0103 te pierde, m\u0103car \u015ftii \u015fi nu-\u0163i mai pierzi tu timpul valoros. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deci, da, gigel. Dac\u0103 ai r\u0103nit-o oleac\u0103 \u015fi a citat asta \u015fi \u00een instan\u0163\u0103, de vin\u0103 e nevoia ta de a r\u0103ni oleac\u0103, nu faptul c\u0103 reac\u0163ioneaz\u0103. Mergi la un terapeut \u015fi vezi ce de nu po\u0163i tr\u0103i armonios. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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