X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, f\u0103-i v\u00e2nt psihologului de acum. E un impostor ordinar. Religia, Dumnezeu \u0219i b\u0103\u0219inile astea cu rug\u0103ciunea care \u021bine loc \u0219i de ac\u021biune, \u0219i de medicament, \u0219i periodic \u0219i de g\u00e2ndire, nu au ce c\u0103uta \u00eentr-un cabinet de specialitate, iar dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 auzi c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 te rogi la Dumnezeu, nu ai de ce s\u0103 pl\u0103te\u0219ti 300 de lei ora (mai bine doneaz\u0103 aici, c\u0103 eu te voi consilia mai bine), ci ajunge s\u0103 intri \u00een vorb\u0103 cu orice mamaie de pe Facebook. \u00centre o toc\u0103ni\u021b\u0103 \u0219i un serial, o s\u0103-\u021bi explice c\u0103 Dumnezeu e mare \u0219i bun, \u0219i dac\u0103 te rogi, totul se rezolv\u0103. Gratis. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen al doilea r\u00e2nd: un mod de a-\u021bi reforma de la zero via\u021ba este s\u0103 te concentrezi pe solu\u021bii, nu pe probleme. Am fost s\u0103rac pe c\u00e2nd eram copil? Da, DAR NU E CU NIMIC VINA MEA. E vina idio\u021bilor care \u0219i-au ales s\u0103 se \u00eempuiasc\u0103 a\u0219a de-aiurea, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se g\u00e2ndeasc\u0103 c\u0103 respectivul copil va avea nevoi, printre care, nevoia de acceptare \u0219i recunoa\u0219tere de c\u0103tre colegi (\u0219i, da, asta presupune s\u0103 nu-l for\u021bezi s\u0103 arate ca cer\u0219etorul ora\u0219ului, exact la v\u00e2rsta la care ru\u0219inea e tr\u0103it\u0103 at\u00e2t de intens \u0219i de melodramatic pentru orice mic rahat.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mbun. Nu e cu nimic vina ta c\u0103 ai fost s\u0103rac\u0103 \u00een adolescen\u021b\u0103. NU ERAI PE BANII T\u0102I, AT\u00c2TA S-A PUTUT; NU CONTROLAI SITUA\u021aIA. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen schimb, e meritul t\u0103u exclusiv 100% c\u0103 ACUM, \u00ceN PREZENT, e\u0219ti \u00een cu totul alt punct al vie\u021bii tale, c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi permi\u021bi chiar \u0219i lucruri de care nu ai neap\u0103rat nevoie, doar pentru c\u0103 le vezi la al\u021bii. Stabile\u0219te-\u021bi mintal c\u0103 vei tr\u0103i \u00eentr-un mod care s\u0103 celebreze faptul c\u0103 ai evoluat de la adolescentul rupt \u00een c** \u0219i perpetuu minimalizat la persoana care e\u0219ti acum. Bucur\u0103-te de faptul c\u0103 ai tot ce-\u021bi trebuie, ba chiar mai mult. E rezultatul efortului t\u0103u. YOU DID IT. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar legat de bullies, recomand metoda Lorena Lupu, \u0219i anume: Ia mai sooge\u021bi voi pxla cu mamele voastre c***e proaste, ur\u00e2te \u0219i ieftine. E un mod excelent de a te deta\u0219a, de a recunoa\u0219te inten\u021bia de a r\u0103ni a interlocutorului drept un comportament care \u00eel define\u0219te strict pe el \u0219i care nu spune nimic real despre tine. C\u0103 restul colegilor te umileau? Erau copii mici \u0219i pro\u0219ti care nu \u0219tiau cum e c\u00e2nd p\u0103rin\u021bii se zg\u00e2rcesc s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dea un leu bani de buzunar \u0219i e\u0219ti singurul din clasa ta care nu-\u0219i permite un covrig. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Da, am trecut \u0219i eu prin asta. De ce nu m\u0103 afecteaz\u0103 acum? Pentru c\u0103 nu era ceva ce puteam controla, a fost o problem\u0103 pe care \u00eentre timp am rezolvat-o, iar acum m\u0103n\u00e2nc la ce restaurant aleg s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc, c\u00e2nd vreau eu. \u0218i e meritul meu. Sigur, contribuie la asta \u0219i donatorii care sus\u021bin blogul, \u0219i dac\u0103 tot \u00ee\u021bi economisesc banii de psiholog, sper s\u0103 te numeri \u0219i tu printre ei de acum \u00eencolo, lol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Revenind. Colegii te umileau din ignoran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i imaturitate. Dar faptul c\u0103 o muiere \u00een toat\u0103 firea, care ar fi trebuit s\u0103 \u0219tie c\u0103 un copil se poate \u00eembr\u0103ca doar \u00een ce are acas\u0103, f\u0103cea mi\u0219to de tine, vorbe\u0219te doar despre ce gunoi tic\u0103los \u0219i superficial e muieretul \u0103la \u0219i despre cum nu ar fi avut ce c\u0103uta \u00een \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m\u00e2nt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u0103 te la\u0219i traumatizat\u0103 tu, la 35 de ani, de rebutul \u0103sta uman \u0219i de ni\u0219te muco\u0219i cu ca\u0219 la bot? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Hai, c\u0103 po\u021bi mai bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Preia controlul asupra propriei vie\u021bi, deta\u0219eaz\u0103-te de ceea ce a fost \u0219i bucur\u0103-te de ce e acum. Pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 \u0219tii, dar sunt mul\u021bi care, la 35 de ani, \u00eenc\u0103 tr\u0103iesc de pe o zi pe alta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen momentul \u00een care \u00ee\u021bi g\u0103se\u0219ti relaxarea \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi pui \u00een prim plan meritul pentru c\u0103 ai f\u0103cut s\u0103 se schimbe via\u021ba pentru tine, se cam vindec\u0103 de la sine \u0219i frustrarea pe avutul altora, \u0219i nevoia de a-i maimu\u021b\u0103ri, \u0219i evoluezi p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul c\u00e2nd descoperi ce \u00ee\u021bi place \u021aIE. Propriul stil, propriile tabieturi, propriile pl\u0103ceri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E alegerea ta s\u0103 fii perpetua victim\u0103 sau \u00eenving\u0103torul de la un punct \u00eencolo. Iar pentru mine, cel mai bun exemplu legat de blocajul \u00een care te bag\u0103 mentalitatea de victim\u0103 e propria mea mam\u0103. 30 de ani dup\u0103 divor\u021b, \u00eenc\u0103 mi se v\u0103ieta de neglijen\u021ba \u0219i adulterul lui taic\u0103-meu. Iar asta nu mai e vina lui. E vina ei c\u0103, \u00een loc s\u0103-\u0219i dea singur\u0103 un \u0219ut \u00een c**, s\u0103 ia la cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 ce e \u00een jurul ei acum \u0219i s\u0103 exploreze op\u021biuni prezente, a stat s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i scobeasc\u0103 de una singur\u0103 r\u0103nile \u0219i s\u0103 stoarc\u0103 mila vecinelor cu bocete 30 de ani. C\u00e2t i-a luat lui Ceau\u0219escu s\u0103 construiasc\u0103 dictatura comunist\u0103, i-a luat maic\u0103-mii s\u0103… nimic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Odat\u0103 problema dep\u0103\u0219it\u0103 \u0219i rezolvat\u0103, NU MAI AI NICI UN MOTIV s\u0103 te victimizezi \u00een continuare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Move on, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103cut acest articol, sus\u0163ine site-ul cu o dona\u0163ie<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n *** Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimi(te)\u021bi problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":22895,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22874","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/girl-gae40d5955_640.jpg?fit=640%2C400&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22874","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22874"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22874\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22896,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22874\/revisions\/22896"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22895"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22874"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22874"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22874"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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