\u00ce\u021bi scriu la sugestia celei mai bune prietene ale mele, care e sigur\u0103 c\u0103 tu m\u0103 po\u021bi ajuta. \u0218tiu \u0219i nu prea de ce \u00eemi pas\u0103 de p\u0103rerile altora despre mine \u0219i via\u021ba mea. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am un prieten\/amic care nu \u00ee\u0219i poate duce traiul zilnic dac\u0103 nu se bag\u0103 cu sfaturi necerute \u00een via\u021ba tuturor. Inclusiv \u00een a mea. Cum sunt b\u0103bu\u021bele care stau la scara blocului \u0219i \u0219tiu tot ce mi\u0219c\u0103.\u00a0Am ajuns s\u0103 m\u0103 las at\u00e2t de afectat\u0103 de el, \u00eenc\u00e2t mi se face r\u0103u numai c\u00e2nd v\u0103d c\u0103 m\u0103 sun\u0103. Am de mult timp probleme cu anxietatea. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Tipul \u0103sta, sub pretextul c\u0103 m\u0103 ajut\u0103, \u00eemi \u021bine ni\u0219te prelegeri despre cum s\u0103 \u00eemi rezolv problemele \u00eenc\u00e2t m\u0103 face s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eendoiesc constant de mine. M\u0103 face s\u0103 m\u0103 simt incapabil\u0103 \u0219i handicapat\u0103. Am rupt contactul cu el un timp, dar e totu\u0219i un om bun \u0219i am zis c\u0103 exagerez. Nu \u0219tiu cum s\u0103 gestionez situatia asta, poate s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2nem amici, dar s\u0103 reu\u0219esc s\u0103 \u00eei pun limite.\u00a0\u00cemi asum o mu\u0219truluire din partea ta. \u0218i \u00ee\u021bi mul\u021bumesc pentru c\u0103 ai citit \u0219i sunt recunosc\u0103toare pentru un eventual r\u0103spuns.\u00a0<\/strong> X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 un om \u00ee\u021bi st\u00e2rne\u0219te un disconfort at\u00e2t de acut \u00eenc\u00e2t \u021bi se face r\u0103u c\u00e2nd te sun\u0103, NU ai alt\u0103 cale dec\u00e2t s\u0103 rupi definitiv contactul, indiferent c\u00e2t e de bun sau de r\u0103u. Exist\u0103 foarte pu\u021bini oameni buni sau r\u0103i la modul absolut, \u0219i nenum\u0103ra\u021bi oameni buni sau r\u0103i pentru tine specific. Drumul spre iad e pavat de bune inten\u021bii, iar dac\u0103 individul nu reu\u0219e\u0219te s\u0103-\u021bi livreze bunele lui inten\u021bii \u00eentr-un mod care s\u0103 te ajute propriu-zis, te po\u021bi dispensa de el lini\u0219tit\u0103 \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 regrete. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Altfel, \u021bin minte groaza cu care ocoleam blocul \u0219i ie\u0219eam pe scara de dus gunoiul, doar ca s\u0103 nu m\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lnesc cu h\u00e2rcile b\u00eerfitoare \u0219i rele de pe banc\u0103. P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi, c\u00e2nd din bloc a ie\u0219it o gagic\u0103 mi\u0219to, dar de moravuri relativ u\u0219oare, pe care hoa\u0219tele noastre o tocau m\u0103runt \u0219i nemilos. Bine, \u0219i ea avea un obicei de a urca numai \u00een ma\u0219ini scumpe de diverse branduri de lux, iar cotoroan\u021bele, gospodine care \u0219i-au f\u0103cut prima hernie de la tonele de covoare b\u0103tute, o invidiau cu ardoare, mai ales c\u0103 ea era t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u0219i dorit\u0103, iar ele \u00ee\u0219i irosiser\u0103 tinere\u021bea f\u0103c\u00e2nd ciorb\u0103 pentru un gigel oarecare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i o \u00eentreab\u0103 una din bo\u0219oroage cu un ton fals mieros pe fata noastr\u0103 vesel\u0103: <\/p>\n\n\n\n -Da’… unde te duci, frumoaso? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Fata i-a r\u00e2njit \u00een nas b\u0103b\u0103tiei \u0219i i-a spus senin: <\/p>\n\n\n\n -La f***t, mamaie. M\u0103 duc s\u0103 iau o p**\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 mi-o bag \u00een p*z*\u0103. Ce zici, vii \u0219i tu? Te \u021bine? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Babele au t\u0103cut cu ochii beli\u021bi de ziceai c\u0103 tocmai le pescuise cineva, iar eu am avut o revela\u021bie. Nu trebuie s\u0103 fugi de gurile rele \u0219i nu trebuie s\u0103 le faci concesii. Trebuie s\u0103 sco\u021bi carbasanul \u0219i s\u0103 le ba\u021bi peste bot cu el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Deci, dat jet p\u0103reristului nesolicitat, block peste tot, nonnegociabil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Problema mai de perspectiv\u0103 e alta. \u0218i e \u00een curtea ta. Pentru c\u0103 ok, \u0103sta e un prost agresiv \u0219i intruziv, dar nu e singurul prost agresiv \u0219i intruziv de pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt \u0219i NU po\u021bi s\u0103 faci c\u00e2te o dram\u0103 pentru fiecare. Trebuie s\u0103 te \u00eentrebi serios ce anume din tine se simte at\u00e2t de amenin\u021bat de p\u0103rerea lor \u0219i le d\u0103 at\u00e2ta putere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 eu sunt un om sigur de ac\u021biunile mele, de identitatea mea \u0219i de dorin\u021bele mele, p\u0103rerile cuiva care nu a fost \u00een pantofii mei nu m\u0103 impresioneaz\u0103 \u0219i nu m\u0103 afecteaz\u0103 cu nimic. C\u00e2nd o s\u0103 vreau p\u0103rerea ta, o cer eu. Nu te consider calificat s\u0103 emi\u021bi o p\u0103rere \u00een cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 de cauz\u0103 despre X. Nu \u0219tii despre ce vorbe\u0219ti. Nu v\u0103d de ce te prive\u0219te asta. Nu e problema ta. \u0218i punct. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Po\u021bi s\u0103 pui o armat\u0103 de idio\u021bi s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenjure \u0219i s\u0103 m\u0103 critice p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na viitoare, \u0219i e abia luni. Nu m\u0103 va impresiona nimic din ce vor debita, cel mult m\u0103 va irita abordarea, \u0219i faptul c\u0103 m\u0103 confund\u0103 cu o persoan\u0103 at\u00e2t de slab\u0103 \u0219i de neinteligent\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 \u021bine manevra. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Poate c\u0103 ai nevoie de ni\u0219te terapie, s\u0103 identifici de unde vine genul \u0103sta de nesiguran\u021b\u0103, care te face s\u0103-i investe\u0219ti pe al\u021bii cu at\u00e2ta putere asupra ta, \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi rezolvi \u00een primul r\u00e2nd problemele tale cu tine. Dup\u0103 ce ai f\u0103cut asta, \u0219i dup\u0103 ce ai devenit sigur\u0103 de cine e\u0219ti \u0219i ce vrei, vei putea s\u0103 vezi prin poliloghiile oamenilor \u0219i s\u0103 remarci exact ce interese ascunse \u00eei motiveaz\u0103 pe fiecare \u00een parte s\u0103 te \u00eendemne la ceea ce te \u00eendeamn\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Foarte rar e vorba de interesul t\u0103u. De obicei, un gigel care-\u021bi \u021bine poliloghii, vrea fie s\u0103 te f…\u0103 cu de\u0219tept\u0103ciunea lui unic\u0103 \u0219i neaseMUIT\u0102, fie \u00ee\u0219i g\u0103se\u0219te satisfac\u021bie \u00een etalarea de ego. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dup\u0103 ce \u00ee\u021bi stabile\u0219ti ce e important pentru tine \u00een via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i ordinea just\u0103 a priorit\u0103\u021bilor, le \u00eenchizi \u0103stora sonorul de cum dau primele semne c\u0103 se cere prostia afar\u0103 \u00een jeturi, \u0219i nu doar c\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi faci drame din cauza lor, ci dimpotriv\u0103: ei \u00ee\u0219i vor face drame din cauza ta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Via\u021ba e scurt\u0103. 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