{"id":22932,"date":"2022-02-19T10:45:32","date_gmt":"2022-02-19T07:45:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=22932"},"modified":"2022-02-19T10:45:33","modified_gmt":"2022-02-19T07:45:33","slug":"lupta-cu-gheata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/lupta-cu-gheata\/","title":{"rendered":"Lupta cu ghea\u021ba"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Pe h\u00e2rtie, echipa feminin\u0103 de patinaj artistic a luat cele mai bune locuri la jocurile olimpice curente. Aurul, argintul \u0219i locul al patrulea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dincolo de h\u00e2rtie, s-au v\u0103zut crize de ego, drame meschine, r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bi. Ale antrenoarei fa\u021b\u0103 de feti\u021ba de numai 15 ani, Kamila Valieva, care, chit c\u0103 era marea speran\u021b\u0103 a patinajului rusesc, a ajuns numai pe locul al patrulea, dup\u0103 un scandal de dopaj. Ale sportivei care a luat argintul (Alexandra Trusova), fa\u021b\u0103 de cea care a ob\u021binut marea medalie (Anna Scherbakova, \u0219i da, a trebuit s\u0103 caut pe google aceste nume, s\u0103 m\u0103 asigur c\u0103 le-am scris corect), \u0219i fa\u021b\u0103 de tot restul echipei. Din limbajul corporal \u0219i intensitatea crizei de isterie, se pare c\u0103 Trusova era bully-ul grupului, un fel de big bo$$ gigi duru cu fust\u0103, nemaivorbind de faptul c\u0103 executase cinci s\u0103rituri cvadruple, un program mai dificil tehnic, \u0219i se pare c\u0103 se considera mult mai bun\u0103 dec\u00e2t to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe h\u00e2rtie, Rusia a condus deta\u0219at. \u00cen realitate, au dezv\u0103luit o interac\u021biune profund disfunc\u021bional\u0103 \u0219i extrem de toxic\u0103, absolut lipsit\u0103 de sportivitate \u0219i de spirit de echip\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu pot dec\u00e2t s\u0103-mi imaginez ce calvar de nedescris e s\u0103 fii silit s\u0103 interac\u021bionezi zi de zi cu un astfel de grup. \u0218i nu doar s\u0103 interac\u021bionezi. S\u0103 mai \u0219i oferi performan\u021b\u0103. S\u0103 te antrenezi ore \u00een \u0219ir sub ochii cuiva ca Trusova mi se pare o traum\u0103 \u0219i un chin. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Faptul c\u0103 este vorba de fete foarte tinere nu face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentristeze \u0219i mai mult. Pentru c\u0103 fetele foarte tinere sunt mai u\u0219or de r\u0103nit \u0219i tind s\u0103 internalizeze mai profund impactul abuzului ini\u021biat de cineva ca Trusova. M\u0103 uitam la fata care c\u00e2\u0219tigase aurul. Parc\u0103 \u00eei era team\u0103 s\u0103 se bucure. St\u0103tea cu privirea \u021bintit\u0103 \u00een p\u0103m\u00e2nt, ca un copil care a gre\u0219it \u0219i c\u0103ruia \u00eei este fric\u0103 s\u0103 nu \u021bipe m\u0103-sa la el. Medalia de aur era pentru ea o povar\u0103 \u0219i o ru\u0219ine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar eu m\u0103 \u00eentreb: de ce \u00eenc\u0103 exist\u0103 oameni care cred c\u0103 e nevoie de genul acesta de venin \u0219i de toxicitate pentru performan\u021b\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De ce unii antrenori consider\u0103 c\u0103 un mod eficient de a ambi\u021biona e s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eencurajeze pe bully (\u00een cazul \u0103sta Trusova) \u0219i s\u0103 le inoculeze restului fetelor spiritul \u0103sta de cet\u0103\u021bean secundar? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu s\u0103 fi fost fata care a luat aurul, cu un program mai pu\u021bin dificil, dar executat cu sentiment \u0219i gra\u021bie, cu punctaj cov\u00e2r\u0219itor la impresia artistic\u0103, i-a\u0219 fi r\u00e2njit \u00een nas jigodiei \u0219i a\u0219 fi derivat intens\u0103 satisfac\u021bie din spumele ei. \u00cen nici un caz nu i-a\u0219 fi permis s\u0103-mi r\u0103peasc\u0103 bucuria unei medalii de aur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar hei, asta e Lorena de azi. Lorena de azi care \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 nu ai de ce s\u0103 pleci capul \u00een fa\u021ba jigodiilor narcisiste. Lorena de la 17 – 18 ani era exact ca feti\u021ba aia ru\u0219inat\u0103 de medalia de aur. \u00ce\u0219i cerea perpetuu scuze tuturor invidio\u0219ilor c\u0103 le-a inoculat invidie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poate din cauza asta m-au \u0219i \u00eenfuriat imaginile de la campionatul de patinaj artistic feminin. \u0218i cel mai mult m-a iritat antrenoarea. OK, pot \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 Trusova e un copil r\u0103sf\u0103\u021bat, imatur, care are impresia c\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea \u00eei datoreaz\u0103 temenele \u0219i c\u0103, dac\u0103 altul ia aurul la un concurs, e ca \u0219i cum i l-ar fura ei de pe raftul de trofee. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar nu pot \u00een\u021belege un om matur care permite aceast\u0103 dinamic\u0103 at\u00e2t de agresiv\u0103 \u0219i de nedreapt\u0103, \u0219i nu face nimic s\u0103 o corecteze. Sau, poate, Trusova e copilul de familie bine situat\u0103, ai c\u0103rei p\u0103rin\u021bi vin mereu cu c\u00e2te o aten\u021bie, iar Scherbakova, copilul de muncitor sau de mam\u0103 singur\u0103, care a venit doar cu trei ghiocei p\u00e2rli\u021bi de 1 martie. Unii pedagogi fac \u00eentr-un mod destul de brutal aceast\u0103 diferen\u021biere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i totu\u0219i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E vorba de un eveniment sportiv interna\u021bional, unde toate aceste rufe ar trebui sp\u0103late \u00een familie, \u0219i nu fluturate ostentativ din v\u00e2rful bastonului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De\u0219i, din punct de vedere al notelor, echipa ruseasc\u0103 a triumfat, din punct de vedere uman, a pierdut toate punctele. Ar vrea cineva s\u0103 fie parte din acest grup \u0219i s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103, \u0219i s\u0103 lucreze zi de zi \u00een acest climat insuportabil? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen fond, dup\u0103 ce te duci acas\u0103, \u0219i emo\u021biile dispar, o medalie de aur e doar o bucat\u0103 de metal. \u00cen schimb umilin\u021bele de zi cu zi, jignirile, h\u0103r\u021buirea te urm\u0103resc toat\u0103 via\u021ba. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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