Ador modul \u00een care dai de fiecare dat\u0103 replica \u0219i faptul c\u0103 ai mereu cuvintele la tine. Vin \u0219i eu cu o \u00eentrebare scurt\u0103 pentru po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Cum r\u0103spundem cu fine\u021be \u0219i talent oamenilor care ne iau la mi\u0219to \u00eentr-un mod subtil?
Mul\u021bumesc anticipat!
Cu stim\u0103,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
X<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Prima \u00eentrebare care merit\u0103 pus\u0103 este: care e problema cu mi\u0219toul subtil? Da, grosol\u0103nia, \u021b\u0103r\u0103nia agresiv\u0103, a\u0219a-numitele glume vitriolice: E\u0219ti c\u00e2t batoza, f\u0103\u0103\u0103, sunt de natur\u0103 s\u0103 ne fac\u0103 s\u0103 vrem s\u0103-i footem unui cet\u0103\u021bean o rang\u0103 \u00een din\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar glumele fine, inteligente, pot fi doar un mod din partea altora de a ne ar\u0103ta simpatie. Multe amici\u021bii sunt izvor de ironii \u0219i sarcasme reciproce, \u0219i asta le d\u0103 condimentul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drept care, dac\u0103 cineva face mi\u0219touri subtile cu tine, intr\u0103 \u00een joc \u0219i r\u0103spunde \u0219i tu cu mi\u0219touri, la fel de inteligente \u0219i finu\u021be. Chiar po\u021bi s\u0103 te amuzi copios de o astfel de interac\u021biune. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Acum, dac\u0103 te deranjeaz\u0103 s\u0103 fii luat la mi\u0219to, po\u021bi lua frumos persoana la o parte, s-o \u00eentrebi: Nu te sup\u0103ra, care mai exact e problema ta cu mine? Am remarcat c\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103-mi transmi\u021bi ceva, dar nu \u00een\u021beleg ce anume. Dezvolt\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Luat direct, \u00eentre patru ochi, omul o s\u0103 aib\u0103 mai pu\u021bine \u0219anse de eschiv\u0103 prin glumi\u021be \u0219i se va vedea silit s\u0103 spun\u0103 ceva de genul calmeaz\u0103-te, fratele meu, c\u0103 eu n-am nimic cu tine, \u00eencerc doar s\u0103 mai r\u00e2dem. Sau dac\u0103 chiar are ceva cu tine, s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spun\u0103 exact ce \u0219i cum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cum s\u0103 NU reac\u021bionezi: s\u0103 devii foarte butt hurt \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 te cenzurezi tu, de teama ironiilor celuilalt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Apoi: \u00eentrebarea pe care mailul t\u0103u nu mi-o clarific\u0103 este: oare mi\u0219toul finu\u021b e pe meritate sau pe generice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 e\u0219ti colegul de job care arunc\u0103 ambalaje pe jos \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103ria salaria\u021bilor la munc\u0103, sau las\u0103 zoaie dup\u0103 el \u0219i se a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 str\u00e2ng\u0103 altcineva, de exemplu, avem un caz de mi\u0219touri pe meritate. Integrarea \u00een societate vine cu respectarea unor reguli de trai \u00een comun, \u0219i dac\u0103 de m\u00e2ine \u00ee\u021bi str\u00e2ngi rahatul dup\u0103 tine, probabil c\u0103 mi\u0219toul va \u00eenceta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Am pe pagina de Facebook o proast\u0103 care insist\u0103 s\u0103 se bage \u00een seam\u0103 sub fiecare articol, dar inep\u021biile pe care le screme au zero leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu post\u0103rile sub care o apuc\u0103 cotcod\u0103citul. O \u021bin numai \u00een mi\u0219touri finu\u021be. Dac\u0103 de m\u00e2ine i-ar d\u0103rui Dumnezeu un creier, \u00een mod miraculos, \u0219i ar \u00eencepe s\u0103 comenteze ra\u021bional, a\u0219 \u00eenceta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mi\u0219tourile generice sunt a\u0219a. C\u00e2nd e\u0219ti \u00eentr-o grup\u0103 de facultate unde animalul alfa a decis din varii motive c\u0103 nu \u00eei place f\u0103\u021b\u0103ul t\u0103u, iar turma de mioare ac\u021bioneaz\u0103 similar, din peer pressure. Sau dac\u0103 e\u0219ti la un job unde to\u021bi poart\u0103 Gucci \u0219i Armani, numai tu nu prea ai bani \u0219i por\u021bi tricouri de 30 de lei din shopul de vizavi. Astea nu mai sunt lucruri punctuale pe care s\u0103 le schimbi, ci presupun mult\u0103 munc\u0103 \u0219i mul\u021bi bani, chestii pe care e\u0219ti sau nu dispus s\u0103 le faci. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen aceste situa\u021bii, stand your ground, intr\u0103 \u00een \u00eenc\u0103pere cu relaxarea unui om care \u0219tie c\u0103 merit\u0103 s\u0103 fie acolo, nu cu timorarea cuiva care nu e sigur ce rahaturi \u00eel a\u0219teapt\u0103 azi, nu \u00eencerca s\u0103 ini\u021biezi tu contact cu oameni despre care \u0219tii c\u0103 nu te plac, iar dac\u0103 \u00eencep ei cu mi\u0219tourile, riposteaz\u0103 cu aceea\u0219i moned\u0103, calm \u0219i cu senin\u0103tate. Propune-\u021bi s\u0103 te amuzi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dat fiind c\u0103 mailul t\u0103u e at\u00e2t de vag, eu am dat toate ipotezele care mi-au trecut prin minte. Rug\u0103minte pe viitor pentru al\u021bi oameni care \u00eemi scriu: da\u021bi c\u00e2t mai multe detalii, dac\u0103 vre\u021bi ajutor c\u00e2t mai aplicat pe situa\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie. 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