Am \u00eencercat diverse metode: terapie, hipnoz\u0103, pastile de calmare sau alcool (nu \u00eempreuna \u0219i nu exagerat!). Nimic nu functioneaz\u0103… A\u0219 dori s\u0103 ne bucur\u0103m \u00een familie de momentele c\u00e2nd suntem \u00een avion, dar efectiv nu pot. C\u00e2teodat\u0103 este mai bine, c\u00e2teodat\u0103 este extraordinar de r\u0103u. \u00cemi vine efectiv s\u0103 smulg centura \u0219i s\u0103 fug din avion c\u00e2nd simt cum accelereaz\u0103 pentru decolare. X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Vreau s\u0103 \u00eencep prin a-\u021bi mul\u021bumi pentru sus\u021binere \u0219i dona\u021biile periodice generoase. F\u0103r\u0103 acestea, f\u0103r\u0103 donatori ca tine, volumul de timp \u0219i efort pe care le investesc \u00een acest site nu ar fi posibile, mai ales c\u0103 \u00een ultimii doi ani, companiile nu au mai f\u0103cut campanii pentru bloggeri, deci ne baz\u0103m pe ajutorul publicului mai mult ca oric\u00e2nd. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Apoi disclaimer. Eu nu sunt un terapeut calificat, iar sfaturile mele nu au cum s\u0103 aib\u0103 mai mult\u0103 greutate dec\u00e2t terapia cu un specialist, mai ales c\u0103 tu \u00eemi descrii o veritabil\u0103 fobie \u0219i atacuri de panic\u0103 \u00een toat\u0103 regula. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe de alt\u0103 parte, am tratat c\u00e2teva fobii cu terapeu\u021bi, \u0219i iat\u0103 ni\u0219te chestii care m-au ajutat pe mine, pacientul Lorena Lupu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. \u00cembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219eaz\u0103-\u021bi fobia <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ceea ce mi se pare mie c\u0103 faci gre\u0219it este c\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103 negi ceea ce sim\u021bi \u0219i cau\u021bi s\u0103 “te bucuri \u00een familie” de ceva ce \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 simptome ca acelea pe care mi le relatezi. Nu se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla. Po\u0163i s\u0103 te bucuri \u00een familie c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i urc\u0103 un p\u0103ianjen negru pe picior? Po\u0163i s\u0103 te bucuri \u00een familie c\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i blocat\u0103 \u00een lift? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu mai \u00eencerca s\u0103 te bucuri \u00een familie de ceva ce nu-\u0163i induce bucurie. Oamenii simt visceral c\u0103 nu te bucuri cu adev\u0103rat, \u015fi nu reu\u015fe\u015fti dec\u00e2t s\u0103 pari ipocrit\u0103 \u015fi fals\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Comunic\u0103 onest, spune-le c\u0103 ai o fric\u0103 ira\u0163ional\u0103 de decolare \u015fi de turbulen\u0163e. \u015ei dac\u0103 tot vrei s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti momentul \u00een familie, iat\u0103 ce s\u0103 faci. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Cere ajutor. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Probabil c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i iei loc \u00eentre copii. Ei, bine, c\u00e2nd vin p\u0103r\u0163ile de zbor care te \u00eenfrico\u015feaz\u0103, spune-le copiilor c\u0103 acum ei sunt mai puternici \u015fi pot s\u0103 te ajute dac\u0103 te \u0163in de m\u00e2n\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Beneficiile? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Copiii se simt empowered prin faptul c\u0103, \u00een acele momente, tu \u00eencetezi s\u0103 fii adultul autoritar \u015fi le dai lor puterea s\u0103 te sus\u0163in\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 te ajute. \u015ei reac\u0163ia lor instinctiv\u0103 va fi: Totul va fi bine. Suntem cu tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen acest mod, \u00eei implici \u015fi pe ei \u00een asumarea fobiei tale, dar le dai rolul de salvatori, un aspect extrem de pozitiv \u015fi de pl\u0103cut pentru ei. Ce copil nu vrea s\u0103 fie supererou, mai ales pentru mama lui? <\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u00e2nd puterea pe m\u00e2na copiilor, cre\u015fti adul\u0163i puternici. L\u0103s\u00e2ndu-te sus\u0163inut\u0103 de ei, \u00eei \u00eenve\u0163i importan\u0163a \u00eencrederii. \u015ei mai ai \u015fi beneficiul contactului fizic. C\u00e2nd copiii te vor \u00eencuraja \u015fi \u0163ine de m\u00e2n\u0103, corpul t\u0103u va elibera serotonin\u0103 \u015fi oxitocin\u0103, hormonii buni care \u00ee\u0163i vor induce calm \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i vor relaxa panica. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Abia asta va fi o experien\u0163\u0103 care v\u0103 va uni ca familie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Respir\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Asta e primit\u0103 de sora ta de la specialist, deci \u015ftii c\u0103 e bun\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n C\u00e2nd ai un atac de panic\u0103 sau de anxietate \u015fi primul lucru care se duce \u00een ar\u0103tur\u0103 e respira\u0163ia, un mod de a rec\u00e2\u015ftiga c\u00e2t de c\u00e2t controlul e s\u0103 nu te g\u00e2nde\u015fti la nimic \u015fi s\u0103 te concentrezi pe o sarcin\u0103: normalizarea respira\u0163iei. Caut\u0103 s\u0103 inspiri lung \u015fi lent, p\u00e2n\u0103 ad\u00e2nc \u00een str\u0103fundul pl\u0103m\u00e2nilor, apoi expir\u0103 lung \u015fi lent. Po\u0163i chiar s\u0103 numeri p\u00e2n\u0103 la 5, sau 10, \u00een func\u0163ie de c\u00e2t de lung inspiri \u015fi expiri. Faptul c\u0103 dai acest ritm prin num\u0103r\u0103toare \u015fi te concentrezi s\u0103-l \u0163ii \u00ee\u0163i ia mintea de la omgggggggggggggg, se scutur\u0103 avionul, vomiiit la 1-2-3-4-5, stau, 1-2-3-4-5, stau. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Uneori, concentr\u00e2ndu-te s\u0103 respiri, a\u0163ipe\u015fti. \u015ei a\u0163ipind, te calmezi de la sine. Somnul e modul organismului de a da reboot, de a aplica updates din sistem \u015fi de a instala cele mai recente drivere. Eu dorm c\u00e2nd c\u0103l\u0103toresc. Dorm cu avionul, dorm cu trenul \u015fi uneori dorm \u015fi cu metroul, dac\u0103 merg \u00een zone mai \u00eendep\u0103rtate. De aceea m-au \u015fi fotografiat la un moment dat haterii dormind \u00een metrou. Dar e ok, o fac asumat. M\u0103 trezesc fresh la destina\u0163ie. \ud83d\ude42 <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Vizualizeaz\u0103 ceva minunat din locul de destina\u0163ie. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen timp ce respiri con\u015ftient, g\u00e2nde\u015fte-te la un lucru mi\u015fto pe care \u00eel vei face la destina\u0163ie. S\u0103 zicem, Madrid. Intri \u00eentr-un bar de tapas, \u00ee\u0163i comanzi patatas bravas \u015fi un pahar de vin ro\u015fu sec spaniol. Simte \u00een gur\u0103 cartofii crocan\u0163i \u015fi sosul at\u00e2t de delicios \u015fi de aromat. Vizualizeaz\u0103 furculi\u0163a. Restul clien\u0163ilor din bar, conversa\u0163iile. R\u00e2setele. Ce muzic\u0103 se aude? \u00ce\u0163i aminte\u015fti ceva versuri? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cu c\u00e2t \u00ee\u0163i faci un film mai complex \u015fi mai detaliat, cu at\u00e2t ui\u0163i c\u0103 tu erai \u00een plin atac de panic\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. Munce\u015fte.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 tot ai laptopul la tine, iar \u0103ia de la job \u0163i-au pus \u00een cap 3689 proiecte, investe\u015fte toat\u0103 acea energie \u00een a lucra la ceva care s\u0103-\u0163i fure aten\u0163ia. A\u015fa, nu te mai g\u00e2nde\u015fti la decolare \u015fi turbulen\u0163e. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am dat c\u00e2teva idei utile. Dar nu uita: tratamentul profesionist e tot la terapeu\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie. 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\u00ce\u021bi mul\u021bumesc pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi faci timp s\u0103 cite\u0219ti aceste r\u00e2nduri. Te citesc \u0219i te sus\u021bin de ceva vreme.
Problema mea este frica (teroarea) de a zbura cu avionul. Sunt o femeie normal\u0103, cu un job \u00een afara \u021b\u0103rii, am aproape 40 de ani, cu ceva c\u0103l\u0103torii la activ (\u0219i \u00een scop personal, c\u00e2t \u0219i legate de serviciu). C\u00e2nd m\u0103 urc \u00een avion, \u00eencep s\u0103 m\u0103 transform, buzele mi se \u00eenvine\u021besc, palmele \u00eemi transpir\u0103, respira\u021bia este de necontrolat – \u00een special la decolare sau dac\u0103 sunt turbulen\u021be (sau, doamne fere\u0219te, decolare cu turbulen\u021be!). Locuiesc \u00een afara Rom\u00e2niei, a\u0219a c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fac des drumuri cu avionul (\u00eempreun\u0103 cu copiii mei c\u0103rora simt c\u0103 le transmit treptat frica mea \u0219i nu \u00eemi doresc asta). <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Este exclus s\u0103 putem c\u0103l\u0103tori prin alte mijloace de transport. <\/strong>
\u00ce\u021bi mul\u021bumesc dac\u0103 m-ai putea ajuta cu orice sfat! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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