Am nevoie de sfatul unei femei mai mature \u0219i experimentate ca tine, pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu ce s\u0103 fac. Sunt un tip de 27 de ani \u0219i am o prieten\u0103 la care \u021bin foarte mult. Ne-am \u00een\u021beles foarte bine, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne-am mutat \u00een chirie \u00eempreun\u0103. De atunci, Lorena, ne cert\u0103m toat\u0103 ziua, pe toate t\u00e2mpeniile, \u0219i am ajuns p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care nu mai suport\u0103m s\u0103 st\u0103m \u00een aceea\u0219i \u00eenc\u0103pere. Sunt un om corect, dar cu fata asta mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva ciudat: inventez toate rahaturile numai s\u0103 nu-i dau dreptate, pentru c\u0103 a \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 enerveze s\u0103-i aud sunetul vocii. Dar \u021bin \u00een continuare foarte mult la ea. O iubesc. Nu a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 plece, sau s\u0103 plec. \u00cen acela\u0219i timp, m\u0103 enerveaz\u0103, ur\u0103sc modul \u00een care \u00eemi vorbe\u0219te, ur\u0103sc c\u0103 \u00eemi caut\u0103 ceart\u0103 din orice, \u00eemi vine s\u0103-i pun leucoplast pe gur\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 plec de acas\u0103 de cum \u00eemi spune iar c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 vorbim pe tonul \u0103la insuportabil. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ce \u00eemi recomanzi? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n E ok s\u0103 m\u0103 faci porc \u0219i bou, dar trebuia s\u0103 scriu \u0219i eu cuiva despre asta, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n N-o s\u0103 te fac porc \u0219i bou, c\u0103 nu cu mine locuie\u0219ti \u00een comun. \ud83d\ude00 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ce \u00eemi descrii tu sun\u0103 a c\u0103s\u0103torie rom\u00e2neasc\u0103 tradi\u021bional\u0103, \u00een care nici b\u0103rbatul nu \u0219tie s\u0103 respecte, s\u0103 pre\u021buiasc\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 asculte femeia, dar \u0219i femeia \u021bip\u0103 toat\u0103 ziua ca apucat\u0103 de streche, apoi se mir\u0103 c\u0103 nu ob\u021bine nimic. N-am tr\u0103it acest tip de c\u0103s\u0103torie acas\u0103, pentru c\u0103 mama a fost foarte miloag\u0103 \u0219i cer\u0219etoare de aten\u021bie cu tata, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd a \u00een\u0219elat-o \u0219i au divor\u021bat, dar am auzit-o prin pere\u021bi \u00een toate apartamentele \u00een care am stat cu chirie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mi se pare cumplit de epuizant, de agasant \u0219i de frustrant s\u0103 te f*** \u00een gur\u0103 cu cineva toat\u0103 ziua. De aceea prefer singur\u0103tatea. Oamenii singuri get s**t done. Oamenii cupla\u021bi, \u00een multe combina\u021bii din astea toxice \u0219i distructive, se trag unul pe cel\u0103lalt \u00een jos, \u0219i apoi se mir\u0103 c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i rateaz\u0103 vie\u021bile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ce a\u0219 face eu? A\u0219 ie\u0219i din aranjament \u0219i mi-a\u0219 vedea de via\u021ba mea. \u0218tiu, pentru mul\u021bi oameni traumatiza\u021bi \u0219i cu stima de sine sc\u0103zut\u0103, exist\u0103 ceva magnetic \u0219i fascinant care te \u021bine captiv \u00een toxicitate. Dar via\u021ba e prea scurt\u0103 s\u0103 merite. Chiar nu cred c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 ajungi la 50 de ani \u0219i s\u0103 meditezi \u00eenapoi: Ce am f\u0103cut cu via\u021ba mea? M-am porc\u0103it cu Maricica ultimii dou\u0103zeci de ani zi de zi, bag p*** \u00een ea de bestie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Astea fiind spuse, patternul toxic se va repeta de n ori dac\u0103 nu vei \u00een\u021belege traiul \u00een comun ca pe un compromis de ambele p\u0103r\u021bi, \u0219i dac\u0103 nu vei construi un anumit model de comunicare, bazat pe aten\u021bie, ascultare \u0219i respect. Cu c\u00e2t lucrurile get out of hand \u0219i \u00eencepe\u021bi s\u0103 \u021bipa\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 v\u0103 insulta\u021bi dac\u0103 tu n-ai dat cu aspiratorul (ceva \u00eemi spune c\u0103 e \u0219i \u0103sta un motiv de p***i \u0219i m*i, \u0219i pe bun\u0103 dreptate, pentru c\u0103 \u00een situa\u021bia \u00een care \u0219i femeia munce\u0219te \u0219i pune p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103, b\u0103rbatul nu are nici o justificare s\u0103 pretind\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 numai ea treaba \u00een cas\u0103) – sau dac\u0103 ea e prea prietenoas\u0103 cu colegul dr\u0103gu\u021b de la munc\u0103 – cum ziceam,, cu c\u00e2t zbiera\u021bi ca nebunii, cu at\u00e2t pierde\u021bi respectul, capacitatea de a asculta \u0219i de a ajunge la o solu\u021bie, \u0219i cu at\u00e2t v\u0103 ad\u00e2nci\u021bi \u00een acest r\u0103zboi al acuza\u021biilor reciproce, al jocule\u021belor de tip care pe care \u0219i al agresiunii de toate felurile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nope. Nu a\u0219a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ne\u00een\u021belegerile se discut\u0103 calm, respectuos, cu considera\u021bie fa\u021b\u0103 de sentimentele celuilalt. \u00cen fond, se presupune c\u0103 iube\u0219ti persoana respectiv\u0103, nu c\u0103 e cel mai mare du\u0219man al t\u0103u. Iar acest cod de comunicare se negociaz\u0103 la \u00eenceputul rela\u021biei. E foarte greu s\u0103 revii la respect \u0219i polite\u021be de la boule \/ c***o \/ c***\u0103 e m\u0103-ta, boule \/ bou e tac-tu, c***o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tu spui a\u0219a: “Sunt un om corect, dar cu fata asta mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva ciudat: inventez toate rahaturile numai s\u0103 nu-i dau dreptate, pentru c\u0103 a \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 enerveze s\u0103-i aud sunetul vocii.<\/strong>” \u0102sta e, din punctul meu de vedere, simptomul decesului unei rela\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Intr\u0103 pe siteuri de \u00eenchirieri \u015fi caut\u0103 alt apartament m\u00e2ine. Iar cu viitoarea femeie, contribuie \u015fi tu \u00een mod egal la treburile casei, s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 motiv s\u0103 urle, lol. Nu mi-ai spus asta, dar o simt \u00een globul meu de cristal c\u0103 despre asta e de fapt vorba, hihi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie. 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