{"id":23264,"date":"2022-04-29T10:12:18","date_gmt":"2022-04-29T07:12:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23264"},"modified":"2022-04-29T10:12:19","modified_gmt":"2022-04-29T07:12:19","slug":"te-iubesc-prietena-mea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/te-iubesc-prietena-mea\/","title":{"rendered":"Te iubesc, prietena mea"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Mi se pl\u00e2ngea zilele trecute cineva c\u0103 nu are succes la dame. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am cerut mai multe detalii \u0219i mi-a povestit urm\u0103toarele: a cunoscut-o pe o z\u00e2n\u0103, a fost fermecat (asta fac z\u00e2nele, farmec\u0103 muritori de r\u00e2nd) \u0219i a ini\u021biat o amici\u021bie. Apoi s-a trezit c\u0103 z\u00e2na i-l bitchuie\u015fte over and over again pe un ipochimen, \u0219i c\u0103 el ascult\u0103 cu interes \u0219i \u00eei spune c\u0103 merit\u0103 mai bine, etc. \u0218i cuno\u0219tin\u021ba asta a mea m\u0103 \u00eentreab\u0103 de ce nu remarc\u0103 z\u00e2na c\u00e2t de special e el ca b\u0103rbat, c\u00e2t de diferit de cel\u0103lalt, \u0219i de ce nu \u00eel “\u00eencearc\u0103” \u015fi pe el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

R\u0103spuns: pentru c\u0103 masculii nu \u00een\u0163eleg no\u0163iunea de prietenie a\u015fa cum o \u00een\u0163eleg femeile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i, prietenia e mai mult o form\u0103 de camaraderie. Ne vedem, bem o bere, o ardem pe glume superficiale, cine cu cine \u015fi-a mai pus-o, dac\u0103 \u00eenghite bun\u0103ciunea de la contabilitate sau nu, ce gadgeturi cool au ap\u0103rut pe pia\u0163\u0103, ce echipe vor ajunge \u00een final\u0103 la campionatul de fotbal \u015fi ce pis\u0103loage sunt nevestele, dar n-ai ce face, to\u0163i chilo\u0163ii \u0103ia nu se spal\u0103 de unii singuri, deci, gotta take it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u0103rba\u0163ii o pot arde \u00eentr-un separeu b\u00e2nd beri patru ore f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fi spus nimic relevant despre problemele sau sentimentele lor. De aceea, \u015fi mie \u00een po\u015fta redac\u0163iei \u00eemi scriu 90% femei, iar pu\u0163inii b\u0103rba\u0163i care completeaz\u0103 suta sunt majoritar sub 30, din genera\u0163ia care a descoperit c\u0103 are un suflet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru femei, prietenia e o interminabil\u0103 consiliere psihologic\u0103 reciproc\u0103. Ele \u00ee\u015fi de\u015fart\u0103 una alteia necazurile de la munc\u0103, din cuplu, de la \u015fcoala copilului, din vecini, ce c***e proaste \u015fi ieftine a mai v\u0103zut pe strad\u0103 (femei cu po\u015fete \u015fi funduri mai mi\u015fto) \u015fi ce gher\u0163oi sini\u015ftri au mai abordat-o pe net. Prietenia \u00eentre femei e ca sec\u0163iunea mea de comentarii: o continu\u0103 dezv\u0103luire de sine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Numai c\u0103 nici o femeie, \u00een timp ce \u00eei dezv\u0103luie amicei sale Norica tot ce au mai f\u0103cut jigodia de la munc\u0103 \u015fi derbedeul de acas\u0103, nu \u00ee\u015fi pune problema: Mam\u0103, ce ascult\u0103toare mi\u015fto e Norica, ia hai s\u0103 ne d\u0103m limbi feroce \u015fi juc\u0103u\u015fe \u00een vagin. Asta se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 doar \u00een filme adulte scrise \u015fi regizate de b\u0103rba\u0163i, care ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi o dau pe sufletisme strict c\u00e2nd se pune sold\u0103\u0163elul \u00een drep\u0163i. Pentru femei, sufletismele sunt un mod de a tr\u0103i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mkay. Deci, \u00een secunda \u00een care ai setat codul prieteniei, ai devenit Norica. Da, tu o ascul\u0163i atent pe Lizica (hai c\u0103 am g\u0103sit un nume \u00een rim\u0103), \u015fi, \u00een revan\u015f\u0103, ea te ascult\u0103 atent pe tine. Tu \u00eei oferi um\u0103r de bocit, ea \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 um\u0103r de bocit \u0163ie. Tu o aju\u0163i, ea te ajut\u0103. THIS IS FRIENDSHIP. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu “demonstrezi ce b\u0103rbat mi\u015fto e\u015fti”, pentru c\u0103 nu aia e categoria de concurs la care te-ai \u00eenscris. E ca \u015fi cum un sportiv se \u00eenscrie la proba de alergare vitez\u0103 50 de metri \u015fi apoi se revolt\u0103 c\u0103 de ce nu a c\u00e2\u015ftigat la curs\u0103 de obstacole. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i v\u0103d toate femeile \u00eentr-un singur mod. \u015ei anume, pidza aia. Sigur, frumoas\u0103, inteligent\u0103, blabla, dar \u00een principiu, o gaur\u0103. \u015ei aici zace problema. Pentru c\u0103 femeile v\u0103d sexual extrem de pu\u0163ini b\u0103rba\u0163i. Pur \u015fi simplu, libidoul e mai sc\u0103zut, sau poate doar mai targetat – l-a\u015f f** pe X s\u0103-i sar\u0103 capacele, dar asta nu include c\u0103 datorez acela\u015fi gen de aten\u0163ie \u015fi lui Y \u015fi lui Z. Dimpotriv\u0103. Dac\u0103 femeia e targetat\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat pe X – \u015fi un simptom e c\u0103 \u0163i-l bomb\u0103ne toat\u0103 ziua, dar nu \u00eel p\u0103r\u0103se\u015fte, sau \u00eel p\u0103r\u0103se\u015fte, dar continu\u0103 s\u0103 o frece grija de p lui – tu e\u015fti Norica. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei te-ai pozi\u0163ionat singur ca Norica, deci nu ai motive s\u0103 te pl\u00e2ngi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spun prin asta s\u0103 nu fi\u0163i prieteni cu femei? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fereasc\u0103 Dumnezeu. Prietenele femei sunt antenele de care omul are nevoie s\u0103 afle tot ce se petrece \u00een lume. Prietenele femei te strecoar\u0103 \u00een g\u0103\u015fti, te duc unde nici cu g\u00e2ndul n-ai g\u00e2ndi, te sus\u0163in necondi\u0163ionat, de \u00eemb\u0103rb\u0103teaz\u0103 c\u00e2nd e\u015fti cu moralul jos \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i spun pe \u015fleau c\u00e2nd e\u015fti bou. Dac\u0103 e\u015fti bou, \u015fi ele sunt genul sincer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spun doar s\u0103 fi\u0163i prieteni cu femei fa\u0163\u0103 de care nu ave\u0163i sentimente romantice. Pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 voi v\u0103 masca\u0163i sentimentele romantice drept prietenie, iar fata v\u0103 crede pe cuv\u00e2nt, tot voi v\u0103 frustra\u0163i grav c\u0103 nu livreaz\u0103, c\u00e2nd contractul nici nu prevedea c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 livreze. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei atunci? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu v\u0103 zic ce a func\u0163ionat \u00een cazul meu, pe c\u00e2nd \u00eenc\u0103 m\u0103 interesa s\u0103 m\u0103 cuplez. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, omul a ar\u0103tat aten\u0163ie, politicoas\u0103 \u015fi gra\u0163ioas\u0103, dar \u00een mod vizibil \u015fi cert romantic\u0103. La \u00eenceput finu\u0163, sub form\u0103 de glume inteligente, pe care le puteam expedia f\u0103r\u0103 orgolii r\u0103nite \u015fi alte cele. Iar aten\u0163ia asta nu presupunea f**ai la cap toat\u0103 ziua bun\u0103 ziua, nici m\u0103car dup\u0103 ce a v\u0103zut c\u0103 r\u0103spund la glume \u00eentr-un mod care sugera c\u0103 nu i-a\u015f da jet. E americ\u0103nismul \u0103la de rom com, care chiar se aplic\u0103: allow me to miss you. Complimentele au devenit mai directe \u015fi mai sugestive, dup\u0103 ce a constatat c\u0103 nu \u00eel expediez cu cele subtile. \u015ei chit c\u0103 era o conversa\u0163ie profund\u0103, cu g\u00e2nduri, speran\u0163e, dureri, nevoi, cine suntem ca oameni \u015fi ce vrem de la via\u0163\u0103, se men\u0163inea perpetuu o not\u0103 de flirt. Cumva, o invita\u0163ie \u00een ora\u015f la o cram\u0103 de vin a fost ca o continuare normal\u0103, iar eu \u015ftiam exact pentru ce m\u0103 invit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Pe c\u00e2nd, dac\u0103 tu te vezi cu Lizica La KFC la 16 dup\u0103 amiaza, ea \u0163i se pl\u00e2nge \u0163ie de b\u0103rbatu-su \u015fi tu ei de un furnizor care nu a virat plata, sunte\u0163i dou\u0103 amice ie\u015fite la ron\u0163\u0103it aripioare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0162in s\u0103 punctez: ce am descris mai sus nu e re\u0163eta care merge cu toate, \u015fi mai punctez \u015fi faptul c\u0103 mie mi se p\u0103rea interesant omul \u00eenc\u0103 dinainte s\u0103 semnalizeze interes amoros, deci b\u0103tea la u\u015f\u0103 deja deschis\u0103, de fapt. Aceea\u015fi abordare din partea unuia care nu mi s-ar fi p\u0103rut interesant ar fi ob\u0163inut ni\u015fte riposte acide \u015fi trimiteri la scara lui. Ceea ce ne spune c\u0103 nu conteaz\u0103 doar abordarea, ci \u015fi ceea ce vede cel\u0103lalt \u00een tine, chiar \u015fi atunci c\u00e2nd nu spui \u015fi nu faci nimic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care tu convingi lumea c\u0103 vrei prieteni, nu e cazul s\u0103 te pl\u00e2ngi c\u0103 asta ob\u0163ii. Prieteni. Cere \u015fi \u0163i se va da, right? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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