{"id":23269,"date":"2022-04-30T10:05:44","date_gmt":"2022-04-30T07:05:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23269"},"modified":"2022-04-30T10:05:45","modified_gmt":"2022-04-30T07:05:45","slug":"despre-invidie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-invidie\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre invidie"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Azi, dragi copii, vom trata conceptul de invidie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mai vezi oameni spun\u00e2nd pe re\u021bele sociale: Degeaba mimeaz\u0103 \u0103la \/ aia c\u0103 e fericit\u0103 ca s\u0103 m\u0103 simt eu prost c\u0103 nu m\u0103 compar, sigur e o masc\u0103 \u0219i sigur pl\u00e2nge \u00een cada de baie sub apa care deja s-a r\u0103cit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unu la m\u00e2n\u0103: ai cumva glob de cristal s\u0103 \u0219tii sigur c\u0103 \u0103la sau aia mimeaz\u0103 c\u0103 sunt ferici\u021bi? \u0218i dac\u0103 nu, de ce sim\u021bi nevoia s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spui singur o poveste cum c\u0103 \u0103la sau aia mimeaz\u0103 obligatoriu c\u0103 sunt ferici\u021bi? \u0218i dac\u0103 ar fi, de ce asta ar \u00eensemna c\u0103 tu trebuie obligatoriu s\u0103 te compari \u0219i te sim\u021bi prost? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tu e\u0219ti bun la lucrurile la care excelezi tu, altul e bun la altele, \u0219i niciodat\u0103 nu am considerat c\u0103 fericirea altuia e un afront direct la triste\u021bea mea, sau c\u0103 altul mimeaz\u0103 c\u0103 e fericit doar ca s\u0103 m\u0103 simt eu prost. Probabil c\u0103 e \u0219i faptul c\u0103, fiind un om onest \u0219i asumat, am \u00een\u021beles relativ repede lucrurile care m\u0103 fac fericit\u0103 \u0219i nu m-am ab\u0103tut de la ele. \u00cemi place s\u0103: fiu un artist creativ, boem, s\u0103 m\u0103 perfec\u021bionez \u00een anumite lucruri. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103: fiu remorca altuia, s\u0103 am multe averi imobile, greu de \u00eentre\u021binut, s\u0103 fac m\u00e2ncare de trei ori pe zi la modul obligatoriu pentru c\u0103 \u021bip\u0103 gigel \u0219i gigeii juniori de foame. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen momentul \u00een care \u00ee\u021bi asumi cine e\u0219ti \u0219i ce te bucur\u0103, subit opulen\u021ba altora \u0219i fericirea lor nu se mai simt ca un atac direct la adresa ta. \u0102la are c\u0103soi mare la Snagov? Bravo lui, dac\u0103 asta \u0219i-a dorit. Dou\u0103 tipe tr\u0103iesc \u00een concubinaj cu un tip \u0219i to\u021bi trei sunt ferici\u021bi? C\u00e2t de frumos c\u0103 oamenii sunt bucuro\u0219i. \u0218i tot a\u0219a. Alta are vlog de travel \u0219i viziteaz\u0103 tot mapamondul? Bravo, fat\u0103, distreaz\u0103-te, c\u0103 via\u021ba e scurt\u0103. Dar \u00een\u021beleg inclusiv \u0219i gospodina care posteaz\u0103 zi de zi ce a mai g\u0103tit. Am o prieten\u0103 care face asta. \u0218ti\u021bi cum g\u0103te\u0219te, oameni buni? Tot ce iese din m\u00e2inile ei e o simfonie de arome perfect \u00eentre\u021besute. \u00ce\u021bi dau lacrimile m\u00e2nc\u00e2nd. Multe gospodine dau cli\u0219eul \u0103la boring, c\u0103, vai, trebuie s\u0103 pui iubire, dar abia la fata asta am \u00een\u021beles ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 de fapt s\u0103 pui iubire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar nu o invidiez c\u0103 g\u0103te\u0219te cum g\u0103te\u0219te. Nu simt nevoia s\u0103 pozez \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103reasa mai \u0219mecher\u0103. Dimpotriv\u0103. O aplaud pentru excelen\u021ba ei, a\u0219a cum \u0219tiu c\u0103 \u0219i ea m\u0103 aplaud\u0103 pentru excelen\u021ba mea \u00een a scrie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar nu scriu acest text doar ca pe un virtue signalling. Uite, ce special\u0103 sunt eu. Am fost \u0219i eu acolo. \u00cen copil\u0103rie, c\u00e2nd eram foarte frustrat\u0103, neiubit\u0103, prin urmare m\u0103 sim\u021beam ca un rahat lipsit de orice valoare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sentimentul inutilit\u0103\u021bii \u0219i al irelevan\u021bei, dragilor, poate r\u0103scoli grav sistemul de valori al omului. Eu fiind un copil \u00eenchis \u00een el, care-\u0219i ascundea frustr\u0103rile, nu prea eram popular\u0103 \u00een fa\u021ba blocului \u0219i \u00een \u0219coal\u0103. \u0218i normal c\u0103 nu eram. C\u00e2nd tu e\u0219ti mereu t\u0103cut \u0219i \u00eenchis \u00een tine, oamenii devin suspicio\u0219i \u0219i \u00ee\u0219i proiecteaz\u0103 asupra ta propriile filme interioare. \u0102ia nesiguri de ei te cred arogant\u0103. \u0102ia perver\u0219i \u0219i par\u0219ivi te cred pervers\u0103 \u0219i par\u0219iv\u0103, cum sunt de fapt ei. \u0102ia care cer\u0219esc aprobarea mul\u021bimii umilind elemente nepopulare prind vibeul primilor \u0219i \u00eencep s\u0103 te bully grav, s\u0103 ob\u021bin\u0103 b\u0103gare \u00een seam\u0103 de la cei populari. \u0218i a\u0219a mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u0103r\u021buirea e un fenomen complex, care apare atunci c\u00e2nd un grup de oameni, cu diverse probleme, \u00eenceo s\u0103-\u0219i proiecteze disfunc\u021biile peste tine pentru c\u0103, din varii motive, pari \u021bint\u0103 u\u0219oar\u0103, \u0219i e ca o avalan\u0219\u0103. O dat\u0103 ce te h\u0103r\u021buie\u0219te un lider neoficial de hait\u0103. o face toat\u0103 haita \u0219i \u00een acest punct, ce po\u021bi s\u0103 rezolvi e s\u0103 \u00eel domini \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eel umile\u0219ti pe lider, apoi haita lui se va gudura la tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ok. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen timp ce eu m\u0103 confruntam cu astea, fratele meu, b\u0103iat, deci genul pe care \u00eel privim mereu cu \u00eeng\u0103duin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i apreciere by default, era cel mai popular copil \u0219i din bloc, \u0219i din \u0219coal\u0103. Ca \u0219i mine, nu avea haine dr\u0103gu\u021be, sau bani, sau nimic de genul, dar avea un z\u00e2mbet absolut irezistibil \u0219i un succes la toat\u0103 lumea cum nu vedeai. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu experimentam fa\u021b\u0103 de el exact genul de invidie visceral\u0103 \u0219i ira\u021bional\u0103 pe care o v\u0103d acum pe re\u021bele sociale de la frustra\u021bi. Pentru c\u0103 el era iubit, \u0219i eu nu. Prin urmare, \u00eel tratam absolut oribil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219a cum m\u0103 tratezi pe mine, o s\u0103 rag\u0103 gigel 5789. Mar\u0219 \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii, gigel 5789, tu ai ini\u021biat insultele \u0219i abuzul verbal asupra mea, prin urmare, meri\u021bi b\u0103gat repetat \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii care a omis s\u0103 te educe \u0219i nu ai nici un drept s\u0103 te vaie\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar c\u00e2nd eram copil, pe fratele meu \u00eel tratam oribil f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 fi jignit cu ceva \u00eenainte, din acea invidie nemotivat\u0103 a frustra\u021bilor rata\u021bi. Pe atunci, eram una, Evident c\u0103 nu ob\u021bineam nimic trat\u00e2ndu-l oribil, a\u0219a cum nici gigel 5789 nu ob\u021bine dac\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenjur\u0103. Doar refulam frustr\u0103ri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi, au ap\u0103rut \u00eencet-\u00eencet oameni care mi-au apreciat talentul, personalitatea, tehnica de a scrie, tehnica actoriceasc\u0103 \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe, \u0218i pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce au trecut anii \u0219i mi s-a clarificat c\u0103 r\u0103zbunarea pe unul c\u0103ruia \u00eei merge bine nu e o solu\u021bie real\u0103 la problemele tale, m-am concentrat pe altceva: s\u0103 \u00eemi rezolv propriile probleme \u00een cel mai bun mod disponibil \u0219i s\u0103 nu mai proiectez peste al\u021bii. Faptul c\u0103 ac\u021bionezi pentru a rezolva o nemul\u021bumire schimb\u0103 lucruri. Faptul c\u0103 \u00eei torturezi aiurea pe al\u021bii, din nefericire transformat\u0103 \u00een r\u0103utate, nu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recent, mi-am cerut scuze de la fratele meu pentru modul absolut abominabil \u00een care l-am tratat \u00een copil\u0103rie. I-am explicat c\u0103 venea dintr-o mare nefericire \u0219i neiubire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Las\u0103, drag\u0103, c\u0103 eram copii mici \u0219i pro\u0219ti, a f\u0103cut el o concesiune generoas\u0103. M\u0103car tu recuno\u0219ti c\u0103 m-ai tratat oribil, al\u021bii nu. Bravo \u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Dar \u0219tii c\u0103 faptul c\u0103 te-am tratat oribil nemotivat pe tine m-a ajutat s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg c\u00e2t de iineficient\u0103 e metoda? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Cu at\u00e2t mai bine. S\u0103 bei o bere \u0219i pentru mine \u00een seara asta.. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aici presimt c\u0103 iar sare gigel 5789 s\u0103 gui\u021be c\u0103 a fost tratat \u0219i el oribil. B\u0103i, gigele, taci \u00een plm, tu \u021bi-ai cerut-o cu insulte nejustificate. Meritai tratat de cinci ori mai aiurea, s\u0103 sim\u021bi gustul propriului medicament. Niciodat\u0103 nu voi regreta c\u0103 am tratat o jigodie ca pe o jigodie, pentru c\u0103 jigodia a avut de ales. S\u0103 fie agresiv\u0103 sau cooperant\u0103. Iar jigodia a ales s\u0103 fie agresiv\u0103. Drept care, \u00eemi bag pl \u00een mor\u021bii t\u0103i f\u0103r\u0103 urm\u0103 de regrete, pentru c\u0103 cineva trebuie s\u0103 te \u00eenve\u021be \u0219i pe tine c\u0103 j\u0103vrismul e nasol. Dac\u0103 riposta mea e nepl\u0103cut\u0103 \u0219i ai m\u0103car un singur neuron func\u021bional, procesezi no\u021biunea de ce \u021bie nu-\u021bi place, altuia nu-i face. Dac\u0103 nu, ghinion. Vei lua m&*# p\u00e2n\u0103 ajungi acolo, apoi vei mai lua una ultimativ\u0103, s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 j\u0103vrismul vine cu consecin\u021be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar oamenii care nu \u021bi-au gre\u0219it cu nimic \u0219i sunt fericii\u021bi pentru c\u0103, iat\u0103, pot \u0219i fac ceva pentru asta? BRAVO LOR: Prefer s\u0103 iau un carnet de noti\u021be \u0219i s\u0103 le descop\u0103r magia, \u00een loc s\u0103-i gelozesc f\u0103r\u0103 motiv. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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