{"id":23436,"date":"2022-05-31T11:10:50","date_gmt":"2022-05-31T08:10:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23436"},"modified":"2022-05-31T16:51:28","modified_gmt":"2022-05-31T13:51:28","slug":"despre-contractul-prenuptial","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-contractul-prenuptial\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre contractul prenup\u0163ial"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Cum scriam ieri pe Facebook, serialul meu reality preferat din aceste s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, showul pe care l-am sorbit pe nes\u0103turate, a fost procesul de def\u0103imare al lui Johnny Depp \u00eempotriva fostei so\u0163ii, Amber Heard. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 frustrarea ei a pornit din dou\u0103 aspecte. A: Nu, mariajul cu Depp nu i-a umplut brusc portofoliul cu proiecte \u015fi B: Depp voia contract prenup\u0163ial.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Preconcep\u0163ia despre contractul prenup\u0163ial e c\u0103, dac\u0103 exist\u0103 dragoste, nu po\u0163i s\u0103 fii at\u00e2t de lipsit de inim\u0103 s\u0103 negociezi termeni \u015fi condi\u0163ii. \u015ei mai e ideea c\u0103, dac\u0103 ai semnat contract prenup\u0163ial, nu prime\u015fti nimic dup\u0103 divor\u0163.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De fapt, aceste idei sunt cultivate de filme de Hollywood. Dramatizate \u00een exces pentru impact emo\u0163ional. Contractele prenup\u0163iale sunt de fapt la fel de diferite precum sunt \u015fi cuplurile care le semneaz\u0103. Dar sunt totodat\u0103 o protec\u0163ie a intereselor unuia sau ambilor parteneri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu nu v\u0103d problema cu un contract prenup\u0163ial, s\u0103 fiu sincer\u0103. Ambele p\u0103r\u0163i \u00ee\u015fi pot stipula clar a\u015ftept\u0103rile \u015fi ambele p\u0103r\u0163i afl\u0103 consecin\u0163ele, dac\u0103 \u00eencalc\u0103 regulile reciproc stabilite. Da, e frumos s\u0103 crezi \u00een iubire \u015fi extaz, dar c\u00e2nd astea dispar \u015fi te treze\u015fti cu toat\u0103 munca \u015fi lipsa absolut\u0103 a oric\u0103rei forme de credit (\u015fi \u00een situa\u0163ia asta poate fi oricare gen, de vreme ce misecuvenismul \u015fi exploatarea neobr\u0103zat\u0103 nu au gen), r\u0103m\u00e2ne contractul prenup\u0163ial s\u0103 clarifice care sunt drepturile \u015fi obliga\u0163iile fiec\u0103rui combatant \u00een parte. \u00cen m\u0103sura \u00een care unul sau ambii nu mai pot sau nu mai vor, s\u0103n\u0103tate \u015fi virtute, la revedere, drum bun. Sau dac\u0103 apar copii, tot contractul prenup\u0163ial, negociat c\u00e2t \u00eenc\u0103 exist\u0103 iubire \u015fi dorin\u0163\u0103, garanteaz\u0103 o ofert\u0103 mai bun\u0103 pentru ace\u015ftia dec\u00e2t cea stabilit\u0103 de stat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Persoanele care ur\u0103sc ideea de contract prenup\u0163ial sunt hr\u0103p\u0103re\u0163ii, gold diggerii, abuzatorii \u015fi c\u00e2\u015ftig\u0103torii la belciuge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De asemenea, din cum decurge negocierea unui contract prenu\u0163ial \u00ee\u0163i cam dai seama cam ce are de oferit \u015fi ce a\u015fteapt\u0103 cel\u0103lalt de la rela\u0163ie. Dac\u0103 e prea chitit pe termenii \u015fi condi\u0163iile lui, probabil c\u0103 va fi un bou \u00eenc\u0103p\u0103\u0163\u00e2nat \u015fi orb la argumente \u015fi \u00een cuplu, drept care, \u015ftii din timp s\u0103-l bagi \u00een aia m\u0103-sii, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te complici cu birocra\u0163ie. Dac\u0103 pretinde chestii nerealiste, gen s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i perpetuu la 50 de kilograme, \u015ftii c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi caut\u0103 p\u0103pu\u015f\u0103 gonflabil\u0103 cu buletin de identitate, drept care, asemenea, \u00eel po\u0163i jetui \u00eenainte s\u0103 te legi la cap. \u015ei a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103, dimpotriv\u0103, vezi c\u0103 omul are a\u015ftept\u0103ri rezonabile, \u015fi mai mult, le adapteaz\u0103 la ideile \u015fi nevoile tale, iei la cuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103 c\u0103 ai dat jackpot \u015fi ai peace of mind legat de cum va decurge treaba \u00een caz de diverse complica\u0163ii neprev\u0103zute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd am scris acum dou\u0103 zile despre antipatia profund\u0103 pe care mi-o inspir\u0103 ideea de c\u0103s\u0103torie tradi\u0163ional\u0103, mi-au s\u0103rit \u00een cap femei. Nu b\u0103rba\u0163i, surpriz\u0103-surpriz\u0103. Ci femei. B\u0103rba\u0163ii au fost nea\u015fteptat de rezonabili \u015fi de supportive. Cel pu\u0163in cei care m\u0103 citesc pe mine. \u00cen schimb, au fost femei care au \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u0163ipe la mine ca \u015fi cum m-a\u015f fi strecurat \u00een mesageria lor privat\u0103 s\u0103 insist s\u0103 se despart\u0103 de iubi\u0163eii lor, pe care \u00eei ling exhaustiv \u00een fiecare a treia poz\u0103 pe Facebook, pe Instagram \u015fi \u00een fiecare al doilea clip pe TikTok. Nu am idee de ce femeile proasp\u0103t amorezate \u00ee\u015fi pierd min\u0163ile p\u00e2n\u0103 la ira\u0163ional, dar mi se pare c\u0103 e principalul motiv pentru care multe ajung \u00een rela\u0163ii at\u00e2t de abuzive \u015fi de unilaterale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Boss, nu am scris nic\u0103ieri s\u0103 nu te m\u0103ri\u0163i tu. Dac\u0103 te m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 p… sufletul at\u00e2t de tare dup\u0103 gigel, \u015fi sim\u0163i c\u0103 nu po\u0163i altfel, go right ahead, poate chiar va fi bine. Eu vorbeam pe baza observa\u0163iilor personale \u015fi a statisticilor, care indic\u0103 faptul c\u0103 multe mari iubiri se termin\u0103 cu partaj s\u00e2ngeros \u015fi \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163it de linguri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 asta?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taman pentru c\u0103 ambii parteneri vin cu a\u015ftept\u0103ri nerealiste \u015fi cu iluzia c\u0103, dac\u0103 cel\u0103lalt te iube\u015fte, o s\u0103 \u0163i se supun\u0103 necondi\u0163ionat. Ceea ce, desigur, nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103. Sau se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 numai p\u00e2n\u0103 la un punct. De obicei, p\u00e2n\u0103 la un punct care nu satisface lista de preten\u0163ii. \u015ei atunci, apar frustr\u0103ri din ambele direc\u0163ii, inevitabil meci de orgolii \u015fi, treptat, conexiunea se rupe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Din acest punct de vedere, mi se pare c\u0103 taman acest prim exerci\u0163iu, al contractului prenup\u0163ial, ar seta a\u015ftept\u0103rile pe \u201enormal\u201d \u015fi \u201erealist\u201d, \u015fi ar fi un prim pas de evaluare a compatibilit\u0103\u0163ii reale. \u015ei are \u015fi rolul de a pune \u00een eviden\u0163\u0103 discrepan\u0163ele \u00eentre ce se cere \u015fi ce se ofer\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 nu \u015ftii s\u0103 negociezi un prenup\u0163ial, e greu de crezut c\u0103 o s\u0103 \u015ftii s\u0103 negociezi via\u0163a de dup\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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