E o form\u0103 de control patologic, de toxicitate \u015fi de abuz s\u0103-\u0163i tratezi fiica ca pe o marf\u0103. O marf\u0103 care nu poate fi livrat\u0103 dec\u00e2t cu ambalaj etan\u015f \u015fi pe care cump\u0103r\u0103torul \u00ee\u015fi rezerv\u0103 dreptul s\u0103 o resping\u0103 dac\u0103 constat\u0103 defecte ale ambalajului. O t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 femeie nu e o marf\u0103. O t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 femeie nu e un obiect v\u00e2ndut de p\u0103rin\u0163i viitorului so\u0163. Cei care ave\u0163i at\u00e2ta pasiune s\u0103 vinde\u0163i chestii pute\u0163i foarte simplu s\u0103 deschide\u0163i un magazin online, s\u0103-l aproviziona\u0163i ieftin de pe aliexpress \u015fi s\u0103 vinde\u0163i de diminea\u0163a p\u00e2n\u0103 seara c\u00e2t v\u0103 pofte\u015fte inima. Nu s\u0103 face\u0163i copii, \u015fi dac\u0103 se nimeresc s\u0103 fie fete, s\u0103 le controla\u0163i abuziv fiecare mi\u015fcare, s\u0103 le sabota\u0163i orice ini\u0163iativ\u0103 care nu cadreaz\u0103 cu ideile voastre pu\u0163ine \u015fi fixe despre rolul unei femei \u015fi s\u0103 le condamna\u0163i la o via\u0163\u0103 redundant\u0103 \u015fi obositoare de treburi casnice, \u00een cazul bun, sau la una de violen\u0163\u0103 domestic\u0103, abuz \u015fi umilin\u0163\u0103, \u00een cazul mai pu\u0163in bun. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Obsesia fa\u0163\u0103 de virginitate e exact asta: control tiranic asupra corpului fetei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Maic\u0103-mea nu m-a dus la ginecolog s\u0103-mi controleze himenul, \u00een schimb, mi-a umplut capul de baliverne. M\u0103 bu\u015fe\u015fte r\u00e2sul c\u00e2nd \u00eemi amintesc ce naiv\u0103 eram \u015fi cum luam \u00een serios toate aceste t\u00e2mpenii, pentru c\u0103 pe atunci nu aveau computere dec\u00e2t oamenii cu bani, net era doar la internet cafe \u015fi se pl\u0103tea la or\u0103. \u0162i-era ru\u015fine s\u0103 cau\u0163i teme sexuale \u00eentr-o sal\u0103 plin\u0103 de lume, unde urm\u0103torul internaut st\u0103tea la coad\u0103 \u00een spatele t\u0103u, \u015fi un ceas verde fosforescent setat pe timer v\u0103 semnaliza am\u00e2ndurora c\u00e2nd termini tu \u015fi c\u00e2nd \u00eencepe el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Balivernele ei erau a\u015fa: c\u0103 o fat\u0103 \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2neasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 se uzeze din momentul \u00een care un penix \u00eei str\u0103bate pentru prima oar\u0103 floricica preacurat\u0103. Lol. Dac\u0103 asta era adev\u0103rat\u0103, cum se face c\u0103 at\u00e2tea escorte arat\u0103 fabulos, \u015fi at\u00e2tea pup\u0103toare de moa\u015fte aduc destul de solid cu moa\u015ftele pe care le pup\u0103? ar fi \u00eentrebat Lorena de azi. Dar Lorena de atunci era un copil speriat, \u0163inut fioros sub papuc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Apoi, c\u0103 dup\u0103 ce te “\u00eencepi”, o s\u0103 sim\u0163i mereu nevoia s\u0103 faci, \u015fi nu o s\u0103 po\u0163i controla cu cine, \u015fi o s\u0103 faci cu to\u0163i rata\u0163ii. Lol. Nevoia de satisfac\u0163ie sexual\u0103 apare, indiferent de existen\u0163a virginit\u0103\u0163ii, odat\u0103 cu hormonii specifici adolescen\u0163ei. C\u00e2nd descoperi c\u0103 dac\u0103 ai blugi str\u00e2m\u0163i \u015fi te mi\u015fti \u00eentr-un anumit mod, cus\u0103tura aia ferm\u0103 te apas\u0103 exact unde trebuie, adic\u0103 pe clitoris, iar senza\u0163ia e incredibil\u0103. C\u0103 la du\u015f, apa cald\u0103 la presiunea potrivit\u0103, direc\u0163ionat\u0103 pe clitoris, te face s\u0103 ai orgasm \u00een c\u00e2teva minute. Da, e tot nevoie, \u015fi da, e tot satisfac\u0163ie, chit c\u0103 nu e penetrativ\u0103, \u015fi chit c\u0103 nu te-a atins niciodat\u0103 un individ \u00een acel loc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Iar abera\u0163ia asta, c\u0103 nu po\u0163i controla cu cine… Lol. Abia dup\u0103 ce prinzi experien\u0163\u0103 de via\u0163\u0103, \u015fi da, prin via\u0163\u0103 m\u0103 refer \u015fi la via\u0163\u0103 intim\u0103, po\u0163i controla cu adev\u0103rat cu cine, pentru c\u0103 detectezi un caracter jegos de la primele replici. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei amenin\u0163area: Dac\u0103 faci sex, o s\u0103 m\u0103 uit la tine \u015fi o s\u0103 v\u0103d. \u015ei o s\u0103-mi dau seama. \u015ei o s\u0103-\u0163i par\u0103 r\u0103u. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Amenin\u0163\u0103rile astea vagi, f\u0103r\u0103 termeni \u015fi condi\u0163ii clar definite, f\u0103r\u0103 consecin\u0163e bine structurate, sunt cele mai cringe, \u00een special pentru un creier nevinovat de copil. Azi, s\u0103 m\u0103 amenin\u0163e unul a\u015fa, i-a\u015f r\u00e2de \u00een nas \u015fi i-a\u015f zice: \u00cen ce moduri o s\u0103-mi par\u0103 r\u0103u? \u00cemi furi boii de la biciclet\u0103? Ce-o s\u0103-mi faci concret? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 oamenii au ce s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 concret, gen s\u0103 te dea afar\u0103 din cas\u0103, sau s\u0103 renun\u0163e la o colaborare cu tine, sau s\u0103 anuleze un contract de care beneficiai, te amenin\u0163\u0103 cu subiect \u015fi predicat. Vasile, dac\u0103 fumezi \u00een incint\u0103, te d\u0103m afar\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oamenii care povestesc generic c\u0103 o s\u0103-\u0163i par\u0103 r\u0103u \u00een general nu prea au ce s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103, a\u015fa c\u0103 o ard pe enigm\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mbun. Azi, a\u015f \u015fti s\u0103 call out the BS. De fapt, I already did and I always do. Dar pe atunci, la v\u00e2rsta inocen\u0163ei, astea m\u0103 \u00eenfrico\u015fau cel mai tare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei problema e c\u0103 am dus cu mine sechelele acestor amenin\u0163\u0103ri \u015fi mituri mult peste 20 de ani. C\u00e2nd m\u0103 sim\u0163eam vinovat\u0103 dac\u0103 fac sex, chit c\u0103 ra\u0163iunea \u00eemi spunea c\u0103 sunt un adult \u015fi e dreptul meu s\u0103 m\u0103 bucur de corpul meu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E momentul ca toate aceste basme traumatizante \u015fi tot acest control stalinist s\u0103 dispar\u0103. Iar \u00een locul lor, s\u0103 apar\u0103 educa\u0163ia sexual\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Adic\u0103: le explici tuturor copiilor riscurile reale ale vie\u0163ii sexuale: sarcin\u0103 nedorit\u0103 la v\u00e2rste la care nu e\u015fti preg\u0103tit nici material, nici emo\u0163ional, boli transmisibile sexual \u015fi, deloc de neglijat, faptul c\u0103 po\u0163i ajunge \u0163inta diver\u015filor creeps \u015fi pr\u0103d\u0103tori sexuali. \u00cen locul eternei vinov\u0103\u0163ii generice, s\u0103 induci no\u0163iunea de responsabilitate fa\u0163\u0103 de propriile alegeri \u015fi de respect fa\u0163\u0103 de propriul corp. Iar o t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 fat\u0103 care se respect\u0103 va refuza s\u0103 fie po\u015fta regimentului nu pentru c\u0103 o oprim\u0103 tac-su \u015fi o amenin\u0163\u0103 cu moartea \u00een caz c\u0103 cedeaz\u0103, ci pentru c\u0103 se va respecta suficient pe sine s\u0103 \u015ftie c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 se \u00eencurce cu to\u0163i termina\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cen loc s\u0103 duci adolescenta la medicin\u0103 legal\u0103 s\u0103-i controleze \u0103ia himenul, po\u0163i s\u0103 faci un lucru mai bun. S\u0103 o duci la ginecolog, unde s\u0103 afle no\u0163iunile necesare de \u00eengrijire intim\u0103 \u015fi simptomele posibilelor boli ale sistemului reproduc\u0103tor. S\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi fac\u0103 vaccinul HPV, de exemplu, care s\u0103 previn\u0103 cancerele genitale \u00een cazul infec\u0163iei cu papilomavirus. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 te intereseze cu adev\u0103rat s\u0103n\u0103tatea \u015fi binele ei. Dac\u0103 doar o terorizezi cu obliga\u0163ia virginit\u0103\u0163ii, te intereseaz\u0103 doar controlul t\u0103u asupra ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un mit periculos care circul\u0103 printre ignoran\u0163i e c\u0103 virginele nu pot face boli ale sistemului reproduc\u0103tor. Evident, fals. O infec\u0163ie precum candidoza poate ap\u0103rea \u015fi \u00een urma faptului c\u0103 iei antibiotice. Sau, dac\u0103 prin\u0163esa cu himen intact o \u00eencaseaz\u0103 full-on pe u\u015fi\u0163a din spate, conform tradi\u0163iei din b\u0103tr\u00e2ni, de unde \u015fi vorba “nu, domnule judec\u0103tor, n-am f\u0103cut sex, am f..-o numai \u00een c…”, riscul TUTUROR bolilor transmisibile sexual e acela\u015fi, ba chiar mai mare, pentru c\u0103 \u0163esuturile din interiorul anusului sunt mult mai vulnerabile \u015fi u\u015for de fisurat, iar microleziunile sunt por\u0163i deschise pentru orice poten\u0163ial\u0103 infec\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
O fat\u0103 informat\u0103 e o fat\u0103 care se protejeaz\u0103 corect \u015fi eficient. O fat\u0103 \u0163inut\u0103 \u00een ignoran\u0163\u0103 \u015fi controlat\u0103 cu amenin\u0163\u0103ri \u015fi teste de virginitate e o fat\u0103 care va g\u0103si shortcut-uri. Iar aceste shortcut-uri sunt de obicei stupide \u015fi d\u0103un\u0103toare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop testelor de virginitate. Introduce\u0163i \u00een schimb educa\u0163ia sexual\u0103. Singurul mod \u00een care aju\u0163i cu adev\u0103rat o t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 alegeri \u00een\u0163elepte, de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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