{"id":23509,"date":"2022-06-18T09:54:44","date_gmt":"2022-06-18T06:54:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23509"},"modified":"2022-06-18T09:54:45","modified_gmt":"2022-06-18T06:54:45","slug":"cliseul-stricarii-vietii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cliseul-stricarii-vietii\/","title":{"rendered":"Cli\u015feul stric\u0103rii vie\u0163ii"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Dup\u0103 cum se \u015ftie, sora voastr\u0103 aici de fa\u0163\u0103 este o feminist\u0103 convins\u0103. De aceea o \u015fi h\u0103r\u0163uiesc \u015fi abuzeaz\u0103 verbal to\u0163i rata\u0163ii internetului \u015fi unii din via\u0163a real\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sora voastr\u0103 crede din tot sufletul \u00een t\u0103ria interioar\u0103, inteligen\u0163a, creativitatea \u015fi tot restul calit\u0103\u0163ilor femeii. Sigur, nu toate sunt \u00eenzestrate cu acestea, a\u015fa cum exist\u0103 destul de multe rebuturi umane \u015fi printre b\u0103rba\u0163i. Dar un num\u0103r \u00eendeajuns de mare de femei sunt o combina\u0163ie a mai multor calit\u0103\u0163i, prin urmare, merit\u0103 toate \u015fansele de la via\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 \u015fi le valorifice \u015fi s\u0103 se bucure de rezultatele lor, f\u0103r\u0103 presiunea tradi\u0163ional\u0103 orientat\u0103 spre perpetua negare de sine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, sora voastr\u0103 nu are r\u0103bdare deloc cu narativa stric\u0103rii vie\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se mai nimere\u015fte \u015fi c\u00e2te un pxlifrici ratat s\u0103 gui\u0163e c\u0103 v\u0103leeeu, una care nu-i datoreaz\u0103 nimic nu-i r\u0103spunde la mesaje, drept care i-a stricat via\u0163a. Dar e un num\u0103r exagerat de mare de femei care se combin\u0103 cu c\u00e2te un gigel, au c\u00e2\u0163iva ani de rela\u0163ie, sau chiar de c\u0103s\u0103torie ok, apoi, dup\u0103 ce treaba \u00eencepe s\u0103 mearg\u0103 prost \u015fi se ajunge la desp\u0103r\u0163ire sau divor\u0163, s\u0103 schel\u0103l\u0103ie c\u0103 aoleeu, \u0103la le-a stricat via\u0163a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amendament: nu m\u0103 refer la psiho-gigei, cei care te urm\u0103resc, te freac\u0103 la cap cu telefoane de pe numere anonime, mesaje de intimidare \u015fi amenin\u0163\u0103ri, \u00ee\u0163i sun\u0103 toat\u0103 familia, apar neanun\u0163a\u0163i la jobul t\u0103u, pun pe net filmule\u0163e cu partidele voastre de amor cu n\u0103b\u0103d\u0103i sau \u00ee\u0163i bat cu pumnii \u00een u\u015f\u0103 be\u0163i praf noaptea la trei. \u0102\u015ftia, da, merit\u0103 reclama\u0163i la poli\u0163ie, da\u0163i \u00een judecat\u0103, \u015fi mai e nevoie \u015fi de un cadru legal eficient care s\u0103 apere victimele h\u0103r\u0163uirii post-desp\u0103r\u0163ire, b\u0103rba\u0163i sau femei, de fo\u015fti boufrenji \u015fi g\u0103lfrenji demen\u0163i \u015fi abuzivi . \u015ei da, jegurile astea psihopate chiar au talentul de a strica vie\u0163i, \u015fi nici m\u0103car nu po\u0163i s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i bagi o dat\u0103 p*la \u00een mor\u0163ii lor cum trebuie, c\u0103 exact atunci te filmeaz\u0103 \u015fi coafeaz\u0103 povestea a\u015fa cum le convine lor, c\u0103 ei erau nevinova\u0163i \u015fi tu, o jigodie violent\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar m\u0103 refer la fo\u015fti parteneri inofensivi. Care accept\u0103 relativ demn c\u0103 s-a rupt lan\u0163ul de iubire, \u00ee\u015fi iau frumos catrafusele \u015fi nu te mai deranjeaz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei cu toate acestea, la mul\u0163i ani dup\u0103 ultimul bun-r\u0103mas, anumite muiereturi \u00eenc\u0103 \u00eei porc\u0103ie pe \u0103\u015ftia, “c\u0103 le-au stricat via\u0163a”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chit c\u0103, \u00een ace\u015fti mul\u0163i ani, individele ar fi avut timp berechet \u015fi toate mijloacele disponibile pentru a-\u015fi f\u0103uri ce via\u0163\u0103 vor ele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar le-a fost mai comod s\u0103 nu fac\u0103 nimic \u015fi, \u00een schimb, s\u0103 se vaiete \u015fi s\u0103 f*** nervii tuturor cunoscu\u0163ilor cu via\u0163a lor stricat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E un motiv bine \u00eentemeiat pentru care eu tratez problemele oamenilor gratis doar \u00een po\u015fta redac\u0163iei, pe sistem \u00eentrebare – r\u0103spuns, exerci\u0163iu care \u00eei oblig\u0103, pe de o parte, s\u0103 fac\u0103 efortul de a sintetiza \u00een scris problema, \u015fi pe de alta, s\u0103 \u00eencaseze solu\u0163ia da capo al fine, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 deturneze vorba cu alte v\u0103ic\u0103reli. \u015ei e un motiv bine \u00eentemeiat pentru care nu ascult v\u0103ic\u0103reli dec\u00e2t \u00een regim de consiliere personal\u0103, cu plata pe or\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oamenii care se v\u0103ic\u0103resc NU VOR s\u0103 rezolve problema. Vor s-o men\u0163in\u0103, s-o poat\u0103 folosi \u00een continuare ca pe o vac\u0103 de muls timp \u015fi aten\u0163ie de la restul lumii. Exact ca steaua lui Eminescu, care era pe c\u00e2nd nu s-a z\u0103rit \/ azi o vedem \u015fi nu e, problema uneia divor\u0163ate sau p\u0103r\u0103site de mult, pe care exul nu o deranjeaz\u0103 cu absolut nimic, dar care se v\u0103ic\u0103re\u015fte \u00een continuare cum i-a stricat \u0103la via\u0163a, e rezolvat\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 \u00een momentul divor\u0163ului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A plecat \u00een punctul pe axa temporal\u0103 t1, deci stricarea a \u00eencetat \u00een punctul t1. Ce ai f\u0103cut tu din t1 \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een prezent ca s\u0103 repari stric\u0103ciunea? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u0103 dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul e “nimic relevant”, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 din t1 \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een prezent, stric\u0103torul nu mai e el, ci tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar dac\u0103 rela\u0163ia a durat trei s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, s\u0103 zicem, iar v\u0103ic\u0103reala ulterioar\u0103, doi ani, concluzia se cam trage singur\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

OK. Dar chiar \u015fi \u00een timpul rela\u0163iei. \u00cen timp de gigel \u00ee\u0163i strica via\u0163a. Tu unde erai? Ce e\u015fti tu, o p\u0103pu\u015f\u0103 de c\u00e2rp\u0103, s\u0103 po\u0163i fi at\u00e2t de u\u015for stricat\u0103 de oricine trece pe acolo? Sau un om cu discern\u0103m\u00e2nt \u015fi cu abilitatea de a face diferen\u0163a \u00eentre bine \u015fi r\u0103u, care poate s\u0103 spun\u0103 \u00een orice moment “stop, chestia asta \u00eemi stric\u0103 via\u0163a, a\u015fa c\u0103 vei \u00eenceta s\u0103 o faci ahora mismo”? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oamenii au asupra ta doar puterea pe care le-o conferi tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O repet pe asta, s\u0103 m\u0103 asigur c\u0103 s-a procesat: oamenii au asupra ta doar puterea pe care le-o conferi tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0162in minte, pe c\u00e2nd \u00eenc\u0103 eram blogger influent, iar \u015feful ASPA de atunci un \u015fp\u0103gar corupt \u015fi ordinar care se folosea de c\u00e2inii comunitari s\u0103 fure banii statului, am avut cu el un meci de pooli \u015fi mooi \u00een mesaje private. Dialog pe care l-am publicat. Desigur, am l\u0103sat \u015fi poolile \u015fi mooile mele, s\u0103 nu par\u0103 c\u0103 \u0163ip\u0103 singur, cum mai fac \u0103ia care m\u0103 provoac\u0103 pe mine. Cu diferen\u0163a c\u0103 eu m-am certat cu \u0103la pe tema programelor absolut inumane pentru animalele f\u0103r\u0103 st\u0103p\u00e2n, deci cu motiv \u00eentemeiat, iar zdren\u0163ele care se iau de mine o fac cu zero justificare real\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A doua zi m-a sunat o cunoscut\u0103 televiziune s\u0103 m\u0103 invite la o emisiune de scandal, s\u0103 discut\u0103m modul \u00een care m-a \u00eempool\u0103it \u0103la. Am refuzat, chit c\u0103 \u00eemi oferiser\u0103 o mie de euro. Pe atunci, f\u0103ceam aceast\u0103 mie de euro din dou\u0103 campanii pe blog. \u015ei \u00een plus, era prea pu\u0163in interesant s\u0103 apar la televizor \u00een ipostaza de victima unui gigel. Mai ales c\u0103 nu m\u0103 impresionase cu nimic. S\u0103 m\u0103 duc s\u0103 m\u0103 vaiet de abuzul lui \u00eensemna s\u0103-l fac personaj principal \u00een povestea mea. C\u00e2nd face Anamaria Prodan turul tabloidelor s\u0103 se mai vaiete pu\u0163in de Reghecampf, cine c\u00e2\u015ftig\u0103 vie\u0163i \u015fi superputeri la faza asta? \u00cen niciun caz ea. El e cel care r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu imaginea de erou fascinant cu poola de diamant care a footut-o at\u00e2t de transcendental, de transgresiv \u015fi de pluriorgasmic pe v\u0103ic\u0103rea\u0163\u0103, c\u0103 de atunci, asta nu se mai poate opri din bocit dup\u0103 el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u0103ic\u0103rindu-te, \u015fi mai ales v\u0103ic\u0103rindu-te f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 iei m\u0103suri, nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103 men\u0163ii via\u0163a \u00een halul de stric\u0103ciune din t1 \u015fi s\u0103 transferi putere fostului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cheia restaur\u0103rii propriei vie\u0163i e la tine. Ca adult, e\u015fti responsabil de ceea ce faci. \u015ei e\u015fti \u00een control. Desigur, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 fii \u00een control. Dar dac\u0103 vrei control doar peste nervii binevoitorului pe care-i ucizi cu v\u0103ic\u0103reli, cel care \u00ee\u0163i stric\u0103 via\u0163a nu mai e de mult timp \u0103la. Tu \u0163i-o strici cu bun\u0103 \u015ftiin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi acuzi pe altul. Cam ca un cer\u015fetor care se mutileaz\u0103 singur, s\u0103 stoarc\u0103 mila \u015fi generozitatea trec\u0103torilor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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