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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nBravo, Daniel, ai ouat-o. Ai ouat-o magistral. Dup\u0103 ce muncesc toat\u0103 ziua s\u0103 pun\u0103 o p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 asigure un trai lini\u015ftit, dup\u0103 ce fac toate treburile casei, pentru c\u0103 nu po\u0163i cre\u015fte un copil \u00eentr-un apartament de burlac cu felii de pizza lipite de pere\u0163i \u015fi colec\u0163ie de cutii de beri goale pe jos, ce s\u0103 fac\u0103 \u015fi p\u0103rintele? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ah da, home schooling. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
S\u0103-i mai predea o dat\u0103 \u00eengera\u015fului materia, s\u0103 se asigure c\u0103 prime\u015fte not\u0103 de trecere. \u015ei s\u0103 nu-i fie ru\u015fine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Am \u00eens\u0103 o nedumerire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dac\u0103 p\u0103rintele e cel care ar trebui s\u0103 predea copilului matematic\u0103, chimie, istorie \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe, cum se face c\u0103 statul ne ia nou\u0103 tuturor bani din venituri \u015fi \u00eei investe\u015fte \u00een salariiile unor oameni care \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103tor au exact acest job? Nu mai bine ofer\u0103 p\u0103rin\u0163ilor – profesori o a doua aloca\u0163ie lunar\u0103, ca s\u0103 acopere \u015fi costul acestui serviciu? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei desigur, asta cu home schoolingul e varianta soft. Mai e \u015fi varianta hard, prin care am trecut unii dintre noi. Ai c\u0103ror p\u0103rin\u0163i nu ne-au ajutat cu nimic, nici m\u0103car cu contravaloarea unei medita\u0163ii, \u00een schimb, la orice not\u0103 de 9 se str\u00e2mbau la noi de parc\u0103 subit ne transformasem \u00een tomberoane de gunoi, iar la 8, \u00eencepeau s\u0103 zbiere de parc\u0103 ar fi dat strechea \u00een ei: Pentru asta \u00ee\u0163i pun m\u00e2ncare pe mas\u0103? S\u0103-mi aduci opt? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u0103cat c\u0103 nu aveam atunci prezen\u0163a de spirit \u015fi sictirul pe omenire s\u0103 r\u0103spund ceva de genul: P\u0103i, recompenseaz\u0103 performan\u0163a la nivelul la care o vrei, cretino. Dac\u0103 vrei zece pe linie, pune-mi caviar \u015fi medalion de c\u0103prioar\u0103 \u00een sos de coniac pe pat de pe mas\u0103 \u00een fiecare zi. De-asta \u00ee\u0163i aduc eu zece pe linie, s\u0103 lungim aceea\u015fi ciorb\u0103 de cartofi patru zile? Sorry, performan\u0163a ta culinar\u0103 e de un 7 cu indulgen\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei cum prev\u0103d c\u0103 o s\u0103 fie o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de oi proaste care s-o \u00een\u0163eleaag\u0103 gre\u015fit pe asta, explic: NU, nu consider cu adev\u0103rat<\/strong> c\u0103 era cazul s\u0103 \u00eemi dea gourmet food doar pentru c\u0103 aduceam zece pe linie. Consider c\u0103, dimpotriv\u0103, modul \u00een care \u00ee\u015fi \u015fantajau mul\u0163i p\u0103rin\u0163i progeniturile s\u0103 aduc\u0103 perpetuu note mari, sco\u0163\u00e2ndu-le ochii cu m\u00e2ncarea \u015fi cu tot ce au sacrificat e fundamental gre\u015fit \u015fi extrem de toxic, iar riposta pe aceea\u015fi linie logic\u0103 ar fi fost s\u0103 faci \u015fi tu nazuri la condi\u0163iile precare puse la dispozi\u0163ie, as opposed cu nivelul preten\u0163iilor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, dac\u0103 ai ales s\u0103 faci un copil, se presupune c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i asumi \u015fi cheltuielile necesare pentru a-l cre\u015fte. Dac\u0103 nu \u0163i le asumi, nu face copii. De ce s\u0103 aduci pe lume fiin\u0163e doar ca s\u0103 ai pe cine s\u0103 f** la cap \u015fi s\u0103 folose\u015fti pe post de sac de box? <\/p>\n\n\n\n De ce ni se spune continuu s\u0103 nu ne judec\u0103m p\u0103rin\u0163ii \u015fi s\u0103 fim recunosc\u0103tori indiferent de c\u00e2t au avut sau au vrut s\u0103 ne ofere, dar totodat\u0103 e social acceptat, ba, din punct de vedere al unora ca Funeriu, chiar recomandat ca un p\u0103rinte s\u0103 fie perpetuu nemul\u0163umit \u015fi conflictual legat de modul \u00een care copiii \u00eei satisfac sau nu a\u015ftept\u0103rile?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sigur, un p\u0103rinte poate ajuta un copil la teme. \u00cen m\u0103sura \u00een care se pricepe \u015fi el. C\u0103 o aud des pe aia cu “aoleu, \u00eencerc s\u0103 \u00eel ajut pe \u0103la micu cu matematic\u0103 de a cincea \u015fi nu \u00een\u0163eleg nimic”. Iar dac\u0103 tu nu \u00een\u0163elegi nimic, nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eencurci pe prunc \u015fi mai tare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sigur, un p\u0103rinte poate explica bl\u00e2nd \u015fi cu r\u0103bdare c\u00e2t de importante sunt rezultatele bune pentru a face un liceu bun, o facultate bun\u0103 \u015fi pentru a ob\u0163ine un job de prestigiu, bine pl\u0103tit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sigur, un p\u0103rinte poate angaja un meditator, care s\u0103 ajute copilul s\u0103 aib\u0103 rezultate mai bune. Asta dac\u0103 \u015fi-l permite. Pentru c\u0103 nu to\u0163i p\u0103rin\u0163ii au cu ce. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu au cu ce, prioritar e s\u0103-l hr\u0103neasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-l \u00eembrace, csf, ncsf. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar ce NU poate face un p\u0103rinte e s\u0103 transplanteze creier sau voin\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Chiar dac\u0103 metodele vechi \u015fi toxice de parenting, bazate pe fric\u0103, urlat \u015fi b\u0103taie, au f\u0103cut ca o \u00eentreag\u0103 genera\u0163ie s\u0103 copieze, s\u0103 sufle, s\u0103 toceasc\u0103 frustrant \u015fi s\u0103 scoat\u0103 note de trecere, ceea ce NU au f\u0103cut ele este s\u0103 garanteze un nivel aprofundat de cuno\u015ftin\u0163e sau o rela\u0163ie bun\u0103 p\u0103rinte – copil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ne mai g\u00e2ndim \u015fi la efecte pe termen lung. C\u00e2nd fi-tu are 35 de ani, nota aia de \u015fase e demult uitat\u0103, dar r\u0103nile provocate de parenting abuziv nu se vindec\u0103 niciodat\u0103 \u015fi se mai \u015fi \u00eentorc s\u0103 te mu\u015fte de c***, dac\u0103 \u0103la refuz\u0103 s\u0103 te mai sune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ieri, p\u0103reristul de internet Daniel Funeriu avea o zi relativ liber\u0103. \u015ei atunci, ce \u015fi-a zis el? Gata, \u015ftiu ce s\u0103 fac. 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