Scrisorica de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Bun\u0103, Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0162i-am mai scris la po\u015fta redac\u0163iei acum ceva timp, \u015fi r\u0103spunsul t\u0103u m-a ajutat foarte mult s\u0103 trec peste o perioad\u0103 dificil\u0103.<\/strong> (Drept care, am f\u0103cut o dona\u0163ie generoas\u0103, s\u0103 sus\u0163in aceast\u0103 surs\u0103 de empowerment de care am beneficiat \u00een acest moment complicat, not\u0103 Lorena.) \u00ce\u0163i scriu acum, cu o alt\u0103 problem\u0103. Am nevoie de cineva care s\u0103 \u00eemi dea o palm\u0103 dup\u0103 ceaf\u0103, \u015fi cred c\u0103 tu e\u015fti persoana potrivit\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am 25 de ani, \u015fi sunt o fat\u0103 super \u00eemplinit\u0103 din punctul de vedere al carierei. Am terminat un masterat foarte greu \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate, f\u0103cut aproape integral pe banii mei (c\u0103 p\u0103rin\u0163ii nu prea au avut de unde\u00a0s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute). A fost extrem de greu, \u015fi m-am uitat mereu cu invidie la colegii mei care primeau bani de acas\u0103 \u015fi aveau timp \u015fi de distrac\u0163ie, c\u00e2nd eu munceam non-stop ca s\u0103 m\u0103 pot \u00eentre\u0163ine. Dar a meritat, iar cu experien\u0163a c\u00e2\u015ftigat\u0103 \u00een c\u00e2mpul muncii am reu\u015fit acum s\u0103 prind un post la una dintre cele mai bune companii din lume pe domeniul pe care l-am studiat.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar Lorena, problema e c\u0103… m\u0103 simt ur\u00e2t\u0103. Dup\u0103 4-5 ani de studiat \u015fi muncit \u00een paralel, din cauza stresului am luat \u00een greutate enorm de mult. Asta s-a suprapus \u015fi cu vreo dou\u0103 situa\u0163ii de via\u0163\u0103 destul de grele, peste care am trecut cu greu \u015fi cu terapie. Cu chiu cu vai, am reu\u015fit s\u0103 sl\u0103besc, \u00eens\u0103 nu mai ar\u0103t ca la 18-20 de ani. Am vergeturi, pu\u0163in\u0103 burtic\u0103, picioare groase, mi s-a l\u0103sat pielea pe fa\u0163\u0103, am cearc\u0103ne c\u00e2t casa. \u015etiu c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 mi se rup\u0103, dar m\u0103 doare c\u00e2nd realizez c\u0103 nu se mai uit\u0103 tipii la mine ca \u00eenainte. Nu ajut\u0103 nici c\u0103 m-am “\u00eenr\u0103it” destul de mult, nu mai sunt fata dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103 care eram \u00eenainte. Am replicile la mine \u015fi de multe ori mi s-a spus c\u0103 intimidez, \u015fi de asta nu se apropie tipii de mine. Asta mi-au spus-o at\u00e2t necunoscu\u0163i, c\u00e2t \u015fi prieteni buni, b\u0103ie\u0163i, care nu ar avea niciun motiv s\u0103 mint\u0103. Mi-au spus c\u0103 am o alur\u0103 “masculin\u0103”, \u015fi aparent asta nu e atractiv. Dar nici nu prea am cum s\u0103 fiu altfel, c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu dezvoltam personalitatea pe care o am acum, nu a\u015f fi ajuns unde sunt nici \u00een ruptul capului.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n De ce m\u0103 deranjeaz\u0103, de ce \u00eemi afecteaz\u0103 asta \u00eencrederea \u00een mine? Cum pot s\u0103 ajung \u00een punctul \u00een care m\u0103 doare la 15 metri \u00een spate ce crede lumea despre mine?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u015ftept cu ner\u0103bdare palma dup\u0103 ceaf\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Cu drag, o fan\u0103 fraier\u0103 \ud83d\ude42<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n *** <\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Un lucru pe care absolut nimeni pe acest p\u0103m\u00e2nt NU trebuie s\u0103-l fac\u0103 e s\u0103 se nege pe sine \u00eensu\u015fi \u015fi omul care a devenit, doar pentru c\u00e2teva ore de co\u0163\u0103ial\u0103 mai mult sau mai pu\u0163in reu\u015fit\u0103 cu ni\u015fte gigei random. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Really, s\u0103 punem \u00een balan\u0163\u0103 ce ai \u015fi la ce aspiri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ai \u00een spate ani de rezilien\u0163\u0103, efort, un job excelent, pl\u0103tit fabulos \u015fi o reputa\u0163ie profesional\u0103. Dup\u0103 cum spune Lady Gaga, cariera nu \u0163i se va uita niciodat\u0103 \u00een ochi s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 c\u0103 nu te mai iube\u015fte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n La ce aspiri? La o imagine de multe ori fake, sau artificial \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u0163it\u0103, menit\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i aduc\u0103 aten\u0163ie superficial\u0103 \u015fi trec\u0103toare de la unii care, \u00een majoritatea cazurilor, reprezint\u0103 mai mult efort dec\u00e2t satisfac\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n De ce? <\/p>\n\n\n\n BS-ul \u0103sta cu intimidarea l-am primit \u015fi eu de la diver\u015fi purt\u0103tori de penis, dar replica mea a fost mereu: M\u0103 bucur c\u0103 te intimidez. A\u015fa sortez pe cineva care \u015ftie s\u0103 fac\u0103 fa\u0163\u0103 cu succes provoc\u0103rilor \u015fi nu cedeaz\u0103 la prima dificultate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I meean, dac\u0103 cineva e b**hurt de la un r\u0103spuns mai hot\u0103r\u00e2t, ce va face c\u00e2nd tu o s\u0103 te lup\u0163i cu gre\u0163urile din timpul sarcinii sau cu depresia postpartum? Un om care e partner material hangs in there, iar r\u0103t\u0103ci\u0163ii maicii domnului nu au de ce s\u0103 te intereseze. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Poate c\u0103 partea la care ai de lucrat e con\u015ftientizarea propriei valori. Dac\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 o pui la schimb cu p\u0103rerea tuturor fluier\u0103-v\u00e2nt, m\u0103 tem c\u0103 nu te respec\u0163i pe tine prea mult. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar o rela\u0163ie care s\u0103 merite cu adev\u0103rat apare abia \u00een momentul c\u00e2nd tu te pre\u0163uie\u015fti suficient de mult \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 fii perfect confortabil\u0103 \u015fi stabil\u0103 pe cont propriu. Tipii care te paraziteaz\u0103 pe baza nesiguran\u0163elor nu merit\u0103 the time of day. \u0102ia care pre\u0163uiesc cine e\u015fti sunt singurii cu care ai ce discuta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sigur, po\u0163i lucra la aspectul t\u0103u fizic, dar asta pentru a te r\u0103sf\u0103\u0163a tu pe tine, nu pentru a face sluj rata\u0163ilor care \u0163i se dau prieteni \u015fi care \u00ee\u0163i deseneaz\u0103 un rol submisiv, din dispre\u0163 \u015fi misecuvenism fa\u0163\u0103 de femei. La 25 de ani, cu tratamente cosmetice adecvate \u015fi aplicate cu regularitate, tonusul pielii se reface u\u015for. Sportul f\u0103cut cu regularitate te ajut\u0103 nu doar s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i reenergizezi \u015fi modelezi corpul, ci \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 \u015fi trip gratuit de endorfine. \u015ei acestea te fac atractiv\u0103: \u00eencrederea \u00een tine, satisfac\u0163ia cu propria via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi propria persoan\u0103, absen\u0163a complexelor \u015fi a umilin\u0163ei aceleia total repulsive, c\u0103 parc\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i ceri nonstop scuze c\u0103 exi\u015fti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n F\u0103 \u015fi un curs de makeup, care ajut\u0103 mult la acoperirea zonelor problem\u0103 \u015fi eviden\u0163ierea tr\u0103s\u0103turilor avantajoase. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u015ei nu mai pierde timp cu genul de gigel care \u00ee\u0163i spune c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 te diminuezi tu pe tine ca s\u0103 la\u015fi pe altul s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i fure lumina de reflector. \u0102la nu \u0163i-e prieten, indiferent cum te minte c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i e. Probabil c\u0103, \u00een secret, to\u0163i te invidiaz\u0103 cu spume pentru cariera ta. You need better friends. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie. 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