{"id":23638,"date":"2022-08-11T10:14:10","date_gmt":"2022-08-11T07:14:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23638"},"modified":"2022-08-11T10:14:12","modified_gmt":"2022-08-11T07:14:12","slug":"ingrijirea-in-familie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ingrijirea-in-familie\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00cengrijirea \u00een familie"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

“Cum s\u0103 \u00eel trimi\u0163i la azil. Ce fiu \/ fiic\u0103 \/ nepot \/ whatever e\u015fti tu?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cam a\u015fa sun\u0103 mustr\u0103rile gigeilor \u015fi gigelelor, de c\u00e2te ori cineva scrie c\u0103 are o rud\u0103 bolnav\u0103 fizic sau psihic, c\u0103 se simte dep\u0103\u015fit(\u0103) de situa\u0163ie \u015fi c\u0103 e \u00een c\u0103utarea unei instiitu\u0163ii specializate, cu angaja\u0163i care s\u0103 \u015ftie cum s\u0103 \u00eengrijeasc\u0103 exact acel tip de bolnav. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practic, dac\u0103 nu beh\u0103i de prost \u015fi ai ambi\u0163ie s\u0103 realizezi ceva prin for\u0163e proprii, ar trebui s\u0103 fie obliga\u0163ia ta s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i petreci pu\u0163inul timp liber slug\u0103rind to\u0163i bolnavii familiei \u00een care ai avut ghinionul s\u0103 te na\u015fti, chit c\u0103 \u0103ia nu te-au sus\u0163inut niciodat\u0103 cu nimic \u00een ambi\u0163iile tale, ba mai mult, \u00een diverse cazuri, te-au demoralizat, te-au traumatizat \u015fi te-au tras \u00een jos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mai auzi c\u00e2te o muiere ridic\u00e2nd \u00een sl\u0103vi eforturile supraumane ale cut\u0103reasc\u0103i, care \u00eendur\u0103 violen\u0163\u0103 fizic\u0103, urlete \u015fi amenin\u0163\u0103ri trat\u00e2nd acas\u0103 c\u00e2te un bolnav psihic, pe cineva cu o boal\u0103 degenerativ\u0103 sau alt\u0103 problem\u0103 cronic\u0103 care creeaz\u0103 un climat absolut insuportabil \u00een cas\u0103 \u015fi afecteaz\u0103 traiul de zi cu zi al tuturor celor s\u0103n\u0103to\u015fi. Cumva, e un merit s\u0103-\u0163i faci via\u0163a ta \u015fi a celor din jur un iad. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu, nu exist\u0103 eroism \u00een a asuma a\u015fa ceva. Exist\u0103 doar incon\u015ftien\u0163\u0103 \u015fi sacrificiu prost \u00een\u0163eles. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ieri, am citit \u015ftirea aceea cu un bolnav psihic tratat acas\u0103 care, \u00eentr-o criz\u0103, \u015fi-a ucis toat\u0103 familia, inclusiv o feti\u0163\u0103 de 5 ani. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei \u00eentrebarea mea a fost: De ce nimeni din acea familie nu \u015fi-a pus problema interesului superior al copilului, c\u00e2nd au decis s\u0103 \u0163in\u0103 acas\u0103 un bolnav psihic?? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To\u0163i t\u00e2mpi\u0163ii universului vin cu cli\u015feul \u0103sta expirat: ce-o s\u0103 spun\u0103 copilul meu dac\u0103 vede doi b\u0103rba\u0163i de m\u00e2n\u0103. Dar nimeni nu se \u00eentreab\u0103: ce o s\u0103 spun\u0103 copilul meu dac\u0103 \u00eel vede pe unchiul gigel url\u00e2nd ca descreieratul cu toporul \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103? Ce-o s\u0103 spun\u0103 copilul meu dac\u0103 mediul lui de acas\u0103 e incert, instabil, dac\u0103 nevoile lui sunt puse pe ultimul loc, pentru c\u0103 familia crede c\u0103 e un mare sacrificiu \u015fi semn de noble\u0163e s\u0103 \u0163ii bolnavul mintal printre oameni s\u0103n\u0103to\u015fi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exist\u0103 asisten\u0163\u0103 social\u0103, exist\u0103 ajutor special pentru astfel de cazuri \u015fi exist\u0103 institu\u0163ii de specialitate. Nu, nu e treaba ta s\u0103 tratezi acas\u0103 oameni pe care nu te califici s\u0103-i tratezi, iar responsabilitatea pentru eventualele nenorociri e a ta, nu a bolnavului. \u0102la nu are discern\u0103m\u00e2nt. Tu da. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e2ngele acelei copile de cinci ani nu e pe m\u00e2inile pacientului incorect tratat care a ucis-o. S\u00e2ngele ei e pe m\u00e2inile familiei care a luat decizia s\u0103 o expun\u0103 unor astfel de situa\u0163ii. \u015ei care nu s-a g\u00e2ndit c\u0103, dac\u0103 tot dai na\u015ftere unui copil nevinovat, e cazul s\u0103 creezi condi\u0163ii pentru ca acesta s\u0103 creasc\u0103 \u00een siguran\u0163\u0103. Negociezi cu familia s\u0103 trimit\u0103 omul bolnav la tratament sau s\u0103-i ob\u0163in\u0103 o internare, iar dac\u0103 familia e format\u0103 din sfin\u0163ii p*lii care \u015ftiu ei mai bine cum e cu sacrificiul, \u00ee\u0163i iei nevasta gravid\u0103 \u015fi v\u0103 muta\u0163i \u00een chirie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Probabil c\u0103 asasinatul \u0103sta \u00een grup nu a fost prima ie\u015fire violent\u0103 \u015fi periculoas\u0103 a bolnavului, ci doar un moment din multe. \u015ei chiar dac\u0103 feti\u0163a r\u0103m\u00e2nea \u00een via\u0163\u0103. C\u00e2\u0163i ani de terapie ar fi tratat teroarea unei copil\u0103rii tr\u0103ite \u00een groaz\u0103 perpetu\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu v\u0103 mai ambi\u0163iona\u0163i s\u0103 \u0163ine\u0163i bolnavi periculo\u015fi acas\u0103. Nu, nu exist\u0103 nici o urm\u0103 de eroism \u00een asta. Doar prostie ignorant\u0103 \u015fi incon\u015ftient\u0103. \u015ei, mai grav, expunerea f\u0103r\u0103 rost a membrilor vulnerabili ai familiei la un pericol perpetuu, care poate l\u0103sa traume de nedescris sau, \u00een cazul \u015ftirii noastre, se poate pl\u0103ti cu vie\u0163i nevinovate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu ave\u0163i studii de specialitate. Nu ave\u0163i antrenamentul necesar pentru a-i \u0163ine sub control. Dar boala lor v\u0103 va otr\u0103vi via\u0163a, zi de zi, c\u00e2te pu\u0163in. Poate chiar o va \u00eentrerupe brutal pentru c\u0103, hello, omul a avut o zi mai turbulent\u0103. Pe care voi nu era\u0163i preg\u0103ti\u0163i cu nimic s-o \u00eenfrunta\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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