{"id":23693,"date":"2022-09-05T09:54:14","date_gmt":"2022-09-05T06:54:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23693"},"modified":"2022-09-05T09:54:15","modified_gmt":"2022-09-05T06:54:15","slug":"valorile-morale-si-prima-zi-de-scoala","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/valorile-morale-si-prima-zi-de-scoala\/","title":{"rendered":"Valorile morale \u015fi prima zi de \u015fcoal\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ieri, am fost iar \u0163inta hauhaului pe internet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M-au acuzat bravii rom\u00e2ni de diverse: c\u0103 a\u015f fi materialist\u0103, c***\u0103, videochatist\u0103, proast\u0103, vac\u0103, proast\u0103, de doi lei \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. Textul cu care am ob\u0163inut at\u00e2tea complimente a acesta: <\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Florenaalmighty%2Fposts%2Fpfbid0286d21m9GEXeadbGsCAds4zXjmRstt3dHV5XR6CQz5X5b1EzCf45ZQxuizpXKvG2Wl&amp;show_text=true&amp;width=500\" width=\"500\" height=\"285\" style=\"border:none;overflow:hidden\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cu precizarea c\u0103 e sharuit \u015fi pe contul personal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Statusul mi-a fost declan\u015fat de un trigger. O doamn\u0103 care declara superior c\u0103 ea \u00ee\u015fi \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 copiii s\u0103 nu se uite la valori materiale, c\u00e2nd vine vorba de prima zi de \u015fcoal\u0103, \u015fi c\u0103 nu conteaz\u0103 ce poart\u0103. \u015ei c\u0103 importante sunt valorile morale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lorena de acum, care se duce peste tot \u00een blugi \u015fi tricou, e perfect de acord. E absolut irelevant cum te \u00eembraci, c\u00e2t timp te sim\u0163i bine \u00een pielea ta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar Lorena-copil, care voia cu disperare s\u0103 se integreze \u00eentre ceilal\u0163i copii, \u0163ip\u0103 mut pe interior. Lorena-copil, care avea cizme cu talpa g\u0103urit\u0103 \u015fi aceia\u015fi blugi ca \u015fi anul trecut, \u00een timp ce m\u0103-sa perora superior despre valori morale a retr\u0103it cu acest comentariu fiecare \u00eenceput de an umilitor, pe toat\u0103 durata ciclului \u015fcolar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La 10, 12, 14 ani, conteaz\u0103 pentru tine s\u0103 ar\u0103\u0163i bine \u00een acea prim\u0103 zi de \u015fcoal\u0103. Vrei ca lumea s\u0103 te plac\u0103, vrei s\u0103 fii cool \u015fi badass, vrei s\u0103 te sim\u0163i parte din grup \u015fi vrei s\u0103 impresionezi. E normal. Prima zi de \u015fcoal\u0103 e un nou \u00eenceput. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cred c\u0103 dac\u0103 e s\u0103 ne sond\u0103m ad\u00e2nc subcon\u015ftientul, mul\u0163i copii umili\u0163i de modul \u00een care ar\u0103tau la \u015fcoal\u0103 refuz\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 copii la r\u00e2ndul lor taman pentru a nu condamna alte fiin\u0163e umane la experien\u0163a lor, chit c\u0103, \u00een realitate, depinde de tine cum va fi experien\u0163a copilului \u015fi o po\u0163i face mai frumoas\u0103 \u015fi mai \u00eemplinit\u0103 dec\u00e2t ai avut-o tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Al\u0163ii din aceast\u0103 categorie fac copii \u015fi compenseaz\u0103: le dau \u015fi ultimele fe\u015f\u0103nuri, \u015fi ultimele telefoane, \u0163ine aici f\u0103r\u0103 num\u0103r, Gucci Armani Louis Vouitton, s\u0103 nu sim\u0163i niciodat\u0103 c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 se deschid\u0103 p\u0103m\u00e2ntul sub tine \u015fi s\u0103 te \u00eenghit\u0103, cum se sim\u0163ea m\u0103-ta \u00een fiecare zi c\u00e2nd mergea rupt\u0103 \u015fi peticit\u0103 \u00een c** la \u015fcoal\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar al\u0163ii cap\u0103t\u0103 alte obiceiuri. Iat\u0103 un comentariu gr\u0103itor, postat de o cititoare numit\u0103 Lucia Flaviana Mironese: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Copiii &#8220;\u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi&#8221; s\u0103 nu pun\u0103 accent pe valori materiale (a se citi: priva\u021bi de lucruri necesare \u0219i \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 la limita s\u0103r\u0103ciei), atunci c\u00e2nd vor deveni adul\u021bi, vor face exact a\u0219a ca mine: vor cump\u0103ra 60 de parfumuri, \u0219i ieftine, \u0219i scumpe,\u00a0\u0219i nu conteaz\u0103 de care, 35 de perechi de adida\u0219i de\u0219i ei lucreaz\u0103 la birou \u0219i nu \u00eei prea poart\u0103, haine f\u0103r\u0103 num\u0103r, \u0219i mii de caiete, creioane colorate, carioci, pixuri, etc, pe care nici nu le folosesc, dar nici altora nu le dau, c\u0103 ei cumva &#8220;iubesc&#8221; obiectele \u0219i fac orice s\u0103 aib\u0103 c\u00e2t mai multe. Vor sc\u0103pa de chestia asta greu, cu terapie. Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 asta, vor avea stima de sine sc\u0103zut\u0103, se vor sim\u021bi inferiori, neiubi\u021bi \u0219i nedori\u021bi &#8211; \u0219i vor avea sentimentul c\u0103 sunt ni\u0219te poveri pe umerii p\u0103rin\u021bilor &#8211; chestii de care iar se scap\u0103 greu, cu terapie. (Copiii se simt a\u0219a, pentru c\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd cer \u0219i ei p\u0103rin\u021bilor adida\u0219i noi, haine pe m\u0103rimea lor \u0219i \u00een concordan\u021b\u0103 cu timpurile tr\u0103ite, sau un oarecare &#8220;nimic&#8221; colorat \u0219i cu sclipici -pe care to\u021bi din clasa lor \u00eel au &#8211; li se va spune: &#8220;copil nerecunosc\u0103tor, obraznic, &#8230;.etc, nu \u00ee\u021bi ajunge c\u0103 te \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103m m\u00e2ncare \u0219i te \u00eembr\u0103c\u0103m? Ioan botez\u0103torul din Biblie m\u00e2nca l\u0103custe s\u0103lbatice \u0219i era \u00eembr\u0103cat cu un sac, \u0219i \u021bie \u00ee\u021bi trebuie adida\u0219i roz? Nu g\u00e2nde\u0219ti, pui accent doar pe lucruri materiale!&#8221; )<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>In concluzie: dragi p\u0103rin\u021bi, nu mai c\u0103uta\u021bi scuze &#8220;spirituale &#8221; pentru zg\u00e2rcenia voastr\u0103 \u0219i pentru lipsa voastr\u0103 de interes cu privire la copiii vo\u0219tri. Dac\u0103 nu vre\u021bi s\u0103 cump\u0103ra\u021bi adida\u0219i roz, h\u0103inu\u021be, treninguri, markere \u0219i &#8220;nimicuri&#8221; cu sclipici \u0219i flori, sau juc\u0103rii, etc, face\u021bi sex protejat. Un prezervativ este mai ieftin dec\u00e2t un trening de Decathlon pentru copii\u00a0<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" height=\"16\" width=\"16\" src=\"https:\/\/static.xx.fbcdn.net\/images\/emoji.php\/v9\/tac\/1.5\/16\/1f605.png\" alt=\"\ud83d\ude05\">&#8221; <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u0103 reg\u0103sesc \u00een fiecare r\u00e2nd al acestui comentariu \u015fi da, ani de terapie \u015fi multe dulapuri pline de haine mai t\u00e2rziu, am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 m\u0103 deta\u015fez. S\u0103 \u00eemi asum c\u0103 nu eu, copilul, eram cel care nu meritam iubit \u015fi dorit, ci adultul&#8230; Dar  nu dezvolt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen juxtapunere, s\u0103 privim acest comentariu: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Care p\u0103rinte nu \u00ee\u0219i \u00eengrije\u0219te copilul dac\u0103 are o stare financiar\u0103 bun\u0103? Iar dac\u0103 are \u0219i totu\u0219i \u00ee\u0219i \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 copilul s\u0103 aprecieze ceea ce de\u021bine, asta nu \u00eel face pe acel p\u0103rinte de 10 ori mai bun, \u00een loc s\u0103 \u00eei bage \u00een cur tot Decathlon-ul? Dac\u0103 ar exista\u00a0mai pu\u021bine persoane cu g\u00e2ndirea asta de doi bani pe care o ai tu, nu ar mai exista nici copii care s\u0103 \u00eei trateze &#8220;ca atare&#8221; \u00een curtea scolii pe cei ce nu au, pentru c\u0103 deja ar fi fost \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi c\u0103 nu merit\u0103 nici o suflare faptul c\u0103 unul are iar celalalt nu, este conform posibilit\u0103\u021bilor.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nici acel p\u0103rinte anume crede-m\u0103 c\u0103 nu ar mai accepta h\u0103inu\u021bele de la v\u0103ru&#8217; &#8220;Fane&#8221; dac\u0103 ar putea s\u0103-i ofere ceva mai bun copilului.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Cum sunt 160+ oameni de acord cu aceast\u0103 t\u00e2mpenie?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Vai, nu are, nasol moment. De\u015fi nimeni nu a cerut s\u0103 se nasc\u0103, iar tu po\u0163i planifica momentul c\u00e2nd ajungi la o stabilitate material\u0103, nu s\u0103 azv\u00e2rli \u00eenc\u0103 o fiin\u0163\u0103 pe lume \u015fi s\u0103 speri c\u0103 cre\u015fte cu dragoste \u015fi p\u00e2ine cu margarin\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar fraza a doua: &#8220;<strong>Iar dac\u0103 are \u0219i totu\u0219i \u00ee\u0219i \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 copilul s\u0103 aprecieze ceea ce de\u021bine, asta nu \u00eel face pe acel p\u0103rinte de 10 ori mai bun<\/strong>?&#8221; mi-a dat fail general. Dac\u0103 are \u015fi totu\u015fi \u00eei peroreaz\u0103 copilului despre valori morale \u015fi blabla \u00een loc s\u0103 fac\u0103 un mic efort &#8211; posibil pentru el, pentru c\u0103 are &#8211; m\u0103 scuzi, dar asta \u00eel face doar un p\u0103rinte de 10 ori mai zg\u00e2rcit \u015fi mai indiferent la nevoile copilului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Care nu sunt numai m\u00e2ncare, ap\u0103 \u015fi somn, ci \u015fi nevoia de a impresiona un grup de persoane de aceea\u015fi v\u00e2rst\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00e2ndirea nu mie trebuie s\u0103 mi-o schimbi, pentru c\u0103 eu sunt acum la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u00een care o ard pe boschet\u0103real\u0103 major\u0103 cu z\u00e2mbetul pe buze. E vorba specific de g\u00e2ndirea acelei v\u00e2rste, care a fost g\u00e2ndirea noastr\u0103 a tuturor \u00eentr-un anumit moment, \u015fi care nu mai e acum. Nu pe mine m\u0103 privezi dac\u0103-\u0163i trimi\u0163i copilul rupt \u00een c*r \u00een prima zi de \u015fcoal\u0103. Eu acum port f\u0103r\u0103 probleme colec\u0163ia de toamn\u0103 de la Lidl \u015fi Auchan \u015fi sunt cool. \u00ce\u0163i privezi propriul copil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Apoi, mai vin \u015fi indivizii care r\u0103st\u0103lm\u0103cesc statusul meu cu &#8220;dar de ce trebuie s\u0103-i cump\u0103r Dior \u015fi Dolce &amp; Gabbana&#8221;, chit c\u0103 \u00een statusul meu nu e nic\u0103ieri vorba de high end, ci de mainstream \u015fi de pre\u0163uri medii, specific s\u0103 nu dea nimeni faliment cu ni\u015fte haine noi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sau \u0103ia care \u00eencearc\u0103 s-o citeasc\u0103 drept &#8220;nu conteaz\u0103 ce performan\u0163e are la \u015fcoal\u0103, esen\u0163ial e s\u0103 fie elegant&#8221;, de\u015fi ideea asta nu e nic\u0103ieri \u00een statusul meu. Dimpotriv\u0103. Faptul c\u0103 \u00eel \u00eembraci frumos \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 o baz\u0103 s\u0103 formulezi exigen\u0163e pentru rezultate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 e teribil de frustrant pentru copil s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eembraci \u00een &#8220;valori morale&#8221;, dar tot tu s\u0103 \u00eei ceri note maxime pe linie \u015fi s\u0103-l pedepse\u015fti \u00een fel \u015fi chip dac\u0103 nu e mereu la 100%. Iar c\u00e2nd este, s\u0103 dai din umeri \u015fi s\u0103-i spui c\u0103 \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 pentru el, nu pentru tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Am ajuns la un dispre\u0163 profund pentru &#8220;valori morale&#8221; (aka demagogie ieftin\u0103 de m\u00e2na a  \u015faptea), pentru c\u0103 am avut parte \u00een exces, la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 la care \u00eemi doream blugi, cercei cap de mort \u015fi tricouri cu spatele gol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu am scris nic\u0103ieri \u00een status s\u0103-i cumperi copilului orice bagatel\u0103 cu sclipici pe care o  vede \u00een vitrin\u0103, \u015fi nu cred c\u0103 are nevoie real\u0103 s\u0103 faci asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar prima zi de \u015fcoal\u0103 e una singur\u0103 pe an, \u015fi e la \u00eenceput de septembrie. Nu te mai da surprins ca primarul Bucure\u015ftiului la venirea iernii. Economise\u015fte \u00een avans. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><strong>Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<br>Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ieri, am fost iar \u0163inta hauhaului pe internet. 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