{"id":23742,"date":"2022-09-19T10:00:48","date_gmt":"2022-09-19T07:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23742"},"modified":"2022-09-19T10:00:50","modified_gmt":"2022-09-19T07:00:50","slug":"de-ce-n-a-reclamat-femeia-imediat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-n-a-reclamat-femeia-imediat\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce n-a reclamat femeia imediat?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

De c\u00e2te ori presa trateaz\u0103 un viol, o agresiune sau o h\u0103r\u0163uire sexual\u0103, mereu apare comentac gigel cu unul \u015fi acela\u015fi comentariu. De ce victima a a\u015fteptat o lun\u0103 \/ dou\u0103 \/ trei \/ zece \/ un an \/ dou\u0103zeci p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De cele mai multe ori, comentac gigel e b\u0103rbat. B\u0103rbat fiind, nu a fost niciodat\u0103 \u00een situa\u0163ia \u00een care a persoan\u0103 mai solid\u0103 \u015fi cu mai mult\u0103 for\u0163\u0103 fizic\u0103 a c\u0103utat s\u0103 se foloseasc\u0103 de asta pentru a-l exploata pentru pl\u0103cere personal\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar uneori, comentac gigica e femeie. O femeie care a avut noroc de o familie echilibrat\u0103 \u015fi protectoare \u015fi de un mediu de via\u0163\u0103 unde nu a h\u0103r\u0163uit-o nimeni, \u015fi atunci nu are reper pe care s\u0103-l ia \u00een considerare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru ace\u015fti oameni e acest articol. \u015ei pentru mine, pentru ca data viitoare c\u00e2nd se mai discut\u0103 o situa\u0163ie de genul, s\u0103 dau direct link, s\u0103 nu pierd 20 de minute din timpul meu s\u0103 conving un gigel c\u0103 peste abuz nu se trece ca trenul interregio prin Cucuie\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen general, c\u00e2nd \u0163intesc o victim\u0103, agresorii aleg o persoan\u0103 pe care o simt vulnerabil\u0103 \u015fi nepreg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 opun\u0103 rezisten\u0163\u0103. Un cli\u015feu tradi\u0163ionalist \u00eenvinuie\u015fte victima c\u0103 purta fust\u0103 scurt\u0103 \/ se machia \/ etc. Realitatea e c\u0103 de femeile minijupate, stridente \u015fi care inspir\u0103 for\u0163\u0103 se iau gigeii cel mai pu\u0163in, pentru c\u0103 acelea \u00eei intimideaz\u0103. O femeie cu \u00eencredere \u00een for\u0163ele proprii \u015ftie cum s\u0103-i ia, s\u0103-i fac\u0103 s\u0103 se simt\u0103 ultimii oameni, \u015fi dac\u0103 ei insist\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t e cazul, \u015ftie unde s\u0103-i reclame, s\u0103-i fac\u0103 s\u0103 r\u0103spund\u0103 pentru faptele lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deci, cele cu fust\u0103 scurt\u0103 \u015fi machiaj intens sunt cele care au parte de cel mai pu\u0163in abuz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Persoanele vulnerabile, cele care nu sunt preg\u0103tite s\u0103 reac\u0163ioneze prompt \u015fi hot\u0103r\u00e2t c\u00e2nd un agresor \u00ee\u015fi lanseaz\u0103 atacul \/ h\u0103r\u0163uirea \/ tentativa de viol \/ orice alt\u0103 form\u0103 de abuz, au nevoie de TIMP s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 ce li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unele experimenteaz\u0103 o jen\u0103 cumplit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Altele, \u00een special cele crescute \u00een familii toxice, unde copilul e \u0163ap isp\u0103\u015fitor pentru toate problemele, pot recurge la patternul mintal \u00een care au fost crescute \u015fi s\u0103 se \u00eenvinuiasc\u0103 pentru abuz. Oare ce am f\u0103cut eu, dac\u0103 gigel se comport\u0103 a\u015fa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Altele se confrunt\u0103 cu frica de a nu fi crezute, sau de a deveni “feministe” “nebune” care “au ceva cu b\u0103rba\u0163ii”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Altele aveau o rela\u0163ie apropiat\u0103 cu agresorul \u015fi au impresia c\u0103, dac\u0103 vor ignora abuzul \/ tentativa de viol \/ orice altceva, vor reu\u015fi s\u0103 men\u0163in\u0103 ce au avut \u00eenainte de asta. De\u015fi e fals. Odat\u0103 ce o rela\u0163ie \u00eentre dou\u0103 persoane a alunecat pe poteca toxicit\u0103\u0163ii, nu mai ai ce salva. Dar persoanele lipsite de experien\u0163\u0103 nu \u015ftiu asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Altele, pur \u015fi simplu, nu sunt preg\u0103tite \u00ceN ACEL MOMENT de tot scandalul care urmeaz\u0103 \u00een momentul c\u00e2nd raportezi un abuz: \u00eentreb\u0103ri intruzive \u015fi invazive, preten\u0163ii repetate s\u0103 poveste\u015fti iar \u015fi iar cum a fost \u015fi s\u0103 retr\u0103ie\u015fti momentul cu asta, neg\u0103ri, minimaliz\u0103ri \u015fi discredit\u0103ri de la agresor, prietenii lui \u015fi to\u0163i b\u0103g\u0103torii de seam\u0103 online care \u0163in cu agresorul pentru c\u0103 viseaz\u0103 la lumea ideal\u0103 \u00een care ar putea dispune de orice femeie dup\u0103 placul lor f\u0103r\u0103 ca ea s\u0103 protesteze, \u00eentreb\u0103ri umilitoare legate de fusta pe care o purtai \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar altele pur \u015fi simplu nu au bani de un avocat bun, de taxi p\u00e2n\u0103 la IML \u015fi orice alte cheltuieli necesare pentru a-\u0163i dovedi statutul de victim\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 asta, e cazul s\u0103 lu\u0103m \u00een calcul consecin\u0163ele psihologice ale abuzului \/ h\u0103r\u0163uirii: stres posttraumatic \u015fi \u00een multe cazuri depresie, dac\u0103 victima e predispus\u0103 la acest lucru. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un abuz, stima\u0163i telespectatori, nu e ceva cotidian, ca un drum p\u00e2n\u0103 la Mega Image s\u0103-\u0163i iei o p\u00e2ine. Un abuz te marcheaz\u0103. Un abuz arde, doare, te demoleaz\u0103 pe interior, te face s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi \u00een du\u015f \u00een timp ce retr\u0103ie\u015fti iar \u015fi iar momentele de teroare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei da, \u00een timp ce \u0163i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 toate astea, te zba\u0163i s\u0103 supravie\u0163uie\u015fti, nu s\u0103 dai cu subsemnatul la circa de poli\u0163ie sau s\u0103 sintetizezi tot ce a fost \u00eentr-un dialog cu un avocat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 ajungi acolo, ai nevoie de timp. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, legea d\u0103 30 de zile victimei, \u00een anumite situa\u0163ii, \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 la trei ani, \u00een altele, s\u0103 depun\u0103 pl\u00e2ngere. \u015ei da, unii au nevoie chiar de mai mult timp, pentru c\u0103 nu to\u0163i pot s\u0103 aterizeze \u00een picioare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cenainte s\u0103 contesta\u0163i atitudinea unei victime a unei abuz, \u00eencerca\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 pune\u0163i \u00een situa\u0163ie. Iar asta v\u0103 va feri de \u00eentreb\u0103ri f\u0103r\u0103 sens \u00een viitor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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