Scrisorica de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Drag\u0103 Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cemi plac mult sfaturile pe care le dai fanilor, \u015fi m-am g\u00e2ndit s\u0103 te \u00eentreb ceva:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am cunoscut recent un tip, nu arat\u0103 r\u0103u, \u00eemi place \u00een linii mari cum g\u00e2nde\u015fte, avem conversa\u0163ii interesante c\u00e2nd sunt acas\u0103 \u015fi am timp. Dar mi se pare extrem de stresant c\u00e2nd iau decizii care nu-i convin, de exemplu, dac\u0103 nu vreau s\u0103 ies \u00eentr-o sear\u0103 \u00een care vrea el s\u0103 ias\u0103, sau dac\u0103 nu vreau s\u0103 merg undeva unde \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte el s\u0103 mearg\u0103. Insist\u0103 foarte mult, \u015fi am senza\u0163ia c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 justific obositor de mult \u015fi s\u0103 tot r\u0103spund la multe, multe, MULTE \u00eentreb\u0103ri de baraj. Eu sunt genul care, dac\u0103 ai o problem\u0103 sau pur \u015fi simplu nu ai chef s\u0103 ie\u015fi \u00een ziua aia, \u00een\u0163elege \u015fi iese cu o prieten\u0103, sau iese singur\u0103, nu stau s\u0103 agasez pe nimeni cu diverse observa\u0163ii \u015fi insisten\u0163e. Ce pot face s\u0103 primesc acela\u015fi lucru la schimb?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Hugs xoxo,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sunt oameni crescu\u0163i \u00een r\u0103sf\u0103\u0163, care sunt obi\u015fnui\u0163i s\u0103 li se fac\u0103 toate poftele. Ace\u015fti oameni nu iau un refuz ca pe un refuz, ci ca pe o provocare. Excita\u0163ia \u00eencepe abia c\u00e2nd \u00eent\u00e2lnesc un \u201enu\u201d, \u015fi pentru ei e amuzant s\u0103 te perpeleasc\u0103 la foc mic, p\u00e2n\u0103 storc \u201eda\u201d-ul din tine. \u015ei de\u015fi am avut \u015fi eu, pe c\u00e2nd eram pu\u015ftoaic\u0103, o frustrare nem\u0103rturisit\u0103 pe exact aceea\u015fi problem\u0103, \u015fi anume, de ce nu ofer\u0103 oamenii ceea ce primesc, mi-am dat seama \u00eentre timp c\u0103 oameni cu experien\u0163e, caractere, background-uri \u015fi mentalit\u0103\u0163i diferite pot considera c\u0103 lucrurile pe care le primesc sunt neinteresante, sau nu valoreaz\u0103 nimic, sau se cuvin de la sine, de aceea e nevoie de comunicare pentru a vedea cine ce \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 \u015fi ce \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte s\u0103 ofere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Poate pentru iubi e neinteresant faptul c\u0103 nu insi\u015fti \u015fi la\u015fi totul dup\u0103 cum vrea el. Poate c\u0103, dac\u0103 \u00eei place at\u00e2t de tare s\u0103 te frece la icre, \u015fi-ar dori la r\u00e2ndul lui o femeie care s\u0103-l frece la icre \u015fi s\u0103 se lupte pentru \u201eda\u201d-uri, iar asta l-ar face s\u0103 se simt\u0103 b\u0103gat \u00een seam\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sau poate c\u0103 are mentalitatea aceea tradi\u0163ionalist\u0103 toxic\u0103: femeia e obligat\u0103 s\u0103 accepte tot ce decide b\u0103rbatul, pentru c\u0103 el e \u015feful, prin urmare, deciziile ei nu conteaz\u0103 iar ale lui trebuie s\u0103 fie impuse. Caz \u00een care recomand s\u0103 fugi m\u00e2nc\u00e2nd p\u0103m\u00e2ntul, pentru c\u0103 genul \u0103sta de bovin\u0103 cornut\u0103 te poate duce pe culmile exasper\u0103rii, iar rela\u0163ia va fi extrem, dar extrem de toxic\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar po\u0163i afla r\u0103spunsul pe c\u0103i simple: prin comunicare direct\u0103. \u00centreab\u0103-l.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Preferabil pe calm, c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u0163ipi ceva de genul \u201ede fiecare dat\u0103 insi\u015fti etc.\u201d c\u00e2nd e deja ofticat de refuz, risca\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 certa\u0163i treizeci de minute, s\u0103 v\u0103 da\u0163i block reciproc \u015fi s\u0103 nu mai vre\u0163i s\u0103 ave\u0163i de a face unul cu cel\u0103lalt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cei explici frumos c\u0103 ai dreptul la op\u0163iunile \u015fi preferin\u0163ele tale, c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dore\u015fti s\u0103 fie respectate, a\u015fa cum le respec\u0163i tu pe ale lui, \u015fi \u00eei spui c\u0103 vrei ca un \u201enu\u201d s\u0103 fie luat ca atare, f\u0103r\u0103 f*tere la icre. Pentru c\u0103 insisten\u0163ele \u00eencep s\u0103 te irite din ce \u00een ce mai tare \u015fi, prin urmare, \u00eei dai un timp s\u0103-\u015fi con\u015ftientizeze \u015fi s\u0103-\u015fi schimbe comportamentul, sau v\u0103 desp\u0103r\u0163i\u0163i prieteni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu te la\u015fi intimidat\u0103 de anumite tentative de divaga\u0163ii, \u00eencerc\u0103ri de \u201edar \u015fi tu nu \u015ftiu ce\u201d – nu, discut\u0103m ce fac eu cu alt\u0103 ocazie, tema discu\u0163iei de azi sunt insisten\u0163ele tale c\u00e2nd eu am spus clar N \u015fi U \u015fi alte vr\u0103jeli de doi lei. Get your point across c\u00e2t se poate de ferm \u015fi de asertiv, s\u0103 priceap\u0103 c\u0103 e o problem\u0103 \u015fi nu un moft, pentru c\u0103 altfel nu vei avea rela\u0163ia pe care o vrei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Din acest punct, depinde. Dac\u0103 e extrem de prost, va trece peste discu\u0163ia asta ca acceleratul prin D\u00e2rste \u015fi o va \u0163ine pe a lui, caz \u00een care \u00eei retezi insisten\u0163a cu \u201eam spus NU \u015fi subiectul e \u00eenchis\u201d, iar dac\u0103 o \u0163ine pe a lui, nu mai r\u0103spunzi pur \u015fi simplu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 are o f\u0103r\u0103m\u0103 de inteligen\u0163\u0103 emo\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi empatie, o s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103 se schimbe, \u015fi atunci, e a keeper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu-l cunosc nici pe el, nici pe tine, deci nu \u015ftiu finalitatea, dar singura cale spre a ob\u0163ine ceea ce vrei e s\u0103 pui problema direct. Nu mai a\u015ftepta ca oamenii s\u0103 citeasc\u0103 g\u00e2nduri \u015fi s\u0103 ghiceasc\u0103 dorin\u0163e. Dac\u0103 puteau, azi nu mi-ai fi scris acest mail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 v-a pl\u0103cut acest text, pute\u021bi sus\u0163ine activitatea siteului cu o dona\u0163ie. 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