{"id":23886,"date":"2022-10-17T09:53:02","date_gmt":"2022-10-17T06:53:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23886"},"modified":"2022-10-17T09:53:06","modified_gmt":"2022-10-17T06:53:06","slug":"o-aplaud-pe-delia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/o-aplaud-pe-delia\/","title":{"rendered":"O aplaud pe Delia"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Iar vuie\u015fte internetul, de data asta pentru c\u0103 Delia a afirmat \u00eentr-un interviu<\/a><\/strong> c\u0103 nu are copii pentru c\u0103 nu \u015fi-i dore\u015fte, c\u0103 \u00eei place via\u0163a ei de acum \u015fi c\u0103 nu are chef s\u0103 contribuie la suprapopularea planetei. \u015ei c\u0103 \u00eei felicit\u0103 pe cei care \u00ee\u015fi asum\u0103 c\u0103 nu vor copii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Drept care, to\u0163i gher\u0163oii care v\u0103d femeile doar ca obiecte de colectat s**boz \u015fi f\u0103tat urma\u015fi s-au umflat de indignare \u015fi fac spume la gur\u0103 ca ni\u015fte pot\u0103i care nu \u015fi-au primit \u00een timp util \u015futul \u00een bot. A\u015fijderea \u015fi gigelele care cred c\u0103 dac\u0103 ele au ales s\u0103 treac\u0103 prin miracolul maternit\u0103\u0163ii, toat\u0103 lumea are o obliga\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Simt nevoia s\u0103 m\u0103 pun din nou de-a curmezi\u015ful mul\u0163imii dezl\u0103n\u0163uite \u015fi s\u0103 zic: Bravo, Delia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu \u015ftiu c\u00e2te vedete insist\u0103 c\u0103 vaaai, e at\u00e2t de minunat, de unic \u015fi de nemaipomenit de uand\u0103rful s\u0103 fii mam\u0103. De\u015fi, dac\u0103 era at\u00e2t de minunat pentru toat\u0103 lumea, nu d\u0103deai de at\u00e2tea sacrificate bocind despre cum au sacrificat ele totul, la fiecare col\u0163 de internet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd ceva e minunat cu adev\u0103rat, treaba e simpl\u0103: \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fezi minunea \u015fi punct. Nu te v\u0103ic\u0103re\u015fti din 20 \u00een 20 de minute, oricui are chef s\u0103 asculte, c\u0103 e\u015fti Isus al doilea, copiii crucea ta, iar cre\u015fterea lor Golgota. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A nu se \u00een\u0163elege gre\u015fit: am tot respectul pentru mamele autentice, cele care \u00ee\u015fi doresc cu toat\u0103 sinceritatea s\u0103 fie mame, cu asumarea f\u0103r\u0103 rezerve a efortului \u015fi a devotamentului, \u015fi care nu-\u015fi imagineaz\u0103 via\u0163a f\u0103r\u0103 copiii lor. Dar mai sunt \u015fi cele care fac copii din diverse calcule (gen, s\u0103-l \u015fantajeze pe b\u0103rbat mai bine), b\u0103rbatul pleac\u0103, iar ele se r\u0103zbun\u0103 pe copil toat\u0103 via\u0163a, \u00een timp ce zbiar\u0103 \u00een gura mare c\u0103 ele sunt culmile inegalabile ale sacrificiului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Era de preferat ca astea s\u0103 nu fi f\u0103cut copii, pentru c\u0103 nici un copil nevinovat nu are de ce s\u0103-\u015fi simt\u0103 inocen\u0163a \u015fi copil\u0103ria ca pe o uria\u015f\u0103 not\u0103 de plat\u0103 care cre\u015fte zi de zi, \u00een timp ce m\u0103-sa \u00eel face s\u0103 se simt\u0103 vinovat c\u0103 exist\u0103 \u015fi-i scoate ochii pentru fiecare farfurie de ciorb\u0103 pe care i-o pune \u00een fa\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Astea nu au nimic matern \u00een ele, dar pentru c\u0103 au cedat presiunii sociale \u015fi mitului c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul e manipulabil prin copii – v\u0103 zic eu, nu e! – s-au reprodus, \u015fi insist\u0103 pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 se reproduc\u0103 \u015fi ele. “Ce, numai eu s\u0103 suf\u0103r?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00centr-o \u0163ar\u0103 plin\u0103 de femei care afirm\u0103 – multe dintre ele fals – c\u0103 ador\u0103 maternitatea \u015fi c\u0103 e scopul lor final, Delia ofer\u0103 o m\u00e2n\u0103 de ajutor \u015fi implicit empowerment \u015fi celor care nu \u00ee\u015fi doresc s\u0103 devin\u0103 mame. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bravo ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E un r\u0103zboi lung \u015fi greu cel pe care \u00eel aleg cele care nu vor s\u0103 fie mame. \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, toat\u0103 familia extins\u0103, de la m\u0103mic sacrificat \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 la m\u0103tu\u015fi, le freac\u0103 la icre cu “rostul vie\u0163ii lor”. “Care e rostul vie\u0163ii tale dac\u0103 nu na\u015fti?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

La asta exist\u0103 un r\u0103spuns, iar acest r\u0103spuns e singurul r\u0103spuns: Dac\u0103 crezi c\u0103 ai nevoie de un copil s\u0103 sim\u0163i c\u0103 ai un rost, trateaz\u0103-\u0163i \u00eent\u00e2i depresia \u015fi f\u0103-l dup\u0103 ce e\u015fti ok. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi vine cercul social, prietenele care fac toate copii \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i spun mieros c\u0103 abia a\u015fteapt\u0103 s\u0103-l vad\u0103 \u015fi pe al t\u0103u. “Dar eu nu vreau…” “Nu \u015ftii ce vrei, p\u00e2n\u0103 nu \u00eel faci”, te expediaz\u0103 ele superior, reprezentante ale unei societ\u0103\u0163i care n-a f\u0103cut altceva dec\u00e2t s\u0103 pun\u0103 presiune pe femei s\u0103 intre \u00eentr-o anumit\u0103 cutie, \u015fi s\u0103 \u015ftie mai bine dec\u00e2t ele ce vor de fapt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar tu nu vrei s\u0103 \u00eencepi o ceart\u0103 de tipul “biatch, s\u0103 mor, jur c\u0103 \u015ftiu exact ce vreau \u015fi ce nu vreau, iar modul \u00een care te umfli tu \u00een pene c\u0103 \u015ftii mai bine dec\u00e2t mine e at\u00e2t de lipsit de respect”, \u015fi atunci taci \u015fi \u00eenghi\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jobul, colegele care au toate copii \u015fi te trateaz\u0103 ca pe o cantitate neglijabil\u0103 c\u00e2nd aud c\u0103 tu n-ai. Iar c\u00e2nd aud c\u0103 nici nu inten\u0163ionezi s\u0103 ai, \u00eencep s\u0103 te persecute pe fa\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, nu toate sunt a\u015fa, dar c\u00e2teva specimene de genul, suficiente \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 otr\u0103veasc\u0103 atmosfera, sunt peste tot. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi vin marii ortodoc\u015fi \u015fi al\u0163i fanatici religio\u015fi s\u0103 insiste anost pe acela\u015fi subiect, dar cu varia\u0163ii care includ mult Dumnezeu, iubire, s\u0103m\u00e2n\u0163\u0103 sf\u00e2nt\u0103 \u015fi p\u00e2ntecul care z\u0103misle\u015fte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 ai c\u00e2t de c\u00e2t o prezen\u0163\u0103 online, indiferent ce ai face, o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de dobitoci n-au alt\u0103 treab\u0103 dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eentrebe c\u00e2nd faci copii. P\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi pe Simona Halep, proasp\u0103t venit\u0103 acas\u0103 cu nu mai \u015ftiu ce mare titlu, au luat-o direct de pe scara avionului: Dar un copil c\u00e2nd face\u0163i? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Realitatea?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Realitatea e c\u0103 a face sau nu un copil e \u015fi ar trebui s\u0103 fie decizia fiec\u0103rei familii \u00een parte, dar \u00een primul r\u00e2nd decizia femeii, pentru c\u0103 ea va face 70% din munc\u0103 \u00een cele mai bune cazuri \u015fi 100% \u00een cele mai rele. F\u0103r\u0103 pufnit superior din nas \u015fi b\u0103\u015fini de \u015fefa g\u0103rii dac\u0103 o anumit\u0103 femeie nu dore\u015fte \u015fi nu pl\u0103nuie\u015fte copii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E o alegere. O alegere care \u00ee\u0163i va afecta corpul, timpul \u015fi banii pe urm\u0103toarele dou\u0103 decenii minimum. \u015ei nu e nimic \u00een neregul\u0103 dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul e “nu”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acum, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei \u015ftiu \u015fi pe c\u0103ut\u0103torii \u00een papur\u0103 clasici care n-au vie\u0163i sociale \u015fi atunci, activitatea lor preferat\u0103 e s\u0103-mi fac\u0103 mie zile fripte: Dar ce, Lorena, e ceva \u00een neregul\u0103 dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul e “da”? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

NU. Am spus mai sus c\u0103 fiecare alege pentru sine. C\u00e2t timp nu caut\u0103 s\u0103 impun\u0103 altora propriile alegeri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103 femeile f\u0103r\u0103 copii au parte de at\u00e2ta h\u0103r\u0163uire, presiune social\u0103, f*** la icre \u015fi pove\u0163e nesolicitate – m\u0103car dac\u0103 ar da bani \u00een loc de pove\u0163e nesolicitate, s\u0103 contribuie la pamper\u015fii \u015fi formula de lapte pentru bebelu\u015fi – ini\u0163iative ca aceea a Deliei, care spune senin c\u0103 e singur\u0103 pentru c\u0103 via\u0163a ei de acum e the thing, \u015fi c\u0103 e ok s\u0103 nu ai copii, ini\u0163iativele ei, spuneam, sunt mai mult dec\u00e2t binevenite. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunt necesare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Nu vreau copii \u015fi e ok.” E un mesaj care ar merita propriile lui bannere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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