{"id":23986,"date":"2022-11-01T10:54:10","date_gmt":"2022-11-01T07:54:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=23986"},"modified":"2022-11-01T10:54:13","modified_gmt":"2022-11-01T07:54:13","slug":"atrasa-de-ticalosi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/atrasa-de-ticalosi\/","title":{"rendered":"Atras\u0103 de tic\u0103lo\u015fi?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Circul\u0103 un mit urban pe care mi-l repet\u0103 de multe ori chiar \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii care mi-au demonstrat \u00een repetate r\u00e2nduri inteligen\u0163\u0103 \u015fi bun\u0103 credin\u0163\u0103, \u015fi anume: degeaba suntem noi buni, c\u0103 femeile sunt amorezate, toate, de tic\u0103lo\u015fi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nimic mai fals. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cenc\u0103 nu am auzit de confesiuni de genul: Fat\u0103\u0103, m-a contactat gigel. \u015etii ce mi\u015fto m-a \u00eenjurat? \u015etii ce adorabil m-a jignit? \u015etii ce senzual m-a amenin\u0163at c\u0103 \u015ftie unde stau \u015fi c\u0103 pune b\u0103ie\u0163ii pe mine?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen schimb, am auzit de femei care se pl\u00e2ng c\u0103 sunt jignite, c\u0103 nu se simt respectate de d\u00e2rl\u0103i care ies cu ele \u00een ora\u015f \u015fi stau toat\u0103 seara la telefon, sau au preten\u0163ia s\u0103-\u015fi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 singure sucul la care el le-a invitat, sau alte mizerii de genul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider\u00e2nd c\u0103 majoritatea repro\u015furilor de la femei se concentreaz\u0103 pe tratament abuziv \u015fi absen\u0163a curtoaziei, concluzia e c\u0103, nu, majorit\u0103\u0163ii cov\u00e2r\u015fitoare a femeilor NU le plac gher\u0163oii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acum, nu zic c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 \u015fi c\u00e2teva specimene cu stima de sine sau intelectul sub nivelul m\u0103rii, care se simt confortabil cu un bou abuziv, pentru e continuarea abuzului pe care-l primeau acas\u0103 de la mami \u015fi tati. Sau care se simt ur\u00e2te \u015fi nu \u015ftiu cum s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 iubirea \u015fi respectul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fa cum sunt nenum\u0103ra\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i care, dup\u0103 ce \u00ee\u0163i bagi \u00een to\u0163i deceda\u0163ii lor (a\u015fa, aniversar, c\u0103 \u00een Ardeal e ziua mor\u0163ilor, la mul\u0163i aaaani!), \u00eencep s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dea inim\u0103 la toate post\u0103rile, s\u0103 te ridice \u00een sl\u0103vi \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i dea limbi (virtuale) \u00een fiecare stria\u0163ie a anusului. Cu diferen\u0163a c\u0103 mie nu \u00eemi plac b\u0103rba\u0163ii care sunt atra\u015fi de tic\u0103loase, pentru c\u0103 eu sunt tic\u0103loas\u0103 doar c\u00e2nd m\u0103 enervez. \u00cen rest, c\u00e2nd muncesc, \u00eemi place s-o fac creativ, inspirat \u015fi inovativ, iar c\u00e2nd m\u0103 relaxez, \u00eemi place fie un film bun cu vin \u015fi motan torc\u0103tor \u00een bra\u0163e (dac\u0103 sunt pe mood introvertit), fie o petrecere cu prieteni \u015fi pove\u015fti amuzante (dac\u0103 sunt pe mood extrovertit). \u015ei chiar nu-mi propun s\u0103 fierb de nervi 24 \/ 7 s\u0103 satisfac nevoia unui gigel de a i se spune otreap\u0103 murdar\u0103 cu sloboz la bot. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De\u015fi, recunosc, sunt bun\u0103 la asta. \u00cen ziua \u00een care-mi deschid salonul \u0103la de domina\u0163ie despre care glumesc cu fetele, o s\u0103 fiu miliardar\u0103 \u015fi overbooked. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deci, da, sunt \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163i care sunt obseda\u0163i de tic\u0103loase, numai c\u0103 eu zic pas de cum dau de unul, pentru c\u0103 nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 umplu de draci zi de zi pentru o p**\u0103 p\u00e2rlit\u0103. \u015ei nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce b\u0103rba\u0163ii sufer\u0103 dup\u0103 femei atrase de tic\u0103lo\u015fi. Dac\u0103 o vezi c\u0103 \u00eei place batjocorit\u0103 de c\u00e2te un ratat care nu o sun\u0103 cu s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2nile, apoi o cheam\u0103 noaptea la 1 la una scurt\u0103, \u015fi ea tot sper\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi va purta copiii \u0103luia – ok, deci e proast\u0103. Pentru mine, prostia e un mood killer. Nu a\u015f putea visa la cineva despre care \u015ftiu c\u0103 baun\u0103 de prostie. Mar\u015f la kkt, s\u0103n\u0103tate \u015fi muuuuuuult\u0103 virtute. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015fadar, exist\u0103 targetul obligatoriu de proaste, a\u015fa cum exist\u0103 targetul obligatoriu de pro\u015fti. Nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce ai irosi celule cardiace pe oricare dintre ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am o calitate care nu e neap\u0103rat frecvent\u0103. \u00cemi trece amoarea instant, de cum se ciocne\u015fte de v\u0103lul rece al realit\u0103\u0163ii. Nu stau s\u0103 visez la cum ar fi fost dac\u0103 ar fi fost, c\u00e2nd realitatea concret\u0103 e c\u0103 NU ESTE NIMIC. Nu stau s\u0103 \u00eemi spun: “dar dac\u0103”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103 oamenii au criterii de valori diferite. Degeaba e\u015fti tu b\u0103iat bun, dac\u0103 ai umorul unui lemn, iar ea e fan stand up comedy \u015fi toat\u0103 ga\u015fca ei r\u00e2de la beri de r\u0103sun\u0103 barul. Degeaba e\u015fti tu b\u0103iat bun, dac\u0103 munce\u015fti pe salariul minim pe economie, iar ea \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte un tip cu bani s-o plimbe \u00een toat\u0103 lumea. Degeaba e\u015fti tu b\u0103iat bun, dac\u0103 nu pui m\u00e2na pe nimic \u00een cas\u0103 \u015fi ai nimerit o fat\u0103 care \u00ee\u015fi repar\u0103 singur\u0103 prizele, crede \u00een cur\u0103\u0163enie mai mult dec\u00e2t \u00een Maica preacurat\u0103 \u015fi te judec\u0103 fioros c\u0103 nu ai sp\u0103lat du\u015ful cu Domestos dup\u0103 ce l-ai folosit, sau c\u0103 ai l\u0103sat cl\u0103buci pe s\u0103pun. Degeaba e\u015fti tu b\u0103iat bun, dac\u0103 ambi\u0163ia ta e s\u0103 ai p\u00e2ine de pus pe mas\u0103 \u015fi luna asta, iar gagic\u0103-ta se viseaz\u0103 general manager \u00eentr-o bun\u0103 zi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu ajunge s\u0103 fii “bun” la modul generic. Trebuie s\u0103 fii “bun pentru”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare, dac\u0103 nu e\u015fti “bun pentru”, ea o s\u0103 se tot eschiveze, tu o s\u0103 te tot oftici, de\u015fi ar fi fost mai simplu s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i asumi, pur \u015fi simplu, absen\u0163a compatibilit\u0103\u0163ii \u015fi s\u0103 MERGI MAI DEPARTE. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau, cum spunea cu \u00een\u0163elepciune poporul nostru din b\u0103tr\u00e2ni: Nu trage de cal mort. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei pentru c\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163elegi no\u0163iunea de “bun pentru”, ajungi s\u0103 deduci, fals, c\u0103 obiectul interesului t\u0103u nu vrea un b\u0103iat “bun”. Ba vrea. Doar c\u0103 define\u015fte bun\u0103tatea pe alte criterii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Majoritatea fetelor vor un b\u0103iat bun. Majoritatea fetelor dau block dup\u0103 o jignire. Majoritatea fetelor ur\u0103sc s\u0103 se profite de ele \u015fi, dac\u0103 cite\u015fti printre r\u00e2nduri v\u0103ic\u0103relile \u0103lora din manosfer\u0103 \u015fi incelime, observi c\u0103 rata de succes e infim\u0103. Nu pentru c\u0103 femeile ar fi frigide, nebune \u015fi feministe ci, pentru c\u0103, obiectiv, majoritatea fetelor nu \u00ee\u015fi doresc tic\u0103lo\u015fi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E un mit urban. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un mit urban promovat \u015fi propagat de masculi low class \u015fi low quality, s\u0103 aib\u0103 o justificare pentru c\u0103 sunt gunoaie umane. “Vai, eu nu voiam s\u0103 fiu un gunoi uman, dar m-au obligat femeile. Ele cer tic\u0103lo\u015fi pe band\u0103 rulant\u0103”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu, nu cer a\u015fa ceva. \u00cen grupurile de fete v\u0103d doar c\u0103utarea pentru un b\u0103rbat bun. Atent, curtenitor, civilizat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fine print-ul (adic\u0103, lucrurile de care mai e nevoie, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 “bun\u0103tate”), \u00eel afli dac\u0103 nu te \u00eembe\u0163i cu ap\u0103 rece c\u0103 e\u015fti bun \u015fi at\u00e2t, ci \u00eei pui \u00eentreb\u0103ri. \u015ei chiar ascul\u0163i r\u0103spunsul. Din r\u0103spunsuri te prinzi cam ce vrea o fat\u0103 de la partener, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 “bun\u0103tate”. Care e necesar\u0103, dar nu suficient\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei dup\u0103 ce afli, vezi dac\u0103 po\u0163i oferi sau nu. Iar dac\u0103 nu, ghinion, asta e, ce-i al t\u0103u e pus deoparte, la un moment dat apare fata care caut\u0103 genul t\u0103u de “bun\u0103tate”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, nu stric\u0103 s\u0103 mai mergi la sal\u0103, s\u0103 mai tragi de o fiar\u0103-dou\u0103, s\u0103 lucrezi un pic la pdf-ul cu prezentarea general\u0103, dar exist\u0103 \u015fi fete care nu se uit\u0103 la asta. “Bun pentru” din setarea lor nu include neap\u0103rat un look de go go boy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

R\u0103bd\u0103ric\u0103 \u015fi tutun. Sau \u0163igar\u0103 electronic\u0103. Sau un joint. Sau whatever v\u0103 bucur\u0103 pe fiecare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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