{"id":24030,"date":"2022-11-10T14:49:50","date_gmt":"2022-11-10T11:49:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24030"},"modified":"2022-11-10T14:51:49","modified_gmt":"2022-11-10T11:51:49","slug":"inca-un-copil-abuzat-ne-paraseste","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/inca-un-copil-abuzat-ne-paraseste\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00cenc\u0103 un copil abuzat \u00ee\u015fi pune cap\u0103t zilelor"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 arunci o privire fugar\u0103 pe re\u0163elele sociale, vezi oameni depl\u00e2ng\u00e2nd &#8220;vremurile bune de alt\u0103dat\u0103&#8221;, c\u00e2nd &#8220;se f\u0103cea educa\u0163ie, nu ca acum&#8221;, c\u00e2nd &#8220;nu erau at\u00e2\u0163ia degenera\u0163i&#8221;, c\u00e2nd &#8220;copiii \u015ftiau ce e \u0103la respect&#8221; \u015fi &#8220;nu erau s\u0103lbatici, ca acum&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar familia &#8220;tradi\u0163ional\u0103&#8221;, cu copii b\u0103tu\u0163i \u015fi abuza\u0163i p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u015fi pun cap\u0103t zilelor e mereu prezent\u0103, \u015fi noi tragedii ajung \u00een online, mai ales c\u00e2nd respectivii copii cedeaz\u0103 pur \u015fi simplu \u00een fa\u0163a abuzului \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi pun cap\u0103t zilelor, la v\u00e2rsta la care ar trebui s\u0103 deschid\u0103 larg aripile \u015fi s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi \u00eenceap\u0103 eforturile pentru un viitor fericit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u015ei da, subiectul e important pentru mine. \u015ei eu am avut o tentativ\u0103 de sinucidere la 15 ani, pe acelea\u015fi considerente, maic\u0103-mea nu m\u0103 auzea niciodat\u0103, tot ce \u00eemi doream eu era o prostie \u015fi era irelevant, \u00eemi \u015ftia binele cu for\u0163a, de parc\u0103 nu eram un om, ci un robot de buc\u0103t\u0103rie care are idei proprii nesolicitate legat de modul cum ar trebui s\u0103 func\u0163ioneze, \u015fi pe care \u00eel d\u0103deai de pere\u0163i p\u00e2n\u0103 se conforma set\u0103rilor pe care le-ai stabilit tu pentru el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2nd ai p\u0103rin\u0163i iubitori, copil\u0103ria e cea mai frumoas\u0103 perioad\u0103 a vie\u0163ii. C\u00e2nd ai p\u0103rin\u0163i care te v\u0103d ca pe o proprietate personal\u0103 din care fac ce vor, \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi intituleaz\u0103 interesul personal &#8220;binele t\u0103u&#8221;, apoi \u00ee\u0163i mai \u015fi repro\u015feaz\u0103 zilnic farfuria de m\u00e2ncare \u015fi acoperi\u015ful de deasupra capului, de parc\u0103 erai un str\u0103in venit la cer\u015fit, nu rezultatul deciziei LOR de a se reproduce, copil\u0103ria e un iad, o teroare, \u015fi ie\u015firea nu se vede nic\u0103ieri, pentru c\u0103 ai senza\u0163ia c\u0103 to\u0163i adul\u0163ii sunt ca p\u0103rin\u0163ii t\u0103i, \u015fi nu vei avea niciodat\u0103 ie\u015fire. Cam asta sim\u0163i, c\u00e2nd \u00eencerci s\u0103-\u0163i pui cap\u0103t zilelor, adolescent fiind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Preo\u0163ii ortodoc\u015fi, aceste &#8220;repere morale \u015fi loc\u0163iitori ai lui Dumnezeu pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt&#8221;, par s\u0103 aib\u0103 o rela\u0163ie extrem de agresiv\u0103 \u015fi violent\u0103 \u00een special cu propriii copii. Ultima dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd am scris pe acest blog despre un asemenea caz, <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/decesul-fetei-de-preot-si-fuga-de-responsabilitate\/\">aici<\/a>,<\/strong> era vorba tot de o fiic\u0103 de preot. Tot a\u015fa, taic\u0103-su folosise b\u0103taia ca mijloc de rezolvare a problemelor, apoi, dup\u0103 ce copila \u015fi-a pus cap\u0103t zilelor, se d\u0103dea mare nevinovat, vai, ce o fi avut ea \u00een mintea ei, noi nu am f\u0103cut nimic, etc. Vede\u0163i textul \u015fi situa\u0163ia, d\u00e2nd click pe acel &#8220;aici&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De aceast\u0103 dat\u0103, influencera Claudia Gutulescu expune aici o situa\u0163ie asem\u0103n\u0103toare: <\/p>\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fpermalink.php%3Fstory_fbid%3Dpfbid02yczc1b5VKeFiGVoYCfDBnGgPgAtjTYxL3E4vTBVkyFncBUc7DobQn1gjKycDAc79l%26id%3D100008361943559&amp;show_text=true&amp;width=500\" width=\"500\" height=\"277\" style=\"border:none;overflow:hidden\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Simt nevoia s\u0103 sus\u0163in activitatea ei, pentru c\u0103 oamenii trebuie s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103, o dat\u0103 pentru totdeauna, c\u0103 dac\u0103 ai copii, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ai sclavi, c\u0103 tratamentul dezumanizant \u015fi degradant la adresa copiilor trebuie s\u0103 \u00eenceteze, \u015fi c\u0103 nu ai cum s\u0103 \u00eei calci \u00een picioare iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, apoi s\u0103 negi orice responsabilitate c\u00e2nd ace\u015ftia recurg la gesturi extreme \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 dai vina fie pe bietul copil, c\u0103 era instabil psihic (da, era traumatizat de cruzimea \u015fi lipsa ta de suflet \u00een ceea ce-l prive\u015fte, \u015fi de modul \u00een care \u00ee\u0163i foloseai autoritatea de p\u0103rinte pentru a-i anihila personalitatea), fie, \u00een cazul descris de Claudia, s\u0103 inventezi o prostioar\u0103 de genul &#8220;S-a certat cu iubita&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De fapt, se ciond\u0103nise lightly cu iubita \u015fi se \u015fi \u00eemp\u0103case. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ceea ce l-a determinat pe adolescentul de 13 ani s\u0103 se arunce de bloc era violen\u0163a continu\u0103, abuzul ne\u00eentrerupt, nop\u0163ile petrecute pe banca din fa\u0163a casei. Toate acestea din partea taichii p\u0103rinte. El l-a f\u0103cut \u015fi, iat\u0103, zicala str\u0103mo\u015feasc\u0103 se \u00eempline\u015fte \u00een mod tragic: el \u00eei omoar\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Claudia a cules m\u0103rturii de la colegii \u015fi prietenii copilului. Din c\u00e2te spune, le-a omis pe cele mai lugubre, pentru c\u0103 Facebook Community Standards. Nu \u015ftii niciodat\u0103 ce \u00eentors\u0103tur\u0103 de fraz\u0103 prinde aten\u0163ia cenzorilor Facebook \u015fi c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i taie iar posibilitatea de a posta pentru \u00eenc\u0103 o lun\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar e nevoie ca autorit\u0103\u0163ile s\u0103 se autosesizeze \u015fi \u00een acest caz. Pentru c\u0103 niciun copil nu are de ce s\u0103 fie for\u0163at de taic\u0103-su s\u0103 doarm\u0103 pe pre\u015f, sau s\u0103 se \u00eembrace creativ s\u0103 mascheze v\u00e2n\u0103t\u0103ile de pe tot corpul. C\u00e2nd mai face c\u00e2te un gigel mi\u015fto pe aici c\u0103 prefer celibatul, \u00eei r\u00e2njesc \u00een nas con\u015ftient\u0103 c\u0103, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t e\u015fti \u00een controlul propriilor finan\u0163e \u015fi te bucuri de lini\u015fte \u00een propria cas\u0103, nu te love\u015fte nimeni, nu \u00ee\u0163i spune nimeni pe ce s\u0103 cheltuie\u015fti banii \u015fi nu te trimite nimeni pe banca din fa\u0163a blocului, iar asta se nume\u015fte SIGURAN\u0162\u0102. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Siguran\u0163a pe care mul\u0163i copii din Rom\u00e2nia NU o experimenteaz\u0103 \u00een familiile lor &#8220;tradi\u0163ionale&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">E nevoie de servicii de protec\u0163ie a copilului mai eficiente \u00een \u0163ara asta \u015fi de legi mai aspre  care s\u0103 pedepseasc\u0103 violen\u0163a \u00eempotriva copilului. \u015ei de oameni implica\u0163i, care s\u0103 nu ignore semnele de abuz, neglijen\u0163\u0103, violen\u0163\u0103 \u015fi traum\u0103. S\u0103 le raporteze prompt autorit\u0103\u0163ilor competente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Degeaba \u0163ipa\u0163i la femei ca mine care nu doresc s\u0103 fac\u0103 copii. Uite, \u0103la a f\u0103cut. L-a b\u0103tut, l-a chinuit, l-a torturat, \u015fi \u00een prezent, nici el nu mai are copil. Practic, suntem la fel, numai c\u0103 eu nu am s\u00e2ngele \u015fi via\u0163a nim\u0103nui pe con\u015ftiin\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen loc s\u0103 \u0163ipa\u0163i la oameni care nu vor copii, \u0163ipa\u0163i la cei care fac \u015fi-i omoar\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 acestea nu sunt sinucideri. Acestea sunt crime. \u015ei ace\u015ftia sunt adev\u0103ra\u0163ii &#8220;degenera\u0163i&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<br>Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\"> Tiktok<\/a><\/strong>. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dac\u0103 arunci o privire fugar\u0103 pe re\u0163elele sociale, vezi oameni depl\u00e2ng\u00e2nd &#8220;vremurile bune de alt\u0103dat\u0103&#8221;, c\u00e2nd &#8220;se f\u0103cea educa\u0163ie, nu ca acum&#8221;, c\u00e2nd &#8220;nu&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14178,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24030","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/bloody-hand.jpg?fit=1542%2C1800&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24030","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24030"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24030\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24033,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24030\/revisions\/24033"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14178"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24030"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24030"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24030"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}