{"id":24327,"date":"2023-01-10T14:03:34","date_gmt":"2023-01-10T11:03:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24327"},"modified":"2023-01-10T14:03:38","modified_gmt":"2023-01-10T11:03:38","slug":"despre-plangeri-retrase","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-plangeri-retrase\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre pl\u00e2ngeri retrase"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate cea mai trist\u0103 \u015ftire de ieri este c\u0103 nevasta lui Foc\u015fa a retras pl\u00e2ngerea referitoare la caftul domestic la care a supus-o minunatul ei so\u0163. Despre asta am scris mai pe larg <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/focsa-o-suceste-ca-la-ploiesti\/\">aici<\/a><\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0162in minte un am\u0103nunt din \u015ftirile referitoare la incident. \u015ei anume, c\u0103 doamna Foc\u015fa a mai depus \u00een trecut pl\u00e2ngere, tot pentru violen\u0163\u0103 conjugal\u0103, \u015fi tot a\u015fa, a retras-o \u00een c\u00e2teva zile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u015ei da, acum spune c\u0103 divor\u0163eaz\u0103, dar la c\u00e2t de u\u015for s-a r\u0103zg\u00e2ndit \u015fi cu pl\u00e2ngerea, instinctul meu de fat\u0103 mare spune c\u0103 nu se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla. \u00cen schimb, \u015fti\u0163i ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla sigur-sigur? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Urm\u0103toarea b\u0103taie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Indecizia \u015fi speran\u0163a nerealist\u0103 c\u0103, dac\u0103 tu dovede\u015fti \u00een\u0163elegere \u015fi iubire, cel\u0103lalt o s\u0103 vad\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti un om minunat \u015fi o s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 \u00eentr-o bun\u0103 zi, hodoronc-tronc, s\u0103 te trateze a\u015fa cum merit\u0103 un om minunat ca tine &#8211; speran\u0163a asta nerealist\u0103 e cea care le \u0163ine pe victime \u00een capcana rela\u0163iilor abuzive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu, nu te va trata mai bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Te va trata mai bine c\u00e2teva zile, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i retragi pl\u00e2ngerea, s\u0103 nu-i creezi probleme cu autorit\u0103\u0163ile, apoi \u00ee\u015fi va relua comportamentul abuziv. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 un om te iube\u015fte \u015fi te respect\u0103, se poart\u0103 decent din start \u015fi r\u0103m\u00e2ne decent pe durata rela\u0163iei. Sigur, asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 nu mai ai divergen\u0163e de opinie, priorit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi preferin\u0163e diferite, dar niciodat\u0103 acestea nu \u00eel vor face s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 s\u0103 dea \u00een tine. Rela\u0163ia armonioas\u0103 \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 vre\u0163i am\u00e2ndoi s\u0103 g\u0103si\u0163i solu\u0163ii la eventuale probleme \u015fi s\u0103 g\u0103si\u0163i solu\u0163ia care s\u0103 v\u0103 fac\u0103 mai ferici\u0163i pe am\u00e2ndoi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 indvidul nu \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 de la sine acest tratament &#8211; care s\u0103 dovedeasc\u0103 faptul c\u0103 pre\u0163uie\u015fte prezen\u0163a ta \u00een via\u0163a lui &#8211; te zba\u0163i \u00een gol. Tot ce faci tu pentru el i se cuvine de la sine, pentru c\u0103 tu e\u015fti c\u00e2\u015ftigat\u0103 la belciuge, \u015fi \u00een loc s\u0103 vad\u0103 efortul investit zi de zi pentru rela\u0163ie, o s\u0103-\u0163i caute motive de ceart\u0103 din toate rahaturile. \u015ei cu c\u00e2t tu cedezi mai mult, \u015fi crezi c\u0103 prin asta \u00ee\u0163i confirmi sufletul minunat care merit\u0103 iubire, cu at\u00e2t te pozi\u0163ionezi singur \u00een ipostaza sacului de box care \u00eendur\u0103 orice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">O repet: un om \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 de la sine ce are cu adev\u0103rat de oferit. Iar modul \u00een care te trateaz\u0103 curent e modul \u00een care poate  \u015fi vrea s\u0103 te trateze. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eforturile tale \u00eei demonstreaz\u0103 doar c\u0103 modul \u00een care te trateaz\u0103 \u00een prezent e numai bun pentru a te struni \u015fi domina. Pentru c\u0103 \u00een rela\u0163iile abuzive e vorba de domina\u0163ie, nu de iubire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar pl\u00e2ngerile pentru violen\u0163\u0103 fizic\u0103 NU trebuie retrase. Niciodat\u0103. Nu exist\u0103 scuz\u0103 pentru a lovi un om. Nu exist\u0103 scuz\u0103 \u00een general, dar mai ales nu exist\u0103 scuz\u0103 c\u00e2nd omul se presupune c\u0103 e partenerul t\u0103u ales pentru o iubire de o via\u0163\u0103, la bine \u015fi la r\u0103u. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nemernicii care fac asta trebuie s\u0103 suporte consecin\u0163ele comportamentului lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 dore\u015fti mai mult pamflet, po\u0163i s\u0103 \u015fi sus\u0163ii blogul.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><strong>Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? 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