{"id":24359,"date":"2023-01-16T12:05:12","date_gmt":"2023-01-16T09:05:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24359"},"modified":"2023-01-16T12:22:00","modified_gmt":"2023-01-16T09:22:00","slug":"hilary-swank-si-maternitatea-la-50-de-ani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/hilary-swank-si-maternitatea-la-50-de-ani\/","title":{"rendered":"Hilary Swank \u015fi maternitatea la 50 de ani"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

E o discu\u0163ie \u00een contradictoriu pe net legat\u0103 de sarcina lui Hilary Swank \u015fi de faptul c\u0103 urmeaz\u0103 s\u0103 devin\u0103 mam\u0103 la \u00een jur de 50 de ani. \u015ei dac\u0103 e o discu\u0163ie \u00een contradictoriu, evident c\u0103 m\u0103 bag \u015fi eu. Lol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu \u015ftim cum s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat minunea, dar dac\u0103 duhul sf\u00e2nt a reu\u015fit s\u0103 impregneze o fecioar\u0103, sigur se descurc\u0103 \u015fi cu o purisanc\u0103 (huuuo, Lorena, aGe ShAMiNg, o s\u0103 \u0163ipe sigur o idioat\u0103 convins\u0103 c\u0103 eu am r\u0103mas ultima problem\u0103 nerezolvat\u0103 a femeilor din Rom\u00e2nia. Chiar nu m-ai nimerit. Eu cred cu t\u0103rie c\u0103 femeia poate face ce vrea ea, la ce v\u00e2rst\u0103 vrea ea, \u015fi sunt fana concertelor Tinei Turner la 60 \u015fi ceva de ani \u015fi a tuturor amicelor mele de 30 \u015fi ceva de ani \u015fi 40 \u015fi ceva de ani care fac a doua facultate, pentru c\u0103 avem o via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi ni\u015fte vise, prin urmare, hai s\u0103 le realiz\u0103m c\u00e2nd avem timp. La 20 suntem busy s\u0103 ne satisfacem p\u0103rin\u0163ii, educatorii \u015fi primul boifrend. M\u0103car la maturitate s\u0103 facem ce vrem noi.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideea e c\u0103 da, c\u00e2nd ai banii, ai o sumedenie de tratamente la dispozi\u0163ie, de la fertilizarea ovulelor recoltate \u015fi congelate \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 la angajarea unei m\u0103mici surogat care, pe mucho dinero, s\u0103 suporte vergeturile, s\u00e2nii l\u0103sa\u0163i \u015fi altele similare. A\u015fadar, da, doamna Swank are variante, \u015fi, c\u00e2t timp \u015fi le permite, bravo ei c\u0103 \u015fi le permite. \u0102sta e \u015fi motivul pentru care m\u0103 irit\u0103 cu spume nonbrainismul \u0103la cu “Banii n-aduc fericirea”. Ba da, banii aduc fericirea, dac\u0103 nu e\u015fti cringy de prost \u015fi te vaie\u0163i de via\u0163\u0103 cu ei \u00een buzunar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dincolo de asta, eu chiar cred c\u0103 o tip\u0103 matur\u0103 e o mam\u0103 mai bun\u0103, \u015fi iat\u0103 de ce. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A) Nu mai ai de nimic de demonstrat \u00een carier\u0103 <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 la 20, ob\u0163ii joburi entry-level, unde te fug\u0103resc \u0103ia ca pe ho\u0163ii de cai \u015fi trebuie s\u0103 fii mereu pe faz\u0103, s\u0103 po\u0163i cre\u015fte \u00eentr-un an c\u00e2t al\u0163ii \u00een 10, \u015fi concediul de maternitate risc\u0103 s\u0103 saboteze tot ce ai construit, dup\u0103 care r\u0103m\u00e2i cu o imens\u0103 frustrare \u015fi-l tratezi pe \u0103la mic ca pe cauza tuturor relelor din via\u0163a ta (eu am fost acel \u0103la mic), la 40-50, mai ales dac\u0103 e\u015fti doamna Swank, ai un business – dou\u0103 – zece, le manageriezi de la tine din dormitor \u015fi dac\u0103 \u015fefa vrea s\u0103 fac\u0103 \u015fedin\u0163\u0103 pe Zoom azi, c\u0103 nu vrea mu\u015fchiul ei, peonii obi\u015fnui\u0163i se vor executa f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 cr\u00e2cneasc\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B) Ai resursele necesare s\u0103-l cre\u015fti<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunt o mul\u0163ime de sup\u0103ra\u0163i \u015fi sup\u0103rate pe Facebookul meu care, dac\u0103 le spun c\u0103 ai nevoie de bani pentru a face un copil, se \u00eenfoaie de sup\u0103rare. “Adic\u0103, dac\u0103 n-am bani, nu trebuia s\u0103 fac copil!!???” “Copilul se cre\u015fte cu dragoste”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u015f putea s\u0103 scriu vreo zece paragrafe aici despre frustr\u0103rile copilului azv\u00e2rlit \u00een lume f\u0103r\u0103 o bugetare prealabil\u0103 a situa\u0163iei, dar m\u0103 voi ab\u0163ine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cert e c\u0103, la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 matur\u0103, ai stabilitate material\u0103 \u015fi \u015ftii c\u0103 ai cu ce s\u0103-l hr\u0103ne\u015fti \/ \u00eengrije\u015fti \/ \u00eembraci \/ educi \/ distrezi. \u015ei dac\u0103 tu, s\u0103 zicem, ai treab\u0103, po\u0163i alege o doamn\u0103 de \u00eencredere, pe care o pl\u0103te\u015fti s\u0103 se ocupe \u00een mod responsabil \u015fi calificat de copil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C) Ai r\u0103bdare<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lipsa timpului, a banilor \u015fi a a\u015ftept\u0103rilor realiste fa\u0163\u0103 de cel\u0103lalt, de la via\u0163a de cuplu \u015fi de la via\u0163\u0103 \u00een general dezechilibreaz\u0103 foarte mult familiile tinere. \u015ei c\u00e2nd vine \u015fi un copil, criza de nervi e la ordinea zilei. Macin\u0103 \u015fi rela\u0163ia, \u00eel macin\u0103 \u015fi pe copil. Been there, deci a se scuti cu vai, Loreno, nu e a\u015fa. Respect celor pu\u0163ini care fac excep\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce ajungi la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u015fi \u00eencepi s\u0103 te impregnezi de \u00een\u0163elepciune \u015fi realism, te a\u015ftep\u0163i la lucruri normale \u015fi de bun sim\u0163 \u015fi de la via\u0163\u0103, \u015fi de la partener, \u015fi de la copil. \u015ei \u00ee\u0163i formezi r\u0103bdarea de a-l asculta, a-l urm\u0103ri atent, a-l \u00een\u0163elege \u015fi a \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 stai de vorb\u0103 cu cineva de 4 ani, deci f\u0103r\u0103 a\u015ftept\u0103rile multor m\u0103mici tinere, s\u0103 fii direct Confucius. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Been there, deci a se scuti cu vai, Loreno, nu e a\u015fa. Respect celor pu\u0163ini care fac excep\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

D) Ai r\u0103bdare <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015etiu, e subpunctul de la 3, lol. Dar de fapt, nu. M\u0103 refer la alt tip de r\u0103bdare. R\u0103bdarea de a \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 \u0103la micul nu e un robo\u0163el obligat s\u0103 execute tot ce vrei tu \u015fi r\u0103bdarea de a-l descoperi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

70% dintre copiii care au avut privilegiul de a petrece timp cu bunicii lor v\u0103 vor spune c\u0103 bunicii erau bl\u00e2nzi, \u00een\u0163elep\u0163i \u015fi iubitori, \u015fi nu \u0163ipau din orice. Bunicii aveau r\u0103bdare. Erau mai aten\u0163i la personalitatea, ritmul \u015fi nevoile copilului, \u015fi dep\u0103\u015fiser\u0103 stupizenia lui “eu te-am f\u0103cut, eu te etc.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei, \u00een general, bunicii sunt cei care te sus\u0163in \u00een ambi\u0163iile tale personale, \u00een timp ce p\u0103rin\u0163ii te \u00eemping s\u0103 faci cariera pe care ei, din varii motive, n-au reu\u015fit s-o aib\u0103 pentru ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, persoanele mai mature sunt mai potrivite s\u0103 aib\u0103 copii. Respect celor pu\u0163ini care fac excep\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E) Faci copil pentru c\u0103 \u00eel vrei <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La 20 de ani, multe sarcini se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 dintr-un accident neprev\u0103zut, din sigur nu sunt \u00een perioada aia a lunii, sau pentru c\u0103 au zis p\u0103rin\u0163ii \u015fi vecinele, respectiv Oprah la televizor c\u0103 via\u0163a nu merit\u0103 tr\u0103it\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 miracolul maternit\u0103\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aici at\u00e2tea depresii postpartum. Pentru c\u0103 te a\u015ftep\u0163i la miracol \u015fi te alegi cu vergeturi \u015fi cu urlete la 3 noaptea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

La maturitate, nu prea mai crezi \u00een miracole \u015fi preferi faptele. Din acest motiv, c\u00e2nd iei o decizie informat\u0103 de a avea copii, te documentezi \u015fi \u015ftii deja cam cum st\u0103 treaba at\u00e2t fiziologic, c\u00e2t \u015fi psihologic, \u015fi cam care-s pa\u015fii dezvolt\u0103rii copilului. Nu te a\u015ftep\u0163i s\u0103 \u0163i se pogoare coruri de heruvimi pe umeri s\u0103-\u0163i c\u00e2nte “de ziua ta, m\u0103mico”, ci mergi la analize s\u0103 vezi dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i lipsesc vitamine care ar putea crea probleme viitorului f\u0103t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe scurt, forza Hilary! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei pentru c\u0103 o s\u0103 vin\u0103 iar idioata din intro s\u0103 \u0163ipe “aIcI sHaMUIe\u015fTi m\u0102MikiLe tInERe”, simt nevoia s\u0103 precizez evidentul pentru cititorii inteligen\u0163i: Face\u0163i copii c\u00e2nd vre\u0163i voi \u015fi la ce v\u00e2rst\u0103 vre\u0163i voi. More power to you. But even more power to Hilary. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 dore\u015fti mai multe sfaturi bune, po\u0163i s\u0103 \u015fi sus\u0163ii blogul. Aici<\/strong><\/a>. \u015ei po\u0163i s\u0103-mi dai un mail la po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: birou@lorenalupu.com.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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