Prin experien\u0163a similar\u0103 se referea la fragmentul literar erotic de ieri<\/a><\/strong>, cel cu bol\u0163arul, spirala \u015fi gigelul care \u015fi-a primit gagica \u00een miros de \u015fosete nesp\u0103late. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Un b\u0103rbat sau o femeie care te iube\u015fte \u015fi te apreciaz\u0103 NU te va primi \u00een rap\u0103n \u015fi jeg. Desigur, nu toat\u0103 lumea e miliardar\u0103, iar dac\u0103 are doar 300 de euro de chirie va nimeri un apartament mobilat ca pe vremea lui Pazvante Chioru, dar m\u0103car se va str\u0103dui s\u0103 fie totul curat, lucios \u015fi fresh. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mai departe: faza asta cu femeia obligat\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 numai ea curat \u015fi m\u00e2ncare se aplica \u00eentr-o vreme \u00een care b\u0103rbatul aducea to\u0163i banii \u00een cas\u0103. Practic, unul se ocupa de tot ce presupuneau nevoile financiare ale cuplului, iar cel\u0103lalt, de toate nevoile domestice. Era echitabil, dac\u0103 st\u0103m s\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim. Pentru genul de femeie care nu avea ambi\u0163ii personale \u015fi voia doar s\u0103 stea lini\u015ftit\u0103, \u015fi g\u0103sea pl\u0103cere \u00een frecat geamuri \u015fi f\u0103cut tocan\u0103 de cartofi, era echitabil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar \u00een zilele noastre, tu munce\u015fti acela\u015fi num\u0103r de ore, ba chiar \u015fi mai multe, prin urmare, NU mai exist\u0103 un motiv obiectiv sub soare ca un gigel s\u0103 te frece la cap c\u0103 trebuie doar tu s\u0103 faci curat \u015fi m\u00e2ncare. Dac\u0103 atribu\u0163iile financiare se \u00eempart, \u015fi cele domestice se \u00eempart. Nu ai de ce s\u0103 fii proasta care aduce \u015fi bani, \u015fi \u00een timpul liber, pasiunea lui sunt jocurile video, iar pasiunea ei, sp\u0103latul rufelor \u015fi \u00eenv\u00e2rtitul \u00een oal\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Prin urmare, c\u00e2nd gigel \u00ee\u0163i poveste\u015fte c\u0103, \u00een mintea lui, ai de f\u0103cut curat \u015fi m\u00e2ncare, \u00eel \u00eentrebi: OK, asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentre\u0163ii fulltime? Vezi c\u0103 am salariu 5000 de lei, plus al treisprezecelea salariu, plus bonusuri de performan\u0163\u0103 \u015fi bonusuri de fidelitate \u00een cadrul companiei. Vine jobul \u0103sta de menajer\u0103 \u015fi buc\u0103t\u0103reas\u0103 la tine cu schem\u0103 de beneficii? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Singurele datorii pe care le ai fa\u0163\u0103 de alte persoane sunt a) sarcinile agreate \u00een cadrul unui contract b) ce \u00ee\u0163i asumi tu benevol c\u0103 vei face. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Gen, dac\u0103 ai o rela\u0163ie extrem de supportive \u015fi \u015ftii c\u0103 te bazezi pe el de c\u00e2te ori ai o problem\u0103, \u00eel aju\u0163i c\u00e2nd are o problem\u0103. Dar \u00een nici un caz nu \u00eel adop\u0163i f\u0103r\u0103 acte de adop\u0163ie \u015fi nu \u00eencepi s\u0103-l \u015ftergi la c** ca o m\u0103mic\u0103 grijulie, pentru c\u0103 “asta fac femeile”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar c\u00e2nd un prost vine cu “m\u0103 simt folosit pentru sex”, \u00eentrebarea e: “te sim\u0163i folosit \u015fi pentru laba pe care ai face-o acum dac\u0103 n-a\u015f fi eu aici?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n O cuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103 a mea a avut la un moment dat o rela\u0163ie extraconjugal\u0103. \u0102la cu care se vedea a \u00eenceput s-o preseze s\u0103-\u015fi lase b\u0103rbatul “pentru c\u0103 se sim\u0163ea folosit pentru sex”. Tipa \u00ee\u015fi iubea b\u0103rbatul, avea via\u0163\u0103 bun\u0103 cu el, prin urmare, i-a zis \u0103luia c\u0103-\u015fi cere scuze c\u0103 “s-a folosit”, promite s\u0103 nu se mai repete, \u015fi a rupt lan\u0163ul de amor. \u00cen momentul imediat urm\u0103tor, \u0103la a \u00eenceput s-o terorizeze cu mesaje, apeluri, frecu\u015f la icre, c\u0103, vaai, el a crezut c\u0103 e iubire \u015fi c\u0103 – listen up, c\u0103 de aici devine amuzant – EA \u00ceI DATOREAZ\u0102 SEX P\u00c2N\u0102 C\u00c2ND G\u0102SE\u015eTE PE ALTCINEVA. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “P\u0103i nu ziceai c\u0103 te sim\u0163i folosit?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n “N-am zis niciodat\u0103 a\u015fa ceva”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u015ei preten\u0163ia c\u0103 “se simte folosit pentru sex” \u015fi preten\u0163ia c\u0103 “\u00eei datorezi sex” sunt BS de cea mai joas\u0103 spe\u0163\u0103. Dac\u0103 te ui\u0163i pe forumurile de inceli, o s\u0103 vezi c\u0103 sexul pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i e o raritate, nu o abunden\u0163\u0103. Sigur, except\u00e2nd bun\u0103ciuni cum era Brad Pitt la film\u0103rile lui Troy, \u00een 2005. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar genul \u0103sta de b\u0103rbat nu se va pl\u00e2nge niciodat\u0103 c\u0103 se simte folosit, pentru c\u0103 e \u00een pozi\u0163ia de a alege femeile care-i plac, dintr-un ocean de candidate, \u015fi dac\u0103 una \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se foloseasc\u0103 de el, va \u00eenceta pur \u015fi simplu s-o contacteze. Restul au op\u0163iuni limitate, \u015fi realitatea e c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu erai tu acolo, erau xhamster \u015fi faian\u0163a b\u0103ii. Cea pe care ar avea preten\u0163ia s-o speli tu, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei e lene s-o spele singur \u015fi e prea zg\u00e2rc\u0103 s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 pe cineva de specialitate s-o spele \u00een locul lui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar uite modul Lorena de a preveni astfel de experien\u0163e de rahat; utilizarea inteligent\u0103 a primelor dates, de dinainte de sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Multe tipe se duc la date \u015fi \u00eencep s\u0103 delireze lung \u015fi egocentric despre ele \u015fi despre c\u00e2t sunt de speciale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Realitatea situa\u0163iei e c\u0103, \u00eentr-o interac\u0163iune de doi, c\u00e2t e\u015fti de special nu stabile\u015fti tu, ci cel\u0103lalt. Prin urmare, \u0103la te-a invitat la date fie pentru c\u0103 deja te place \u015fi deja te consider\u0103 special\u0103 – \u015fi atunci, po\u0163i fi sigur\u0103 c\u0103 deja s-a uitat pe social media ta, a \u00eentrebat de tine pe x \u015fi pe y \u015fi \u015ftie tot ce e de \u015ftiut. Fie te-a invitat s\u0103 fxxx \u015fi el ceva, nu-i prea pas\u0103 de cine e\u015fti tu ca persoan\u0103 \u015fi de alte detalii, \u015fi atunci blabla-ul lung despre realiz\u0103rile tale \u00eel plictise\u015fte de moarte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen loc s\u0103 aberezi despre tine, pune-i \u00eentreb\u0103ri lui. Dar nu \u00eentreb\u0103ri directe, s\u0103 se simt\u0103 ca un intelectual pus sub index de comuni\u015fti luat la phoo tai psihic de secretarul de partid. Z\u00e2mbe\u015fte frumos, s\u0103 dezarmezi, \u015fi converseaz\u0103 despre via\u0163\u0103 \u00een general, pentru a-l face s\u0103-\u015fi dea \u015fi el fr\u00e2u liber \u015fi pentru a descoperi cine e ca persoan\u0103 \u015fi, important, ce a\u015ftept\u0103ri are de la femei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 la primul date, ideea c\u0103 frecatul de du\u015fumele e treaba ta exclusiv\u0103 e o informa\u0163ie \u00een trecere, \u00een a \u015fasea lun\u0103 de rela\u0163ie devine motiv de criz\u0103 de nervi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u015ei cum evi\u0163i criza de nervi din a \u015fasea lun\u0103, agresivitatea \u015fi toate ie\u015firile nevrotice? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cel scanezi atent \u00een primele dates, cele care nu te oblig\u0103 deocamdat\u0103 la nimic, iar dac\u0103 \u00eel vezi c\u0103 e prost, NU TE FXXX CU EL. <\/p>\n\n\n\n De aceea nu m\u0103 vede\u0163i pe mine implicat\u0103 \u00een drame amoroase, desp\u0103r\u0163iri acuzatoare \u015fi alte faze de genul. Evaluez oamenii atent \u00eenainte s\u0103 m\u0103 complic, \u015fi dac\u0103 sunt imbecili, mul\u0163umim frumos pentru conversa\u0163ie, a fost interesant, cele bune. Dac\u0103 \u00eel vezi genul extrem de zg\u00e2rcit, care s\u0103 te terorizeze c\u0103 \u0163i-a pl\u0103tit o Cola \u015fi tu l-ai respins ulterior, pl\u0103te\u015fte-\u0163i \u015fi Cola, s\u0103 nu-i dai nici un motiv de scandal ulterior. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar dac\u0103 e genul cu repro\u015furi multe, motivate doar de filmele lui interioare psihotice, nu de ceea ce faci tu \u00een realitate, d\u0103-i block peste tot \u015fi vezi-\u0163i de via\u0163a ta. Care e oricum prea scurt\u0103 \u015fi merit\u0103 tr\u0103it\u0103 frumos, \u00een armonie \u015fi bucurie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u015ei dac\u0103 cineva \u00ee\u0163i spune c\u0103 e un mod de a tr\u0103i “egoist”, \u00eentreab\u0103-l dac\u0103 e dispus s\u0103 vin\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 curat \u015fi m\u00e2ncare m\u00e2ine \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i pl\u0103teasc\u0103 facturile, s\u0103-\u015fi demonstreze altruismul. Cum, nu? OK, ia hai mar\u015f de-aici cu predicile moralizatoare. \u00cent\u00e2i faci ceva s\u0103-mi ar\u0103\u0163i concret c\u0103 dai pe dinafar\u0103 de altruism real; virtue signalling din vorbe putem to\u0163i \u015fi nu ne cost\u0103 nimic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Faci m\u00e2ncare \u015fi curat DAC\u0102 VREI \u015fi DAC\u0102 TE \u00ceNT\u00c2LNE\u015eTE LA JUM\u0102TATEA DRUMULUI \u00een diverse moduri. \u00cen rest, are \u015fi el dou\u0103 m\u00e2ini \u015fi nu-l \u00eempiedic\u0103 nimic s\u0103 le foloseasc\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Acest site \u00ee\u015fi poate continua activitatea doar cu sus\u0163inerea cititorilor. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe Tiktok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ieri, mi-a scris o fat\u0103. A dat un comentariu pe blog, \u00een care a zis urm\u0103toarele: Bun\u0103, Lorena. 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