{"id":24535,"date":"2023-02-14T08:50:33","date_gmt":"2023-02-14T05:50:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24535"},"modified":"2023-02-14T08:50:36","modified_gmt":"2023-02-14T05:50:36","slug":"de-ce-e-nevoie-de-valentines-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-e-nevoie-de-valentines-day\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce e nevoie de Valentine’s Day"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

C\u00e2nd vine vorba de Valentine’s Day, oamenilor le place teribil de mult s\u0103 protesteze, s\u0103 se jeluiasc\u0103 lung \u00een privin\u0163a cheltuielii, s\u0103 relateze pove\u015fti despre cum te despar\u0163i de gagic\u0103-ta pe 13 februarie \u015fi reapari \u00een via\u0163a ei de pe 10 martie \u00eencolo \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca s\u0103 nu-i men\u0163ion\u0103m \u015fi pe auri\u015fti, care nu se pot opri din a delira despre cum s\u0103rb\u0103torile americane ne anihileaz\u0103 fibra na\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi despre cum dac\u0103 Burebista nu s\u0103rb\u0103torea Valentine’s Day, noi de ce am face-o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recunosc, acum c\u00e2\u0163iva ani \u015fi eu scriam ironic despre Valentine’s Day. Scriam ironic despre orice era sensibil, siropos \u015fi l\u0103cr\u0103mos, pentru c\u0103 aveam prea mul\u0163i pis\u0103logi \u00een via\u0163a mea care s\u0103 m\u0103 frece la icre c\u0103 femeia are obliga\u0163ia biologic\u0103 de a fi sensibil\u0103, siropoas\u0103 \u015fi l\u0103cr\u0103moas\u0103, printre crati\u0163e. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00centre timp, societatea, sau cel pu\u0163in cercul meu social, a renun\u0163at \u00een linii mari la acest tip de presiune care \u00eemi trezea to\u0163i demonii. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, \u015fi eu m-am maturizat, \u015fi simt c\u0103 nu mai am nimic de demonstrat, nici mie \u015fi nici societ\u0103\u0163ii. Sunt st\u0103p\u00e2n\u0103 pe ce \u015ftiu s\u0103 fac, \u00eemi asum deciziile pe care le iau, iar “roastul” merit\u0103 rezervat celor care realmente se poart\u0103 ridicol, nu tuturor la gr\u0103mad\u0103, c\u0103 apoi nu se mai distinge unde glumeai serios.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bun. Examin\u00e2nd Valentine’s Day din perspectiva mea de acum, pot spune c\u0103 nu e doar o s\u0103rb\u0103toare ok, ci una necesar\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Da, rahatul \u0103la importat de la americani”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am importat at\u00e2tea rahaturi real d\u0103un\u0103toare de la americani, ca de exemplu Coca Cola, McDonalds \u015fi corectitudinea politic\u0103. Voi dezvolta de ce V-Day e o idee bun\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Da, ursule\u0163ii \u015fi inimioarele de plu\u015f. Asta lauzi tu?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exact ca \u00een cazul Cr\u0103ciunului, decizia de a tr\u0103i spiritul profund al s\u0103rb\u0103torii sau de a te pierde \u00een semnaliz\u0103ri exterioare ale consumerismului aferent este strict \u00een ograda ta. Firmele nu-\u015fi fac dec\u00e2t treaba, atunci c\u00e2nd scot noul parfum cu note de iasomie, noul urs de plu\u015f ro\u015fu care zice “te iubesc” \u015fi noua inim\u0103 de ciocolat\u0103 cu sirop ro\u015fu de zmeur\u0103 \u00een\u0103untru.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ele, \u00eens\u0103, nu-\u0163i bag\u0103 m\u00e2na \u00een buzunar cu absolut nimic. Tu alegi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei tu po\u0163i alege ceva care s\u0103 aib\u0103 sens intim pentru cuplul vostru.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103, hai s\u0103 fim sinceri. C\u0103sniciile nu se \u0163in \u00eempreun\u0103 nici prin presiuni exterioare, nici prin ac\u0163iunile teroriste ale Coali\u0163iei pentru Familie sau ale oric\u0103rei organiza\u0163ii similare de masculi narcisi\u015fti \u015fi babe bisericoase setate pe “dac\u0103-eu-am-fost-caftit\u0103-toat\u0103-via\u0163a-tu-de-ce-s\u0103-fii-liber\u0103”, nici prin limitarea op\u0163iunilor femeii, nici prin legalizarea “violen\u0163ei domestice u\u015foare”, Putin-style.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u0103sniciile se \u0163in \u00eempreun\u0103 prin con\u015ftientizarea faptului c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt nu e proprietatea noastr\u0103 \u015fi prin men\u0163inerea, \u00een anumit\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103, a flirtului \u015fi tandre\u0163ii care au creat rela\u0163ia cu pricina. Sigur, job, necazuri, \u0163evi sparte, etc. Dar job, necazuri \u015fi \u0163evi sparte aveai tu \u015fi \u00eenainte. \u015ei totu\u015fi: pe durata perioadei de tatonare, nici Ionel n-o trata pe M\u0103rioara drept “serviciul de c\u0103lcat c\u0103m\u0103\u015fi”, nici M\u0103rioara nu se bucura de fiecare e\u015fec al lui Ion cu “vezi, m\u0103, \u0163i-am zis eu c\u0103 nu e\u015fti bun de nimic.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ambele sexe, \u00een mai mic\u0103 sau mai mare m\u0103sur\u0103, se transform\u0103 c\u00e2nd li se confirm\u0103 “proprietatea” pe cuplu. “Ai jurat s\u0103-mi fii al\u0103turi la bine \u015fi la r\u0103u, deci pot s\u0103 dau drumul la robinetul de ‘r\u0103u’.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei, datorit\u0103 acestei nep\u0103s\u0103ri, oamenii se distan\u0163eaz\u0103 emo\u0163ional unii de al\u0163ii. Ce \u00eencearc\u0103 biserica \u015fi organiza\u0163iile radicale s\u0103 fac\u0103 e s\u0103 remedieze problema pun\u00e2nd presiune pe unul singur dintre membrii cuplului. \u015e desigur, acel unul singur e femeia, pentru c\u0103 femeia e sacul de box al tradi\u0163iei: “femeie, e datoria ta s\u0103 te supui \u015fi s\u0103 supor\u0163i”. Ceea ce e nedrept, inechitabil \u015fi, iat\u0103, se las\u0103 cu #metoo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ceea ce \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103rb\u0103torile iubirii, ca Valentine’s Day, e s\u0103 insufle, \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care se poate, o parte din mindset-ul \u00eenceputului \u00een AMBII membri ai cuplului. Ceva de genul: “La un moment dat, l-ai v\u0103zut pe acest om ca pe cea mai bun\u0103 op\u0163iune din via\u0163a ta. S\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m un Restore System.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103 nici o rela\u0163ie din univers care a luat-o pe miri\u015fte nu va fi readus\u0103 pe f\u0103ga\u015ful s\u0103n\u0103tos umilind doar pe unul dintre combatan\u0163i \u015fi supun\u00e2ndu-l \u00een totalitate hachi\u0163elor celuilalt. Solu\u0163ia men\u0163inerii const\u0103 \u00een mediere, \u00een comunicare, \u00een \u00een\u0163elegere reciproc\u0103 \u015fi \u00een momente asumate de romantism. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

F\u0103r\u0103 acestea, orice cas\u0103 ajunge un loc \u00een care doi oameni se detest\u0103 mocnit sau asumat \u015fi se pl\u00e2ng oricui are chef s\u0103-i asculte cum cel\u0103lalt le distruge via\u0163a \u015fi \u00een c\u00e2te moduri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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