Realitatea e c\u0103 noi, femeile, avem parte de extrem de pu\u0163in\u0103 iubire real\u0103. Nu, faptul c\u0103 gigel ne d\u0103 mesaj privat plin de libidino\u015fenie sau comenteaz\u0103 total pe ar\u0103tur\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fi \u00een\u0163eles ideea principal\u0103 nu e iubire, nu, complimentele lipsite de substan\u0163\u0103 nu sunt iubire, nu, faptul c\u0103 se treze\u015fte c\u00e2te unul s\u0103 delireze cum vrea buc\u0103t\u0103reas\u0103, menajer\u0103 \u015fi c**v\u0103 gratis NU e iubire. Iubirea \u00eenseamn\u0103 sus\u0163inere, grij\u0103 \u015fi gentile\u0163e. \u015ei nu, f**erea de grij\u0103 de tip “parc\u0103 ai mai pus un kilogram” sau “eu nu donez nimic, dar uite despre ce trebuie s\u0103 scrii” \u00een mod definitiv NU e iubire, doar cer\u015fetorie de aten\u0163ie cu b\u0103gare \u00een seam\u0103 aiurea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei \u00een via\u0163a mea real\u0103, a\u015fa cum vi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u015fi vou\u0103, am avut parte de la diver\u0219i de multe etal\u0103ri de ego, tentative de tranzac\u0163ii incorecte sau de prosteal\u0103 pe fa\u021b\u0103, minimalizare, lips\u0103 de respect “s\u0103-\u0163i ar\u0103t c\u0103 te plac”, b\u0103gare \u00een seam\u0103 iritant\u0103, dar de extrem, extrem de pu\u0163in\u0103 iubire real\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nu e doar cazul meu. Sunt multe femei care nu simt c\u0103 sunt iubite cu adev\u0103rat de partener, ci sunt doar un addenda la egoul lui. Dar femeile respective stau \u00een acele rela\u0163ii pentru c\u0103 singur\u0103tatea li se pare ceva oribil \u015fi \u00eenfrico\u015f\u0103tor. Eu aleg singur\u0103tatea pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi place propria mea companie, asum lipsa de iubire as it is \u015fi prefer s\u0103 nu fiu nici juc\u0103ria, nici robotul de buc\u0103t\u0103rie, nici sufl\u0103torul \u00een c** al nim\u0103nui, \u015fi s\u0103 mimez c\u0103 stoarcerea tuturor resurselor mele f\u0103r\u0103 nimic relevant \u00een schimb ar fi iubire. Iar c\u00e2nd \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2nesc \u015fi \u00eemi pierd atractivitatea, toat\u0103 munca de p\u00e2n\u0103 acolo devine brusc irelevant\u0103, pentru c\u0103 apare alta mai bun\u0103ciune la orizont. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Merci, dar nu, merci. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ce fac pisicile ca a mea e s\u0103 ofere iubire. S\u0103 te \u00eent\u00e2mpine cu un miau r\u0103sun\u0103tor \u015fi, pe c\u00e2nd era tinerel, un salt direct \u00een bra\u0163e, c\u00e2nd vii acas\u0103. S\u0103 te ling\u0103 pe cap dac\u0103 a plouat afar\u0103, pentru c\u0103 ele, exact ca alcoolicii, percep apa ca pe un lucru extrem de nasol. S\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103 cu jale c\u00e2nd e\u015fti \u00een cad\u0103, pentru c\u0103 sigur te \u00eeneci. S\u0103 \u0163i se cuib\u0103reasc\u0103 \u00een bra\u0163e c\u00e2nd dormi, pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa se cuib\u0103resc \u015fi cu fr\u0103\u0163iorii c\u00e2nd sunt pui, s\u0103-\u015fi ofere reciproc c\u0103ldur\u0103. S\u0103 se \u00eentind\u0103 l\u00e2ng\u0103 tine pe canapea \u015fi s\u0103-\u015fi pun\u0103 c\u0103p\u015forul pe piciorul t\u0103u, c\u00e2nd te ui\u0163i la film. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015ei iubirea asta e independent\u0103 de kilograme, defecte fizice, disponibilitatea de a face efort prin a frige o pulp\u0103 de pui sau lenea de a-i da un plicule\u0163 de 3 lei de la supermarket. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Taman de aceea mi se pare ridicol c\u00e2nd vine c\u00e2te un individ agresiv, needucat, care \u00een mod vizibil nu are nimic de oferit unei femei \u00een afara unei liste lungi de preten\u0163ii legate de c\u00e2te munci gratuite are ea de prestat s\u0103-i fac\u0103 lui ziua mai bun\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 conteze cum e ziua ei, iar individul screme ceva de genul: “o s\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u015fti cu pisici”. Bitch, aleg s\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2nesc cu pisici! Sunt o companie mai bun\u0103 dec\u00e2t tine din toate punctele de vedere. Dac\u0103 m\u0103-sa alegea s\u0103 nu-l fete \u015fi adopta \u00een schimb o pisic\u0103, planeta asta era un loc mai bun. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B) Te \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 ai grij\u0103 de al\u0163ii <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n C\u00e2nd cre\u015fti \u00eentr-o familie disfunc\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi nimeni nu are grij\u0103 de tine, nu prea \u015ftii cum arat\u0103 grija. Prin urmare, nu prea \u015ftii s\u0103 o oferi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar c\u00e2nd am adoptat puiul \u0103sta mic de pisic\u0103, pierdut pe strad\u0103, mi-am descoperit o nou\u0103 latur\u0103. Aceea \u00een care mergi \u015fi discu\u0163i cu veterinari, respectiv te informezi pe net despre modurile de a avea grij\u0103 de sufle\u0163elul mic \u015fi nevinovat. \u015ei nu pentru c\u0103 vine cu list\u0103 de preten\u0163ii \u015fi sentimentul de misecuvenism, ca boul de mai sus, ci pentru c\u0103 e puiul t\u0103u \u015fi pentru c\u0103 vrei s\u0103-i fie bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n C\u00e2nd l-am adoptat, st\u0103team \u00een chirie cu alte trei fete, pentru c\u0103 pe atunci nu \u015ftiam s\u0103-mi monetizez blogul, mocangeala tuturor orientat\u0103 spre tine era the general way to go, \u015fi se \u00een\u0163elegea de la sine c\u0103 un student la actorie nu trebuie pl\u0103tit pentru nimic, c\u0103 doar e student, d\u0103-l naibii, s\u0103 se bucure c\u0103 e b\u0103gat \u00een seam\u0103. Fetele alea nu m\u0103 v\u0103zuser\u0103 g\u0103tind niciodat\u0103, c\u0103 na: facultate, job pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 facultate, tr\u0103iasc\u0103 shaormeriile \u015fi sandvi\u015furile de 5 lei de la automate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen schimb, c\u00e2nd a ap\u0103rut puiul, s-au pomenit cu mine \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103rie, fierb\u00e2nd apa pentru formul\u0103 \u015fi test\u00e2nd temperatura cu degetul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n -Nu pot s\u0103 cred! <\/p>\n\n\n\n -P\u0103i puiul meu trebuie s\u0103 aib\u0103 l\u0103ptic la temperatura camerei! <\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u015fa arat\u0103 iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103. L\u0103ptic la temperatura camerei, pentru c\u0103 \u015fi vetul \u015fi netul spun asta. Iar c\u00e2nd sufle\u0163elul \u0103la s\u0103tul dup\u0103 o lung\u0103 foame se uit\u0103 la tine cu ochi mari \u015fi nevinova\u0163i \u015fi se cuib\u0103re\u015fte \u00een inima ta, te sim\u0163i R\u0102SPL\u0102TIT. <\/p>\n\n\n\n C) Terapie natur <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bine, e o idee bun\u0103 s\u0103 mergi la terapie cu un profesionist, pentru c\u0103 te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 procesezi mai bine nepl\u0103cerile \u015fi stresul zilnic, chiar dac\u0103 e\u015fti s\u0103n\u0103tos din punct de vedere mintal. Altfel, ajungi s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti via\u0163a oribil\u0103 a frustra\u0163ilor \u0103lora cronici, care se hr\u0103nesc \u015fi func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 doar prin agresivitate verbal\u0103 gratuit\u0103 \u00eendreptat\u0103 \u00eempotriva oricui trece pe acolo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar c\u00e2nd e\u015fti mic \u015fi nu te-a educat nimeni legat de importan\u0163a terapiei, nu \u015ftii asta. C\u00e2nd vii dintr-un c\u0103min disfunc\u0163ional, unde violen\u0163a verbal\u0103 e regula, nu doar c\u0103 \u0163i se pare normal ca oamenii s\u0103 urle \u015fi s\u0103 se jigneasc\u0103 nonstop unii pe al\u0163ii, dar \u0163i se par normale \u015fi atacurile perpetue de panic\u0103 \u015fi anxietatea paralizant\u0103 cu care defilezi prin lume ca urmare a acestui tratament. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Apoi am adoptat puiul \u0103sta. Foarte calm, \u00eenc\u0103 de mic, \u015fi transmi\u0163\u0103tor de calm prin fiecare por. \u00cemi disipa anxietatea \u015fi panica \u00een numai c\u00e2teva minute. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Prin el am descoperit armonia calmului \u015fi a lini\u015ftii interioare, am \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 asta e starea corect\u0103 pentru o via\u0163\u0103 bun\u0103 \u015fi am \u00eenceput s\u0103 merg la terapie, care s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute s\u0103 reajung acolo, dep\u0103\u015find stresul \u015fi irit\u0103rile normale ale unei vie\u0163i relativ agitate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n D) Bun\u0103 dispozi\u0163ie <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Eu nu pot avea o zi proast\u0103 cu pisica asta al\u0103turi. S\u0103 zicem, am tradus o carte nou\u0103 pentru o editur\u0103 care a promis s\u0103 fie prompt\u0103 cu plata, dar te plimb\u0103 cu banii de pe o zi pe alta, de\u015fi data final\u0103 din contract a trecut ca iluzia tinere\u0163ii f\u0103r\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163e \u015fi a vie\u0163ii f\u0103r\u0103 de moarte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu e nimic mai frustrant pentru un om de bun\u0103 credin\u0163\u0103 dec\u00e2t \u00eent\u00e2rzierea unei pl\u0103\u0163i care \u0163i se cuvine. \u00cen mod normal, a\u015f fierbe de nervi. Dar, dup\u0103 ani de terapie \u015fi “pisicoterapie”, \u015ftiu c\u0103 starea negativ\u0103 m\u0103 afecteaz\u0103 doar pe mine, nu pe datornici, prin urmare, iau o juc\u0103rie cu pan\u0103 la cap\u0103t, o plimb pe la nasul motanului, m\u0103 relaxez, dup\u0103 care le dau un mail amical, \u00een care le spun c\u0103 au o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 efectueze plata \u015fi \u00een caz contrar, ne vom consulta avocatul pentru urm\u0103torii pa\u015fi \u015fi vom face o campanie de shaming pe toat\u0103 social media, cu contract scanat, s\u0103 \u015ftie lumea s\u0103 nu lucreze cu \u0163epari. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E) Beneficii pentru s\u0103n\u0103tate <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u0163i observat c\u0103, atunci c\u00e2nd sunte\u0163i bolnavi, m\u00e2\u0163a se lunge\u015fte peste voi \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 toarc\u0103. Torsul respectiv nu e doar cel mai lini\u015ftitor \u015fi alin\u0103tor sunet din univers. Speciali\u015ftii spun c\u0103 frecven\u0163ele sonore respective ajut\u0103 inima \u015fi sistemul circulator, contribuie la vindecarea r\u0103nilor \u015fi s\u0103n\u0103tatea oaselor, iar dac\u0103 suferi \u00een mod regulat de insomnii, torsul unei pisici e valeriana naturii, f\u0103r\u0103 efecte secundare. De c\u00e2nd am pisic\u0103, adorm de cum se tol\u0103ne\u015fte l\u00e2ng\u0103 mine, \u015fi m\u0103 trezesc doar c\u00e2nd rage de foame de sparge geamurile la \u015fase diminea\u0163a. Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaau. Zgura m\u0103-tii de bestie, morm\u0103i tu somnoros. Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaau. 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