{"id":24607,"date":"2023-03-04T10:43:13","date_gmt":"2023-03-04T07:43:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24607"},"modified":"2023-03-04T10:43:16","modified_gmt":"2023-03-04T07:43:16","slug":"invidia-nu-are-sens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/invidia-nu-are-sens\/","title":{"rendered":"Invidia nu are sens"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Unii oameni care aterizeaz\u0103 pe pagina mea spun lucruri care m\u0103 las\u0103 ca la dentist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De exemplu, nu m-a\u015f fi g\u00e2ndit vreodat\u0103 c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 m\u0103 simt cumva dac\u0103 altele primesc flori de 8 martie. Pentru c\u0103 a fost o decizie con\u015ftient\u0103 din partea mea s\u0103 nu caut o rela\u0163ie. Da, alta prime\u015fte flori, dar pentru asta se treze\u015fte diminea\u0163a s\u0103-i fac\u0103 micul dejun lui iubi \u015fi s\u0103-i preg\u0103teasc\u0103 sandvi\u015furi la pachet pentru job, ascult\u0103 sfor\u0103it noaptea la 3, are de dat socoteal\u0103 dac\u0103 vrea s\u0103 stea cu fetele dup\u0103 munc\u0103 la o cafea \u00een ora\u015f sau, dac\u0103 iubi e “tradi\u0163ional” (a se citi: nu \u015ftie s\u0103-\u015fi pr\u0103jeasc\u0103 singur c\u00e2rna\u0163i \u015fi s\u0103 felieze dou\u0103 ro\u015fii), \u0103la se \u015fi a\u015fteapt\u0103 ca ea s\u0103 vin\u0103 direct acas\u0103 dup\u0103 munc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 treac\u0103 prompt la crati\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Raportat la acest volum de munc\u0103 \u015fi de adecvare la nevoile altuia, un trandafir – sau mai mul\u0163i – de 8 martie nu mi se pare mare lucru. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00centotdeauna m-a \u015focat s\u0103 v\u0103d cum unii oameni invidiaz\u0103 ceva anume la semenii lor, dar nu au \u015fi capacitatea de a evalua ce anume au investit semenii lor s\u0103 ajung\u0103 acolo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De exemplu: mori de oftic\u0103 pe faptul c\u0103 prietenul t\u0103u are bani, ma\u015fin\u0103, face c\u0103l\u0103torii \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate. OK, dar \u00een multe cazuri, nu ai fi fost dispus s\u0103 investe\u015fti volumul de munc\u0103 \/ studiu \/ restul eforturilor pe care le-a asumat prietenul t\u0103u s\u0103 ajung\u0103 acolo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ai o invidie teribil\u0103 pe faptul c\u0103 o cuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103 are un tip care o duce peste tot \u00een lume. Dar nu \u015ftii ce e \u00een culisele acelei rela\u0163ii. Nu \u015ftii c\u00e2t efort depune femeia respectiv\u0103 pentru tipul care o duce peste tot \u00een lume. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aici, o s\u0103 intervin\u0103 unii s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 \u015fi ei muncesc mult, dar sunt pl\u0103ti\u0163i pu\u0163in, sau c\u0103 \u015fi ei investesc mult \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie, dar nu primesc trandafirul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Atunci, poate c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 v\u0103 renegocia\u0163i contractele de munc\u0103, respectiv dinamica de cuplu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei o chestie cu care NU merit\u0103 s\u0103 pierde\u0163i timp este invidia pe ceea ce are altul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca s\u0103 r\u0103spund punctual la \u00eentrebarea doamnei: nu, chiar nu e treaba pi\u0163ipoancelor de pe strad\u0103 cum te sim\u0163i tu. \u015ei nici nu are de ce s\u0103 fie. Ele nu au o responsabilitate fa\u0163\u0103 de tine. Nici fa\u0163\u0103 de sentimentele tale. Ele au o responsabilitate fa\u0163\u0103 de propriile persoane, fa\u0163\u0103 de sentimentele, nevoile \u015fi priorit\u0103\u0163ile lor. Iar dac\u0103 ai putea lua o not\u0103 de la ele, ar fi s\u0103-\u0163i asumi responsabilitatea fa\u0163\u0103 de sentimentele, nevoile \u015fi priorit\u0103\u0163ile tale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vrei o rela\u0163ie? Investe\u015fte \u00een a c\u0103uta omul potrivit \u015fi vezi ce faci s\u0103 te ridici la \u00een\u0103l\u0163imea ocaziei, atunci c\u00e2nd apare. Nu vrei o rela\u0163ie? Asum\u0103-\u0163i \u015fi avantajele statutului de persoan\u0103 singur\u0103 (libertatea de mi\u015fcare, control asupra propriului timp \u015fi propriilor bani, faptul c\u0103 ajungi acas\u0103 \u015fi po\u0163i s\u0103 stai cu un vinu\u0163 \u015fi cu pisicul la Netflix toat\u0103 seara, sau po\u0163i face un binge cu toate sezoanele din RuPaul’s Drag Race peste weekend, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te frece nimeni la icre c\u0103-i e foame, ca \u015fi cum asta ar fi problema ta), la pachet cu dezavantajele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Partea bun\u0103 e c\u0103, \u00een calitate de om singur, cheltuie\u015fti mai pu\u0163in dec\u00e2t \u00een cuplu. Sau cel pu\u0163in eu a\u015fa fac. C\u00e2nd sunt \u00een cuplu, nu m\u0103 pot ab\u0163ine s\u0103 nu fac cadouri la trei zile gen, pentru c\u0103 eu m\u0103 combin doar c\u00e2nd sunt intens captivat\u0103 de persoana cu care m\u0103 combin, \u015fi atunci, nu m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc dec\u00e2t la moduri \u00een care pot s\u0103-i provoc pl\u0103cere. Rezultatul e daun\u0103 masiv\u0103 la buget. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare, dac\u0103 faci toate aceste economii, po\u0163i, de 8 martie, s\u0103-\u0163i zide\u015fti casa \u00een trandafiri p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een tavan, cadou de la cel mai loial amant al t\u0103u: tu \u00eensu\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei te sim\u0163i bine, pentru c\u0103 e fain s\u0103 fii viu, liber \u015fi s\u0103 po\u0163i face tot ce vrei tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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