{"id":24692,"date":"2023-03-20T09:54:07","date_gmt":"2023-03-20T06:54:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24692"},"modified":"2023-03-20T09:54:10","modified_gmt":"2023-03-20T06:54:10","slug":"posta-redactiei-flirt-sau-prietenie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-flirt-sau-prietenie\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: Flirt sau prietenie?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimi(te)\u021bi problema voastr\u0103 de suflet pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Noi citim, cuget\u0103m \u0219i analiz\u0103m, apoi propunem o solu\u021bie sau d\u0103m o opinie \u00ceNTR-UN ARTICOL PE BLOG.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau \u00een consulta\u0163ie privat\u0103 remunerat\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Subliniez: dac\u0103 NU vrei s\u0103 scriu despre, NU-mi trimite o po\u015ft\u0103 a redac\u0163iei cu amendamentul \u201cdar vreau r\u0103spuns privat\u201d<\/strong>, dup\u0103 ce am citit un \u00eentreg roman fluviu. Exist\u0103 dou\u0103 op\u0163iuni: vrei formatul \u0103sta, sau \u00eemi recompensezi timpul. Merci de \u00een\u0163elegere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scrisorica de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Bun\u0103, Lorena, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunt X, sunt gay, lucrez \u00een corpora\u0163ie \u015fi am 27 de ani. Ar\u0103t bine, merg la sal\u0103, am grij\u0103 de mine, s\u0103 nu se vad\u0103 v\u00e2rsta, acum c\u0103 m\u0103 apropii de 30, \u015ftii cum e. Ajunge s\u0103 \u015ftii tu c\u0103 e\u015fti b\u0103tr\u00e2n, nu trebuie s\u0103 se citeasc\u0103 pe tine de la urm\u0103toarea intersec\u0163ie. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Una e s\u0103 te apropii de 30, dar stai s\u0103 vezi cum e c\u00e2nd te \u00eendep\u0103rtezi. Not\u0103 Lorena.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

M-am angajat nu de mult la o firm\u0103 destul de ok, nu spun domeniul c\u0103 te citesc unii de aici \u015fi n-am niciun chef s\u0103 m\u0103 recunoasc\u0103. Ideea e c\u0103 eu sunt genul super out, genul care n-a ie\u015fit din dulap pentru c\u0103 n-a stat niciodat\u0103 \u00een\u0103untru, \u015fi colectivul de aici e ok, foarte incluziv, nota 10. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am un coleg, un tip cu c\u00e2\u0163iva ani mai mare, super handsome, care mi-a zis din prima zi c\u0103 e straight \u015fi c\u0103 are prieten\u0103, dar tot din prima zi, e foarte prietenos cu mine. La modul mult prea prietenos. Vrea s\u0103 mergem la sal\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103, e foarte vorb\u0103re\u0163, vrea s\u0103 \u015ftie totul despre mine, m\u0103 ia \u00een bra\u0163e \u015fi \u00eemi d\u0103 senza\u0163ia c\u0103 flirteaz\u0103 toat\u0103 ziua. Dar nu uit\u0103 s\u0103 men\u0163ioneze cam la dou\u0103 ore c\u0103 e straight. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tipul e cute, a\u015f \u00eencerca ceva, mai ales c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 petrecem timp liber \u00eempreun\u0103. Dar dac\u0103 e chiar straight \u015fi o dau \u00een bar\u0103, \u015fi \u00eemi stric atmosfera ok de la munc\u0103 cu genul \u0103sta de ne\u00een\u0163elegere?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tu ce ai face?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu probabil c\u0103 a\u015f sta \u00een banca mea, pentru c\u0103, dup\u0103 cum spune o vorb\u0103 din b\u0103tr\u00e2ni, nu te catch sub fereastr\u0103 c\u0103-\u0163i pute pe la nas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu \u015ftii ce pl\u00e2ngere poate s\u0103 aterizeze la HR \u015fi apoi s\u0103 stai s\u0103 te justifici c\u0103 te-ai dat la colegul t\u0103u care \u0163i-a zis explicit c\u0103 e straight, \u015fi s\u0103 ai anchet\u0103 disciplinar\u0103. Nasolu\u0163. S\u0103 le explici unor tanti simandicoase cu c\u00e2te trei copii, care nu mai fac sex cu so\u0163ii lor de vreo cinci ani c\u0103 \u0103sta se tot b\u0103ga \u00een seam\u0103 cu tine nu prea merge. El poate spune c\u0103 era doar prietenos \u015fi tu un obsedat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar \u0163ie \u00ee\u0163i cam place \u0103sta, c\u0103 altfel nu-mi scriai. \u015ei ai un vibe c\u0103 \u0103stuia \u00eei placi tu, c\u0103 altfel te reprofilai rapid. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu-l cunosc pe tip, dar speculez: poate c\u0103 o face din curiozitate, sau poate c\u0103 are o atrac\u0163ie fa\u0163\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u0163i pe care nu \u015fi-o asum\u0103 – de aceea \u00ee\u0163i tot spune c\u0103 e straight – sau poate c\u0103 e un mod de a se da hard to get. \u00cen ideea c\u0103 a\u015fa te face s\u0103 te miloge\u015fti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce fac eu cu genul care se d\u0103 interesant \u00een acest mod? \u00cei cedez complet ini\u0163iativa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, mergi cu el la sal\u0103 dac\u0103 vrea la sal\u0103, ie\u015fi la b\u0103ut dac\u0103 \u0163ine neap\u0103rat s\u0103 mergi la b\u0103ut, dar fii c\u00e2t se poate de casual, nu ar\u0103ta semne de interes amoros \u015fi \u00eentreab\u0103-l de gagic\u0103-sa. Las\u0103-l s\u0103 se sparg\u0103 singur \u00een anchet\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 ini\u0163ieze el eventualele escal\u0103ri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A zis c\u0103 e straight? OK, pref\u0103-te c\u0103-l crezi \u015fi trateaz\u0103-l ca atare. Dac\u0103 joac\u0103 teatru prost cu tine, joac\u0103 \u015fi tu teatru prost cu el. La un moment dat, \u00eei cade masca. \u015ei c\u00e2nd \u00eei cade, tu, total \u015focat: P\u0103i, stai, n-ai zis tu c\u0103 erai straight? Sunt de-a dreptul siderat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uneori, e mai simplu s\u0103 joci \u00een piesa pe care o propune cel care intr\u0103 \u00een joc cu tine. Da, bro, suntem cei mai straight. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu c\u00e2t te agi\u0163i mai pu\u0163in, cu at\u00e2t genul hard to get renun\u0163\u0103 la figuri. Cu c\u00e2t mu\u015fti momeala \u015fi te miloge\u015fti de genul hard to get, cu at\u00e2t \u00eei alimentezi jocule\u0163ele de doi lei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember: nici m\u0103car Austin Butler n-ar merita s\u0103 \u00eenduri umilin\u0163a unei pl\u00e2ngeri pentru h\u0103r\u0163uire la HR. Mai ales dac\u0103 jobul e bun. R\u0103bdare \u015fi autocontrol. Vezi, asta e partea bun\u0103 c\u00e2nd te apropii de 30, \u015fi cu at\u00e2t mai mult c\u00e2nd te \u00eendep\u0103rtezi. Nu te mai bazezi pe erec\u0163ii ca la 20 de ani, \u00een schimb autocontrolul nu te las\u0103 niciodat\u0103 la greu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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