{"id":24860,"date":"2023-04-22T07:33:51","date_gmt":"2023-04-22T04:33:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24860"},"modified":"2023-04-22T07:33:53","modified_gmt":"2023-04-22T04:33:53","slug":"nu-mai-blamati-femeile-nemaritate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-mai-blamati-femeile-nemaritate\/","title":{"rendered":"Nu mai blama\u021bi femeile nem\u0103ritate"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Poate cea mai jignitoare \u0219i stupid\u0103 discu\u021bie de dup\u0103 decesul Iuliei Marin a fost ini\u021biat\u0103 de comentatorii – \u0219i da, comentatoarele, \u0219i da, e \u0219ocant \u0219i dureros s\u0103 vezi femei propag\u00e2nd mentalit\u0103\u021bi misogine – care au venit pe post\u0103rile care o depl\u00e2ngeau \u0219i au \u00eenceput s\u0103 bat\u0103 c\u00e2mpii, c\u0103 evident c\u0103 o femeie f\u0103r\u0103 so\u021b \u0219i copii la 30 de ani e bolnav\u0103 psihic \u0219i evident c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i pune cap\u0103t zilelor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suntem multe care am trecut de ceva timp de 30, f\u0103r\u0103 so\u021b \u0219i copii; \u0219i continu\u0103m s\u0103 tr\u0103im c\u00e2t se poate de fericite. \u0218i sunt multe care se m\u0103rit\u0103 de la 18 \u0219i ajung s\u0103-\u0219i pun\u0103 cap\u0103t zilelor \u00eentr-un moment \u00een care boala psihic\u0103 scap\u0103 de sub control. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i asta dintr-un motiv extrem de simplu: statutul conjugal \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tatea mintal\u0103 NU au nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 una cu alta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ar fi minunat dac\u0103 am \u00eenceta s\u0103 le transmitem femeilor pe toate c\u0103ile, \u0219i prin toate mijloacele, c\u0103 singurul lor rost \u00een via\u021b\u0103 e s\u0103 aib\u0103 so\u021b \u0219i copii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unu la m\u00e2n\u0103: e fals. Sunt multe femei care pur \u0219i simplu sunt croite pentru singur\u0103tate \u0219i nu \u0219tiu pentru nimic \u00een lume s\u0103 ajung\u0103 la un numitor comun cu un b\u0103rbat, nici dac\u0103 via\u021ba lor depinde de asta. S\u0103 insi\u0219ti c\u0103 tu \u0219tii mai bine dec\u00e2t acest tip de femei cum ar trebui ele s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103, de\u0219i nu le cuno\u0219ti \u0219i nu \u00een\u021belegi ce le anim\u0103 e stupid \u0219i extrem, dar extrem de nociv. Sunt femei care, pur \u0219i simplu, NU AU abilitatea de a avea grij\u0103 de copii. \u00cei fac de gura familiei \u0219i vecinilor, \u0219i \u00eei \u021bin \u00een urlete \u0219i b\u0103taie, \u0219i cu acuza\u0163ii aberante, s\u0103 distrag\u0103 aten\u0163ia de la faptul c\u0103 sunt ni\u015fte mame execrabile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toate aceste femei ajung \u00een situa\u0163ii nefericite pentru c\u0103 le spun societatea, familia, vecinele \u0219i gigel de pe net s\u0103 se m\u0103rite \u015fi s\u0103 fac\u0103 copii \u0219i multe nu au for\u021ba interioar\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i clarifice ele pentru ele ce-\u0219i doresc de fapt, dincolo de t\u0103r\u0103boiul din jur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dou\u0103 la m\u00e2n\u0103: dac\u0103 nu po\u021bi fi fericit \u0219i echilibrat de unul singur, \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie \/ c\u0103s\u0103torie nu vei face dec\u00e2t s\u0103-l \u00eempov\u0103rezi \u0219i pe cel\u0103lalt cu frustr\u0103ri, acuze stupide, crize de isterie nejustificat\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103-i otr\u0103ve\u0219ti zilele cu tot iadul t\u0103u interior. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, am zis-o. Trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tii s\u0103 fii fericit singur, \u00eenainte de a fi fericit cu al\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 nu ai iubire s\u0103-\u021bi oferi \u021bie, nu vei avea iubire de oferit nim\u0103nui, dup\u0103 cum corect o spune regina noastr\u0103 a tuturor, RuPaul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Trei la m\u00e2n\u0103: multe femei au de urmat un vis personal, o ambi\u021bie, un drum al carierei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar societatea e \u00eenc\u0103 at\u00e2t de pervers\u0103, mai ales la noi, \u00eenc\u00e2t, dac\u0103 un b\u0103rbat are un vis, \u00eei seteaz\u0103 partenerei acestuia a\u0219teptarea fireasc\u0103 s\u0103-l sus\u021bin\u0103 cu tot ce are, pentru c\u0103 asta face o partener\u0103 devotat\u0103. \u00cen schimb, dac\u0103 o femeie are un vis, toat\u0103 lumea va face concurs \u00een a-i explica cum trebuie s\u0103 “lase prostiile”, acum c\u0103 e \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie serioas\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 are un b\u0103rbat cu preten\u0163ii normale la timpul, munca \u015fi aten\u0163ia ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, pentru o femeie, o c\u0103s\u0103torie e \u00een multe situa\u0163ii ca \u00een mema aia pe care o citez aproximativ din memorie: “Credeai c\u0103 o c\u0103s\u0103torie \u00ee\u0163i rezolv\u0103 problemele? Nu doar c\u0103 nu \u0163i le rezolv\u0103, dar acum le ai \u015fi pe ale lui, \u015fi mai \u015fi s**i p**a pe deasupra.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Patru la m\u00e2n\u0103: Problema “g\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i \u015fi tu pe unu”. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Istoric, femeile nu aveau dreptul la avere \u015fi nu aveau dreptul la un loc de munc\u0103 pl\u0103tit. Prin urmare, aveau zero valoare social\u0103, \u015fi societatea le presa s\u0103 se m\u0103rite c\u00e2t mai repede, c\u0103 altfel erau doar o povar\u0103 pe capul p\u0103rin\u0163ilor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aici \u015fi mentalitatea “g\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i \u015fi tu pe unu”, unul care o fi el, irelevant c\u00e2t e de lepr\u0103 \u015fi de loaz\u0103. De aceea sunt at\u00e2tea c\u0103s\u0103torii de co\u015fmar. Pentru c\u0103 n-a stat nimeni s\u0103 caute un b\u0103rbat compatibil \u00een dorin\u0163e, emo\u0163ii, fel de a fi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Orice sac \u00ee\u015fi are peticul, dar dac\u0103 tu cedezi la presiunea de a te mul\u0163umi cu primul petic care se nimere\u015fte, gaura nu va face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 se ad\u00e2nceasc\u0103, if you get my drift. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Presiunea de “a g\u0103si pe unul” din partea neamurilor creeaz\u0103 un stres \u015fi o tensiune de nedescris \u00een via\u0163a unor fete care \u00een rest, se descurc\u0103 de minune, au o locuin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi un job ok, au un cerc social excelent, se bucur\u0103 de via\u0163a lor, apoi sun\u0103 m\u0103micu\u0163a din Moldova s\u0103 \u00eei spun\u0103 c\u0103 nimic din toate astea nu valoreaz\u0103 nimic f\u0103r\u0103 un jijiel \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 o hoard\u0103 de plozi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Nu, nu s\u0103ri\u0163i pe capul meu, Moldova e pus\u0103 random. Putea fi oricare provincie, pentru c\u0103 m\u0103micu\u0163ele astea care nu pot aprecia fericirea \u015fi lini\u015ftea din via\u0163a ta prezent\u0103 \u015fi simt s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 cum ar trebui tu ideal s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti sunt peste tot.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A fost un chin s\u0103 nu fiu sus\u0163inut\u0103 \u00een facultate \u015fi s\u0103 jonglez cu un job fulltime \u015fi cu \u015fcoala \u00een acela\u015fi timp. Dar a fost \u015fi o binecuv\u00e2ntare, pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 nu datorezi nimic p\u0103rin\u0163ilor, po\u0163i s\u0103 le spui sec \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eenflorituri s\u0103-\u015fi bage a\u015ftept\u0103rile neconforme cu personalitatea ta acolo unde \u015fi-au b\u0103gat \u015fi banii c\u00e2nd aveai tu nevoie de ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, \u0103sta e punctul final al acestui articol. Unele nu suntem m\u0103ritate \u015fi nu avem copii dintr-un motiv extrem de simplu. Nu se potrive\u015fte cu stilul nostru de via\u0163\u0103. \u015ei suntem fericite cu stilul nostru de via\u0163\u0103, deci nu, nu ne intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 intr\u0103m \u00eentr-o stare de nefericire social acceptat\u0103, de gura voastr\u0103. Prefer\u0103m s\u0103 ne \u00eenjura\u0163i pe net. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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