{"id":24969,"date":"2023-05-23T07:15:53","date_gmt":"2023-05-23T04:15:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=24969"},"modified":"2023-05-23T07:15:55","modified_gmt":"2023-05-23T04:15:55","slug":"posta-redactiei-colega-mea-insuportabila","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-colega-mea-insuportabila\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: colega mea insuportabil\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Noi citim, cuget\u0103m \u0219i analiz\u0103m, apoi propunem o solu\u021bie sau d\u0103m o opinie \u00ceNTR-UN ARTICOL PE BLOG.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sau \u00een consulta\u0163ie privat\u0103, contra cost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mesajul de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Bun\u0103, Lorena!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Sunt din nou \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie ciudat\u0103 la job, \u0219i nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 lucrurile se pot rezolva sau e cazul s\u0103 \u00eemi&nbsp;dau demisia, de\u0219i \u00eenclin mai mult spre cea de-a doua variant\u0103.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Dup\u0103 ce am fost concediat\u0103 abuziv de la locul de munc\u0103 anterior, mi-am actualizat profilul de LinkedIn, \u0219i a doua zi am fost sunat\u0103 de o tip\u0103 ce m-a&nbsp;abordat un pic cam neprofesional (m-a&nbsp;luat la per tu, de\u0219i nu ne cunoa\u0219tem, m-a&nbsp;luat la \u00eentreb\u0103ri cam personale, inclusiv legate de relgia&nbsp;mea \u0219i na\u021bionalitatea mea &#8211; a spus c\u0103 m-a&nbsp;c\u0103utat pe social media \u0219i a observat c\u0103 sunt de o alt\u0103 confesiune religioas\u0103, \u0219i c\u0103 din fizionomia mea \u00ee\u0219i d\u0103 seama c\u0103 nu sunt rom\u00e2nc\u0103, mi-a povestit nesolicitat detalii din via\u021ba ei personal\u0103 \u0219i de familie, etc). Am trecut acestea cu vederea, \u0219i am acceptat jobul oferit, deoarece avea un site frumos construit, oferea un job \u00een home office cu un salariu chiar ok, iar interviul cu patronul a fost chiar ok &#8211; \u0219i patronul chiar este un om foarte ok, dar este cam bleg &#8211; \u0219i voi relata asta \u00een cele ce urmeaz\u0103.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Cum am lucrat \u0219i \u00eenainte timp de un an \u00eentr-o firm\u0103 cu acela\u0219i obiect de activitate, organizat\u0103 \u00eentr-un mod similar, m-am adaptat \u00een cam 3 zile, \u0219i am dat drumul la treab\u0103. Toate \u00eentreb\u0103rile pe care le aveam le-am pus patronului, c\u0103 a\u0219a mi se ceruse s\u0103 fac. \u00cens\u0103 fericirea nu a durat mult timp. Voi detalia mai jos pe subcapitole, deoarece sunt foarte foarte multe &#8220;faze&#8221; care mi s-au \u00eent\u00e2mplat cu colega mea, M.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Faza babysitter gratuit:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>M se v\u0103ita de situa\u021bia ei familial\u0103. Avea un so\u021b cum \u00eel avea, problema ei c\u0103 dorea s\u0103 stea cu un b\u0103rbat abuziv \u0219i consumator de droguri (de consumul de droguri am aflat mult mai t\u00e2rziu- ea \u00eemi spunea c\u0103 ar divor\u021ba, dar familia ei nu este de acord). M-a&nbsp;rugat \u00eentr-o zi s\u0103 vin s\u0103 \u00eei stau cu copilul o or\u0103. Am acceptat. Apoi, a vrut s\u0103 stau cu copilul iar, tot pentru o or\u0103, de data asta, seara. Men\u021bionez c\u0103 ea locuia \u00eentr-un or\u0103\u0219el \u00een apropiere, iar eu am avut extrem de proasta&nbsp;inspira\u021bie s\u0103 plec c\u0103tre locuin\u021ba ei cu trotineta electric\u0103. \u00centre timp, se f\u0103cuse ora 18:00, deci trecuse o or\u0103 \u0219i jum\u0103tate \u00een loc de o or\u0103, \u0219i am sunat-o. Am \u021binut-o cu telefoanele tot a\u0219a, din or\u0103 \u00een or\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 s-a f\u0103cut 1:30 diminea\u021ba. \u00centre timp, m\u0103 apucase \u0219i panica, \u0219i \u00eemi sunasem mama. Nu mai \u0219tiam ce s\u0103 fac. La 1:30 diminea\u021ba, M mi-a spus c\u0103 dac\u0103 sunt o iresponsabil\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 inim\u0103, pot s\u0103 las copilul singur \u0219i s\u0103 plec. Am pus-o s\u0103 \u00eemi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 taxiul p\u00e2n\u0103 acas\u0103, fapt pe care ea l-a p\u00e2r\u00e2t patronului. A\u0219a am aflat de la patron c\u0103 ea era de fapt \u00een urgen\u021be, cu so\u021bul ei care luase o supradoz\u0103. Asta mi-a \u00eent\u0103rit \u0219i mai mult convingerea s\u0103 nu mai calc vreodat\u0103 \u00een&nbsp;casa ei. Bine\u00een\u021beles c\u0103 m-a&nbsp;mai solicitat, \u0219i odat\u0103 a \u0219i pl\u00e2ns la telefon c\u0103 am refuzat-o.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Faza Any Desk:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>M a \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i bage nasul \u00een proiectele mele, spun\u00e2nd c\u0103 a \u00eens\u0103rcinat-o&nbsp;patronul s\u0103 m\u0103 verifice. Am luat asta ca atare, nu am \u00eentrebat patronul (ne-a spus s\u0103 \u00eel deranj\u0103m c\u00e2t mai pu\u021bin \u00een acea zi, deoarece se afla \u00eentr-o conferin\u021b\u0103), \u0219i m-am l\u0103sat verificat\u0103. M-a&nbsp;pus s\u0103 instalez Any Desk \u0219i am f\u0103cut asta, nu mi-am b\u0103tut prea tare capul. Doar nu aveam nimic de ascuns. \u00cens\u0103 asta a fost doar prima dat\u0103. Mereu M trebuia s\u0103&nbsp;\u0219tie ce fac eu, \u00een ce stadiu se afl\u0103 proiectele mele, ce am f\u0103cut, etc. De obicei nu eram atent\u0103 la ce \u00eemi face M pe laptop, prin Any Desk, \u00eens\u0103 odat\u0103 am v\u0103zut-o cum deschide mailul meu personal, ata\u0219eaz\u0103 acolo o baz\u0103 de date creat\u0103 de mine, pe care \u0219i-o trimite pe mailul ei personal. \u00cen secunda&nbsp;de dinainte s\u0103 dea send, am oprit Any Desk. M\u0103 sun\u0103, \u0219i m\u0103 \u00eentreab\u0103 dac\u0103 nu sunt \u00een pauz\u0103, deoarece ea \u00eemi d\u0103duse pauz\u0103. Nu a \u00eentebat de ce am oprit Any Desk. De nervi, am sunat direct patronul \u0219i i-am explicat situa\u021bia. Ini\u021bial nu m-a&nbsp;crezut. \u0218i \u00een acea dup\u0103-amiaz\u0103, am povestit totul psihoterapeutei mele, care nu a crezut nici ea. \u00cen timpul orei de psihoterapie, m-a sunat patronul, evident i-am dat ocupat, l-am sunat dup\u0103, iar el p\u0103rea impacientat. \u0218i-a cerut scuze c\u0103 nu m-a crezut, a verificat lucrurile, \u0219i a\u0219a am aflat c\u0103 M a furat mai multe baze de date de la mine, a spus c\u0103 sunt muncite de ea, \u0219i nu \u00een\u021belegea de ce am eu baze de date identice. C\u00e2nd a \u00eentrebat-o pe M, aceasta a spus c\u0103 ea mi-a dat bazele de date c\u0103 eu nu m\u0103 prea descurc, \u0219i din \u0103stea. (Am verificat ulterior mailul personal, \u0219i nu erau acolo alte mailuri trimise &#8211; ea le \u0219tergea dup\u0103 ce le trimitea &#8211; totu\u0219i le-am g\u0103sit \u00een co\u0219ul de gunoi, am f\u0103cut screenshot \u0219i am putut a\u0219a dovedi totul). Patronul a avut o discu\u021bie \u0219i faza Any Desk s-a \u00eencheiat &#8211; dar nu \u0219i obsesia de verificare \u0219i stresul cauzat de M.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Faza sunatului obsesiv \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 rost<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>M a \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 sune. Deja la al doilea ei telefon de genul, am anun\u021bat patronul. I-a atras aten\u021bia lui M, \u00eens\u0103 M tot m\u0103 suna din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd.Odat\u0103, de nervi, am \u00eenchis de tot telefonul. A\u0219a c\u0103 mi-a trimis un mail plin de tot felul de directive pe e-mailul de job. C\u00e2nd am deschis telefonul, aveam 3 apeluri pierdute de la patron. (apropo, \u00eentre timp, so\u021bul lui M murise de supradoz\u0103 &#8211; om t\u00e2n\u0103r, la 26 ani, s\u0103n\u0103tos&#8230;) Patronul mi-a spus c\u0103 normal ar fi vrut s\u0103 o dea afar\u0103 pe M, dar nu poate, c\u0103 acum i-a \u0219i murit so\u021bul, \u0219i e singur\u0103, cu un copil de 2 ani, \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 niciun&nbsp; sprijin. I-a interzis lui M s\u0103 m\u0103 contacteze, dar ea tot a\u0219a suna, ori s\u0103 se vaite, ori s\u0103 \u00eemi cear\u0103 s\u0103 stau cu copilul, ori s\u0103 \u00eemi&nbsp;dea directive.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Faza&nbsp;&#8220;m\u00e2ncarea&#8221;: a fost o zi \u00een care a trebuit s\u0103 muncim de la birou. Ea \u0219i-a adus \u0219i copilul ei (care pare a fi autist, foarte energic, foarte zv\u0103p\u0103iat, care nu vorbe\u0219te, de\u0219i are aproape 3 ani, doar url\u0103 ascu\u021bit &#8211; m-a&nbsp;c\u0103lcat pe nervi maxim \u00eentreaga zi, inclusiv m-a&nbsp;mu\u0219cat de dou\u0103 ori &#8211; a\u0219a a fost \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd am stat cu el, era un chin s\u0103 ai grij\u0103 de a\u0219a copil) \u0219i a spus c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 comand\u0103m m\u00e2ncare. Eu i-am spus c\u0103 poate comanda pentru ea, dar eu nu doresc s\u0103 comand nimic &#8211; atunci a \u00eenceput o discu\u021bie stupid\u0103 despre ce fac eu cu banii, de ce nu \u00eemi ajung banii, tot felul de prostii &#8211; degeaba \u00eei spuneam eu ei c\u0103 eu nu m\u0103n\u0103nc&nbsp;fast-food de ceva timp, etc, ea o \u021binea pe a ei. Se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 aleag\u0103 fast-foodul&nbsp;de la care vrea s\u0103 comande, \u00eemi tr\u00e2nte\u0219te telefonul \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 s\u0103 aleg, eu \u00eei repet c\u0103 nu voi comanda nimic, \u0219i c\u0103 am m\u00e2ncarea deja adus\u0103 cu mine. Ofteaz\u0103. C\u00e2nd s\u0103 plaseze comanda, hopa, nu \u00eei merge cardul. M\u0103 roag\u0103 s\u0103 o las s\u0103 comande de la mine, de pe cardul meu, \u0219i \u00eemi spune&nbsp;c\u0103 \u0103mi&nbsp;va trimite banii \u00een ziua de salariu. Dorind s\u0103 scap de ea, \u00eei spun c\u0103 pot comanda eu pentru ea.<\/strong> <strong>Deschid aplica\u021bia de food delivery, \u00eei \u00eenm\u00e2nez telefonul, g\u00e2ndind c\u0103 a\u0219a e mai politicos. C\u00e2nd vine b\u0103iatul cu m\u00e2ncarea, acolo erau 4 por\u021bii de m\u00e2ncare, 3 por\u021bii mari \u0219i o por\u021bie medie. F\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebe, M \u00eemi pune o por\u021bie \u00een fa\u021b\u0103, eu refuz \u0219i \u00eei spun s\u0103 ia ea acea por\u021bie, deoarece am spus clar c\u0103 nu comand, nu m\u0103n\u00e2nc. Mi-am scos frumos caserola cu budinc\u0103 de chia, mi-am pus fructele t\u0103iate din cealalt\u0103 caserol\u0103 \u0219i fulgii de cocos deasupra, i-am urat poft\u0103 bun\u0103 \u0219i mi-am v\u0103zut de ale mele. Ea mi-a repro\u0219at c\u0103 o fac s\u0103 se simt\u0103 prost, c\u0103 ce m\u0103n\u00e2nc eu nu este m\u00e2ncare, c\u0103 a comandat degeaba pentru mine, etc. A zis c\u0103 a comandat o por\u021bie pentru mine, una pentru ea, cea medie pentru copil, \u0219i cealalt\u0103, s\u0103 o avem \u00een caz c\u0103 nu ne ajunge. Nu i-am zis nimic. A plecat acas\u0103 cu 3 caserole, deoarece copilul a m\u00e2ncat din caserola ei, oricum. Aaa, a comandat \u0219i 4 doze de cola. Nici nu m-a&nbsp;\u00eentrebat dac\u0103 vreau, le-a b\u0103gat \u00een geant\u0103, de\u0219i eu aveam o sticl\u0103 de cola, era evident c\u0103 beau a\u0219a ceva. M-am uitat seara pe aplica\u021bie, comandase de 215 lei. C\u00e2nd a venit salariul, mi-a trimis pe aplica\u021bia bancar\u0103 doar 68 lei, a mai avut \u0219i obr\u0103znicia s\u0103 \u00eemi&nbsp;scrie un mesaj c\u0103 ea pl\u0103te\u0219te doar por\u021bia ei \u0219i a copilului, \u0219i c\u0103 nu e vina ei c\u0103 eu nu am vrut s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc. C\u0103 probabil a comandat special s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i fac\u0103 provizii acas\u0103, \u0219i c\u0103 cele&nbsp;4 doze de cola nu erau \u00een meniu, ci comandate extra, \u0219i c\u0103 oricum o por\u021bie medie \u0219i o por\u021bie mare costau 85 lei, nu 68, nu a zis nimic. A doua oar\u0103 c\u00e2nd a fost cazul s\u0103 comand\u0103m la birou, i-am spus clar: &#8220;cine nu are bani, s\u0103 nu m\u0103n\u00e2nce&#8221;. S-a&nbsp;uitat ciudat la mine, nu a zis nimic, \u0219i a zis c\u0103 pleac\u0103 acas\u0103 \u0219i \u00ee\u0219i&nbsp;continu\u0103 munca de acolo.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00cen tot acest timp, timp \u00een care s-au mai \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u0219i altele, dar deja am scris un roman \u00eentreg, \u0219i dac\u0103 a\u0219 detalia \u0219i alte lucruri, nu \u0219tiu cine ar mai citi tot ce am scris, patronul ba m\u0103 suna s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i cear\u0103 scuze \u00een numele colegei M, ba \u00eemi spunea s\u0103 o \u00een\u021beleg&#8230; A venit \u0219i momentul \u00een care M a spus c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i d\u0103 demisia, \u0219i asta m\u0103 face s\u0103 cred c\u0103 se vor rezolva lucrurile. Dar parc\u0103 o v\u0103d r\u0103zg\u00e2ndindu-se&#8230; Mi-ar p\u0103rea r\u0103u \u0219i s\u0103 plec, patronul e cumsecade \u00een rest, jobul e ok, a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 stau s\u0103 fac un an \u00een aceast\u0103 firm\u0103, c\u0103 a\u0219a a\u0219 avea \u0219i eu 2 ani \u00een domeniul meu de activitate, \u0219i a\u0219 putea cere apoi un salariu mai mare unde m\u0103 voi duce. \u00cemi e \u0219i lene s\u0103 caut alt job acum, am \u0219i concediul mult-a\u0219teptat&nbsp;programat \u00een iulie, dar m\u0103 iau \u0219i durerile de stomac \u0219i stresul c\u00e2nd m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc la ce ar mai putea face M \u0219i la cum patronul st\u0103 \u0219i \u00eenghite toate m\u0103g\u0103riile&nbsp;ei. Nu \u0219tiu ce s\u0103 fac; s\u0103 plec acum, s\u0103 \u00eemi&nbsp;dau demisia dup\u0103 concediul din iulie, s\u0103 plec dup\u0103 ce \u00eemplinesc un an \u00een firm\u0103, sau s\u0103 sper c\u0103 M va pleca \u0219i se vor \u00eendrepta lucrurile?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Apropo, colega&nbsp;care a construit frumos site-ul \u0219i se ocupa&nbsp;\u00eenaintea mea de marketingul firmei a plecat dup\u0103 3 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni dup\u0103 ce a venit M, de pe o zi pe alta, cu demisie la zi, asta de\u0219i avea aproape 7 ani \u00een firm\u0103. Iar eu tind s\u0103 cred c\u0103 a plecat din cauza lui M.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Scuze c\u0103 mai scriu \u0219i asta, dar acum mi-am amintit \u0219i nu m\u0103 pot ab\u021bine s\u0103 nu scriu, dar M avea de comentat despre tot ceea ce f\u0103ceam eu pe partea de marketing, inclusiv chestii despre care habar nu avea, gen \u00eemi spunea cum s\u0103 editez o imagine, comenta c\u0103 am pl\u0103tit prea mult pe reclame, \u0219i multe altele. Inclusiv mi-a f\u0103cut observa\u021bie c\u0103 am scris toate substantivele din limba german\u0103 cu liter\u0103 mare, atunci c\u00e2nd postam reclame pentru Germania &#8211; ea nu \u0219tie oricum nicio limb\u0103 str\u0103in\u0103, \u0219i c\u00e2nd i-am spus c\u0103 \u00een german\u0103 toate substantivele se scriu cu liter\u0103 mare, a vrut s\u0103 se certe cu mine, dar i-am \u00eenchis telefonul \u00een nas c\u0103 nu mai suportam s\u0103 m\u0103 cert, iar apoi mi-am \u00eenchis iar telefonul de tot.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nici nu \u0219tiu ce s\u0103 fac acum. \u0218tiu c\u0103 de multe ori nu am avut nici eu atitudinea potrivit\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de M, dar uneori nici nu mai \u0219tiam ce s\u0103 fac. De exemplu, nu a fost cel mai frumos lucru din lume c\u0103 am tratat-o uneori prea dur, gen i-am spus &#8220;te rog s\u0103 taci&#8221;, &#8220;vezi-\u021bi de ciorbele tale&#8221;, &#8220;nu m\u0103 prive\u0219te&#8221;, sau i-am \u00eenchis telefonul \u00een nas, sau am p\u00e2r\u00e2t-o patronului, sau m-am f\u0103cut c\u0103 nu o aud, sau \u00eei r\u0103spundeam&nbsp;la multele ei \u00eentteb\u0103ri&nbsp;\u00een limba englez\u0103 (limb\u0103 pe care ea pretindea c\u0103 o \u0219tie, dar nu \u00een\u021belege nimic \u0219i nu \u0219tie s\u0103 spun\u0103 nici &#8220;mama&#8221; pe englez\u0103). Dar a\u0219a nervi mi-a f\u0103cut&#8230;&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Mai a\u0219 avea o \u00eentrebare: de ce eu mereu nimeresc \u00een astfel de colective, cu a\u0219a gen de oameni? Am cumva eu un &#8220;magnet de pro\u0219ti&#8221;? Tot mereu atrag \u00een via\u021ba mea oameni negativi.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Mul\u021bumesc mult pentru tot timpul acordat.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Cu stim\u0103,&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu \u00een\u021beleg de ce vrei s\u0103 demisionezi. Sincer, nu \u00een\u021beleg. \u00cen\u021belegeam dac\u0103 patronul era convins c\u0103 dobitoaca e o sf\u00e2nt\u0103 \u0219i \u00eencerca s\u0103 te scoat\u0103 pe tine \u021bap isp\u0103\u0219itor, c\u0103 am v\u0103zut faze de genul. Dar nu e cazul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Confirm, aia e o idioat\u0103. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, pari s-o domini cu succes. \u021ai-ai impus boundaries, nu te mai duci  babysitter moca, nu i-ai mai permis s\u0103-\u021bi monitorizeze laptopul, nu-i mai comanzi tu m\u00e2ncare, \u00eei \u00eenchizi telefonul c\u00e2nd se dobitoce\u0219te cu tine. You handle her just fine. De ce s\u0103-\u021bi dai tot tu demisia? Continu\u0103 s-o bagi \u00een a m\u0103-sii c\u00e2nd se cere insistent b\u0103gat\u0103 \u00een a m\u0103-sii \u0219i gata. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Patronul nu e bleg. Vede \u0219i el ce imbecil\u0103 are pe cap. Dar patronul \u00een\u021belege \u0219i faptul c\u0103 e o femeie destul de b\u0103tut\u0103 de soart\u0103, cu un copil autist \u015fi un so\u021b dependent de droguri, care a mai \u0219i murit, \u0219i alege s\u0103 nu-i r\u0103peasc\u0103 ultima surs\u0103 de stabilitate. Unii oameni sunt mai empatici fa\u021b\u0103 de semenii lor. Iar tu ar trebui s\u0103 respec\u0163i asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A fi empatic nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 mergi babysitter ore \u00een \u0219ir din timpul t\u0103u liber, sau s\u0103 te la\u0219i jepc\u0103rit, sau terorizat. \u00censeamn\u0103, pur \u0219i simplu, s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 aia are o via\u021b\u0103 extrem de grea, \u0219i s\u0103 accep\u021bi c\u0103 exist\u0103 \u0219i ea sub soare, f\u0103r\u0103 drame inutile \u0219i patetisme de genul &#8220;De ce numai eu nimeresc \u00eentre idio\u0163i&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Get your head out of your own a$$, missie. Crezi c\u0103 exist\u0103 pe lumea asta un loc de munc\u0103 perfect?? Crezi c\u0103 exist\u0103 un spa\u0163iu \u00een care s\u0103 nu existe minimum un idiot? Newsflash: NU! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Peste tot sunt idio\u0163i, nu te mai autocomp\u0103timi, c\u0103 nu e cazul, \u015fi prive\u015fte situa\u0163ia \u00een ansamblu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un loc de munc\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 fie hotel de cinci stele &#8211; dac\u0103 nu e\u015fti camerist\u0103, lol &#8211; ci un spa\u0163iu \u00een care munce\u015fti pentru un salariu. \u015ei try your best s\u0103 coexi\u015fti cu diver\u015fi pentru respectivul salariu. Dac\u0103 respectivii diver\u015fi sunt cretini \u015fi nesim\u0163i\u0163i, a\u015fa cum e colega ta, \u00eei tufi frumu\u015fel \u00een bot \u015fi le setezi boundaries. Dar nu faci o dram\u0103 narcisist\u0103 din asta: &#8220;Numai mie mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 bruhuhu.&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">NI SE \u00ceNT\u00c2MPL\u0102 TUTUROR. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u015ei eu am o problem\u0103 cu haterii abuzivi de pe pagina mea. Apoi, intru pe pagin\u0103 la Loredana, unde v\u0103d c\u0103 o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de cretini o freac\u0103 zilnic la cap s\u0103 lase opera\u0163iile \u015fi s\u0103 &#8220;\u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2neasc\u0103 gra\u0163ios&#8221;, \u015fi-mi trece instant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">E o lume plin\u0103 de cretini, \u015fi tot ce putem face e s\u0103-i trimitem la cote\u0163, c\u00e2nd e cazul. Mai ales dac\u0103 cretina ta nu are nici o putere s\u0103-\u0163i bage str\u00e2mbe la management, \u015fi \u015feful vede clar c\u0103 e b\u0103tut\u0103 \u00een cap, dar o \u0163ine din mil\u0103, pentru c\u0103 e mam\u0103 de copil autist, las-o \u00een plata domnului \u015fi vezi-\u0163i dumitale de munca ta (e o referin\u0163\u0103 cultural\u0103, nu mai \u015ftiu care actor de alt\u0103dat\u0103 se trezise s\u0103 frece la icre un confrate legat de cum s\u0103-\u015fi joace rolul, iar confratele i-a replicat: Vezi-\u0163i dumitale de rolul t\u0103u.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 e s\u0103 g\u00e2nde\u015fti situa\u0163ia \u00een ansamblu, e\u015fti norocoas\u0103. Puteai fi tu femeia cu un iubit narcoman \u015fi un copil autist. Stai pe c t\u0103u, dac\u0103 jobul e ok \u015fi patronul e o persoan\u0103 decent\u0103, \u015fi d\u0103-i jet succesiv cretinei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cam at\u00e2t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acest site \u00ee\u015fi poate continua activitatea doar cu sus\u0163inerea cititorilor.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><strong>Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? 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