Am nevoie de un sfat. Am f\u0103cut o mare-mare prostie \u0219i acum nu am solu\u021bie. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am g\u0103sit un tip mi\u0219to pe un site de sugar dating. IT-ist, sobru dar finu\u021b, generos, foarte simpatic, nota zece. A \u00een\u021beles din prima c\u0103 natura rela\u021biei noastre e \u00een primul r\u00e2nd financiar\u0103 \u0219i nu mi-a f\u0103cut drame. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar eu, Lorena, am o sl\u0103biciune. C\u00e2nd un b\u0103rbat arunc\u0103 cu banii \u0219i nu face pe calicul, m\u0103 \u00eendr\u0103gostesc. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Problema cu \u0103sta e c\u0103 are nevast\u0103 \u0219i copii. Dar, cumva, nu \u0219tiu cum, are timp \u0219i bani de o aventur\u0103 perfect\u0103, \u0219i \u0219tie s\u0103 fie \u0219i romantic, \u0219i amuzant, \u0219i relaxat, \u0219i cald… <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe scurt, am hot\u0103r\u00e2t s\u0103-l am pentru mine \u0219i atunci am r\u0103mas \u00eens\u0103rcinat\u0103. L-am convins s\u0103 nu folosim prezervative \u0219i l-am min\u021bit c\u0103 iau anticoncep\u021bionale. Poate c\u0103 o s\u0103 zici c\u0103 nu e corect ce am f\u0103cut, dar trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi. P\u0103rea c\u0103 m\u0103 place mult, m-am g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 a\u0219a voi avea acest b\u0103rbat minunat doar pentru mine. Dar el, c\u00e2nd a auzit, mi-a propus doar s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 avortul. \u00cen caz contrar, mi-a spus c\u0103 va trebui s\u0103 rupem rela\u021bia, pentru c\u0103 el nu-\u0219i poate asuma o a doua familie. Dac\u0103 fac copilul, va cotiza pentru \u00eentre\u021binerea lui, dar nu ne vom mai vedea, pentru c\u0103 nu a fost de acord cu aranjamentul \u0103sta \u0219i consider\u0103 c\u0103 am \u00eenc\u0103lcat limitele negociate ale \u00een\u021belegerii noastre. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sunt devastat\u0103, Lorena. Dac\u0103 fac avort, \u021bi-e clar c\u0103 nu mai pot accepta dr\u0103g\u0103l\u0103\u0219enii de la el, \u0219tiind c\u00e2t\u0103 nep\u0103sare \u0219i cruzime se ascunde \u00een spatele lor. Iar dac\u0103 nu fac avort, \u00eel pierd cu totul. Ajutor! Tu ce ai face? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mul\u021bumesc de r\u0103spuns, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cencep prin a-\u021bi spune ce N-A\u0218 face. N-a\u0219 r\u0103m\u00e2ne gravid\u0103 cu un b\u0103rbat cu care s\u0103 presupunem c\u0103 am o rela\u021bie de tip zaharos. Mai ales unul c\u0103s\u0103torit \u0219i cu copii. \u0102la are dram\u0103 acas\u0103 c\u00e2t s\u0103-\u0219i pun\u0103 \u0219i-n pod vreo trei balo\u021bi. De asta \u00ee\u021bi \u0219i d\u0103dea \u021bie bani. Nu-\u021bi d\u0103dea bani pentru fofo. Fofo se g\u0103se\u0219te la orice col\u021b de strad\u0103, la pre\u021b de dumping. \u00ce\u021bi d\u0103dea bani pentru aventura necomplicat\u0103, care-i permitea s\u0103 se relaxeze. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E un mit urban faptul c\u0103 legi un gigel de tine f\u0103c\u00e2ndu-i un copil. Dimpotriv\u0103. E o responsabilitate at\u00e2t de mare \u0219i at\u00e2t de acaparant\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u0219i gigelul care voia copii se simte frecvent dep\u0103\u0219it de situa\u021bie \u0219i multe cupluri aparent fericite divor\u021beaz\u0103 pentru c\u0103 gigel nu era preg\u0103tit de copii \u0219i nici de modific\u0103rile fizice care i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 m\u0103micu\u021bei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Aten\u021bia \u0219i lugu-lugu pe care un tip, \u00een special unul married, o acord\u0103 unei tipe f\u0103r\u0103 obliga\u021bii NU se traduc \u00een calit\u0103\u021bi paterne, \u0219i acum o vezi cu ochii t\u0103i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Eu n-a\u0219 numi nep\u0103sare \u0219i cruzime reac\u021bia lui. Omul a optat pentru sugar dating FIX pentru c\u0103 nu-\u0219i dorea genul \u0103sta de complica\u021bii, \u0219i nici \u021bie nu \u021bi-ar conveni s\u0103 te treze\u0219ti pus\u0103 \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie \u00een care s\u0103 ai obliga\u021bii toat\u0103 via\u021ba f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u021bi se cear\u0103 acordul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen rest, da, indiferent ce decizie iei, nu va fi ca \u00eenainte, nici din partea ta, pentru c\u0103 ai investit o rela\u021bie tranzac\u021bional\u0103 cu a\u0219tept\u0103ri nerealiste, \u0219i nici din partea lui, pentru c\u0103 a\u021bi stabilit ni\u0219te lucruri \u0219i le-ai \u00eenc\u0103lcat cu bun\u0103 \u0219tiin\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Legat de avort: f\u0103 ce te las\u0103 con\u0219tiin\u021ba. Chiar nu e dreptul meu s\u0103 spun unor femei necunoscute dac\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 avorteze sau nu. Dar \u00eenainte de a lua aceast\u0103 decizie, pune-\u021bi de una singur\u0103 o \u00eentrebare \u0219i r\u0103spunde c\u00e2t po\u021bi tu de sincer: <\/p>\n\n\n\n Chiar iube\u0219ti acest copil? Sau doar avantajele pe care \u021bi le poate aduce \u021bie existen\u021ba lui? L-ai conceput ca pe un obiect de \u0219antaj. Te-ai g\u00e2ndit vreodat\u0103 c\u0103, dincolo de \u0219antaj, e un sufle\u021bel inocent care nu a gre\u0219it nimic nim\u0103nui? <\/p>\n\n\n\n R\u0103spunsul la aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare te va edifica dac\u0103 ai vreo veleitate de mam\u0103, sau mai aduci pe lume un copil neiubit, folosit ca arm\u0103 de manipulare a unui b\u0103rbat. Eu sunt unul dintre ace\u0219ti copii, manipularea n-a func\u021bionat – niciodat\u0103 nu func\u021bioneaz\u0103, btw – \u0219i e \u00eengrozitor s\u0103 fii \u021binta perpetu\u0103 a frustr\u0103rilor m\u0103-tii care vede \u00een tine doar dovada vie a faptului c\u0103 nu a reu\u0219it s\u0103-l \u00eemb\u00e2rlige pe boul de tac-tu a\u0219a cum ar fi vrut. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Acest site \u00ee\u015fi poate continua activitatea doar cu sus\u0163inerea cititorilor. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14729,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24999","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Love-Letter.jpg?fit=900%2C675&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24999","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24999"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24999\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25001,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24999\/revisions\/25001"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14729"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24999"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24999"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24999"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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