{"id":25092,"date":"2023-07-02T10:45:27","date_gmt":"2023-07-02T07:45:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25092"},"modified":"2023-07-02T10:45:29","modified_gmt":"2023-07-02T07:45:29","slug":"bucurosi-de-oaspeti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/bucurosi-de-oaspeti\/","title":{"rendered":"Bucuro\u0219i de oaspe\u021bi?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Citeam o postare a unei doamne care ne relata un motiv de ne\u00een\u021belegere conjugal\u0103. So\u021bului \u00eei plac vizitatorii la nebunie, ei nu. Doamna aducea \u00een discu\u021bie \u0219i punctul, extrem de fair: so\u021bului \u00eei plac musafirii, dar persoana care trebuie s\u0103 se ocupe de trata\u021bii, de ceva bun de servit, de un p\u0103h\u0103rel, de o aten\u021bie o m\u0103slin\u0103, e de fiecare dat\u0103 ea. Dup\u0103 opt ore de munc\u0103, nu-i arde, \u0218i mi se pare normal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca orice femeie rom\u00e2nc\u0103, educat\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eei fie ru\u0219ine de orice nevoie personal\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 dea foarte mult\u0103 importan\u021b\u0103 p\u0103rerii lumii, am crescut cu u\u0219a larg deschis\u0103. Oricine voia s\u0103 vin\u0103 era binevenit. Nici nu trebuia s\u0103 anun\u021be. \u00ce\u021bi propteai pe fa\u021b\u0103 z\u00e2mbetul social \u0219i mimai c\u0103 e o bucurie pentru tine, chiar dac\u0103 tot ce-\u021bi doreai \u00een momentul \u0103la era s\u0103 te arunci \u00een pat \u0219i s\u0103 dormi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Atunci, mi-am jurat c\u0103 Lorena cea adult\u0103 nu va face vreodat\u0103 astfel de concesii. iar dac\u0103 nu va avea chef de musafiri, va comunica fix asta. \u00cemi pare r\u0103u, m\u0103 simt obosit\u0103. \u00cemi pare r\u0103u, nu sunt acas\u0103. \u00cemi pare r\u0103u, am alt program. Chit c\u0103 acel alt program e somn cu pisica \u00een bra\u021be. Somnul cu pisica \u00een bra\u021be e important, e necesar pentru starea mea general\u0103 de bine, iar starea mea general\u0103 de bine e important\u0103 s\u0103 pot oferi bine \u0219i altora f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 am senza\u021bia c\u0103 m\u0103 d\u0103r\u00e2m eu s\u0103 ridic pe al\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare, dac\u0103 vii neanun\u021bat(\u0103) pe la mine, nu deschid u\u0219a. Nu e o or\u0103 pe care am pl\u0103nuit s\u0103 \u021bi-o ofer \u021bie, iar timpul meu nu se cuvine doar pentru c\u0103 vrei s\u0103-l revendici. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mai am vecini, mai ales b\u0103rba\u021bi, care se trezesc s\u0103 bat\u0103 la u\u0219\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 le fi sugerat eu cu ceva c\u0103 sunt bineveni\u021bi. Cea mai bun\u0103 \u0219i nonconflictual\u0103 solu\u021bie e s\u0103 te faci c\u0103 nu auzi. Slav\u0103 domnului, niciunul nu e genul care s\u0103 fac\u0103 solo de percu\u021bie c\u00e2nd vede c\u0103 nu ai chef de oaspe\u021bi. Dac\u0103 erau, chemam poli\u021bia f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 stau pe g\u00e2nduri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cumva, nu mi se pare c\u0103 u\u0219a casei unui om trebuie s\u0103 fie perpetuu deschis\u0103. Casa e cel mai intim spa\u021biu. Cultura vestic\u0103, cea care \u00eendeamn\u0103 la \u00eent\u00e2lniri la o cafenea, mi se pare genial\u0103 din acest punct de vedere. Spa\u021biu neutru, f\u0103r\u0103 preg\u0103tiri din partea gazdei, f\u0103r\u0103 intruziuni din partea musafirului. Gen: eu a\u0219 amenaja spa\u021biul \u0103sta altfel \u0219i a\u0219 face \u0219i a\u0219 drege. Nu te-a \u00eentrebat nimeni nimic. Cum, tu ai patruzeci de parfumuri? Am c\u00e2te parfumuri vrea plm, pentru c\u0103 am cu ce, alt\u0103 \u00eentrebare. Sau versiunea \u0219i mai nasoal\u0103, c\u00e2nd musafirul intr\u0103 live pe TikTok \u0219i \u00eencepe s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nce ciocolat\u0103 legat de cum era la tine-n cas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti singur, po\u021bi lua aceste decizii pentru tine. Dar ce te faci c\u00e2nd stai cu cineva care vrea perpetuu musafiri? \u0218i care nu te anun\u021b\u0103 c\u00e2nd aduce lume? Vii acas\u0103 t\u00e2njind cu dor la un du\u0219 \u0219i o or\u0103 de somn cu pisica \u00een bra\u021be \u0219i dai peste o petrecere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unu: se impune o conversa\u021bie serioas\u0103. \u00cen care s\u0103-l faci pe cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 nu locuie\u0219te singur, prin urmare, nevoile tale conteaz\u0103. Tu cedezi c\u00e2teva zile pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, poate chiar una de weekend. \u0218i-i clarifici celuilalt c\u0103, dac\u0103 vrea s\u0103 aduc\u0103 lume acas\u0103, s\u0103 \u00eentrebe \u00eent\u00e2i dac\u0103 e oportun. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe de alt\u0103 parte, genul \u0103sta de compromis mi se pare at\u00e2t de obositor, \u00eenc\u00e2t prefer s\u0103 locuiesc singur\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eemi fac regulile tot singur\u0103. \u0218i s\u0103 ies \u00een ora\u0219, dac\u0103 am chef de socializare \u0219i hihihaha. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu mai v\u00e2na\u021bi prin\u021bul pe cal alb, c\u0103uta\u021bi s\u0103-i cunoa\u0219te\u021bi mai bine pe cei cu care v\u0103 cupla\u021bi \u0219i folosi\u021bi primele \u00eent\u00e2lniri pentru a afla realitatea, nu pentru vr\u0103jeal\u0103 proast\u0103. Oricum, c\u00e2nd \u00eencepe s\u0103 v\u0103 erodeze via\u021ba de zi cu zi, vr\u0103jeala proast\u0103 moare prima. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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