\u0218i nu se uit\u0103 deloc \u00een oglind\u0103. La un moment dat mi-a scris la po\u0219ta redac\u021biei unul care era \u00een list\u0103 \u0219i m\u0103 comenta destul de frecvent. Un domn de gen 55 de ani, ur\u00e2t ca \u00eemprumutul nerambursabil. Dar public comenta relativ inteligent \u0219i cu umor, deci nu m\u0103 interesau aspectele superficiale. \u0218i relateaz\u0103 \u0103sta c\u0103 a avut o aventur\u0103 cu una 40ish, care era ur\u00e2t\u0103, \u0219i c\u0103 aia a vrut rela\u021bie serioas\u0103, dar hei, cum s\u0103 se coboare el la o ur\u00e2t\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dac\u0103 mesajul ar fi venit de la un fan Gheboasa de 16 de ani, a\u0219 fi zis \u201efair enough\u201d. La 18 ani, orice om trecut de 30 \u021bi se pare b\u0103tr\u00e2n. Dar c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti cu un picior pe talonul de pensie \u0219i filezi discret raionul de scutece pentru adul\u021bi, NU te treze\u0219ti tu s\u0103 critici ageist femei cu 15 ani mai tinere dec\u00e2t tine. \u0218i c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti ur\u00e2t ca moartea \u00een vacan\u021b\u0103, o iei \u00een bra\u021be pe aia cu sufletul conteaz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nu mai \u021bin minte dac\u0103 am publicat mizeria aia, poate doar l-am luat pe \u0103la la muy (bien) \u0219i l-am zburat din list\u0103. Cump\u0103r\u0103-\u021bi, b\u0103, ratatule, o oglind\u0103, \u0219i hai sictir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u0103i nu, c\u0103 eu ca b\u0103rbat… Tu ca b\u0103rbat ai o bucat\u0103 de carne \u00een plus fa\u021b\u0103 de aia \u0219i ni\u0219te privilegii nemeritate pe care \u021bi le-a b\u0103gat \u00een cap societatea patriarhal\u0103. Fac pariu c\u0103 a\u0219 prefera s\u0103 stau la beri cu aia, dec\u00e2t cu tine. \u0218i block. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar mentalitatea \u201eVreau numai bun\u0103ciuni\u201d e comun\u0103. A\u0219a cum femeile \u00ee\u0219i doresc tare s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 exist\u0103 o pastil\u0103 care s\u0103 le sl\u0103beasc\u0103 misterios dup\u0103 ce iau la r\u00e2nd meniul complet al unei pizzerii, b\u0103rba\u021bii cred c\u0103 exist\u0103 fraza magic\u0103 care s\u0103 abureasc\u0103 o tip\u0103 superb\u0103 de 20 de ani, c\u00e2nd tu e\u0219ti un burtos slinos de 40. Poate c\u0103 singura fraz\u0103 magic\u0103 a cea a lui Robert Redford din filmul \u201ePropunere indecent\u0103\u201d: un milion de dolari pentru o noapte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nu mai fug\u0103ri bun\u0103ciuni, arunc\u0103 o privire realist\u0103 \u00een oglind\u0103 \u0219i vezi ce ai obiectiv de oferit. Nu prea multe? OK. Atunci, mai u\u0219or cu preten\u021biile, cu ifosele \u0219i cu arogan\u021ba. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B) Gigelul e excesiv de zg\u00e2rcit <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe de o parte, gigelul te plictise\u0219te cu obliga\u021biile \u201ebiologice\u201d ale femeii, pe de alta, c\u00e2nd nimere\u0219te la o cafea cu una, \u021bip\u0103 la aia s\u0103-\u0219i pl\u0103teasc\u0103 consuma\u021bia, c\u0103 tot e emancipat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i atunci, tipa zice: Bun, eu \u00eemi pl\u0103tesc consuma\u021bia, dar nici nu m\u0103 vezi data viitoare la fa\u021b\u0103 ever. Dac\u0103 tot ies \u00een ora\u0219 s\u0103 pl\u0103tesc, m\u0103car \u00eemi adun o ga\u0219c\u0103 de prietene \u0219i \u0219tiu c\u0103 m\u0103 distrez, nu pierd timp cu tristul \u0103sta zg\u00e2rc\u0103 patetic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen fond, o rela\u021bie serioas\u0103 cost\u0103 destul de mul\u021bi bani. Singur, merge s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nci seara o pung\u0103 de pufule\u021bi \u0219i un iaurt. \u00cen cuplu, cineva trebuie s\u0103 g\u0103teasc\u0103 obligatoriu ceva. Singur, merge s\u0103 renun\u021bi la micul dejun. \u00cen cuplu, minimum unul va vrea un full English. Singur, bei o bere \u0219i te culci. \u00cen cuplu, se lunge\u0219te povestea \u0219i se duc 6-7 cu viteza luminii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i asta p\u00e2n\u0103 vin \u0219i copiii. Copiii, mai ales \u00een ziua de azi, cost\u0103 astronomic de mult. Nici nu mai \u021bine vr\u0103jeala s\u0103-i \u00eembraci cu haine r\u0103mase mici de la restul copiilor din familie, cum a f\u0103cut maic\u0103-mea cu mine. Conver\u0219i noi \u0219i punct! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Un gigel care e zg\u00e2rc\u0103 deja la primul date, c\u00e2nd tehnic ar trebui s\u0103-\u0219i dea cel mai acut interes, te va l\u0103sa s\u0103 te chinui singur\u0103 cu facturile, cu copii \u0219i cu tot. Nici o femeie nu are de ce s\u0103 accepte asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n C) Gigelul e excesiv de pis\u0103log <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n La un moment dat, o cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 de-a mea a nimerit un altrightist. Frumu\u0219el la fa\u021b\u0103. Ea, st\u0103tut\u0103 de ceva timp, a zis s\u0103 fac\u0103 ni\u0219te sport cu el, \u0219i \u00een rest, s\u0103 ignore ce t\u00e2mpenii zice, dac\u0103 tot e frumu\u0219el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Toate ca toate, dar \u0103la a devenit infinit de agasant, de insistent \u0219i de st\u0103ruitor. Exemplu: Vine fata noastr\u0103 dup\u0103 o zi lung\u0103 de munc\u0103, face un du\u0219 \u0219i se preg\u0103te\u0219te s\u0103 se culce. B\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2z, b\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2z, mesaje de la gigel: Hai s\u0103 ie\u0219im. Vreau s\u0103 ie\u0219im! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Scuze, a zis fata, am avut o zi obositoare la munc\u0103 \u0219i mi-e somn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Bea un RedBull \u0219i hai s\u0103 ie\u0219im!!! <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u021aine de umanitate elementar\u0103 s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi priorit\u0103\u021bile \u0219i problemele altuia. Dup\u0103 o zi lung\u0103 de munc\u0103, exist\u0103 un singur r\u0103spuns corect: la\u0219i omul \u00een pace s\u0103 doarm\u0103. Asta dac\u0103 nu e\u0219ti infinit de prost \u0219i fanul lui Andrew Tate, care te \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 c\u0103 boundaries-urile femeii nu exist\u0103 \u0219i nu conteaz\u0103, \u0219i faci ce vrei din ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Evident c\u0103 tipa nu i-a mai r\u0103spuns. Era obosit\u0103, a dat telefonul pe Do Not Disturb \u0219i s-a culcat. A doua zi, avea vreo 130 de mesaje, oscil\u00e2nd de la criz\u0103 infantil\u0103 la \u00eenjur\u0103turi birj\u0103re\u0219ti. \u0218i dup\u0103 130 de mesaje, block de la gigel. Da, tot el, chit c\u0103 el spama, nu ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dup\u0103 ce a citit one-man-showul nocturn, fata a zis: Ce bine c\u0103 am sc\u0103pat de idiot, \u0219i \u0219i-a v\u0103zut de ale ei. Cultura asta care le insufl\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bilor ideea c\u0103 numai ce vor ei conteaz\u0103 e extrem, dar extrem de d\u0103un\u0103toare. \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd pentru ei \u0219i \u0219ansa continu\u0103rii de a face sex. Ea a g\u0103sit pe altul mai pu\u021bin iritant destul de repede. <\/p>\n\n\n\n D) Gigelul vine s\u0103 te plictiseasc\u0103 cu teoriile lui Tate, Peterson \u0219i al\u021bi labagii cronici care fac bani prostind mase de labagii cronici. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n O femeie care se respect\u0103 nu st\u0103 s\u0103 asculte cum femeile sunt inferioare. Zice, \u201eNu, pe timpul \u0219i aten\u021bia mea femeile nu sunt \u0219i nu vor fi inferioare\u201d, se ridic\u0103 \u0219i pleac\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n C\u0103 v\u0103 place vou\u0103 s\u0103 asculta\u021bi rahat despre femei? Problema voastr\u0103. Dar nu ne plictisi\u021bi \u0219i pe noi cu el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E) Neggingul <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Exist\u0103 un mit. C\u0103 faci o femeie s\u0103 se simt\u0103 atras\u0103 de tine dac\u0103 \u00eei faci negging, adic\u0103 \u00eei treci cu vederea calit\u0103\u021bile \u0219i te apuci s\u0103 o s\u00e2c\u00e2i cu defecte imaginare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Realitatea e c\u0103 asta omoar\u0103 orice chef al femeii respective s\u0103 continue discu\u021bia. Poate c\u0103 e politicoas\u0103 \u0219i n-o spune, dar o g\u00e2nde\u0219te: \u201eCe, b\u0103, prostule, tu erai \u0103la perfect care s\u0103 judece?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Neggingul func\u021bioneaz\u0103 la b\u0103rba\u021bi, pentru c\u0103 ei sunt competitivi. Dar femeile vor s\u0103 se simt\u0103 \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103. Atacul la persoan\u0103 le comunic\u0103 faptul c\u0103 nu sunt sigure cu tine. Haipa, delete number. <\/p>\n\n\n\n F) Focusul doar pe s*x <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i c\u00e2nd gigel nimere\u0219te pur accidental pe una care s\u0103-l bage \u00een seam\u0103, \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 o trateze ca pe o lucr\u0103toare sexual\u0103 pl\u0103tit\u0103. S\u0103 concentreze interac\u021biunea doar \u00een jurul s*xului. Dac\u0103 e frumu\u0219el, \u021bine vr\u0103jeala c\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni. Apoi, tipa vrea s\u0103 treac\u0103 la lucruri mai serioase, iar c\u00e2nd vede c\u0103 nu e nimic mai substan\u021bial acolo, \u00eei d\u0103 cu jet. \u0218i tot gigel e indignat, nevoie mare, c\u0103 femeile nu \u00een\u021beleg via\u021ba. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Femeile \u00een\u021beleg foarte bine via\u021ba. Via\u021ba presupune s\u0103 fii atent \u0219i la cel\u0103lalt, nu doar la ce ai tu de ob\u021binut. Dar hei, lui i-a zis Tate c\u0103 e b\u0103rbat adev\u0103rat \u0219i c\u0103 face ce vrea el din femeie. Din femeia gonflabil\u0103 cump\u0103rat\u0103 cu reducere de la shopul adult, poate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i plac textele care nu cru\u021b\u0103 nimic, sus\u0163ine site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. 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