{"id":25219,"date":"2023-08-11T01:36:40","date_gmt":"2023-08-10T22:36:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25219"},"modified":"2023-08-11T01:36:43","modified_gmt":"2023-08-10T22:36:43","slug":"de-ce-nu-imi-place-mutatul-impreuna","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-nu-imi-place-mutatul-impreuna\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce nu \u00eemi place mutatul \u00eempreun\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Not\u0103: \u00cen\u021beleg c\u0103 exist\u0103 multe doamne care-\u0219i v\u0103d \u00eemplinirea \u00een imaginea feeric\u0103 a familiei cu tati, mami \u0219i copii, \u0219i respect aceast\u0103 prioritate. O respect la al\u0163ii, dar nu mi-o doresc pentru mine. Eu \u00eemi g\u0103sesc \u00eemplinirea \u00een scris \u0219i art\u0103, de aceea m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 foarte pu\u021bin spre deloc latura domestic\u0103 a existen\u021bei, iar dup\u0103 o copil\u0103rie traumatizat\u0103 am c\u00e2\u0219tigat at\u00e2t de greu controlul asupra propriei vie\u021bi, \u00eenc\u00e2t nu l-a\u0219 mai da pe m\u00e2n\u0103 nici dac\u0103 ar veni Elon Musk s\u0103-mi promit\u0103 c\u0103-mi d\u0103 to\u021bi banii din univers s\u0103 fac tot ce vreau eu. Oook, poate atunci. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare, eu nu spun nim\u0103nui s\u0103 procedeze ca mine, dar nici nu admit s\u0103 vii s\u0103 m\u0103 jigne\u0219ti pentru op\u021biunile mele. Jignirile se duc direct \u00een spam cu reclamele la pastile magice de sl\u0103bit \u0219i produse magice de m\u0103rire a \u0219ti\u021bi voi ce. Chit c\u0103 nu \u0219ti\u021bi voi ce trebuie m\u0103rit, ci abilitatea de a fi aten\u021bi \u0219i buni cu al\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deci, iat\u0103 de ce nu sunt fana mutatului \u00eempreun\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd te vezi \u00een ora\u0219 cu cineva, acel om e o persoan\u0103 special\u0103. Altfel, spui c\u0103 e\u0219ti ocupat \u0219i transformi \u00eent\u00e2lnirea \u00eentr-un schimb de mailuri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd te vezi \u00een ora\u0219 cu cineva de care e\u0219ti \u00eendr\u0103gostit, e un moment pentru care te preg\u0103te\u0219ti. Vrei s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi bine, vrei s\u0103 fii your best self, \u0219i exact asta face momentul s\u0103 fie special. Faptul c\u0103 acorzi importan\u021b\u0103 \u0219i interes. Faptul c\u0103 e highlightul zilei tale. Faptul c\u0103 nu e ceva imediat accesibil, ci un moment fabulos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu \u00eemi doresc momente speciale \u0219i highlights. Astea m\u0103 inspir\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd te mu\u021bi \u00eempreun\u0103 cu cut\u0103rescu sau cu cut\u0103reasca, intervine un fel de taking for granted, care omoar\u0103 tot mirajul. \u0218i, da, \u00een\u021beleg argumenta\u021bia: nu ai cum s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti mirajul c\u00e2nd duci gunoiul zi de zi. \u0218i, \u00een\u021beleg perfect c\u0103, din nevoia de a intra \u00een r\u00e2ndul lumii \u0219i a avea copii, mul\u021bi oameni NU au nevoie de miraj, ci de cineva care s\u0103 le fac\u0103 o ciorb\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problema e c\u0103, \u00een procesul de preparare al ciorbei zilnice \u0219i \u00een mirosul de ceap\u0103 aferent, mirajul dispare ca \u0219i cum n-ar fi fost niciodat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i e normal. Cel\u0103lalt pierde statutul de persoan\u0103 special\u0103, pentru care petreci o or\u0103 \u00een oglind\u0103, \u0219i e pur \u0219i simplu acolo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu mai are cum s\u0103 \u021bi se fac\u0103 dor. Nu mai ai ce anticipa. Ai doar sarcini \u0219i obliga\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar asta, din punctul meu de vedere, e profund neinteresant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea prefer tr\u0103itul de unul singur. Ie\u0219i c\u00e2nd vrei, dac\u0103 vrei, \u0219i dac\u0103 merit\u0103. Nu e\u0219ti “Maricico, du-te \u015fi f\u0103-mi un sandvi\u015f”-ul nim\u0103nui. Faci un sandvi\u015f c\u00e2nd sim\u0163i tu nevoia s\u0103 fii m\u0103mos cu cineva, \u015fi acel sandvi\u015f e clar un moment special, nu ceva obligatoriu zi de zi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u0103 povesteam de amicul meu care se pl\u00e2ngea \u00eentr-o zi c\u0103 nevasta nu i-a pus sandvi\u015f? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reac\u0163ia mea a fost ceva de genul: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Stai a\u015fa, femeia aia se treze\u015fte diminea\u0163a 364 de zile pe an s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 \u0163ie sandvi\u015f? Oh, wow. Eu am avut ultima oar\u0103 sandvi\u015f la pachet de la bunic\u0103-mea, \u00een gimnaziu. Am zis gimnaziu, nu liceu. \u00cen liceu deja se a\u015ftepta toat\u0103 lumea s\u0103 \u015ftiu s\u0103-mi fac sandvi\u015f singur\u0103, c\u0103 sunt mare de-acum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 tot \u00eemi fac sandvi\u015f singur\u0103, ce sens ar avea s\u0103 m\u0103 mut cu altcineva? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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