{"id":25223,"date":"2023-08-12T12:20:18","date_gmt":"2023-08-12T09:20:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25223"},"modified":"2023-08-12T12:20:20","modified_gmt":"2023-08-12T09:20:20","slug":"ce-poti-face-pentru-tinerii-din-jurul-tau","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ce-poti-face-pentru-tinerii-din-jurul-tau\/","title":{"rendered":"Ce po\u021bi face pentru tinerii din jurul t\u0103u?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Azi, e ziua interna\u021bional\u0103 a tineretului. O zi menit\u0103 s\u0103 atrag\u0103 aten\u021bia asupra problemelor specifice celor foarte tineri. O ini\u021biativ\u0103 l\u0103udabil\u0103, pentru c\u0103 mul\u021bi tineri se nasc \u00een familii care nu-i sus\u021bin \u0219i nu fac dec\u00e2t s\u0103-i trag\u0103 \u00een jos, \u0219i asta \u00eei duce la op\u021biuni limitate pentru vie\u021bile lor, \u0219i implicit, la decizii gre\u0219ite. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Noi nu suntem milionari, nu avem posibilitatea s\u0103 deschidem \u0219coal\u0103 caritabil\u0103 privat\u0103, dar putem face lucruri mici care, adunate, s\u0103 creeze un mood diferit pentru tinerii no\u0219tri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A) Nu le mai vorbi de sus <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, ok, ai mai mul\u021bi ani. Dar dac\u0103 lucrezi tot pe minimul pe economie \u0219i patronul te cheam\u0103 c\u00e2nd vrea din ziua ta liber\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u021bi-o pl\u0103teasc\u0103, e dovada c\u0103 mai mul\u021bi ani nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 decizii mai \u00een\u021belepte legate de via\u021ba ta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i chiar dac\u0103 iei cele mai \u00een\u021belepte decizii legate de via\u021ba ta, nu ai niciun motiv s\u0103 o arzi arogant \u0219i superior fa\u021b\u0103 de persoanele tinere. Mai ales c\u0103 \u0219i ei \u0219tiu lucruri pe care tu nu le \u0219tii. Ei \u00een\u021beleg, de exemplu, tehnologia modern\u0103, cu o vitez\u0103 pe care tu nu o vei putea egala, indiferent de ceea ce faci. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu te cost\u0103 nimic s\u0103 le ar\u0103\u021bi bun\u0103tate \u0219i s\u0103 ai un pic de r\u0103bdare cu ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Da, Lorena, dar am un clip cu tine care rantuiai la unul de pe Tiktok”. P\u0103i da, dar nu pentru c\u0103 era t\u00e2n\u0103r, ci pentru c\u0103 era b\u0103d\u0103ran nesim\u0163it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B) \u00cencurajeaz\u0103-i<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E 2023 \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 aud p\u0103rin\u0163i cu lozinca: N-o s\u0103 se aleag\u0103 nimic din tine, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe bune? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei apoi te miri dac\u0103 te sun\u0103 poli\u0163ia c\u0103 a g\u0103sit droguri la el, la 17 ani. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce zici s\u0103 nu mai tragi tinerii \u00een jos, ci s\u0103 le spui c\u0103 pot s\u0103 viseze la mai mult \u015fi c\u0103 pot realiza mai mult? S\u0103-i \u00eencurajezi s\u0103 \u00eenve\u0163e, s\u0103-\u015fi cultive \u00eendem\u00e2n\u0103rile \u015fi \u00eenclina\u0163iile naturale, s\u0103 persevereze \u015fi, pas cu pas, s\u0103 ajung\u0103 s\u0103 fie pl\u0103ti\u0163i pentru asta? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Comentariile aiurea nu fac dec\u00e2t s\u0103 deprime \u015fi s\u0103 demoralizeze. Nu conteaz\u0103 cine te-a r\u0103nit pe tine, dar uite o idee: ce zici s\u0103 rezolvi problema cu \u0103la \u015fi s\u0103 nu-\u0163i descarci frustr\u0103rile pe nevinova\u0163i? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C) Ajut\u0103-i cu abilit\u0103\u0163ile practice <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Azi, mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 pot face repara\u0163ii casnice, s\u0103 nu fiu nevoit\u0103 s\u0103 stau dup\u0103 un dorel. Dar tata nu a fost al\u0103turi de noi \u00een copil\u0103rie, iar bunicul era de p\u0103rere c\u0103 o fat\u0103 nu are ce s\u0103 caute cu scule \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103. Las’ c\u0103 te m\u0103ri\u0163i \u015fi face \u0103la. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unu, nu presupune\u0163i c\u0103 acel \u0103la, doar pentru c\u0103 de\u0163ine cuc, are vreo \u00eendem\u00e2nare sau bun\u0103voin\u0163\u0103. \u015ei doi: nu porni\u0163i de la ideea c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 ne m\u0103rit\u0103m. Unele n-am avut aceast\u0103 dorin\u0163\u0103 niciodat\u0103. \u00cenva\u0163\u0103-\u0163i fata s\u0103 repare prize. Mai bine a\u015fa, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 ajung\u0103 s\u0103 at\u00e2rne de un b\u0103t\u0103u\u015f be\u0163iv, care oricum nu face nimic pentru familie, \u015fi s\u0103 aib\u0103 \u015fi prize stricate, \u015fi ochi vine\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

D) Discut\u0103 cu ei despre c\u0103r\u0163i, muzic\u0103 \u015fi filme <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce incult e tineretul din ziua de azi, OMG. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu. Tineretul are propria lui cultur\u0103, cum s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u00een fiecare genera\u0163ie, iar adul\u0163ii nu \u00een\u0163eleg, pentru c\u0103 se v\u0103d prea presus pe ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acum, dac\u0103 vrei ca pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 aceast\u0103 cultur\u0103 specific\u0103 genera\u0163iei s\u0103 aib\u0103 acces \u015fi la ceea ce numim cultur\u0103 general\u0103 \u015fi repere universale, am o veste pentru tine: nimeni nu se na\u015fte \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at. E cam treaba adultului s\u0103-i ghideze cu bl\u00e2nde\u0163e. Am zis cu bl\u00e2nde\u0163e, da? C\u0103 dac\u0103 o faci cu arogan\u0163\u0103, mai mult \u00eei \u00eenstr\u0103inezi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E) Avertizeaz\u0103-i, c\u00e2nd \u00eei vezi \u00een situa\u0163ii periculoase <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 vezi, s\u0103 zicem, o fat\u0103 t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103, \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie cu un individ abuziv \u015fi manipulator, care o gaslight s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 oricum nu g\u0103se\u015fte mai bine, discut\u0103 cu ea. Nu de pe o pozi\u0163ie de superioritate b\u0103\u015fit\u0103, subliniez iar. Superioritatea b\u0103\u015fit\u0103 \u00eei face pe oameni s\u0103-\u0163i resping\u0103 mesajul, chiar \u015fi atunci c\u00e2nd, ipotetic, spui ceva corect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Comunic\u0103 bl\u00e2nd, empatic \u015fi afectuos \u015fi f\u0103-i s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 c\u0103 au dreptul la respect \u015fi la cineva care s\u0103 le pre\u0163uiasc\u0103 prezen\u0163a. Mai bine o singur\u0103tate echilibrat\u0103 dec\u00e2t un \u015fir interminabil de abuzuri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

F) \u015ei la final, \u00een\u0163elege-i. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum s\u0103 asculte la 16 ani manele cu cuvinte ur\u00e2te? Fix asta f\u0103ceai \u015fi tu la v\u00e2rsta lor. Ascultai BUG Mafia, sau Parazi\u0163ii, sau gangsta rap american. Nu auzeai cuvintele \u015fi nu le procesai. C\u00e2t timp ritmul era catchy, \u0163op\u0103iai pe el p\u00e2n\u0103 diminea\u0163a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu mai avea preten\u0163ia ca tinerii s\u0103 aib\u0103 maturitatea ta. Maii degrab\u0103, aminte\u015fte-\u0163i c\u00e2t\u0103 minte aveai tu la v\u00e2rsta lor \u015fi ce t\u00e2mpenii monumentale f\u0103ceai. “Dar eu nu f\u0103ceam, Lorena.” \u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 te \u0163ineau tac-tu \u015fi m\u0103-ta sub papuc. Dar \u00eei invidiai cu spume pe cei care plecau cu cortul \u00een Vam\u0103 s\u0103 bea bere \u015fi s\u0103 c\u00e2nte la chitar\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 diminea\u0163a \u015fi ai fi vrut s\u0103 fii \u00een ga\u015fca lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i plac textele care nu cru\u021b\u0103 nimic, sus\u0163ine site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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