Acest text mi-a fost inspirat de o conversa\u021bie auzit\u0103 \u00een metrou. Una se pl\u00e2ngea c\u0103 boufriendul minte cum respir\u0103. C\u0103 l-a prins de nenum\u0103rate ori. C\u0103 nu se poate baza pe el cu nimic. \u0218i prietena ei o \u00eentreab\u0103: Dar de ce nu-l p\u0103r\u0103se\u0219ti? R\u0103spuns: Pentru c\u0103 m-am s\u0103turat de singur\u0103tate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To\u021bi cunoa\u0219tem genul de individ – sau de individ\u0103. Mint de \u00eenghea\u021b\u0103 apele, \u0219i nu pot altfel. \u0218i iat\u0103 cum proced\u0103m cu ei \/ ele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. \u00cent\u00e2i, te asiguri c\u0103 ai rela\u021bia adecvat\u0103 pentru a pune \u00eentreb\u0103ri, sau c\u0103 \u00eentreb\u0103rile pe care le pui te privesc. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Hai s\u0103 \u00eencepem cu o precizare: persoanele pe care nu le cuno\u0219ti nu \u00ee\u021bi datoreaz\u0103 raport. Singura excep\u021bie o fac politicienii care iau salariu din impozitele tale, \u00een urma votului t\u0103u. \u00cen rest, ce fac necunoscu\u021bii NU te prive\u0219te. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Se mai nimere\u0219te c\u00e2te un b\u0103g\u0103tor \u00een seam\u0103 aiurea care \u00eemi afl\u0103 num\u0103rul de telefon de la cunoscu\u021bi comuni \u0219i m\u0103 sun\u0103 direct cu video, pentru c\u0103 at\u00e2ta educa\u021bie a primit de la madam m\u0103-sa. Eu am uneori telefonul pe silenzio stampa, \u0219i atunci apelul se opre\u0219te de la sine. Sau dac\u0103 \u00eel am cu sonor, dau reject. Unii se prind c\u0103 treaba nu func\u021bioneaz\u0103 a\u0219a \u0219i abandoneaz\u0103, dar sunt \u0219i cretinii \u00een form\u0103 deosebit de grav\u0103. \u0102ia cu \u201ede ce nu rasp????\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n NIMENI NU ARE OBLIGA\u021aIA S\u0102 R\u0102SPUND\u0102, DAC\u0102 NU TE CUNOA\u0218TE!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen caz c\u0103 nu ai \u00een\u021beles-o din prima:<\/p>\n\n\n\n NIMENI. NU. ARE. OBLIGA\u021aIA. S\u0102. R\u0102SPUND\u0102. DAC\u0102. NU. TE CUNOA\u0218TE. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Acum, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti o fat\u0103 cu educa\u021bie tradi\u021bional – pastoral\u0103 (de oaie, adic\u0103), tinzi s\u0103 te scuzi, s\u0103 pierzi teren \u00een fa\u021ba unui b\u0103g\u0103tor \u00een seam\u0103 aiurea \u0219i s\u0103 inventezi pretexte. Alea nu mi se par minciuni. Pur \u0219i simplu, \u0103la NU e \u00een rela\u021bia adecvat\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi cear\u0103 socoteal\u0103 pe timpul t\u0103u \u0219i pe ceea ce preferi s\u0103 faci, respectiv s\u0103 nu faci. Bine, \u0219i aici, eu pun piciorul \u00een prag. 1. Cine sunte\u021bi? \u0219i 2. Cum v\u0103 permite\u021bi s\u0103 m\u0103 apela\u021bi video f\u0103r\u0103 consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul meu acordat \u00een prealabil? <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00centreb\u0103rile impertinente de la necunoscu\u021bi trebuie tratate cu hai sictir detenmor\u021biitei, la exact nivelul lor. Bine, nu pe Facebook, c\u0103 acolo \u00ee\u021bi iei tu restric\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Abia acum intr\u0103m \u00een materialul propriu-zis al articolului: Ce ne facem cu mincino\u0219ii din vie\u021bile noastre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E\u0219ti \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie de iubire RECIPROC STABILIT\u0102. <\/strong>Nu, nu una de \u201eGeta e nevast\u0103-mea, dar \u00eenc\u0103 nu \u0219tie asta\u201d. Sau de prietenie RECIPROC STABILIT\u0102<\/strong>. Sau \u00eentr-una profesional\u0103, unde contractul stipuleaz\u0103 ce ai de revendicat \u0219i ce \u00eentreb\u0103ri ai de pus. Atunci: <\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Vei \u00eencepe s\u0103 remarci diferen\u021be notabile \u00eentre ce spune persoana \u0219i ce face.<\/strong> \u0218i atunci, \u00een loc s\u0103 te p\u0103c\u0103le\u0219ti tu pe tine c\u0103 e ok, merge \u0219i a\u0219a, \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eenchizi ochii, \u00eencepe s\u0103 pui \u00eentreb\u0103ri de baraj. \u201dNu te sup\u0103ra, dar ai zis c\u0103 o s\u0103.\u201d Dac\u0103 omul \u00ee\u021bi spune deschis: \u201em\u0103i, am \u00eencercat, dar au intervenit factorii x, y \u0219i z, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u\u201d, e posibil s\u0103 spun\u0103 adev\u0103rul. Dac\u0103 te ia cu \u201ee\u0219ti nebun\u0103, eu nu am zis niciodat\u0103 a\u0219a ceva\u201d, e clar c\u0103 ai de a face cu un mincinos sau o mincinoas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Vei \u00eencepe s\u0103 remarci varia\u021biuni \u00een pove\u0219tile pe care \u021bi le spune. <\/strong>\u00cen versiunea 1, \u00eenvinge F\u0103t Frumos, \u00een a doua zmeul, \u0219i peste dou\u0103 zile, F\u0103t Frumos nici nu p\u0103r\u0103sise palatul p\u0103rintesc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Din nou, e momentul s\u0103 pui \u00eentreb\u0103ri de baraj. Dar stai, ieri ai zis c\u0103… \u0218i peste trei ore, ca din \u00eent\u00e2mplare: auzi, dar cum a fost de fapt cu F\u0103t-Frumos \u0219i zmeul? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Varia\u021biile minore sunt acceptabile, pentru c\u0103, la rememorarea unei \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103ri, \u00ee\u021bi aminte\u0219ti \u0219i tu mai multe detalii: c\u0103 zmeul purta \u0219apc\u0103 albastr\u0103 \u0219i F\u0103t-Frumos tricou cu Metallica, \u0219i \u00eenainte de b\u0103taie, zmeul l-a \u00eentrebat pe F\u0103t-Frumos c\u00e2nd are de g\u00e2nd s\u0103-i dea suta aia \u00eenapoi. Asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 min\u021bi inten\u021bionat, ci c\u0103 memoria ta dezv\u0103luie noi \u0219i noi am\u0103nunte. \u00cen schimb, \u0219irul evenimentelor e aproximativ acela\u0219i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar c\u00e2nd povestea e o dat\u0103 h\u0103is \u0219i a doua oar\u0103 cea, \u0218TII c\u0103 asi\u0219ti la un exerci\u021biu de improviza\u021bie la liber. \u00cen general, mincino\u0219ii \u00ee\u0219i uit\u0103 minciunile \u0219i improvizeaz\u0103 \u00een alb a doua zi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. \u0218i dac\u0103 subliniezi diferen\u021bele \u00eentre variante, mincinosul sau mincinoasa o s\u0103 se lepede rapid de caracter \u0219i o s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 s\u0103 te acuze de toate t\u00e2mpeniile p\u0103m\u00e2ntului. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Un lucru pe care \u00eel ur\u0103sc mincino\u0219ii e s\u0103 fie expu\u0219i \u0219i lua\u021bi la \u00eentreb\u0103ri. \u0218i atunci, tactica clasic\u0103 e s\u0103 ridice ei tonul peste tine, s\u0103 duc\u0103 discu\u021bia h\u0103t \u00een bosche\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 inventeze acuza\u021bii absolut \u0219ocante. <\/p>\n\n\n\n NU c\u0103dea \u00een capcana defensivit\u0103\u021bii. Vai, ai \u00een\u021beles gre\u0219it, nu e a\u0219a, etc. Atunci, e\u0219ti ca o echip\u0103 de fotbal slab\u0103, care a b\u0103tut \u00een retragere \u0219i a l\u0103sat mingea s\u0103-i intre \u00een careu, \u0219i se strofoac\u0103 s\u0103 apere poarta de gol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n NU. \u00cei spui sec \u0219i t\u0103ios: Las\u0103 vr\u0103jeala, nu mai inventa rahat, ne \u021binem de subiectul care \u00eentr-adev\u0103r creeaz\u0103 probleme, \u0219i anume asta \u0219i asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u0103 vezi cum fac cu comentacii care \u00eencep s\u0103 bat\u0103 c\u00e2mpii c\u0103 vai, Loreno, eu nu am auzit de tine, sub o postare care e despre orice altceva. \u00centrebarea mea e mereu format\u0103 din trei cuvinte, \u0219i numai trei. Leg\u0103tura cu subiectul?<\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u0219a \u0219i cu tentativele de contratac pe baz\u0103 de BS. Leg\u0103tura cu subiectul? \u0218i o \u021bii pe subiect p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd prime\u0219ti un r\u0103spuns verificabil, bun sau r\u0103u. Pe care \u00eel \u0219i verifici de fa\u021b\u0103 cu mincinosul, \u0219i dac\u0103 verificarea nu coincide cu versiunea lui, \u00eel \u00eentrebi ce propune. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i d\u0103 seama c\u0103 l-ai citit \/ ai citit-o, se va r\u0103zbuna invent\u00e2nd o serie de acuza\u021bii mincinoase, de data asta total din senin, ca s\u0103 creeze o narativ\u0103 \u00een care \u0219i tu e\u0219ti la fel de jigodie. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201eAi zis ieri c\u0103 facem cutare.\u201d (Conversa\u021bia NU a existat, iar dac\u0103 \u00eei spui c\u0103 nu a existat, triumf\u0103: Vezi, \u0219i tu min\u021bi, \u0219i tu m\u0103 sco\u021bi pe mine vinovat(\u0103). <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201eAm stabilit c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu ce.\u201d (Tu nu ai stabilit absolut nimic de genul.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201eDar \u021bi-am trimis banii, pe cuv\u00e2nt! Recunoa\u0219te c\u0103 vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 faci s\u0103 pl\u0103tesc de dou\u0103 ori!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Evident c\u0103 home bankingul t\u0103u arat\u0103 negru pe alb altceva. Iar c\u00e2nd tu sco\u021bi extras de cont s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi c\u0103 n-a venit nimic, \u0219i-i ceri extras de cont cu dovada pl\u0103\u021bii, afli c\u0103 e\u0219ti materialist\u0103, terorist\u0103, comunist\u0103 \u0219i securist\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Singura solu\u021bie: un \u0219ut amplu \u0219i glorios \u00een partea dorsal\u0103. <\/strong>Dac\u0103 e iubit sau prieten, e simplu. Cine recurge la un asemenea comportament nu \u00eel va schimba pentru tine. Probabil c\u0103 are probleme mintale sau emo\u021bionale pe care nu e sarcina ta s\u0103 le rezolvi \u0219i nu ai competen\u021ba s-o faci. Iar dac\u0103 e angajator \/ colaborator, singura solu\u021bie e ruperea definitiv\u0103 a contractului \u0219i a contactului. Oricum, nu te po\u021bi a\u0219tepta la nimic bun de la acest gen de om. \u00cen jocul de iluzii al unui mincinos, nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103 pierzi timp, resurse, respect de sine, \u00eencredere \u00een oameni, \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi umpli via\u021ba de negativitate \u0219i de furie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Singura excep\u021bie e dac\u0103 ai un job la care \u021bii, banii vin la timp, patronul e ok, dar ai o japi\u021b\u0103 de coleg. \u00cen acest caz, tratezi japi\u021ba ca pe mobilier, nu \u00eentrebi nimic, pentru c\u0103 e clar c\u0103 vei primi doar manipulare \u0219i minciun\u0103, men\u021bii interac\u021biunea c\u00e2t po\u021bi tu de distant\u0103 \u0219i de concis\u0103, \u0219i dac\u0103 ai de interac\u021bionat, solici\u021bi ca discu\u021biile s\u0103 aib\u0103 loc numai \u00een scris, ca s\u0103 ai dovezi, \u00een caz c\u0103 auzi c\u0103 \u201ea\u021bi stabilit nu \u0219tiu ce\u201d. Ceri dovada scris\u0103 a respectivei stabiliri, respectiv mailul care s\u0103 arate consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul t\u0103u. \u0218i explici: gigel aici de fa\u021b\u0103 are tendin\u021ba s\u0103 confunde realitatea cu fic\u021biunea, prin urmare, colabor\u0103m doar \u00een scris, s\u0103-l ajut\u0103m s\u0103 le separe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu uita: exist\u0103 putere \u00een adev\u0103r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i plac articolele, sus\u0163ine site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Acest text mi-a fost inspirat de o conversa\u021bie auzit\u0103 \u00een metrou. Una se pl\u00e2ngea c\u0103 boufriendul minte cum respir\u0103. 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