{"id":25330,"date":"2023-09-10T13:27:43","date_gmt":"2023-09-10T10:27:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25330"},"modified":"2025-09-20T15:52:30","modified_gmt":"2025-09-20T12:52:30","slug":"nu-ma-lasa-iubitul","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-ma-lasa-iubitul\/","title":{"rendered":"Nu m\u0103 las\u0103 iubitul"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u00centr-o vreme, st\u0103team \u00een chirie prin Dristor. Aveam vecine prietenoase, ne vedeam la cafea, ba la ele, ba la mine. \u0218i c\u00e2nd l-au v\u0103zut pe motan, una dintre ele m-a \u00eentrebat: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Ce te faci dac\u0103 nu te las\u0103 iubitul s\u0103-l mai \u021bii? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am r\u0103mas tablou. Alo, sunt eu, Picasso. Cum adic\u0103 \u201es\u0103 nu m\u0103 lase iubitul\u201d? Sunt o persoan\u0103 adult\u0103 \u0219i NU depind de permisiunea altuia pentru decizii de via\u021b\u0103. Ultima persoan\u0103 care nu m-a l\u0103sat chestii a fost maic\u0103-mea, dar \u0219i de acolo am tulit-o la 18 ani, pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 seca excesul de autoritate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Dac\u0103 iubitul \u0103la are impresia c\u0103 \u00eemi spune el dac\u0103 s\u0103 am sau nu animale de companie, \u00een momentul imediat urm\u0103tor se \u00eentoarce la condi\u021bia de **bagiu solitar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Haha, bravo, fat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am stat un pic mai serios de vorb\u0103 \u0219i am descoperit c\u0103, \u00een familiile lor, ta\u021bii aveau cu mamele un raport de tutori – minori. Ei le permiteau sau le interziceau s\u0103 fac\u0103 chestii. Chit c\u0103 munceau am\u00e2ndoi, nevasta cotiza \u0219i ea la ale casei, deci nici m\u0103car nu exista argumentul \u201etr\u0103ie\u0219te din banii lui, de aceea \u00eei d\u0103 ordine\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chiar dac\u0103 tr\u0103iau din banii lui, se revan\u0219au prin g\u0103tit, sp\u0103lat, cur\u0103\u021benie, \u00eengrijirea copiilor, servicii care ar costa o g\u0103l\u0103gie de bani, dac\u0103 ai angaja un om s\u0103 \u021bi le fac\u0103 zi de zi. Deci nu, nici a\u0219a nu s-ar justifica s\u0103-i permit\u0103 sau s\u0103-i interzic\u0103 el chestii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eP\u0103i, da, Lorena, dar \u00een via\u021b\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 te adaptezi.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Singurul mod \u00een care v\u0103d eu adaptarea e o discu\u021bie de la egal la egal, unde fiecare spune pe un ton frumos \u0219i calm de ce ar prefera ca partenerul s\u0103 nu fac\u0103 cutare lucru. Dac\u0103 te afecteaz\u0103 \u00een mod real, fizic, cu ceva faptul c\u0103 eu am pisici, atunci mergem frumos la un medic, \u00ee\u021bi prescrie Claritine \u0219i pic\u0103turi de nas \u0219i am rezolvat disconfortul fizic. Dac\u0103 disconfortul e psihic, caut\u0103-\u021bi direct o gagic\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 pisici. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar nu, niciodat\u0103 nu e cazul de \u00ee\u021bi permit \/ \u00ee\u021bi interzic chestii. Eu nu sunt minor\u0103 \u0219i tu nu e\u0219ti p\u0103rintele meu. Eu nu sunt angajata ta pl\u0103tit\u0103, \u0219i chiar dac\u0103 eram, se creau ni\u0219te reguli prin negociere, \u00een care stabileam ce am de f\u0103cut \u0219i cu ce onorariu. Un lucru pe care nu-l voi admite niciodat\u0103 \u00een via\u021b\u0103 e tonul poruncitor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201e\u0218i dac\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i singur\u0103?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu e o problem\u0103. Am din ce tr\u0103i, \u00eemi place propria mea companie \u0219i a\u0219 prefera s\u0103 tr\u0103iesc \u00een pace pe o insul\u0103 pustie dec\u00e2t \u00een abuz \u00eentr-o vil\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu, nu \u00een\u021beleg iubitele care accept\u0103 s\u0103 li se permit\u0103 sau interzic\u0103 chestii. Singura excep\u0163ie e un deget \u00een anus. Dac\u0103 nu \u00eei place s\u0103 i se bage un deget \u00een anus, e dreptul lui s\u0103-\u0163i interzic\u0103, pentru c\u0103 e corpul lui \u015fi e normal s\u0103 existe boundaries. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen rest, \u00eemi spui \u00een cel mai bl\u00e2nd, neofensiv \u015fi rug\u0103tor mod de ce \u00ee\u0163i dore\u015fti ca eu s\u0103 fac sau s\u0103 nu fac un anumit lucru. Iar dac\u0103 argumentele tale sunt mai strong dec\u00e2t ale mele, ok. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen afar\u0103 de pisici. Pisicile sunt zon\u0103 sf\u00e2nt\u0103. Via\u0163a f\u0103r\u0103 un partener mi-e perfect ok, mi-am petrecut ani buni locuind singur\u0103 \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 e forma mea preferat\u0103 de lifestyle. Dar via\u0163a f\u0103r\u0103 l\u0103bu\u0163e moi, bl\u0103ni\u0163\u0103 alint\u00e2ndu-se de tine p\u00e2n\u0103-n v\u00e2rful cozii \u015fi cozon\u0103cei e cu adev\u0103rat pustie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i plac sfaturile obiective \u0219i bine inten\u021bionate, sus\u0163ine site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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