{"id":25381,"date":"2023-09-24T10:05:51","date_gmt":"2023-09-24T07:05:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25381"},"modified":"2023-09-24T10:05:54","modified_gmt":"2023-09-24T07:05:54","slug":"cand-iti-vine-sa-dai-un-sfat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cand-iti-vine-sa-dai-un-sfat\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi vine s\u0103 dai un sfat"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Dac\u0103 a\u0219 interzice trei cuvinte, \u00een exact aceast\u0103 ordine, aceste trei cuvinte ar fi: \u201e\u00een locul t\u0103u\u201d. De fiecare dat\u0103, dar de fiecare dat\u0103, le livreaz\u0103 cineva care nu a fost \u00een locul nostru, nu are toate datele problemei \u0219i nu \u0219tie cum e. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 cite\u0219ti acest site, probabil c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti o persoan\u0103 r\u0103u-inten\u021bionat\u0103. Dac\u0103 erai, te adulmecam cum adulmec\u0103 c\u00e2inii drogurile \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi luai de mult un \u0219ut \u00een partea dorsal\u0103, pentru c\u0103 muncesc suficient de mult la acest proiect s\u0103 nu mai accept \u0219i toxicitate de la b\u0103g\u0103tori \u00een seam\u0103 aiurea care nu contribuie nimic la acest efort, dar au preten\u021bii de emanat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare, iubi\u021bi prieteni, iat\u0103 care sunt regulile de aur ale sfatului bine dat \u0219i bine primit – singurul care ar trebui s\u0103 existe? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. E\u0219ti \u00een pozi\u021bie? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin \u201epozi\u021bie\u201d nu m\u0103 refer la ceva ce v\u0103 place vou\u0103 la nebunie, ci la vreo situa\u021bie \u00een care inputul t\u0103u este foarte important. Exemplu: prietenul t\u0103u Gigel \u021bi-a cerut bani de vreo zece ori. Tu l-ai tot \u00eemprumutat, din bun\u0103tate. Sau pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tii s\u0103 spui un \u201enu\u201d. Nu se aude nimic de returnare, dar Gigel vine a unsprezecea oar\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi cear\u0103 bani. \u00cemprumut, cum altfel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poate c\u0103 atunci, da, e justificat un r\u0103spuns de tipul \u201e\u00cen locul t\u0103u, \u00eemi c\u0103utam dreq un loc de munc\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 acum.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De\u0219i e mai eficient s\u0103-i spui: \u201eIart\u0103-m\u0103, te rog. Eu \u021bi-am dat bani \u00eemprumut, nu i-am v\u0103zut niciodat\u0103, nu sunt Asocia\u021bia \u201eBani Gratis\u201d, s-a terminat linia de credit.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deci, chiar \u0219i \u00een situa\u021bia c\u00e2nd ac\u021biunile cuiva te afecteaz\u0103 direct \u0219i real, e de preferat s\u0103 setezi limite care exprim\u0103 nemul\u021bumirile tale generate de situa\u021bie, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eei spui ce ai face tu \u00een locul lui. Mai ales c\u00e2nd sunt multe detalii pe care nu le \u0219tii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Ai idee cum e? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar hai s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 \u00eei \u0219tii via\u021ba lui Gigel. A fost cel mai mic dintre fra\u021bi, \u00eensurat, a muncit la ace, brice \u0219i carice. Ai idee cum e via\u021ba \u00een familia lor pentru cel mai mic? Cum e c\u0103s\u0103toria lui? Cum e via\u021ba de salariat la ace, brice \u0219i carice? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u0103 dac\u0103 nu, nu ai date s\u0103-i spui cum e \u00een locul lui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Dar dac\u0103 uneori nu te raportezi cu nimic la experien\u021ba lui Gigel? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mai vine periodic una cu 50 de followeri s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 superior cum s\u0103 ignor haterii pe pagina mea care, u\u0219or dar sigur, urc\u0103 spre aproape 80.000. Internetul E un gen de experien\u021b\u0103 c\u00e2nd te urm\u0103resc 50 \u0219i un CU TOTUL ALT GEN de experien\u021b\u0103 c\u00e2nd ceea ce spui e \u00eencasat de sute de oameni. Sigur, majoritatea te plac \u0219i interac\u021biunea este nice, dar sunt \u0219i unii obseda\u021bi s\u0103 te agaseze, cu n conturi false, ia rr \u0103ia sunt echivalentul internautic al r\u00e2iei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu \u0219tii cum e? OK. \u021aine-\u021bi impresiile pentru tine, legat de cum ar trebui gestiona\u021bi. Except\u00e2nd situa\u021bia \u00een care e\u0219ti Mihai Morar \u0219i ai aproape un milion. OK, da, ai trecut prin multe s\u0103-i aduni, zi tot. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau se mai trezesc b\u0103rba\u021bi, care nu \u0219tiu cum e s\u0103 fii h\u0103r\u021buit de zeci de gigei cretini pe zi ca femeie, s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103 ce s\u0103 sim\u021bi \u00een privin\u021ba asta. Nu ai aceast\u0103 experien\u021b\u0103, te rog taci \u00een plm. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i cel mai important: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Te-a \u00eentrebat cineva ceva? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Singurul moment \u00een care te califici s\u0103-i spui altuia ce ai face tu \u00een locul lui este atunci c\u00e2nd r\u0103spunzi la \u00eentrebarea: \u201eTu ce ai face \u00een locul meu?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar \u0219i atunci, po\u021bi refuza s\u0103 dai r\u0103spuns: \u201dAdev\u0103rul este c\u0103 nu sunt \u00een locul t\u0103u \u0219i, probabil, am o viziune incomplet\u0103 asupra problemei.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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