{"id":25458,"date":"2023-10-11T11:15:45","date_gmt":"2023-10-11T08:15:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25458"},"modified":"2023-10-11T14:39:39","modified_gmt":"2023-10-11T11:39:39","slug":"da-e-perfect-ok-sa-nu-vrei-sa-fii-draga","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/da-e-perfect-ok-sa-nu-vrei-sa-fii-draga\/","title":{"rendered":"Da, e perfect ok s\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 fii \u201edrag\u0103\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Circul\u0103 un text de smiorc pe net. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un nene \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103 a postat pe peretele lui urm\u0103toarele: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201e<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Azi, 09.10.2023, am fost nevoit s\u0103 ajung la Sec\u021bia de Urgen\u021b\u0103 a Spitalului Municipal din Constan\u021ba. Era vorba de o inflama\u021bie, care cre\u0219tea de c\u00e2teva zile \u0219i \u00eemi producea dureri serioase. Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 rezolv chestiunea la o clinic\u0103 privat\u0103. Dar, clinicile la care am apelat mi-au zis c\u0103 nu au medic specialist pentru un asemenea caz \u0219i m-au \u00eendrumat c\u0103tre Urgen\u021ba de la Spitalul Mare. Ajuns acolo, am fost pus \u00een a\u0219teptare. Era pentru prima oar\u0103 c\u00e2nd ajungeam la acest spital ca pacient. Dup\u0103 mai bine de dou\u0103 ore, pe la orele 13.30-14.00, am fost introdus \u00een sec\u021bia de Urgen\u021be Minore. Asistentele de aici m-au tratat c\u00e2t se poate de normal. Dup\u0103 o vreme, a venit un doctor t\u00e2n\u0103r, de circa 30-35 de ani, probabil medicul de gard\u0103. \u00cen timpul consultului, mi-am permis s\u0103-i zic \u201edrag\u0103 dle. doctor\u201d, cu inten\u021bia de a crea o leg\u0103tur\u0103 amiabil\u0103, dat fiind faptul c\u0103 acest medic afi\u0219a o min\u0103 prea sever\u0103. At\u00e2t mi-a trebuit! Doctorul a \u021binut s\u0103 m\u0103 sanc\u021bioneze imediat, spun\u00e2ndu-mi cu un ton r\u0103stit: \u201eNu sunt drag\u0103 cu dv., s\u0103 v\u0103 adresa\u021bi cu \u201edle doctor\u201d. \u201e\u00cemi pare r\u0103u dac\u0103 v-am deranjat &#8211; i-am r\u0103spuns -, dar am 80 de ani \u0219i am fost profesor, fiind obi\u0219nuit cu acest apelativ fa\u021b\u0103 de tinerii care m-au \u00eenconjurat\u201d. \u201eAici nu sunte\u021bi profesor, ci doar pacient, iar eu sunt doctor!\u201d, mi-a replicat el t\u0103ios, cu un ton agresiv \u0219i de superioritate v\u0103dit\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nu conteaz\u0103 aici numele acestui medic obraznic. El exist\u0103 \u0219i, din p\u0103cate, face parte din genera\u021bia t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103. Pentru asemenea medici pacientul nu este om, ci doar pacient, adic\u0103 cineva care are nevoie de bun\u0103voin\u021ba lui \u0219i fa\u021b\u0103 de care el se simte net superior. Medicii de ast\u0103zi din Rom\u00e2nia au ajuns la salarii aproape egale sau chiar mai mari dec\u00e2t colegii lor din restul Uniunii Europene. Dar, \u00eentre acest medic din Constan\u021ba \u0219i medicii pe care i-am cunoscut eu, ca pacient, de exemplu, \u00een Suedia, diferen\u021ba este enorm\u0103 (Copiii mei, to\u021bi trei, sunt medici \u00een Suedia). \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, medicii \u0219i \u00eentregul personal medical trateaz\u0103 pacientul ca pe un om aflat \u00een suferin\u021b\u0103, fa\u021b\u0103 de care el, ca medic sau asistent\u0103, este obligat, prin jur\u0103m\u00e2nt \u0219i statut, s\u0103-l ajute. \u00centregul personal al oric\u0103rei unit\u0103\u021bi medicale din Suedia este obligat s\u0103 aib\u0103 atitudine binevoitoare fa\u021b\u0103 de pacient, s\u0103 fie respectuos \u0219i s\u0103-i cultive \u00eencrederea ca un prieten. Z\u00e2mbetul afi\u0219at este o regul\u0103 respectat\u0103 strict de tot personalul medical. Un medic ca cel pe care l-am \u00eent\u00e2lnit eu ast\u0103zi \u00een Spitalul Mare din Constan\u021ba ar fi fost adus imediat \u00een fa\u021ba Colegiului \u0219i chiar a Tribunalului. Ofensa adus\u0103 unui pacient de un cadru medical este infrac\u021biune \u00een Suedia, probabil \u0219i \u00een restul \u021b\u0103rilor din UE \u0219i nu numai.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Acest medic din Constan\u021ba m-a ofensat, prin reac\u021bie \u0219i ton, fapt ce mi-a provocat cre\u0219terea brusc\u0103 a tensiunii. Dna. asistent\u0103 care mi-a pansat m\u00e2na a observat cum \u00eemi tremurau degetele de nervi. Peste o or\u0103, c\u00e2nd am ajuns acas\u0103, so\u021bia a sesizat starea mea \u0219i mi-a luat tensiunea, care era \u00eenc\u0103 destul de mare, ca \u0219i pulsul \u0219i ritmul cardiac (15-80-90). Prin atitudinea lui grosolan\u0103 \u0219i infatuat\u0103, acest doctor de la Urgen\u021b\u0103 era s\u0103-mi provoace o afec\u021biune mult mai grav\u0103 dec\u00e2t cea pentru care \u00eei cerusem ajutorul de medic.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i to\u021bi comentatorii \u00eei pl\u00e2ng de mil\u0103 nenelui \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103 c\u0103, da, domnule, cum \u0219i-a permis un doctor aflat \u00een timpul serviciului s\u0103-i cear\u0103 unei persoane pe care o vedea pentru prima oar\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba lui s\u0103 nu \u00eei spun\u0103 \u201edrag\u0103\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Treaba e \u00een felul urm\u0103tor: Nic\u0103ieri \u00een text nu rezult\u0103 c\u0103 pacientul a fost neglijat de medic, c\u0103 nu \u0219i-a primit tratamentul corespunz\u0103tor sau c\u0103 nu a fost privit ca un om \u00een suferin\u021b\u0103. Pur \u0219i simplu i s-a cerut s\u0103 \u00eenceteze cu apelativele de o intimitate care nu se potrivea cu spa\u021biul, \u0219i nici cu rela\u021bia dintre interlocutori. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pe urm\u0103, nenea a\u0219terne un lung paragraf despre cum e el ofensat. Cu ce a fost ofensat? Pentru c\u0103 i s-a spus c\u0103 \u00een spital nu este profesor, ci pacient, adic\u0103 un om care a venit cu o boal\u0103 \u0219i are nevoie de tratament? P\u0103i, b\u0103ie\u021bii mei, asta e realitatea situa\u021biei. Spitalul nu e locul \u00een care s\u0103 te duci s\u0103-\u021bi fluturi func\u021bia. E locul \u00een care explici care e problema ta de s\u0103n\u0103tate \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi prime\u0219ti tratamentul potrivit pentru ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen Suedia o fi mare sanc\u021biunea pentru ofens\u0103, dar \u00eent\u00e2i trebuie s-o demonstrezi. Cu ce te-a ofensat? A zis c\u0103 nu sunt profesor la el \u00een spital. P\u0103i, stimate domn, chiar nu e\u0219ti. E\u0219ti profesor la \u0219coala care predai, iar \u00een restul universului, e\u0219ti un cet\u0103\u021bean obi\u0219nuit, care, surpriz\u0103 &#8211; trebuie s\u0103 respecte limitele altora. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mai degrab\u0103 t\u00e2n\u0103rul medic putea reclama h\u0103r\u021buirea cu apelative alint\u0103toare nepotrivite \u00een climat profesional, \u0219i pacientul se alegea cu oarecare probleme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar finalul, cel \u00een care nenea se d\u0103 ad\u00e2nc r\u0103nit \u0219i plin de alte simptome pentru c\u0103 cineva i-a spus s\u0103-\u0219i p\u0103streze dragostea pentru familie \u0219i apropia\u021bi e defini\u021bia din manual a manipul\u0103rii de doi lei, \u0219i faptul c\u0103 ni\u0219te internau\u021bi pun botul m\u0103 las\u0103 tablou. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu, t\u00e2n\u0103rul NU e obraznic pentru c\u0103, \u00een mediul lui de lucru, cere o abordare formal\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu, s\u0103 \u021bi se spun\u0103 c\u0103 profesia ta e irelevant\u0103 \u0219i nu e cazul s-o fluturi NU echivaleaz\u0103 cu a nu fi tratat corect, \u00een calitate de pacient. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu, nenea NU are dreptate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu, necunoscu\u021bii nu v\u0103 datoreaz\u0103 s\u0103 fie \u201edrag\u0103\u201d, \u201eiubi\u201d, \u201ehoney\u201d \u0219i \u201episi\u201d cu voi, dac\u0103 nu vor. Eu personal fac bube c\u00e2nd m\u0103 ia cineva str\u0103in cu \u201ebun\u0103, drag\u0103\u201d \u0219i reac\u021bia visceral\u0103 e \u201edrag\u0103 e\u0219ti cu m\u0103-ta, nu cu mine.\u201d Desigur, o reformulez la modul \u201ev\u0103 voi ruga s\u0103-mi folosi\u021bi numele c\u00e2nd comunic\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 ne ab\u021binem de la o familiaritate pe care nu o avem \u00een mod real\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i \u00een acest caz, problema nu e la spital, ci la pacientul care nu poate concepe ideea c\u0103 nu e buricul p\u0103m\u00e2ntului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 apreciezi aceast\u0103 rubric\u0103, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><strong>Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi pe<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\">&nbsp;TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Circul\u0103 un text de smiorc pe net. Un nene \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103 a postat pe peretele lui urm\u0103toarele: \u201e Azi, 09.10.2023, am fost nevoit s\u0103&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":21682,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-25458","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/doctor.jpg?fit=640%2C426&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25458","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25458"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25458\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25461,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25458\/revisions\/25461"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21682"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25458"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=25458"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=25458"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}