Urm\u0103resc de mult\u0103 vreme blogul t\u0103u \u0219i \u00eendr\u0103znesc s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi cer un sfat, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi place foarte mult g\u00e2ndirea ta, diferit\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de a femeilor din jurul meu.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe scurt, m-am s\u0103turat de Rom\u00e2nia \u0219i vreau s\u0103 \u00eencep o via\u021b\u0103 nou\u0103 \u00een Spania, \u00eentr-un ora\u021b mare, \u00eens\u0103 nu \u0219tiu cum s\u0103 m\u0103 organizez \u0219i cu c\u00e2t m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc mai mult, cu at\u00e2t mi se pare mai greu de realizat. Iar acum simt c\u0103 a trecut timpul pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 mine, c\u0103 nu mi-am tr\u0103it viata, c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu nici m\u0103car ce \u00eemi place s\u0103 fac, iar tot ce am acum e un job remote la o firm\u0103 care nu \u0219tiu c\u00e2t o s\u0103 mai reziste… Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 astea, to\u021bi m\u0103 bombardeaz\u0103 cu ve\u0219nicele \u00eentreb\u0103ri de rahat: c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi faci un iubit? c\u00e2nd faci un copil? de ce o fat\u0103 frumoas\u0103 ca tine n-are noroc de un b\u0103iat bun? Efectiv mor c\u00e2nd aud, c\u0103 nu e ca \u0219i cum nu \u00eemi doresc, dar \u00eenc\u0103 nu am \u00eent\u00e2lnit pe nimeni care s\u0103 merite. Mul\u021bumesc mult,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ce mi se pare c\u0103 descrii tu e un u\u0219or sindrom de burnout – extenuare cronic\u0103, cu dou\u0103 joburi pe zi, \u0219i cu u\u0219oare tendin\u021be de depresie. Pentru depresie, recomand terapie cu un profesionist serios. Pentru burnout, recomand odihn\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mi se pare c\u0103 dorin\u021ba ta de a pleca \u00een Spania – f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u0219tii limba, \u0219i con\u0219tient\u0103 ra\u021bional c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi cari bagajul emo\u021bional dup\u0103 tine – e mai degrab\u0103 o dorin\u021b\u0103 de a sc\u0103pa de obliga\u021biile financiare fa\u021b\u0103 de familia s\u0103rac\u0103 pe care o \u00eentre\u021bii – hint, cu c\u00e2t au g\u0103sit un prost care s\u0103 le trimit\u0103 agoniseala lui lunar\u0103, cu at\u00e2t nu sunt motiva\u021bi s\u0103-\u0219i g\u0103seasc\u0103 un rost sub soare \u0219i cu at\u00e2t at\u00e2rn\u0103 dup\u0103 tine ca sacii de balast. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Uneori, e momentul s\u0103 spui stop, mai descurca\u021bi-v\u0103 \u00een plm \u0219i singuri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Eu ajut pe cine pot cu c\u00e2t pot. Dar nu suport sentimentul c\u0103 acest ajutor a devenit ceva cuvenit, o obliga\u021bie, \u0219i \u00een loc s\u0103 prime\u0219ti apreciere pentru momentele c\u00e2nd dai, \u00ee\u021bi iei mumu cu crengi pentru momentele c\u00e2nd nu faci fa\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Am sentimentul c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi g\u0103se\u0219ti t\u0103ria interioar\u0103 s\u0103 le spui s\u0103 se duc\u0103 \u00een kkt, brusc nu vei mai vrea s\u0103 fugi \u00een Spania. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dou\u0103 la m\u00e2n\u0103, n-ai precizat cine te \u00eentreab\u0103 de ce nu ai so\u021b sau copii? Colegii de la munc\u0103 sigur nu, c\u0103 \u0103sta e Bucure\u0219ti \u0219i \u00eei doare \u00een pedind\u0103r\u0103t. Dac\u0103 o fac prietenii, le spui o dat\u0103 c\u0103 nu e treaba lor \u0219i a doua oar\u0103 le \u00eenchizi telefonul. Dar dac\u0103 te terorizeaz\u0103 fix \u0103ia care te mulg de bani, r\u0103spunsul e OBVIOUS: \u201eC\u00e2nd kkt s\u0103 caut iubit, c\u00e2nd eu am muncit toat\u0103 via\u021ba s\u0103 v\u0103 trimit bani vou\u0103, fut\u0103-v\u0103 Dumnezeu de loaze lene\u0219e, profitoare \u0219i obraznice? Zice\u021bi mersi c\u0103 tr\u0103i\u021bi din banii mei \u0219i b\u0103ga\u021bi-v\u0103 \u00eentreb\u0103rile ad\u00e2nc \u00een cur, p\u00e2n\u0103 nu vi le \u00eendes eu cu un baston vintage, unul cu cap de ra\u021b\u0103 \u00een v\u00e2rf.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ideea e c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 te deta\u0219ezi de pis\u0103logeala unora, iar primul pas pentru asta e s\u0103 te impui \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei pui ferm la punct c\u00e2nd \u00eencep discu\u021biile cretine \u0219i s\u0103 le \u00eenchizi telefonul \u00een nas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E ok s\u0103 nu mai fii vac\u0103 de muls bani. E ok s\u0103 nu participi la discu\u021bii pe care nu le vrei. E ok s\u0103 setezi limite. \u0218i e ok s\u0103 stabile\u0219ti – \u0219i s\u0103 aplici consecin\u021be pentru cei ce nu \u021bi le respect\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar legat de hobbies: ziceai c\u0103 e fun pentru tine s\u0103 cite\u0219ti. Pe TikTok e o imens\u0103 comunitate legat\u0103 de c\u0103r\u021bi. Filmeaz\u0103-te cu telefonul f\u0103c\u00e2nd recenzii scurte de 3 minute \u0219i posteaz\u0103-le cu hashtag booktok, hashtag autor \u0219i hashtag titlu. E fix at\u00e2t de simplu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00ce\u021bi urez spor, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 apreciezi aceast\u0103 rubric\u0103, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. 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Dup\u0103 ce am avut ni\u0219te probleme grave de s\u0103n\u0103tate \u0219i cu greu mi-am revenit, mi-am dat seama c\u0103 nu am f\u0103cut altceva toat\u0103 via\u021ba dec\u00e2t s\u0103 muncesc ca s\u0103 pot tr\u0103i de pe o lun\u0103 pe alta \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eemi ajut familia, care e foarte s\u0103rac\u0103 \u0219i cu multe probleme de s\u0103n\u0103tate.<\/strong>
Iar eu, la 33 de ani, sunt extrem de obosit\u0103 ,sunt singur\u0103, prieteni foarte pu\u021bini, nu am nicio pasiune \u00een afar\u0103 de citit, pentru c\u0103 tot timpul am avut dou\u0103 joburi \u0219i am preferat mereu s\u0103 dorm dec\u00e2t s\u0103 ies sau s\u0103 fac altceva. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cemi doresc foarte mult s\u0103 fug departe de to\u021bi \u0219i de toate, vreau s\u0103 plec o perioad\u0103 \u00een Spania, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi place mult acolo, iar lumea mi se pare mult mai deschis\u0103 \u0219i pozitiv\u0103 dec\u00e2t aici. \u00cens\u0103 acum incep \u00eendoielile, m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc c\u0103 poate nu-s c\u00e2ini cu colaci \u00een coad\u0103 nici acolo \u0219i sunt doar eu orbit\u0103 de dorin\u021ba asta de a \u00eencepe ceva nou. Dar nici aici nu simt c\u0103 e locul meu.<\/strong>
Financiar vorbind, \u00een Bucuresti am un trai decent, \u00eens\u0103 acolo sunt costurile mult mai mari. Singura op\u021biune ca s\u0103 m\u0103 descurc \u0219i s\u0103 pot s\u0103 incerc \u0219i ni\u0219te hobby-uri (cursuri make-up\/dans) ar fi s\u0103 \u00eemi iau iar un part-time pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 jobul actual, \u00eens\u0103 dilema mea e dac\u0103 aici \u00een \u021bar\u0103, ca s\u0103 mai str\u00e2ng ni\u0219te bani p\u00e2n\u0103 plec. Sau s\u0103 fac asta direct acolo? Dar aici e mai complicat pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tiu limba at\u00e2t de bine.
Sau s\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103 \u00eemi \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021besc via\u021ba aici \u00een Rom\u00e2nia \u0219i s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai complic cu mutatul asta? M\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc c\u0103 ajung acolo \u0219i sunt la fel de nefericit\u0103 ca aici.<\/strong>
Tu \u00een locul meu cum ai aborda chestia asta? E ceva care \u00eemi scap\u0103 din toata ecua\u021bia?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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