{"id":25518,"date":"2023-11-01T11:36:22","date_gmt":"2023-11-01T08:36:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25518"},"modified":"2023-11-01T11:36:25","modified_gmt":"2023-11-01T08:36:25","slug":"ghid-de-glume-pentru-gigei","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ghid-de-glume-pentru-gigei\/","title":{"rendered":"Ghid de glume pentru gigei"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Exist de ceva ani\u0219ori de aceast\u0103 planet\u0103 \u0219i \u00een continuare r\u0103m\u00e2n stupefiat\u0103 de urm\u0103toarea situa\u021bie: un gicu scoate c\u00e2te o jignire oribil\u0103 \u0219i ur\u00e2cioas\u0103, care \u021bi-l face extrem de sc\u00e2rbos de la prima vedere, apoi c\u00e2nd \u00eel pui la punct, o d\u0103 la \u00eentors: Eu am glumit, h\u0103h\u0103h\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exist\u0103 r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bile subtile pe care oamenii \u0219i le spun \u00een rela\u021bii de prietenie durabile, r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bi care indic\u0103 limpede o familiaritate cu cel\u0103lalt, care sunt stabilite reciproc ca glume \u0219i cu o valoare zero de adev\u0103r consim\u021bit\u0103 tacit de ambele p\u0103r\u021bi. \u0218i da, acelea sunt rela\u021bii interumane minunate. Dar faptul c\u0103 po\u021bi s\u0103 spui acele r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bi e exact dovada nivelului de siguran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i de \u00eencredere pe care \u00eel experimenteaz\u0103 respectivii \u00een interac\u021biunea lor \u0219i dovada nivelului de comunicare nonverbal\u0103 care-i face s\u0103 intre \u00een joc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar \u00een absen\u021ba acestui nivel de familiaritate, r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bile de doi lei nu sunt glume, ci simple semne de neadecvare. Expresia faptului c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti de \u00eencredere, c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 cale de comunicare cu tine \u0219i c\u0103 traseul corect \u00een ceea ce te prive\u0219te e distan\u021ba. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca idee: multe lucruri extrem de deranjante la gigei vin dintr-o eroare de perspectiv\u0103: faptul c\u0103 fac confuzia \u00eentre femei pe care nu le cunosc, cu care nu au o familiaritate \u0219i care nu au de ce s\u0103 le permit\u0103 lucruri, cu iubitele \u0219i nevestele lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aici vin complimentele gre\u021boase fa\u021b\u0103 de necunoscute. De aici vin glumele imbecile fa\u021b\u0103 de necunoscute. De aici vin preten\u021biile de a da ordine \u0219i de a face reguli cu oameni care nu sunt angaja\u021bii t\u0103i. De aici vine cyberbullyingul. Sau bullyingul fizic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acea familiaritate nu se poate impune \u0219i nu se poate for\u021ba. Vorbe\u0219te cu \u201edumneavoastr\u0103\u201d, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd interlocutorul zice \u201ehai s\u0103 ne tutuim\u201d. Trateaz\u0103 persoana necunoscut\u0103 civilizat \u0219i politicos, p\u00e2n\u0103 se creeaz\u0103 conexiunea care duce la familiaritate. Doar pentru c\u0103 tu \u00eemi cite\u0219ti mie blogul, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 eu m\u0103 trag de br\u0103cinari cu tine. Sigur, dac\u0103 \u0219i donezi, discut\u0103m diferit, pentru c\u0103 nu trec cu vederea faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi sacrifici o cafea – dou\u0103 pentru supravie\u021buirea acestui proiect. Nu sunt c\u00e2\u0219tigata la belciuge a nim\u0103nui \u0219i familiaritatea \u00eencepe cu consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul meu, nu cu harnelile tale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar m-am lungit mult cu acest rant \u0219i revin s\u0103 punctez. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A) Nu, ignirile \u00een mod categoric nu sunt glume<\/strong>, ci doar coming-outul t\u0103u c\u0103 nu \u0219tii s\u0103 cite\u0219ti interlocutorul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Explica\u021bii mai sus. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B) Aluziile impertinente NU sunt glume<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen mintea gigelului tradi\u021bionalist, femeia nu este o persoan\u0103 de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare, ci un fel de bun ob\u0219tesc, din care vine oricine \u0219i se aprovizioneaz\u0103 dup\u0103 pofta inimii. De aceea, specimene cu care nu ai avut niciodat\u0103 nici o treab\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi posteaz\u0103, \u00ee\u021bi trimit ni\u0219te mesaje sau \u00ee\u021bi spun lucruri de o libidino\u0219enie care te las\u0103 masc\u0103. De ce s\u0103 faci una ca asta cu un str\u0103in? Ce speri s\u0103 ob\u021bii? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0103i, nu, Lorena, erau doar glume. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 erau glume, unde era poanta \u0219i la care \u00eentors\u0103tur\u0103 de fraz\u0103 se presupunea c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 r\u00e2dem? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C) S\u0103 tot contrazici omul de dragul de a-l contrazice \u0219i s\u0103-i pierzi o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de timp cu asta NU e o glum\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Faptul c\u0103 te h\u0103h\u0103i tu de stresul indus altuia \u0219i \u00eei vampirizezi disconfortul nu e un semn de umor, \u0219i nu \u0219tiu de ce unora li se pare \u00eennebunitor de funny. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

D) S\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti de r\u0103u pe altul ca s\u0103 groh\u0103ie de r\u00e2s o hait\u0103 de ter\u021bi nu e o glum\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dat fiind c\u0103 eu postez mult content feminist, ajung des \u021binta grupurilor de alt-right de pe Facebook. \u0218i atunci se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 urm\u0103torul fenomen: unul asmute o \u00eentreag\u0103 galerie de r\u00e2me s\u0103 vin\u0103 s\u0103 semnalizeze. Mul\u021bi. Mul\u021bi \u0219i halucinant de pro\u0219ti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar acest lucru se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u0219i \u00een \u0219coli \u0219i gr\u0103dini\u021be. Sau \u00een colective profesionale gre\u0219it manageriate. Un cretin ridiculizeaz\u0103 c\u00e2te o \u021bint\u0103 care nu pare capabil\u0103 s\u0103-i f00t\u0103 Dumnezeii, s\u0103 fac\u0103 gloata s\u0103 r\u00e2d\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu, nu e o glum\u0103 \u0219i nu, nu ar trebui tratat\u0103 ca atare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201ep\u0103i da, Lorena, dar roasturile?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Roasturile sunt formate din participan\u021bi care vor s\u0103 fie acolo. Care sunt pl\u0103ti\u021bi s\u0103 fie acolo. Care au luat la cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 regulile jocului \u0219i \u0219i-au dat CONSIM\u021a\u0102M\u00c2NTUL s\u0103 o ia peste tot ca form\u0103 de entertainment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar acest consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2nt se ob\u021bine, NU se sub\u00een\u021belege. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 nu ve\u021bi aplica ce v-am povestit pe aici \u0219i ve\u021bi continua s\u0103 semnaliza\u021bi infect, pute\u021bi boci \u00een continuare c\u0103 femeile nu sunt doamne cu voi \u0219i c\u0103 v\u0103 dau block la dou\u0103 replici. Obiectiv nu au de ce s\u0103 fie doamne cu voi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 ve\u021bi \u00eencepe s\u0103 pune\u021bi problema glumelor din perspectiva \u201easta e o str\u0103in\u0103 \u0219i nu-mi datoreaz\u0103 nimic\u201d, calitatea vie\u021bii voastre sociale se va \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bi semnificativ. Da, cu pl\u0103cere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi plac opiniile b\u00e2rzoete \u0219i d\u00e2rze (\u0219i da, asta e o referin\u021b\u0103 la Ion Creang\u0103, pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 fii atent la acest paragraf), po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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