Am citit ultimul t\u0103u articol<\/a> despre locuitul cu p\u0103rin\u021bii ca adult \u0219i voiam s\u0103 te \u00eentreb ce p\u0103rere ai despre urm\u0103toarea situa\u021bie. M\u0103 \u021bineam s\u0103-\u021bi scriu, s\u0103-\u021bi cer p\u0103rerea mai demult, dar ultimul articol a fost imboldul care a determinat scrierea acestui mail:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n O t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 se mut\u0103 \u00een alt ora\u0219 pentru a face facultatea, \u00eentr-un apartament de\u021binut de p\u0103rin\u021bi, doi p\u0103rin\u021bi buni, implica\u021bi si iubitori, dar cu mici defecte, ca toat\u0103 lumea. Libertatea de a face orice, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 un torent de \u00eentreb\u0103ri \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 sa fie nevoit\u0103 sa dea explica\u021bii, balanseaz\u0103 decisiv talerul \u00een favoarea locuitului singur\u0103. Cu bani primi\u021bi s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2nal de la p\u0103rin\u021bi, bine\u00een\u021beles, pentru c\u0103 face o facultate solicitant\u0103, ea \u00ee\u0219i d\u0103 seama c\u0103 locuitul f\u0103r\u0103 p\u0103rin\u021bi e cel mai bun lucru care i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat vreodat\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 are de gestionat buget s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2nal (nici mic, dar nici mare), de f\u0103cut curat, m\u00e2ncare, ordine, bla bla bla. Avantaje \u0219i dezavantaje, dar avantajele dep\u0103\u0219esc clar dezavantajele. Ce e amuzant este c\u0103 \u0219i p\u0103rin\u021bii au avut aceea\u0219i revela\u021bie, motiv pentru care protagonista noastr\u0103 este mereu binevenit\u0103 \u00een cuibul p\u0103rintesc, dar doar ca musafir 2-3-4 zile. A \u00eencercat s\u0103 se mute \u00eenapoi acas\u0103 \u00een prima vacan\u021b\u0103 de var\u0103, dar cu mult \u00eenainte de \u00eencheierea vacan\u021bei, \u00a0\u0219i-a \u00eempachetat lucrurile \u0219i s-a dus \u00eenapoi la lini\u0219tea apartamentului s\u0103u, spre bucuria ambelor p\u0103r\u021bi implicate. R\u0103m\u00e2nem \u00een continuare o familie apropiat\u0103, nu m\u0103 \u00een\u021belege gre\u0219it, \u00eens\u0103 locuitul \u00eempreun\u0103 nu este pentru noi. Vorbim zilnic la telefon, ei se ocup\u0103 \u00een continuare de tot ce \u021bine de \u00eengrijirea apartamentului (utilit\u0103\u021bi, facturi, dar \u0219i renov\u0103ri, ba chiar mama trimite la ceva timp inclusiv o doamn\u0103 care s\u0103 ajute la cur\u0103\u021benie).\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In ultima vreme \u00eens\u0103, au ap\u0103rut discu\u021bii referitoare la ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla dupa ce termina facultatea (mai are 2 ani). Fetei i s ar p\u0103rea normal sa ramana in apartamentul respectiv, dat fiind ca p\u0103rin\u021bii mai au si alte imobile pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 acel apartament si cu siguran\u021ba nu stau in banii ob\u021binu\u021bi din \u00eenchirierea lui, mai ales ca nu presupune un deranj efectiv, as fi \u00een\u021beles dac\u0103 nu ar fi fost de acord s\u0103 m\u0103 mut \u00eenapoi cu ei \u00een cas\u0103 (presupun\u00e2nd ca a\u0219 fi vrut a\u0219a ceva), dar, altfel, nu v\u0103d nicio piedica. Chiar dac\u0103 voi avea o meserie bun\u0103 \u0219i cu siguran\u021b\u0103, nu voi face foamea dup\u0103 ce termin facultatea, voi sim\u021bi cu siguran\u021b\u0103 o chirie sau o rat\u0103, \u0219i, sincer nu vreau s\u0103 muncesc ca s\u0103 pl\u0103tesc lunar a\u0219a ceva, c\u00e2nd pot sta \u00een apartamentul alor mei \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eemi cump\u0103r altceva cu banii \u0103ia, sau s\u0103-i pun deoparte, sau orice decid eu s\u0103 fac cu banii mei munci\u021bi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ideea “briliant\u0103” \u00a0a mamei este s\u0103-mi dea bani de avans, iar eu s\u0103-mi achizi\u021bionez un apartament \u0219i s\u0103-mi pl\u0103tesc ratele singur\u0103. Tata m-a asigurat c\u0103 nu o s\u0103 vin\u0103 banca s\u0103-mi ia casa dac\u0103 nu voi putea pl\u0103ti ratele, c\u0103 m\u0103 va ajuta el, dar nu m\u0103 pot baza pe asta ca s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenham la un credit de 20-25-30 de ani. Plus de asta, nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 leg de ora\u0219ul \u00een care stau acum, momentan \u00eemi place foarte mult, dar ce garan\u021bie am c\u0103 la 30 de ani nu voi avea o oportunitate mai bun\u0103 \u0219i nu voi decide s\u0103 plec \u00een alt ora\u0219? \u0218i ce voi face atunci, voi pl\u0103ti rata la apartament, chiria \u00een noul ora\u0219, \u0219i \u00eemi vor r\u0103m\u00e2ne bani s\u0103-mi iau o franzel\u0103 \u0219i o cutie de pateu. Nu, mul\u021bumesc. S\u0103 pl\u0103tesc o chirie iar nu mi se pare normal, s\u0103 arunc ni\u0219te bani pe fereastr\u0103 doar ca s\u0103 se laude mama la birou c\u0103 fata ei e independent\u0103 complet \u0219i peste 5 ani s\u0103 calculez c\u00e2\u021bi bani am dat pe chirie \u0219i c\u0103 nu am r\u0103mas cu nimic?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 \u00eei explic mamei c\u0103 are \u00een jur at\u00e2tea exemple de copii care \u00eenc\u0103 locuiesc cu p\u0103rin\u021bii pentru c\u0103 e singura proprietate a acestora din urm\u0103 \u0219i nu au de ales, cum ai spus \u0219i tu \u00een articol, “s\u0103 se bucure copilul de bani”, \u0219i c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 nu mai fie at\u00e2t de \u00eenver\u0219unat\u0103 pe problema asta a locuitului \u00een apartamentul respectiv, pentru c\u0103 nu vin s-o deranjez \u00een casa ei \u0219i s\u0103-i m\u0103n\u00e2nc telemeaua din frigider, nu o incomodez cu absolut nimic dac\u0103 stau acolo. M-am adaptat foarte bine locuitului singur\u0103 \u0219i nu m-a\u0219 muta dec\u00e2t cu un viitor partener, dar cu p\u0103rin\u021bi ori cu prieteni nu a\u0219 locui dec\u00e2t \u00een situa\u021bii de str\u00e2mtorare financiar\u0103 extrem\u0103. Nu a \u00een\u021beles dec\u00e2t c\u0103 “nu vreau s\u0103 fiu independent\u0103” \u0219i c\u0103 “o s\u0103 at\u00e2rn toat\u0103 via\u021ba de ei”, ceea ce e complet fals. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu am nici cea mai mic\u0103 inten\u021bie s\u0103 le cer vreun ban dup\u0103 ce termin facultatea, \u00een afar\u0103 de a-mi p\u0103stra ce mi-au dat deja, \u0219i anume o cas\u0103 \u0219i o ma\u0219in\u0103, nu mai vreau s\u0103-mi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 nici facturile, nici m\u00e2ncarea, nici asigurarea la masin\u0103, nici nici nici. Sunt un copil alintat pentru c\u0103 nu vreau s\u0103-mi grevez bugetul de debutant pe pia\u021ba muncii cu 4-500 euro lunar pentru a avea un acoperi\u0219 deasupra capului, sau am dreptate c\u00e2nd spun c\u0103 ar fi normal \u0219i de bun sim\u021b s\u0103 m\u0103 lase s\u0103 stau \u00een continuare acolo p\u00e2n\u0103 simt eu (\u0219i \u00eemi permit) s\u0103 m\u0103 mut \u00een ceva mai spa\u021bios ? \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tu ai ni\u0219te p\u0103rin\u021bi foarte mi\u0219to, de\u0219i nu \u00ee\u021bi dai seama \u00een acest moment. Ei \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 cultive \u00een tine o g\u00e2ndire de investitor. M\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc acum, retroactiv, c\u00e2t de mult m-ar fi ajutat s\u0103 am p\u0103rin\u021bi ca ai t\u0103i \u0219i s\u0103-mi ofere o sum\u0103 mare ca avans pentru o locuin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i, din ce pl\u0103tesc pe chirie, s\u0103 fi achitat rata la cas\u0103, iar la final, s\u0103 m\u0103 aleg cu o cas\u0103 cu care pot face orice: birou de imobiliare, salon de mani – pedi sau club de feti\u0219uri \u0219i kinks. Sau s-o \u00eenchiriez \u0219i s\u0103 am \u00eenc\u0103 un venit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218tiu c\u0103 e scary, dar via\u021ba e scary \u00een general. Multe decizii grele, cu consecin\u021be pe care trebuie s\u0103 le anticipezi, c\u0103 dac\u0103 nu o faci, vin s\u0103 te mu\u0219te de kuhr. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dar \u00een\u021beleg \u0219i faptul c\u0103 tu te-ai ata\u0219at de casa \u00een care stai acum, \u0219i atunci, iat\u0103 cum a\u0219 pune eu problema fa\u021b\u0103 de p\u0103rin\u021bii t\u0103i, s\u0103 dovedesc independen\u021b\u0103 \u0219i maturitate: <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201eDrag\u0103 mam\u0103, drag\u0103 tat\u0103. Am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 v\u0103 dori\u021bi s\u0103 fiu o persoan\u0103 independent\u0103, care s\u0103 stea pe propriile picioare. Dar casa asta e perfect\u0103 pentru mine \u0219i nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 mut din ea, de aceea, propun urm\u0103torul compromis: Face\u021bi-i o evaluare. S\u0103 zicem, 70.000 de euro. Din momentul \u00een care m\u0103 angajez, v\u0103 virez lunar 500 de euro din salariu, pe post de rat\u0103 la cas\u0103, c\u0103 m\u0103car voi nu-mi cere\u021bi dob\u00e2nd\u0103. C\u00e2nd ajungem la 70.000, facem frumos un act de dona\u021bie, s\u0103 economisim impozitul de v\u00e2nzare – cump\u0103rare, \u0219i trece\u021bi casa pe numele meu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sun\u0103 destul de independent pentru voi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar dac\u0103 v\u0103 dori\u021bi de fapt o nou\u0103 proprietate, cump\u0103ra\u021bi o alt\u0103 cas\u0103 \u0219i pl\u0103ti\u021bi voi rata din cei 500 de euro trimi\u0219i de mine.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi cuno\u0219ti iubirea vie\u021bii \u0219i te mu\u021bi cu ea, po\u021bi \u00eenchiria apartamentul, c\u0103 pamper\u0219ii sunt scumpi \u0219i orice venit suplimentar e bineVENIT. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 apreciezi aceast\u0103 rubric\u0103, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimi(te)\u021bi problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":15563,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-25548","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/family.jpg?fit=768%2C433&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25548","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25548"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25548\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25577,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25548\/revisions\/25577"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15563"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25548"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=25548"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=25548"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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