{"id":25579,"date":"2023-11-12T01:31:27","date_gmt":"2023-11-11T22:31:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25579"},"modified":"2023-11-12T10:39:17","modified_gmt":"2023-11-12T07:39:17","slug":"posta-redactiei-drept-la-replica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-drept-la-replica\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Drept la replic\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ieri, am primit acest mail<\/a> <\/strong>pe po\u0219ta redac\u021biei. O fat\u0103 cu p\u0103rin\u021bi de un anumit nivel social \u0219i financiar m-a \u00eentrebat ce s\u0103 fac\u0103, dac\u0103 ei vor s\u0103-i cear\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i cumpere propria locuin\u021b\u0103 dup\u0103 facultate \u0219i s\u0103 plece din apartamentul lor. Eu i-am oferit o solu\u021bie echilibrat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar internau\u021bii, ca internau\u021bii: au \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nce c cu polonicul, ultraipocri\u021bi, ultraindigna\u021bi, au f\u0103cut-o pe fat\u0103 cu ou \u0219i cu o\u021bet. Prin urmare, mi-a scris \u0219i m-a rugat s\u0103 postez o clarificare: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Salut, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00e2sca entitled revine cu un nou mail de clarificare. Mi a pl\u0103cut f. mult r\u0103spunsul Lorenei \u0219i chiar \u00eel voi aplica, dar m-a pus necuratul s\u0103 citesc comentariile de pe Facebook \u0219i am ajuns la concluzia c\u0103 ai mei au acumulat posibilit\u0103\u021bile pe care le au pentru c\u0103 le-au dat \u00een cap p\u0103rin\u021bilor \u0103lora da\u021bi afar\u0103 \u00een suturi la 18 ani, altfel nu-mi explic de unde at\u00e2ta ur\u0103. Nu vreau s\u0103 devin\u0103 un debate \u00een care Lorena s\u0103 fie intermediarul, c\u0103 ajung \u0219i eu ca tipa aia cu colega de munc\u0103 M care era f toxic\u0103 \u0219i a trimis 17 mailuri \u00een care zicea acelea\u0219i lucruri. Gen \u0103sta e al doilea \u0219i ultimul mail pe care-l trimit, dar m-a frapat c\u00e2t\u0103 r\u0103utate exist\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma\u0219ina a fost cadou c\u0103 am intrat la facultate la f\u0103r\u0103 tax\u0103. sunt de acord c\u0103 nu to\u021bi au parte de a\u0219a ceva, e adev\u0103rat c\u0103 mare parte din colegii mei nu au ma\u0219in\u0103 deloc, iar eu am primit una nou-nou\u021b\u0103, dar, ca fat\u0103 care locuie\u0219te singur\u0103 \u00eentr-un ora\u0219 nou, cu toate lucrurile care se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 fetelor \u0219i femeilor, ma\u0219ina \u00ee\u021bi ofer\u0103 un plus de siguran\u021b\u0103, mai ales seara. Nu am cerut eu, normal c\u0103 mi-ar fi pl\u0103cut s\u0103 am, dar ei s-au oferit \u0219i am zis mersi frumos. La fel cu “menajera”, care nu e o menajer\u0103 propriu-zis\u0103, cu \u0219or\u021b \u0219i rochi\u021b\u0103 neagr\u0103, c\u0103 nu suntem \u00een filme,  e o doamn\u0103 pe care mama o trimite periodic, din proprie ini\u021biativ\u0103, s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute la treburile mai grele pe care nu le faci zilnic, dar la fel, nu am cerut eu, ea s-a oferit \u0219i am zis mersi frumos. La fel cu toate lucrurile primite, niciodat\u0103 nu s-a pus problema de cerut, dar dac\u0103 ei au oferit, doar nu era s\u0103 zic \u201enu, v\u0103 rog, l\u0103sa\u021bi-m\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 chinui, nu vreau la facultate cu ma\u0219ina, eu vreau cu autobuzul”.  Am primit \u0219i am zis mersi frumos. Dar nu au fost niciodat\u0103 oamenii care s\u0103 zic\u0103 \u201e\u00ee\u021bi cump\u0103r\u0103m c\u0103 \u021bi se cuvine”, ci oamenii care au zis \u201enoi ne permitem s\u0103-\u021bi asigur\u0103m x y z , dar trebuie s\u0103 faci si tu ceva”.  Am vrut s\u0103 dau la o facultate mai u\u0219oar\u0103, si mi-au spus c\u0103 m\u0103 vor sus\u021bine dac\u0103 asta \u00eemi doresc, dar p\u0103rerea lor e c\u0103 nu e de viitor \u0219i s\u0103 aleg altceva, a\u0219a c\u0103 m-am reorientat c\u0103tre medicin\u0103, care e o facultate f. solicitant\u0103 si dureaz\u0103 6 ani, si p\u00e2n\u0103 acum m\/am men\u021binut la f\u0103r\u0103 tax\u0103, ceea ce, din punctul lor de vedere, e o performan\u021b\u0103, motiv pentru care mi-au facilitat toate lucrurile povestite \u00een mailul anterior. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 eram a\u0219a “entitled”, alegeam ceva mult mai pu\u021bin solicitant \u0219i plecam s\u0103-mi tr\u0103iesc la maximum anii de studen\u021bie , nu? Am ales drumul \u0103sta mai greu tocmai ca s\u0103 nu mai depind de ei dup\u0103 25 de ani c\u00e2nd termin, dar pe bune s\u0103 nu mai depind, la modul s\u0103 am un job ok \u0219i s\u0103-mi permit toate privilegiile pe care le aveam acas\u0103. Sunt f con\u0219tient\u0103 c\u0103 am ni\u0219te p\u0103rin\u021bi f buni, tocmai de aia am \u00eenceput mailul anterior cu “ni\u0219te p\u0103rin\u021bi buni, implica\u021bi \u0219i iubitori”. Cred c\u0103 oricine ar fi avut p\u0103rin\u021bi cu posibilit\u0103\u021bi ar fi profitat de ele dec\u00e2t s\u0103 se chinuie singur. Felicit\u0103ri celor care au reu\u0219it pe barba lor, dar unii dintre voi sunte\u021bi at\u00e2t de r\u0103i, c\u0103 poate de-aia n-a\u021bi avut de acas\u0103 \ud83d\ude42 doar zic<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mul\u021bumesc, Lorena, pentru r\u0103spunsul anterior ff bun \u0219i pentru rubrica asta! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i mie mi s-a p\u0103rut jenant\u0103 furia proletar\u0103 cu care s-au n\u0103pustit unii peste un om t\u00e2n\u0103r de 20 de ani, care, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, nu ia din banii lor, ci din banii propriei familii. \u0218i chiar dac\u0103 cereai, cereai de la p\u0103rin\u021bii t\u0103i, nu erai cu basca-n m\u00e2n\u0103 la cer\u0219it \u00een Gara de Nord. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Realitatea e c\u0103, dac\u0103 \u0103ia care s-au n\u0103pustit s\u0103 jigneasc\u0103 ar fi fost sinceri, ar fi admis c\u0103 to\u021bi – \u0219i da, admit c\u0103 \u0219i eu – to\u021bi ne-am fi dorit p\u0103rin\u021bi ca ai t\u0103i. Foamea crunt\u0103 pe care am f\u0103cut-o \u00een facultate \u00eemi provoac\u0103 \u0219i acum tulbur\u0103ri alimentare. De aceea am \u0219i acceptat s\u0103 promovez un studio de v-chat acum 5 ani. Sunt familii care au at\u00e2t de pu\u021bin de oferit \u0219i te arunc\u0103 \u00een societate cu o lips\u0103 at\u00e2t de acut\u0103 de resurse, \u00eenc\u00e2t sau cari l\u0103zi la Mega Image \u0219i nu mai ai energie de nimic, sau alegi un job lejer \u0219i flexibil \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi duci studiile la cap\u0103t s\u0103 ai \u0219ansa la un destin mai bun, nu tot unul de coate-goale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

R\u0103utatea comentatorilor e doar expresia unei invidii profunde \u0219i a tuturor d\u0103\u021bilor c\u00e2nd au m\u00e2ncat p\u00e2ine cu mu\u0219tar \u0219i p\u00e2ine \u00eenmuiat\u0103 \u00een zah\u0103r \u00een studen\u021bie., \u0219i au urcat \u00een autobuz rug\u00e2ndu-se s\u0103 nu vin\u0103 control, pentru c\u0103 nu aveau bani de bilet. Judec\u0103 via\u021ba prin perspectiva asta, \u0219i vei \u00een\u021belege de ce ace\u0219ti oameni fac spume c\u00e2nd aud c\u0103 unii au primit ma\u0219in\u0103 de la p\u0103rin\u021bi pentru intrarea \u00een facultate. Mul\u021bi nu am primit nici m\u0103car un \u201ebravo, puiule\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De ce nu te invidiez eu? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103 eu sunt \u00eentr-un punct de maturitate \u00een care \u0219tiu c\u0103 invidia e cel mai neproductiv \u0219i mai toxic sentiment, \u0219i c\u0103 m\u0103 bucur acum de stabilitate material\u0103 cu con\u0219tiin\u021ba faptului c\u0103 mi-am creat-o cu m\u00e2inile mele. De aceea nu simt nevoia s\u0103 fiu jigodie cu nimeni. OK, except\u00e2ndu-i pe cei care \u00eemi fac r\u0103u nejustificat sau se leag\u0103 aiurea de mine. Pe \u0103ia \u00eei jetuiesc f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 stau pe g\u00e2nduri, pentru c\u0103 fiecare om poate \u00eendura un nivel n de abuz \u00een via\u021b\u0103, iar eu sunt acum la n+1, \u0219i bag \u00een organ genital matern pe oricine crede c\u0103 \u0219i-a g\u0103sit prostul \u00een persoana mea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca idee, mult\u0103 lume e proast\u0103 \u0219i rea. Dar \u0219tii ce? Nu e despre tine, ci despre nivelul \u0219i caracterul lor. Las\u0103-i s\u0103 se dea \u00een stamb\u0103. \u00cen fond, cu r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bile lor cu tot, ei se vor duce la jobul lor cu salariu minim pe economie cu tramvaiul, iar tu te vei duce la facultatea ta unde \u00ee\u021bi men\u021bii de patru ani notele mari cu o ma\u0219in\u0103 superb\u0103. Caz clasic de \u201ec\u00e2inii latr\u0103, caravana trece.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 apreciezi aceast\u0103 rubric\u0103, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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