{"id":25585,"date":"2023-11-13T01:52:25","date_gmt":"2023-11-12T22:52:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25585"},"modified":"2023-11-13T12:02:14","modified_gmt":"2023-11-13T09:02:14","slug":"renuntati-la-invidie-oameni-buni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/renuntati-la-invidie-oameni-buni\/","title":{"rendered":"Renun\u021ba\u021bi la invidie, oameni buni"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Weekendul \u0103sta a fost cam dezam\u0103gitor pentru mine, trebuie s\u0103 recunosc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00centotdeauna mi-a pl\u0103cut s\u0103 cred c\u0103 mi-am selectat bine cititorii. Nu, nu pe cei c\u00e2\u021biva orbiteri care apar pe la toate post\u0103rile cu \u201esalut frumoasa\u201d \u0219i cu \u201ebun\u0103 dymy\u201d, ci propriu-zis cititorii. Oamenii care parcurg aceste texte \u0219i le \u00een\u021beleg ideile principale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar modul \u00een care numi\u021bii cititori s-au n\u0103pustit cu at\u00e2ta invidie pe un copil de 20 de ani, doar pentru c\u0103 a avut noroc de p\u0103rin\u021bi mai buni dec\u00e2t ai lor, m-a strepezit profund. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hai s\u0103 facem o mic\u0103 analiz\u0103 cu noi \u00een\u0219ine. V-ar fi pl\u0103cut s\u0103 ave\u021bi voi p\u0103rin\u021bii acestei fete, s\u0103 ave\u021bi apartament, ma\u0219in\u0103 \u0219i o sum\u0103 decent\u0103 la dispozi\u021bie \u00een timp ce v\u0103 face\u021bi studiile? Eu, una, recunosc c\u0103 da. Dar, ghinion, nu ne-a fost distribuit\u0103 nou\u0103 aceast\u0103 m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een joc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd vede\u021bi gagici pe Instagram, \u00een destina\u021bii de lux, invidia\u021bi cocteilurile \u0219i bronzul superb? Acolo, r\u0103spunsul tinde s\u0103 fie \u201enu\u201d pentru mine, pentru c\u0103 poza nu-l arat\u0103 \u0219i pe individul de 60+, burtos \u0219i par\u021bial chel, care pl\u0103te\u0219te excursia \u0219i cu care sunt obligate s\u0103 fac\u0103 trebu\u0219oara aia ru\u0219inoas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd vede\u021bi contul lui Dorian Popa, sim\u021bi\u021bi un puseu de invidie legat de to\u021bi acei bani pe care-i face din toate dealurile de business? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu, recunosc, mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 am acele deals. Dar \u00eemi dau seama lucid de factorii care ne diferen\u021biaz\u0103: eu nu am \u00een spate aparatul de PR al unor televiziuni mari care au lucrat ani \u00een \u0219ir s\u0103-l fac\u0103 vedet\u0103, nu am mii de euro de dat s\u0103 m\u0103 plimb \u00een toate destina\u021biile scumpe cu echip\u0103 de filmare cu tot \u0219i nu sunt genul care se dezbrac\u0103 pentru likes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare, nu \u00eel invidiez pe Dorian. Pentru c\u0103 stilul de via\u021b\u0103 care presupune men\u021binerea acelei fabrici de con\u021binut nonstop e mult peste ce sunt eu dispus\u0103 s\u0103 investesc. Probabil c\u0103, dac\u0103 m-a\u0219 zbate, a\u0219 g\u0103si banii. Dar nu mai am cheful \u0103la de sari \u00een avion – f\u0103 escal\u0103 \u0219i m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 m\u00e2ncare proast\u0103 de aeroport – mai stai \u00een avion nu \u0219tiu c\u00e2te ore p\u00e2n\u0103 pe Pla Calului Island. \u00cemi place s\u0103 beau vin ro\u0219u la un film cu pisica torc\u00e2nd \u00een bra\u021be. \u0218i \u0219tiu c\u0103 nu e deloc glam. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Concluzie: nu am nici un chef s\u0103 livrez genul de content pe care-l produce Popa \u0219i nu voi avea niciodat\u0103 genul \u0103la de bani. Ceea ce e ok. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar v\u0103 invit. dragi cititori, s\u0103 urm\u0103ri\u021bi ra\u021bionamentul pe care tocmai l-am f\u0103cut. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Diferen\u021ba \u00eentre enun\u021bul simplu: tsss, ce \u00eel invidiez pe Popa, pe care \u00eel produce gigelul obi\u0219nuit, \u0219i o analiz\u0103 matur\u0103 a tot ce presupune via\u021ba pe care o duce Popa \u0219i nivelul de efort pe care el \u00eel investe\u0219te \u00een con\u021binutul lui, \u0219i disponibilitatea oric\u0103ruia dintre noi s\u0103 fac\u0103 asta. Plus, important, PR-ul oferit de dou\u0103 televiziuni de top: Pro TV \u0219i Antena, care l-au \u00eempins agresiv \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 c\u00e2t timp era vedet\u0103 prin produc\u021biile lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, dragi prieteni, nu merit\u0103 s\u0103 invidiezi pe nimeni. Niciodat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, oamenii arat\u0103 public ni\u0219te rezultate. Unele sclipitoare. Dar nu \u0219tii c\u00e2t\u0103 munc\u0103, c\u00e2t stres, c\u00e2t efort – al lui \u0219i al altora – a fost investit \u00een acele rezultate sclipitoare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mam\u0103\u0103, ce a sl\u0103bit cut\u0103ri\u021ba. Dar cut\u0103ri\u021ba s-a trezit zilnic la 5 s\u0103 alerge prin cartier \u0219i s\u0103 dea os\u00e2nza jos. Tu la 5 dormeai cu b\u0103lu\u021ba \u00een col\u021bul gurii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maaam\u0103\u0103\u0103, ce rela\u021bie mi\u0219to are cut\u0103relul. \u00cen trei ani, cut\u0103relul divor\u021beaz\u0103 cu scandal \u0219i \u00eencepe un proces ur\u00e2t de partaj, \u00een care taie \u0219i c\u00e2inele \u00een dou\u0103 s\u0103 revin\u0103 \u00een mod egal lui \u0219i nevestei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen loc s\u0103 invidiezi aparen\u021ba de fericire a altuia, mai bine uit\u0103-te la m\u00e2na pe care crupierul divin \u021bi-a dat-o \u021bie \u0219i vezi ce po\u021bi s\u0103 joci cu ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, am fost crupier de cazinou odinioar\u0103. \u0218i chiar cred c\u0103 via\u021ba e un interminabil joc de poker. \u00cen loc s\u0103-i invidiezi pe ceilal\u021bi pentru m\u00e2inile lor, sau pentru arta lor de cacealma, vezi ce po\u021bi face tu cu a ta. S\u0103 invidiezi pe cut\u0103ric\u0103 e ca \u0219i cum renun\u021bi complet la c\u0103r\u021bile tale \u0219i dai fold, nici m\u0103car nu-\u021bi acorzi o \u0219ans\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Invidia te face s\u0103 ratezi oportunit\u0103\u021bi <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Concentrat fiind s\u0103 fierbi de nervi c\u0103 uite ce are \u0103la \u0219i ce face \u0103l\u0103lalt, pierzi timp valoros pe care l-ai putea investi \u00een tine \u0219i \u00een a deveni mai bun profesional \u0219i uman – lucruri care \u021bi-ar putea aduce oportunit\u0103\u021bi mai bune \u0219i bani mai mul\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru c\u0103, \u00eentr-adev\u0103r, nu po\u021bi schimba m\u00e2na ini\u021bial\u0103, dar po\u021bi ad\u0103uga dou\u0103 c\u0103r\u021bi care s\u0103 transforme ceea ce p\u0103rea o m\u00e2n\u0103 proast\u0103 \u00eentr-un careu sau un full house. Dar asta presupune ca aten\u021bia ta s\u0103 fie pe ceea ce ai \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103, nu pe negativitatea legat\u0103 de X sau de Y. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Invidia te face s\u0103 te desconsideri <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd cr\u0103pi de ciud\u0103 c\u0103 uite ce are \u0103la \u0219i uite ce face aia, practic, \u00ee\u021bi spui incon\u0219tient c\u0103 tu nu valorezi nimic \u0219i tot ce ai tu acum e un rahat. Da, negativitatea te plaseaz\u0103 automat pe o pozi\u021bie de inferioritate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oamenii con\u0219tien\u021bi de valoarea lor nu simt nevoia s\u0103-i invidieze pe al\u021bii pentru c\u0103 ok, eu nu am chef s\u0103 fac escal\u0103 la Frankfurt dou\u0103 ore \u0219i nu voi avea EVER clipurile lui Popa, dar nici Popa nu va avea EVER talentul meu de a scrie, iar eu sunt fericit\u0103 cu ce am eu \u0219i pot monetiza. Sigur, nu la nivelul lui Popa, c\u0103 nu a stat PR-ul lui Pro \u0219i al Antenei s\u0103 bage promo\u021bie \u00een fundul meu. Dar pot monetiza la nivelul meu, ob\u021binut cu sudoarea frun\u021bii \u0219i uzura tastaturii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Invidia te face antipatic <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oamenii se feresc natural de persoanele care eman\u0103 un vibe nepl\u0103cut, sunt ve\u0219nic nemul\u021bumite \u0219i pline de ur\u0103. Singurii pe care-i atragi sunt cei la fel de negativi\u0219ti ca tine. \u0218i nu v\u0103 ve\u021bi ajuta unii pe al\u021bii s\u0103 cre\u0219te\u021bi, dimpotriv\u0103. V\u0103 ve\u021bi trage reciproc \u00een mocirla urii \u0219i a neputin\u021bei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vei constata c\u00e2t de inutili sunt confra\u021bii \u00een toxicitate \u00een momentul c\u00e2nd vei lua \u00een sf\u00e2r\u0219it decizia s\u0103-\u021bi repari via\u021ba. \u0218i amicii t\u0103i hateri vor \u00eencasa fiecare schimbare a ta \u00een bine ca pe un atac la adresa lor. Pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a func\u021bioneaz\u0103 negativitatea. E stupid\u0103, distructiv\u0103 \u0219i ira\u021bional\u0103, \u0219i, ca \u00een bancul cu cazanul de rom\u00e2ni \u00een iad: Dac\u0103 \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se ridice unul la suprafa\u021b\u0103, \u00eel trag ceilal\u021bi \u00een jos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Din aceste motive, v\u0103 propun un exerci\u021biu de \u00eens\u0103n\u0103to\u0219ire emo\u021bional\u0103: Dac\u0103 vede\u021bi sau auzi\u021bi c\u0103 unuia \u00eei merge bine, bucura\u021bi-v\u0103 pentru el. Din suflet. Apoi, reveni\u021bi la treburile voastre \u0219i vede\u021bi ce pute\u021bi face s\u0103 le \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bi\u021bi. Ve\u021bi fi mult mai ferici\u021bi la finalul zilei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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