{"id":25633,"date":"2023-11-21T01:56:07","date_gmt":"2023-11-20T22:56:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25633"},"modified":"2023-11-21T10:52:20","modified_gmt":"2023-11-21T07:52:20","slug":"cand-inchiriem-o-singura-camera","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cand-inchiriem-o-singura-camera\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00e2nd \u00eenchiriem o singur\u0103 camer\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cand-proprietarul-intra-noaptea-peste-tine\/\"><strong>Articolul de ieri<\/strong><\/a> a ajuns printre cele mai citite de pe acest blog, chiar dac\u0103 cringe-ul pove\u0219tii nu a ob\u021binut multe reac\u021bii pe social media. \u0218i atunci, ca om venit din provincie, care a apucat s\u0103 stea destul pe la proprietari \u00eenainte s\u0103 aib\u0103 bani pentru o chirie de una singur\u0103, simt nevoia s\u0103 deschid o discu\u021bie referitoare la regulile nescrise prin care nu ajunge\u021bi victimele nim\u0103nui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sigur, aceste reguli func\u021bioneaz\u0103 cu persoane s\u0103n\u0103toase mintal. Dar mul\u021bi sandil\u0103i se vor ab\u021bine s\u0103-\u0219i dea foarte grav arama pe fa\u021b\u0103 dac\u0103 simt din atitudinea ta c\u0103 nu va \u021bine vr\u0103jeala. De\u0219i femei ca Adriana tind s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 modul \u00een care sunt \u00eembr\u0103cate &#8211; modest &#8211; sau faptul c\u0103 se comport\u0103 cuviincios sunt detalii care le feresc de h\u0103r\u021buire, realitatea situa\u021biei e c\u0103 gher\u021boilor le e fric\u0103 de femei emancipate, cu ruj \u0219i fust\u0103 scurt\u0103,  care par s\u0103 le \u00eenfig\u0103 un toc \u00een ou\u021be \u00een caz c\u0103 se obr\u0103znicesc, \u0219i devin tupei\u0219ti exact cu cele pe care le percep ca bl\u00e2nde \u0219i submisive, pentru c\u0103 intuiesc c\u0103 vor avea de \u00eenfruntat o rezisten\u021b\u0103 mai mic\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-link-color has-medium-font-size wp-elements-dad6dac141aeb8c07c8a074669c11ebf wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Primul pas &#8211; asigur\u0103-te c\u0103 ai lac\u0103t la camer\u0103 <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lac\u0103tul e stricat? Singura ta replic\u0103 va fi: A\u0219tept s\u0103 m\u0103 anun\u021ba\u021bi telefonic c\u00e2nd e gata reparat. \u0218i nu te mu\u021bi p\u00e2n\u0103 atunci. Po\u021bi chiar continua c\u0103ut\u0103rile, pentru c\u0103 lac\u0103tul stricat are mai multe steaguri ro\u0219ii dec\u00e2t o parad\u0103 comunist\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate c\u0103 vor s\u0103 te h\u0103r\u021buiasc\u0103 noaptea. Poate c\u0103 vor doar s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi umble \u00een lucruri. S\u0103-\u021bi fure chestii de valoare. Bani, dac\u0103 ai. S\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi fure cardul \u0219i, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eel blochezi, s\u0103 fac\u0103 ni\u0219te shoppinguri sub 100 de lei cu el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu locui la nici un proprietar, indiferent de gen, care nu \u00ee\u021bi pune la dispozi\u021bie cheie la camera ta. \u0102la e spa\u021biul t\u0103u privat pl\u0103tit \u0219i nu e cazul s\u0103-\u0219i bage nimeni nasul acolo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-link-color has-medium-font-size wp-elements-b20a1e7c4ee9d111630d754818e87c39 wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al doilea pas &#8211; nu vizionezi doar casa, vizionezi \u0219i omul <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eu gug\u0103lesc cu aten\u021bie inclusiv poten\u021biali angajatori sau clien\u021bi, chit c\u0103 nu dorm cu ei \u00een cas\u0103, dar vreau s\u0103 \u0219tiu cu cine m\u0103 \u00eenham la drum. Nu ai nici o scuz\u0103, \u00een vremea tehnologiei moderne, s\u0103 nu faci asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 Adriana arunca un ochi pe contul lui Perpelea, vedea buluc de glume misogine, unde femeile sunt etichetate cu termeni injurio\u0219i, \u0219i totodat\u0103 multe poze cu femei dezbr\u0103cate. Profilul psihologic al individului \u0219i atitudinea fa\u021b\u0103 de femei puteau fi v\u0103zute din online. Eu nu dau nici m\u0103car accept pe Facebook celor ca Perpelea, pentru c\u0103 mi-e clar c\u0103 \u00eemi vor luneca direct \u00een mesageria privat\u0103 s\u0103-mi pistoneze neuronul cu t\u00e2mpenii. \u0218i trebuie s\u0103 te plac sincer, s\u0103-\u021bi permit s\u0103-mi pistonezi neuronul cu t\u00e2mpenii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-link-color has-medium-font-size wp-elements-b90330b1faa02bef0e13ca28befdb2a4 wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al treilea pas &#8211; intervievezi omul, ca la job <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103, la vizionare, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 ce vezi \u00een cas\u0103, \u00ee\u021bi sco\u021bi HR-ul interior \u0219i por\u021bi o discu\u021bie, amical\u0103, dar foarte atent\u0103, \u00een care descoperi cam c\u00e2t \u00eel duce capul pe viitorul t\u0103u proprietar \u0219i cam ce idei are despre lume \u0219i via\u021b\u0103. Poate avea social media \u00een regul\u0103, dar fa\u021b\u0103 \u00een fa\u021b\u0103, s\u0103 fie full-blown psycho monster. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate e mai pu\u021bin important ce are \u00een cas\u0103 \u0219i mai important s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 ai o comunicare de bun sim\u021b. Te descurci perfect cu un pat, un \u0219ifonier \u0219i o oglind\u0103, iar dac\u0103 ai un laptop \u0219i net, e\u0219ti chiar boier. Dar degeaba are jacuzzi, home cinema \u0219i scaun de masaj, ca Ion Creang\u0103 reloaded, dac\u0103 e un cretin dubios care umbl\u0103 \u00een cucul gol prin cas\u0103 \u0219i caut\u0103 s\u0103 \u021bi-l tot plimbe pe la bot de cum te vede c\u0103 deschizi gura s\u0103 zici \u0219i tu ceva. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">E oare garantat c\u0103, dac\u0103 se poart\u0103 rezonabil \u0219i r\u0103spunde ok la discu\u021bie, nu te va a\u0219tepta \u00een cucul gol dup\u0103 ce v\u0103 mai familiariza\u021bi unul cu altul? Nu. Dar unii se dau de gol la stadiul primei discu\u021bii \u0219i a\u0219a economise\u0219ti stres. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al patrulea pas &#8211; u\u0219a camerei tale st\u0103 \u00eencuiat\u0103 <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eVai, Lore, ce neprietenoas\u0103 e\u0219ti!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu. Pur \u0219i simplu, unii proprietari trebuie f\u0103cu\u021bi s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 raportul dintre voi este unul financiar. Tu pl\u0103te\u0219ti pentru spa\u021biul t\u0103u. Prin urmare, inten\u021bionezi s\u0103-l ai PENTRU TINE, \u0219i nu, nu e binevenit \u00een camera ta c\u00e2nd i se pune pata s\u0103 vin\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce a gre\u0219it masiv Adriana e c\u0103 a l\u0103sat aceast\u0103 limit\u0103 s\u0103 cad\u0103 din prima zi, iar boul \u0219i-a f\u0103cut obicei s\u0103 stea s\u0103 se uite la televizor \u00een camera ei. <strong>F** NO! <\/strong>Dac\u0103 \u021bii a\u0219a tare la televizor, \u021bi-l iei \u00een camera ta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cemi pare r\u0103u, eu pl\u0103tesc pentru a ocupa aceast\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103pere, iar asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 NU ai ce c\u0103uta \u00een ea, dac\u0103 nu te invit eu expres. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mai important dec\u00e2t modul \u00een care v\u0103 \u00eembr\u0103ca\u021bi e modul \u00een care stabili\u021bi boundaries. Iar u\u0219a \u00eencuiat\u0103 dac\u0103 nu ai tu chef de interac\u021biune trebuie s\u0103 fie regul\u0103, nu excep\u021bie. Pl\u0103te\u0219ti. Nu stai la \u0103la \u00een poman\u0103. Prin urmare, NU are ce s\u0103 caute \u00een camera ta dac\u0103 nu \u00eel chemi tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al cincilea pas &#8211; contribui la treburile casei, dar nu slug\u0103re\u0219ti <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eu am stat pe la cuconeturi care \u00eemi d\u0103deau ordine de zici c\u0103 m\u0103 c\u00e2\u0219tigaser\u0103 la belciuge. \u0218i tendin\u021ba de copil cuminte, educat frumos, e s\u0103 faci ce \u021bi se spune. A\u0219a ajungi \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie absolut cretin\u0103, \u00een care tu pl\u0103te\u0219ti s\u0103 stai \u00een casa omului, dar tot tu e\u0219ti sluga lui moca. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Asta, evident, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 nu faci curat parte \u00een parte, s\u0103 nu contribui cu alimente \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe. \u00censeamn\u0103 doar c\u0103 nu te apuci de g\u0103tit dup\u0103 ce vii rupt\u0103 de la munc\u0103, pentru c\u0103 boul vrea de m\u00e2ncare. E\u0219ti chiria\u0219ul lui pl\u0103titor, nu m\u0103-sa. Te apuci de g\u0103tit dac\u0103 \u021bi-e \u021bie foame. Dar dac\u0103 ai m\u00e2ncat la munc\u0103 \u0219i tot ce ai face ar fi un du\u0219 \u0219i \u021bu\u0219ti \u00een pat, fix asta faci. Du\u0219 \u0219i \u021bu\u0219ti \u00een pat. \u201eSunt obosit\u0103, sorry!\u201d e un r\u0103spuns perfect la preten\u021bii de slug\u0103real\u0103 nejustificate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 erai menajera proprietarului, te pl\u0103tea el pe tine. Dac\u0103 erai buc\u0103t\u0103reasa, escorta, secretara proprietarului, te pl\u0103tea el pe tine. Dar tu e\u0219ti chiria\u0219. Tu pl\u0103te\u0219ti s\u0103 stai. Timpul t\u0103u alocat comunit\u0103\u021bii \u0219i muncilor comunit\u0103\u021bii e \u00een limita rezonabil\u0103 a dispozi\u021biei tale. (Da, ordinea \u0219i cur\u0103\u021benia trebuie men\u021binute, \u021bine de civiliza\u021bie.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-link-color has-medium-font-size wp-elements-e5909527f43e034c7579afb1635592d0 wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al \u0219aselea pas &#8211; \u00ce\u021bi \u021bii treburile personale pentru tine <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cu c\u00e2t devii gur\u0103 &#8211; spart\u0103, cu at\u00e2t \u00eei oferi unei persoane toxice \u0219ansa s\u0103-\u021bi identifice punctul slab, \u0219i, totodat\u0103, dai c\u0103rni\u021b\u0103 pentru b\u00e2rfe, rahaturi, zvonistic\u0103 infect\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Niciodat\u0103! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">E\u0219ti politicos, glume\u021b, amabil, simpatic &#8211; dar nu intri \u00een treburi personale. Asta impune respect. Cred c\u0103 eu, de exemplu, m\u0103 bucur de mai mult respect pe net, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi \u021bin via\u021ba privat\u0103 offline. Dac\u0103 \u0219tiau gigeii cu cine \u0219i ce, aveau mai mult de mugit dec\u00e2t au acum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Valabil \u0219i pentru chiria \u00een gazd\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eScuze, nu doresc s\u0103 r\u0103spund la aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare\u201d e singurul r\u0103spuns de care ai nevoie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-link-color has-medium-font-size wp-elements-a941aa21ed318fbea4cdc0486e62a3f5 wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al \u0219aptelea pas: Ceri mereu facturile, \u00eenainte s\u0103 dai banii<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 mereu genul \u0103la infect de om care \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi strecoare la plat\u0103 ceea ce n-ai consumat. Un mod de a preveni asta? Ceri factura. Dac\u0103 tu te-ai mutat la 1 august, nu contribui la factura din iulie pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 \u0103la vede c\u0103 \u0219i-a g\u0103sit prostul, nimic nu-l va opri s\u0103 te \u00eencarce \u0219i cu alte cheltuieli. C\u0103 \u021bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Proprietarii corec\u021bi, \u00eens\u0103, \u00ee\u021bi vor ar\u0103ta din proprie ini\u021biativ\u0103 facturile, s\u0103 justifice de ce \u00ee\u021bi cer bani. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-link-color has-medium-font-size wp-elements-cd1a9d0bbf4c8ce62b4461e1fbc8b6e2 wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Al optulea pas: Pl\u0103te\u0219te punctual! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu po\u021bi pretinde respect, dac\u0103 tu nu livrezi punctual partea ta. Partea ta e plata. F\u0103-o s\u0103 vin\u0103 la fix, ca ceasul, \u0219i proprietarii care apreciaz\u0103 un chiria\u0219 serios vor c\u0103p\u0103ta respect pentru tine, <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 \u00eei obi\u0219nuie\u0219ti c\u0103 e\u0219ti un om serios la plat\u0103, dar nu participi la bull***t, vei avea cea mai bun\u0103 form\u0103 a \u201edeal\u201d-ului la care po\u021bi ajunge \u00een acea cas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acestea fiind spuse, voi \u00eencheia cu evidentul: nu a\u0219 da locuitul de una singur\u0103, \u00een lini\u0219te \u0219i libertate, nici pe un ocean de beneficii \u0219i confort. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 apreciezi acest articol, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><strong>Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? 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