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Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimi(te)\u021bi problema voastr\u0103 de suflet pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Noi citim, cuget\u0103m \u0219i analiz\u0103m, apoi propunem o solu\u021bie sau d\u0103m o opinie \u00ceNTR-UN ARTICOL PE BLOG.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Salutare, Lorena, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cemi place mult rubrica ta Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei, de aceea \u00ee\u021bi \u0219i scriu, \u0219i \u0219tiu c\u0103 semn\u0103tura mea nu va ap\u0103rea niciodat\u0103 public. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E vorba de maic\u0103-mea. De c\u00e2nd eram eu mic\u0103, maic\u0103-mii i-a pl\u0103cut mereu s\u0103 m\u0103 critice. Dac\u0103 nu avea nimic realist de obiectat, inventa t\u00e2mpenii. Niciodat\u0103 nu am avut note destul de bune, prieteni destul de buni, mereu am fost o ratat\u0103 \u00een ochii ei. \u0218i m-am luptat mereu pentru aprobarea ei, ca o idioat\u0103, dar evident c\u0103 ea nu f\u0103cea dec\u00e2t s\u0103 se puncte-puncte pe mine \u0219i s\u0103-mi omoare zi de zi bucuria de a tr\u0103i. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A trecut timpul. Acum am un job bine pl\u0103tit. nu prea are ce s\u0103 bomb\u0103ne, de\u0219i mai comenteaz\u0103 \u0219i acum c\u0103 evit vizitele pe la ea. Dar de doi ani a g\u0103sit ceva nou cu care s\u0103 m\u0103 terorizeze. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

M-am m\u0103ritat. P\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 m\u0103rit la 32 de ani, m-a pis\u0103logit an de an c\u0103 nu-mi g\u0103sesc pe nimeni, c\u0103 nu m\u0103 suport\u0103 nimeni \u0219i c\u0103 o s\u0103 mor singur\u0103. Nu era suficient c\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lneam diverse specimene cu care nu puteai construi nimic durabil, mai venea \u0219i ea s\u0103 \u00eemi submineze \u00eencrederea \u00een for\u021bele proprii. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar am cunoscut un om minunat, iar acest om e acum so\u021bul meu. Nu spun c\u0103 nu avem \u0219i noi ne\u00een\u021belegeri. Spun doar c\u0103 sim\u021bi iubirea chiar \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd le avem. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar mama l-a detestat pe so\u021bul meu de la prima vedere. L-a vorbit de r\u0103u pe la spate, l-a tratat oribil \u00een fa\u021b\u0103, \u0219i eu am fost mereu la mijloc, pentru c\u0103 ea e mama mea, pe care trebuie s-o respect, iar el e omul pe care mi l-am ales la bine \u0219i la r\u0103u, \u0219i pe care \u00eel iubesc. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

De dou\u0103 luni, s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat o chestie care \u00eei d\u0103 ap\u0103 la moar\u0103: al meu \u0219i-a pierdut locul de munc\u0103. \u00cel v\u0103d c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i caut\u0103 intens alt job, trimite CV-uri, merge la interviuri, dar e mai greu pentru nivelul lui. Cum am zis mai sus, eu am un salariu bun, nu murim de foame. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar m\u0103micu\u021ba mea zici c\u0103 a turbat, pe bune. De c\u00e2nd a r\u0103mas al meu f\u0103r\u0103 job, \u00eel toac\u0103 m\u0103runt cu r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bi, de zici c\u0103 \u00eel \u00eentre\u021bine ea. C\u00e2nd o \u00eenfrunt, \u00eemi spune c\u0103 e grija fa\u021b\u0103 de mine, c\u0103 sunt naiv\u0103 \u0219i las b\u0103rba\u021bii s\u0103 profilte de mine. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu nu v\u0103d \u00een ce mod profit\u0103 al meu de mine. C\u00e2t timp a avut un job, a b\u0103gat banii \u00een cas\u0103. Acum, c\u0103 e \u201enevast\u0103\u201d, avem mereu curat \u0219i m\u00e2ncare \u00een cas\u0103. Banii nu ne lipsesc. Dar maic\u0103-mea e surd\u0103 la aceste argumente \u0219i o \u021bine pe a ei. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u0103 doare fizic c\u00e2nd \u00eel jigne\u0219te pe al meu \u0219i nu \u0219tiu ce s\u0103 fac. Tu ce zici? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu drag \u0219i mul\u021bumesc pentru r\u0103spuns, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 a\u0219 putea face dou\u0103 cluburi la po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Clubul B\u0103rba\u021bi Tic\u0103lo\u0219i \u0219i Clubul M\u0103micu\u021be Abuzive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acum, hai s\u0103 vorbim serios: \u00eemi pare sincer r\u0103u c\u0103 treci prin asta, dar am \u0219i ve\u0219ti bune: E\u0219ti o persoan\u0103 adult\u0103. Nu mai trebuie s\u0103 v\u00e2nezi aprobarea nim\u0103nui. Ai op\u021biunea s\u0103 \u00eentrerupi orice conversa\u021bie abuziv\u0103, s\u0103 refuzi continuarea interac\u021biunii, s\u0103 spui \u201ep\u00e2n\u0103 aici\u201d, iar dac\u0103 limita nu e respectat\u0103, s\u0103 pleci pur \u0219i simplu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iat\u0103 solu\u021bia care a func\u021bionat \u00een cazul meu. Pentru c\u0103 m\u0103 reg\u0103sesc acut \u00een ce scrii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu a\u0219 rupe leg\u0103tura cu mami, m\u0103car o vreme. \u0218i i-a\u0219 explica \u0219i de ce. I-a\u0219 spune c\u0103 nu mai admit veninul pe care \u00eel aduce zi de zi \u00een via\u021ba mea \u0219i c\u0103 va \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba s\u0103-mi respecte identitatea \u0219i alegerile, sau se va obi\u0219nui cu absen\u021ba mea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E mult de munc\u0103 s\u0103 redefine\u0219ti din r\u0103runchi o rela\u021bie at\u00e2t de toxic\u0103 \u0219i de manipulativ\u0103, mai ales dac\u0103 persoana care o \u00eentre\u021bine e un p\u0103rinte, o figur\u0103 \u00een pozi\u021bie de autoritate, pe care educa\u021bia te oblig\u0103 s-o respec\u021bi \u0219i s-o ascul\u021bi. De aceea, recomand distan\u021barea \u0219i deta\u0219area. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219 specula c\u0103 maic\u0103-ta se ambi\u021bioneaz\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi distrug\u0103 o rela\u021bie perfect func\u021bional\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei place s\u0103 te \u021bin\u0103 sub control, s\u0103 te submineze \u0219i g\u0103se\u0219te bucurie sadic\u0103 \u00een orice e\u0219ec al t\u0103u. De aceea, ai nevoie s\u0103 te eliberezi tu de ea \u0219i de eternele ei nemul\u021bumiri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen fond, dac\u0103 al t\u0103u \u0219i-a pierdut recent jobul, trece prin destule tulbur\u0103ri emo\u021bionale \u0219i dubii legate de propria lui valoare, chiar \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 o soacr\u0103 terorist\u0103 care s\u0103-l s\u00e2c\u00e2ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ia distan\u021b\u0103 \u0219i o s\u0103 vezi dac\u0103 apar schimb\u0103ri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unele sunt suficient de inteligente s\u0103 se prind\u0103 c\u0103 nu mai \u021bine vr\u0103jeala \u0219i c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 se adapteze la tine cea de acum, altele sunt orbite de narcisismul lor \u0219i vor continua comportamentul infect cu care te-au \u00eendep\u0103rtat, caz \u00een care termini rela\u021bia cu totul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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