{"id":25805,"date":"2023-12-17T04:18:08","date_gmt":"2023-12-17T01:18:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25805"},"modified":"2023-12-17T04:18:11","modified_gmt":"2023-12-17T01:18:11","slug":"deteriorarea-relatiilor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/deteriorarea-relatiilor\/","title":{"rendered":"Deteriorarea rela\u021biilor?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">F\u0103ceam eu ieri un live pe TikTok, unde eram #trending cu serialul meu 365 de zile de poezie &#8211; o idee at\u00e2t de simpl\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t nu-\u021bi vine s\u0103 crezi c\u0103 n-ai avut-o tu primul, dar po\u021bi s\u0103-mi dai follow chiar acum s\u0103 vezi ce poezie voi recita data viitoare. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\">Aici<\/a>. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Asta e dovada c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 fii altceva, sau altcineva, sau s\u0103 te reduci la nivelul celor din jur, c\u00e2nd intri pe o re\u021bea social\u0103 nou\u0103, \u0219i cheia succesului presupune doar s\u0103 aduci la mas\u0103 ce ai tu special. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Arta actorului, \u00een cazul meu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mboon, deci f\u0103ceam eu live pe TikTok, c\u00e2nd intr\u0103 gigel \u0219i zice: Cum comentezi deteriorarea rela\u021biilor dintre b\u0103rbat \u0219i femeie? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-Vrei, te rog, s\u0103 repe\u021bi \u00eentrebarea? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-Cum comentezi deterio&#8230; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-OK, nu \u00een\u021beleg unde e deteriorarea? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-P\u0103i, \u00eenainte, familiile erau unite&#8230; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-Gre\u0219it, gigelul meu. \u00cenainte, familiile \u00ee\u0219i ascundeau problemele sub pre\u0219. Eu am copil\u0103rit \u00een cartier de muncitori. Seara, c\u00e2nd venea b\u0103rbatul beat acas\u0103, se auzeau \u021bipetele prin pere\u021bi \u0219i pl\u00e2nsetul femeilor b\u0103tute. \u0218i nu intervenea absolut nimeni, pentru c\u0103 acela\u0219i model de abuz se repeta \u00een TOATE familiile. Dac\u0103 le \u00eentrebai pe babe ce \u00eensemna un b\u0103rbat bun, era unul care \u201enu te bate\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u0103rin\u021bii mei au divor\u021bat c\u00e2nd aveam 6 ani, dar nu l-am v\u0103zut niciodat\u0103 pe tata pun\u00e2nd m\u00e2na pe ceva \u00een cas\u0103, s\u0103 contribuie la munca domestic\u0103. \u0219i nu zic, \u201es-o ajute pe mama\u201d, pentru c\u0103 era casa cuplului, nu casa ei. Ambii munceau, deci ambii ar fi trebuit s\u0103 pun\u0103 m\u00e2na pe aspirator, c\u00e2rpe, whatnot. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cred c\u0103, \u00een prezent, rela\u021biile dintre b\u0103rbat \u0219i femeie sunt cele mai corecte \u0219i echilibrate din toat\u0103 istoria omenirii. Singurul lucru care s-a deteriorat e dreptul vostru de a pretinde totul \u0219i de a nu oferi nimic \u00een schimb. Acum, sau pui osul la parteneriat, sau e\u0219ti p\u0103r\u0103sit, ceea ce e 100% corect, pentru c\u0103 \u0219i femeia are dreptul la bucurie \u00een via\u021b\u0103, nu numai tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-\u0218i atunci, de ce a sc\u0103zut num\u0103rul de copii? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-Probabil e o adaptare la faptul c\u0103 suntem deja 8,1 miliarde, iar planeta e suprapopulat\u0103 mult peste resursele ei. Dar num\u0103rul mare de copii nu indic\u0103 fericire \u00een cuplu, gigelu\u0219. Nu pentru femeie, care sigur resimte pe corpul ei povara fiec\u0103rei sarcini \u00een parte, \u0219i ambii parteneri, dac\u0103 presupunem c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul merge la munc\u0103 \u0219i nu i-a f\u0103cut doar pentru aloca\u021bii &#8211; fiecare partener resimte povara financiar\u0103 a hr\u0103nirii acelor guri. De aceea familiile bogate f\u0103ceau 2-3 copii, s\u0103 nu se iroseasc\u0103 aiurea averea, \u0219i numai s\u0103r\u0103ntocii f\u0103r\u0103 viziune pe termen lung turnau zece plozi, din care mureau jum\u0103tate p\u00e2n\u0103 la maturitate din absen\u021ba unei alimenta\u021bii echilibrate \u0219i a \u00eengrijirii medicale. Faptul c\u0103 po\u021bi refuza s\u0103 ai copii e un semn de bun\u0103stare \u0219i de echilibru emo\u021bional. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-P\u0103i \u0219i dac\u0103 n-ai copii, pentru ce tr\u0103ie\u0219ti? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">-Pentru bucuria fiec\u0103rei zile \u00een parte. Eu tr\u0103iesc pentru c\u0103 g\u0103sesc pl\u0103cere \u00een inventivitatea \u0219i creativitatea mea \u0219i \u00eemi place s\u0103 fac lucruri noi. Tu trebuie s\u0103-\u021bi g\u0103se\u0219ti singur r\u0103spunsul. Dar dac\u0103 nu \u0219tii pentru ce s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti, vorbe\u0219te cu un terapeut s\u0103-\u021bi tratezi depresia \u0219i apuc\u0103-te de f\u0103cut copii DUP\u0102 CE e\u0219ti ok. E \u00eengrozitor s\u0103 cre\u0219ti cu p\u0103rin\u021bi depresivi care nu-s responsabili de nimic \u0219i s\u0103 ai sentimentul c\u0103 tu e\u0219ti adultul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i hai s\u0103-\u021bi spun un lucru important, gigelul meu. Rela\u021bia cu femeia e cum \u021bi-o faci. Dac\u0103 investe\u0219ti grij\u0103 \u0219i iubire, vei fi fericit, presupun\u00e2nd c\u0103 te iube\u0219te \u0219i ea. Iar dac\u0103 nu te iube\u0219te, nu sta s\u0103 te miloge\u0219ti, \u00eentoarce-te la c\u0103utare. Dar dac\u0103 nu investe\u0219ti grij\u0103 \u0219i iubire, femeia se satur\u0103 de c***ul t\u0103u arogant \u0219i nep\u0103s\u0103tor \u0219i-\u0219i caut\u0103 grija \u0219i iubirea \u00een alte bra\u021be. Iar chestia asta e valabil\u0103 pentru toate perioadele istorice. Singura diferen\u021b\u0103 e c\u0103, acum, n-o arde nimeni pe rug pentru asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 \u021bi-a pl\u0103cut articolul, hai s\u0103 facem o gal\u0103 important\u0103.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><strong>Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? 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