{"id":25847,"date":"2023-12-29T11:01:02","date_gmt":"2023-12-29T08:01:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25847"},"modified":"2023-12-29T14:10:16","modified_gmt":"2023-12-29T11:10:16","slug":"de-ce-carieristele-gasesc-mai-greu-sufletul-pereche","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-carieristele-gasesc-mai-greu-sufletul-pereche\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce carieristele g\u0103sesc mai greu sufletul-pereche"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Ieri, am primit o dona\u021bie de la o cititoare. Noti\u021ba ata\u0219at\u0103 zicea a\u0219a: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lorena, ce au b\u0103rba\u021bii cu carierele noastre? De ce ne at\u00e2t de greu s\u0103 g\u0103sim dragostea, dac\u0103 avem o carier\u0103 \u00eenfloritoare \u0219i plin\u0103 de succes? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sincer? Mul\u021bumesc. A\u0219 vrea mai des astfel de provoc\u0103ri. Pe de o parte, pentru c\u0103 dona\u021biile ajut\u0103 acest blog s\u0103 mearg\u0103 mai departe, pe de alta, pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a nu trebuie s\u0103-mi storc eu imagina\u021bia s\u0103 inventez subiecte, \u0219i pot r\u0103spunde la ceva ce v\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Femeile de succes au pe pia\u021ba de dating dezavantajul circumstan\u021bial pe care \u00eel au b\u0103rba\u021bii scunzi. Nu e nimic \u00een neregul\u0103 s\u0103 fii b\u0103rbat scund, a\u0219a cum nu e nimic \u00een neregul\u0103 s\u0103 fii femeie de succes. Dar b\u0103rba\u021bii scunzi st\u00e2rnesc o nesiguran\u021b\u0103 ira\u021bional\u0103 \u00een tipele mai \u00eenalte dec\u00e2t ei, pentru c\u0103 acestora le e team\u0103 de ce va zice lumea, iar femeile de succes st\u00e2rnesc o nesiguran\u021b\u0103 ira\u021bional\u0103 \u00een tipii mai mediocri dec\u00e2t ele, din exact acela\u0219i motiv. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eu, de exemplu, a\u0219 ie\u0219i la un date cu un tip scund, presupun\u00e2nd c\u0103 ar corespunde celorlalte priorit\u0103\u021bi ale mele. Dar mie mi se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie ce ar crede Maricica de pe drum. Dar \u0219tiu cel pu\u021bin zece fete \u00eenalte, care n-ar face-o. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u0219ijderea, mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi mediocri. \u0218i asta pentru c\u0103: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1. Mul\u021bi masculi au convingerea c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fie PESTE femeia de al\u0103turi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i de ce s\u0103 fim ipocri\u021bi, multe tipe au aceea\u0219i convingere. E extrem de greu s\u0103 fii director general la corpora\u021bie \u0219i s\u0103 fii m\u0103ritat\u0103 cu Dorel, care munce\u0219te pe \u0219antier. Chiar dac\u0103 tu po\u021bi s\u0103-l iei pe Dorel a\u0219a cum e \u0219i s\u0103-l \u00een\u021belegi, \u00een foarte multe cazuri, el se va sim\u021bi nesigur din cauza realiz\u0103rilor tale, cercului t\u0103u social, stilului t\u0103u de via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i a gusturilor tale \u0219i va \u00eencepe s\u0103-\u021bi caute instinctiv defecte, s\u0103 te trag\u0103 la nivelul lui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De aceea, o femeie de succes prime\u0219te mult mai mult hate online dec\u00e2t un b\u0103rbat de succes. B\u0103rbatul de succes are trolli ocazionali, dar majoritatea b\u0103rba\u021bilor \u00eei respect\u0103 realiz\u0103rile \u0219i majoritatea femeilor \u00eel admir\u0103. Femeia de succes inspir\u0103 multor rata\u021bi un complex de genul: uite, b\u0103, cum o duce asta, o peexd\u0103, \u0219i eu, b\u0103rbatul, coroana crea\u021biei, abia tr\u0103iesc de la un salariu la altul. Hu\u0103\u0103\u0103, **rvo, nenorocito, zi, f\u0103, cu cine te-ai f*** s\u0103 ajungi unde ai ajuns? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cred c\u0103 nici un b\u0103rbat cu nivelul meu de popularitate online nu a avut num\u0103rul meu de zurg\u0103l\u0103i \u00een coad\u0103. \u0218i prin zurg\u0103l\u0103i, m\u0103 refer la conflicte internautice total nesolicitate cu gigei \u0219i gigele c\u0103rora nu le-am gre\u0219it cu nimic, dar au decis ei, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 le fac eu nimic vreodat\u0103, c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 m\u0103 latre tare \u0219i s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eemproa\u0219te cu zoaie. La care se adaug\u0103 \u0219i \u0103ia care s-au dat la tine, n-au \u00eent\u00e2lnit consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2nt \u0219i atunci, au deschis izvorul de minciuni \u0219i m\u0103g\u0103rii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Prin urmare, tu ca femeie de succes vei inspira mult\u0103 invidie, frustrare \u0219i nesiguran\u021b\u0103 prin simpla existen\u021b\u0103, \u0219i nici m\u0103car nu trebuie s\u0103 pierzi timp s\u0103 explici lui iubi c\u0103 nu are de ce. Uneori, nici nu face asta con\u0219tient. \u0218i chiar dac\u0103 o face con\u0219tient, n-ar recunoa\u0219te-o nici mort. Cel mai scurt \u0219i cuprinz\u0103tor e s\u0103 spui c\u0103 nu tolerezi lipsa de respect \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi vezi lini\u0219tit\u0103 \u0219i demn\u0103 de via\u021ba ta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. Foarte pu\u021bini b\u0103rba\u021bi \u0219tiu s\u0103 fie parteneri <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La ce m\u0103 refer cu asta? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>P\u0103i, iat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am colaborat o vreme cu un c\u00e2nt\u0103cios care avea iubit\u0103. Iubita aia credea din toat\u0103 inima \u00een cariera artistului nostru. \u00cel ducea cu ma\u0219ina la concerte, pe el \u0219i toate sculele pe bancheta din spate. \u00cei f\u0103cea rost de fotograf, de cameraman, de video editor, suna la ziare s\u0103 scrie despre el. \u00ceN\u021aELEGEA c\u0103 muzica e via\u021ba acelui om \u0219i investea tot sufletul s\u0103 vad\u0103 c\u0103 el \u00ee\u0219i \u00eempline\u0219te visul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u00e2te femei de succes au un partener care s\u0103 le sus\u021bin\u0103 cu at\u00e2ta entuziasm? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dimpotriv\u0103, dac\u0103 unul se combin\u0103 cu o femeie de succes, \u00een nou\u0103 cazuri din ele, atitudinea lui e de parc\u0103 succesul ar fi un amant care trebuie alungat, pentru ca, la final, prada (tu) s\u0103-i revin\u0103 lui integral. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S\u0103 analiz\u0103m un cuplu celebru. Whitney Houston \u0219i Bobby Brown. Bobby era un rapper mediocru. Whitney, c\u00e2nd s-a m\u0103ritat cu el, era cea mai de succes voce feminin\u0103 a Americii. Ce a f\u0103cut Bobby Brown? A tras-o \u00een jos, a sabotat-o sistematic, i-a erodat  \u00eencrederea \u00een sine din interior, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care Whitney a ajuns dependent\u0103 de droguri \u0219i o has-been. Apoi, a l\u0103sat-o s\u0103 moar\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E extrem de greu s\u0103 g\u0103se\u0219ti un b\u0103rbat care s\u0103-\u021bi priveasc\u0103 succesul ca pe ceva ce trebuie cultivat \u0219i extins. \u0218i care sunt deja, sunt deja \u00een rela\u021bii fericite cu femei care nu le-ar da drumul nici moarte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dac\u0103 Whitney nu nimerea un rep\u0103ra\u0219 ratat cu un singur hit, ci un vizionar, era Mariah Carey. care s-a m\u0103ritat cu produc\u0103torul ei de atunci, Tommy Mottola. Un b\u0103rbat direct interesat &#8211; \u0219i financiar &#8211; s\u0103 o ajute s\u0103 str\u0103luceasc\u0103. Dar \u0219i Mottola a exagerat cu gelozia \u0219i cu posesivitatea, \u0219i atunci, acea c\u0103s\u0103torie s-a terminat \u00een cinci ani. Pentru c\u0103 o alt\u0103 problem\u0103 pe care o \u00eent\u00e2lnesc femeile de succes este&#8230; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. \u201eDar to\u021bi \u0103\u0219tia vor s\u0103 \u021bi-o trag\u0103.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Da, c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti \u00een lumina reflectorului \u0219i aten\u021bia e pe tine, mul\u021bi sunt obseda\u021bi. Poate c\u0103 o femeie de succes ar g\u0103si greu o iubire, dar g\u0103se\u0219te extrem de u\u0219or gigei lihni\u021bi, care \u201ear da acolo\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i atunci intervin gelozia \u0219i posesivitatea. Nevoia de a fi cel mai tare din parcare. \u0218i astea \u00eei fac pe mul\u021bi s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi blocheze o droaie de c\u0103i creative \u0219i oportunit\u0103\u021bi profesionale, pentru c\u0103 \u201edac\u0103 regizorul \u0103la vrea de fapt s\u0103 \u021bi-o trag\u0103? Dac\u0103 nu \u0219tiu cine vrea de fapt s\u0103 \u021bi-o trag\u0103?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i dac\u0103 vrea s\u0103 mi-o trag\u0103, ce? Vrutul e for free. Dac\u0103 am fi refuzat toate oportunit\u0103\u021bile profesionale pentru c\u0103 cineva pe acolo voia s\u0103 ne-o trag\u0103, eram toate v\u00e2nz\u0103toare la Mega. C\u00e2t timp tu \u00ee\u021bi faci treaba bine \u0219i te compor\u021bi profesional, all good. Nu \u0219i dac\u0103 ai un gigel gelos care \u00ee\u0219i proiecteaz\u0103 pe toat\u0103 durata colabor\u0103rii filme cum \u0103la te pune capr\u0103, apoi se r\u0103zbun\u0103 tot pe tine pentru propriile lui filme interioare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4. Ponegrirea carieristelor <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pagini de reddit, youtube, tiktok \u0219i forumuri ale regatului incelian unit, numit \u0219i manosfer\u0103, \u00eenfiereaz\u0103 cu furie carieristele. Pentru c\u0103, tradi\u021bional, principala prioritate a femeii ar trebui s\u0103 fie s\u0103-i g\u0103teasc\u0103-spele-calce masculului. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De aceea, mul\u021bi influen\u021ba\u021bi de aceast\u0103 mentalitate te vor respinge c\u00e2nd aud c\u00e2t e de important\u0103 cariera pentru tine, pentru c\u0103 vin cu un set extrem de limitat (\u0219i de \u00eenapoiat) de a\u0219tept\u0103ri, \u0219i le-a zis lor Auric\u0103 de pe forum c\u0103 femeia carierist\u0103 e rea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Acum c\u0103 am stabilit problemele care vin de la gigei, hai s-o spunem pe \u0219leau: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5. C\u00e2nd ai o carier\u0103 de succes, \u0219i tu e\u0219ti ocupat\u0103 toat\u0103 ziua, \u0219i n-ai timp s\u0103 fii acolo. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pentru ca o rela\u021bie s\u0103 fie fericit\u0103, e nevoie de investi\u021bie. Da, ai succes, po\u021bi pl\u0103ti o tanti s\u0103 fac\u0103 casa lun\u0103, alta s\u0103-\u021bi umple frigiderul cu m\u00e2ncare ca la mama acas\u0103, alta s\u0103-i fac\u0103 o fela\u021bie g\u00e2t-ad\u00e2nc care s\u0103-l transporte direct \u00een rai, dar nu ai timp de momente de calitate petrecute \u00eempreun\u0103 \u0219i de conexiune, \u0219i p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, astea \u021bin un cuplu \u00eempreun\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De aceea, sunt \u0219i mul\u021bi milionari care divor\u021beaz\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nevestele se simt neglijate \u0219i nefericite. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eu, de exemplu, recunosc c\u0103 nu am timp de asta \u0219i de aceea nu caut o rela\u021bie. Dar pe milionarul \u0103la p\u0103r\u0103sit de nevasta neglijat\u0103 l-a\u0219 lua \u0219i m\u00e2ine. Am at\u00e2tea proiecte, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u00eel rog eu frumos s\u0103 m\u0103 neglijeze cu mult av\u00e2nt \u0219i s\u0103 se concentreze pe ce face el bine. Dac\u0103 ambii sunt \u00een egal\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103 de ocupa\u021bi, nimeni nu neglijeaz\u0103 pe nimeni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Solu\u021bia: caut\u0103 pe cineva la fel de ocupat cum e\u0219ti \u0219i tu, \u0219i care s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 cum e. \u0218i suficient de matur \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 nu fac\u0103 crize de orgoliu stupid. Diferen\u021ba \u00eentre Ben Affleck &#8211; Jennifer Lopez de acum mul\u021bi ani \u0219i Ben &#8211; Jen de acum e c\u0103 Ben \u00eentre timp a \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 nu e \u00een competi\u021bie cu succesul nevestei \u0219i poate pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 se bucure de timpul petrecut \u00eempreun\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 preten\u021bii retardate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Unii ajung la \u00een\u021belepciunea asta la 50 de ani. Al\u021bii, niciodat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar cum o fi, cariera nu se treze\u0219te \u00eentr-o bun\u0103 diminea\u021b\u0103 s\u0103 se uite lung la tine \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103: Drag\u0103 Maricico, am decis s\u0103 te las pentru Vasilica, c\u0103 e mai t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u0219i mai pu\u021bin celulitoas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Deci, dac\u0103 o ai, \u021bine de ea cu din\u021bii. Iar dup\u0103 ce nu mai ai din\u021bi, cu proteza. Mai bine pl\u00e2ngi \u00eentr-un Mercedes dec\u00e2t \u00een tramvaiul 32. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Dac\u0103 apreciezi acest articol, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\">Aici<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-14577\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi pe<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\">&nbsp;TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ieri, am primit o dona\u021bie de la o cititoare. 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