{"id":25874,"date":"2024-01-02T12:34:40","date_gmt":"2024-01-02T09:34:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=25874"},"modified":"2024-01-02T12:59:04","modified_gmt":"2024-01-02T09:59:04","slug":"leave-spike-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/leave-spike-alone\/","title":{"rendered":"Leave Spike alone"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

S\u0103 \u00eencepem cu evidentul: mie nu mi-e simpatic Spike. Nici ca persoan\u0103, nici ca artist. Dar nici eu nu fac parte din publicul lui target, deci nu are de ce s\u0103-mi fie simpatic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen schimb, valul de hate pe care \u00eel \u00eencaseaz\u0103 zilele astea mi se pare at\u00e2t de stupid, de ridicol \u0219i de vomitiv, \u00eenc\u00e2t uite-m\u0103 \u00een situa\u021bia \u00een care iau ap\u0103rarea unui tip care nu mi-e simpatic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Care e mai exact problema? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problema e c\u0103 Spike era mare pretenar cu C\u0103t\u0103lin Bordea, comedianul. \u0218i s-a produs o extorsiune a unui degajament \u00eentre Spike \u0219i nevasta (sau m\u0103 rog, \u00een acest caz fosta) lui Bordea, \u0219i a \u00eenceput o mare iubire ca-n filme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i subit, toat\u0103 gigelimea patriei simte nevoia s\u0103-l fac\u0103 troac\u0103 de porci pe Spike c\u0103 \u201ei-a furat nevasta\u201d altuia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unu la m\u00e2n\u0103: N-a \u201efurat-o\u201d, c\u0103 nu a sechestrat-o \u00eempotriva propriei voin\u021be. A venit ea singur\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dragi gigei, \u00een\u021belege\u021bi o dat\u0103 c\u0103 nevasta nu e o proprietate, ca ma\u0219ina, casa sau dulapul. E UN OM CU VOIN\u021a\u0102 \u0218I PRIORIT\u0102\u021aI PROPRII. Poate s\u0103 v\u0103 mint\u0103 frumos \u00een multe moduri, dar niciodat\u0103 nu o considera\u021bi ceva de\u021binut \u00een totalitate, care nu poate fi pierdut sau \u00eenstr\u0103inat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219a se ajunge la divor\u021buri. Pentru c\u0103 tu crezi c\u0103 e proprietatea ta \u0219i faci ce vrei cu ea, \u0219i e incorect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dou\u0103 la m\u00e2n\u0103: Nu \u0219tii niciodat\u0103 toate detaliile<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desigur, dac\u0103-l \u00eentrebi pe Bordea, rela\u021bia era perfect\u0103, \u0219i dac\u0103 nu ap\u0103rea Spike… <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar c\u00e2nd o rela\u021bie e cu adev\u0103rat perfect\u0103, pot s\u0103 fac\u0103 defilare to\u021bi cei de la Chippendales, plus Brad Pitt \u00een tinere\u021be, Ryan Gosling la maturitate, Keanu Reeves la orice v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u0219i evident, regele sex-appealului, Jason Momoa, \u0219i tu o s\u0103 zici: Aha, ok, iubi, mergem s\u0103 ne lu\u0103m cheeseburgeri? Am rev\u0103zut The Menu \u0219i mi s-a f\u0103cut poft\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 rela\u021bia e a\u0219a-\u0219i-a\u0219a, mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu o s\u0103 apar\u0103 cineva. Dac\u0103 nu ap\u0103rea Spike, ap\u0103rea probabil altul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 rela\u021bie a\u0219a-\u0219i-a\u0219a? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00censeamn\u0103 o rela\u021bie decent\u0103, civilizat\u0103, nu suficient de nasoal\u0103 s\u0103 pleci, \u00een sensul c\u0103 \u021bii la cel\u0103lalt ca la un frate… \u0218i aici e problema. C\u0103 \u021bii ca la un frate. C\u0103 lipsesc orice urm\u0103 de dorin\u021b\u0103, pasiune, fluturi \u00een stomac. \u0218i adev\u0103rul e c\u0103, a\u0219a cum m\u0103 uit eu la Bordea, a\u0219 ie\u0219i cu el la bere (dar nu acum, c\u0103 fac Dry January), probabil c\u0103 am r\u00e2de p\u00e2n\u0103 diminea\u021ba, mi-l imaginez drept genul de b\u0103iat cu care eram buni prieteni \u0219i ne duceam cu autostopul \u00een Vam\u0103, \u00een 2003, \u0219i ni se \u00eent\u00e2mplau 346789 de lucruri hazlii \u0219i t\u00e2mpite, \u0219i ne aminteam de ele horc\u0103ind de r\u00e2s. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar nu, Bordea nu-mi inspir\u0103 fluturi \u00een stomac. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trei la m\u00e2n\u0103: Uneori, pasiunea te face s\u0103 pierzi controlul <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0103i, da, Lorena, dar tu le \u00eenve\u021bi pe toate cititoarele tale de la Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei, s\u0103 fie responsabile, s\u0103 nu se bage \u00een rahaturi \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Corect. Acolo dau sfaturi care s\u0103 le ajute s\u0103 ias\u0103 din \u00eencurc\u0103turi \u0219i s\u0103 ajung\u0103 \u00eentr-un punct de echilibru. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar realitatea e c\u0103, \u00een via\u021b\u0103, uneori socoteala de acas\u0103 nu se potrive\u0219te cu cea din t\u00e2rg. Uneori, situa\u021bia de pe teren nu e prev\u0103zut\u0103 \u00een manualul de reguli. Uneori, ceea ce e r\u0103u pare a fi singurul bine posibil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tu, gigel, cuno\u0219ti o femeie c\u0103s\u0103torit\u0103. \u0218tii c\u0103 nu e corect, moral, uman, etc. Dar totodat\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 v\u0103 potrivi\u021bi de parc\u0103 a\u021bi fi dou\u0103 piese de puzzle dintr-un joc de mult pierdut. C\u0103 tot ce spune \u0219i face rezoneaz\u0103 \u00een tine \u00een moduri la care nu te-ai fi g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 se poate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i observi c\u0103 E RECIPROC. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00ce\u021bi spun eu ce o s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple: de\u0219i \u0219tii c\u0103 e incorect, imoral \u0219i condamnabil, O S\u0102 FII CU GAGICA AIA. Pentru c\u0103 compatibilitatea de acest tip e at\u00e2t de rar\u0103 \u0219i at\u00e2t de intens\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t n-o s\u0103 prea ai de ales. Va veni ad\u00e2nc din tine \u0219i va m\u0103tura totul \u00een cale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Concluzie: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u0103sa\u021bi-l pe Spike \u00een pace. E \u0219i el un om simplu, care a cunoscut iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103 \u00eentr-un context nepotrivit. Faptul c\u0103 \u00eel \u00eenjura\u021bi pe Spike nu va face iubirea gagicii pentru el s\u0103 dispar\u0103 misterios \u0219i nici n-o va trimite \u00eenapoi, cu cenu\u0219\u0103 \u00een cap, la Bordea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mai degrab\u0103, g\u0103si\u021bi pe cineva s\u0103 se uite la voi cum se uit\u0103 tipa aia la Spike, \u0219i v\u0103 asigur eu c\u0103 ve\u021bi fi prea ferici\u021bi s\u0103 v\u0103 mai tuf\u0103 grija de vie\u021bile personale ale altora. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 \u021bi-a pl\u0103cut s\u0103 m\u0103 cite\u0219ti \u00een anii trecu\u021bi, iat\u0103 oportunitatea de a te asigura c\u0103 m\u0103 cite\u0219ti \u0219i anul \u0103sta. Sus\u021bine siteul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat.  Aici<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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