Scrisorica de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Drag\u0103 Lorena, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00ce\u021bi mul\u021bumesc pentru articolul cu Bordea \u0219i Spike, atitudinea ta smart \u0219i corect\u0103 legat\u0103 de subiect m-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 vreau s\u0103-\u021bi scriu. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sunt tip\u0103, 32 de ani. \u0218i toate v\u0103ic\u0103relile lui Bordea \u00eemi dau atacuri de anxietate \u0219i panic\u0103, pentru c\u0103 acum trei ani m-am desp\u0103r\u021bit \u0219i eu de un tip, dup\u0103 o rela\u021bie \u00een care el a devenit din ce \u00een ce mai preten\u021bios, mai controlling \u0219i mai misecuvenist, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care fiecare secund\u0103 a vie\u021bii mele trebuia programat\u0103 \u00een a\u0219a fel, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 ocup de treburile lui. Nu mai aveam deloc timp pentru mine sau pentru lucruri care-mi pl\u0103ceau mie, iar dac\u0103 m\u0103 a\u0219ezam la un film, \u00eemi g\u0103sea repede ceva de f\u0103cut pentru firm\u0103. Am uitat s\u0103 precizez, avea un magazin online. La \u00eenceput, l-am ajutat cu diverse chestii mici, cu poze f\u0103cute produselor \u0219i introducerea lor \u00een site, cu post\u0103ri pe pagina de Facebook \u0219i Instagram a firmei, apoi, nu se \u0219tie c\u00e2nd, toate astea au devenit obliga\u021bia mea. Ca o salariat\u0103, dar f\u0103r\u0103 salariu \u0219i beneficii, f\u0103r\u0103 mul\u021bumiri, numai cu scandal c\u00e2nd munca nu era pe m\u0103sura preten\u021biilor lui. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, n-am suportat \u0219i am plecat pentru c\u00e2teva zile \u00een vacan\u021b\u0103 \u00een alt ora\u0219, la var\u0103-mea, care \u0219tia ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, nu era de acord, \u0219i mi-a zis s\u0103 vin s\u0103 m\u0103 odihnesc. Mi s-a crizat \u00een fel \u0219i chip p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 plec, dar i-am zis c\u0103 am nevoie s\u0103 m\u0103 odihnesc, pentru c\u0103 jobul meu \u0219i toat\u0103 treaba gratuit\u0103 de la magazinul lui, plus treaba \u00een cas\u0103, m-au terminat<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n A doua zi dup\u0103 ce m-am dus la var\u0103-mea, mi-a dat mesaj c\u0103 rela\u021bia s-a terminat. Var\u0103-mea m-a felicitat, a deschis o \u0219ampanie, am b\u0103ut \u00eempreun\u0103 \u0219i ne-am bucurat. Jobul meu e remote, puteam lucra f\u0103r\u0103 probleme \u0219i de la var\u0103-mea, a\u0219a c\u0103 am r\u0103mas la ea dou\u0103 luni, apoi am revenit \u00een ora\u0219ul nostru \u0219i mi-am g\u0103sit chirie. Nici nu mi-am luat lucrurile de la el, a\u0219a de sil\u0103 \u00eemi era s\u0103-l rev\u0103d. Mi-am cump\u0103rat alte obiecte \u0219i aia a fost. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n La vreo trei luni dup\u0103 desp\u0103r\u021birea pe care EL a decis-o, a \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 streseze. B\u00e2rfe pe la to\u021bi prietenii despre cum l-am exploatat \u0219i l-am \u00een\u0219elat. Minciun\u0103, pentru c\u0103 eu pl\u0103team jum\u0103tate din tot \u0219i munca pentru magazinul lui o f\u0103ceam gratis, deci cine exploata pe cine? Iar pe timpul rela\u021biei eram prea obosit\u0103 s\u0103 adopt un c\u00e2ine, s\u0103 nu vorbim de timp pentru a cunoa\u0219te un alt b\u0103rbat. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i post\u0103ri lungi pe social media despre cum toate femeile sunt nesim\u021bite \u0219i c**ve, ca fosta lui. Pe astea nu le-am mai citit, i-am dat block. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Perioada asta a fost absolut \u00eengrozitoare pentru mine. Mul\u021bi \u00eel credeau. Unii veneau s\u0103 \u00eemi \u021bin\u0103 predici pe un ton atot\u0219tiutor \u0219i nu voiau s\u0103 aud\u0103 adev\u0103rul despre ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat de fapt. Al\u021bii m\u0103 tratau absolut oribil, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebe nimic. \u0218i-a f\u0103cut nu \u0219tiu c\u00e2te conturi false, s\u0103 m\u0103 streseze cu ele pe social media, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd mi-am \u0219ters eu toate conturile, de peste tot. \u0218i \u0219tiu c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti de acord cu \u0219tersul conturilor. dar eu nu mai \u0219tiam ce s\u0103 fac. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Printre pic\u0103turi, \u00eemi periodic mesaje de pe numere de telefon false, s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eemi mai d\u0103 o \u0219ans\u0103 s\u0103 revin la el, dac\u0103 vreau s\u0103 fie lini\u0219te. Tot el mie \u00eemi d\u0103 o \u0219ans\u0103. Po\u021bi s\u0103-\u021bi imaginezi nesim\u021birea, Lorena? El, care umplea lumea cu minciuni \u0219i b\u00e2rfe. El, care<\/strong> \u00eemi d\u0103duse cu flit. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n M-am dus iar la var\u0103-mea, am stat cu ea vreo \u0219ase luni \u0219i mi-am schimbat num\u0103rul de telefon, adresa de mail, tot, ca s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai deranjeze. A \u00eencercat s-o streseze online \u0219i pe ea, dar var\u0103-mea e \u00eenfipt\u0103, i-a zis c\u00e2teva de mor\u021bi \u0219i r\u0103ni\u021bi, \u0219i i-a zis c\u0103 dac\u0103-l vede prin ora\u0219, \u00eel bate de se c**\u0103 pe el. A \u00eencercat s\u0103 trimit\u0103 ni\u0219te pl\u00e2ngeri false la HR, la jobul meu, dar \u0103ia m\u0103 cunosc \u0219i i-au trimis un r\u0103spuns \u00een corporatez\u0103 \u00een care l-au trimis elegant la plimbare. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n De atunci, de c\u00e2te ori un b\u0103rbat face circ prin pres\u0103 fostei, mi se scoal\u0103 p\u0103rul pe mine de sc\u00e2rb\u0103 \u0219i groaz\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi amintesc prin ce am trecut cu psihopatul \u0103la. \u0218i am de zis doar at\u00e2t: Dac\u0103 investea\u021bi \u00een fosta, \u00een sens pozitiv, toat\u0103 energia asta pe care o desf\u0103\u0219ura\u021bi acum \u00een sens negativ, probabil c\u0103 rela\u021bia ar fi decurs altfel. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Fetelor, fi\u021bi atente la red flags \u00eenainte s\u0103 v\u0103 cupla\u021bi cu ei! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Merci, Lorena, c\u0103 ai citit cear\u0219aful \u0103sta. Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 nu m\u0103 lungesc, dar mailul s-a scris singur, pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce \u00eemi aminteam. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n O \u00eentrebare pentru tine: de ce fac unii at\u00e2ta scandal, dac\u0103 ei au ini\u021biat desp\u0103r\u021birea? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Te pup, <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mul\u021bumesc frumos pentru \u00eencredere. \u00cemi pare r\u0103u c\u0103 ai trecut prin toate astea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u0103-\u021bi r\u0103spund la \u00eentrebare: pentru c\u0103 \u00een mintea lui, el e mai bun dec\u00e2t tine. Pentru c\u0103 se a\u0219tepta ca, dup\u0103 ce \u021bi-a dat papucii, tu s\u0103 vii pl\u00e2ng\u00e2nd \u00eenapoi \u0219i s\u0103 te miloge\u0219ti ca un cer\u0219etor cu basca \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 nu te lase, c\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 el via\u021ba n-are rost \u0219i chestii de genul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tu nu doar c\u0103 n-ai f\u0103cut asta, dar \u021bi-ai \u0219i prelungit vizita la var\u0103-ta \u0219i, pe scurt. ai ar\u0103tat c\u0103 te descurci de minune f\u0103r\u0103 el. \u0218i atunci, orgoliul lui de buric al p\u0103m\u00e2ntului chinuit de b\u0103\u0219inile propriei importan\u021be a dat pe foc \u0219i \u021bi-a clocit o faz\u0103 din asta nasoal\u0103, s\u0103 te \u201epedepseasc\u0103\u201d pentru c\u0103 \u021bi-ai permis s\u0103 nu suferi dup\u0103 coco\u0219elul lui care, se \u0219tieee, e cadoul ultim al lui Dumnezeu pentru femei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Felicit\u0103ri veri\u0219oarei tale pentru modul exemplar \u00een care te-a sus\u021binut. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Acum, am \u0219i eu o \u00eentrebare prieteneasc\u0103: terapie faci? Dar nu cu genul de specialist care \u00ee\u021bi pl\u00e2nge de mil\u0103 \u0219i boce\u0219te cu tine, ci cu genul care \u00ee\u021bi aminte\u0219te c\u0103 meri\u021bi mai mult, \u0219i c\u0103 tu e\u0219ti mai mult dec\u00e2t aceast\u0103 experien\u021b\u0103 a ta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Genul \u0103sta de traum\u0103 las\u0103 ni\u0219te trust issues severe, care ar putea s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi afecteze viitoarele rela\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Bravo \u021bie c\u0103 te-ai deta\u0219at de individ, \u021bi-ai men\u021binut jobul \u0219i un oarecare echilibru \u0219i ai izbutit s\u0103 \u00eencepi o via\u021b\u0103 nou\u0103. Toate astea sunt o dovad\u0103 de curaj, hot\u0103r\u00e2re \u0219i rezilien\u021b\u0103, \u0219i meri\u021bi s\u0103 te prive\u0219ti tu pe tine prin prisma acestei lentile: a omului care a \u00eenvins. Ai \u00eenvins manipularea, intimidarea \u0219i agresivitatea. Ai o for\u021b\u0103 interioar\u0103 pe care trebuie s\u0103 \u021bi-o con\u0219tientizezi \u0219i s-o pre\u021buie\u0219ti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Tot ce \u021bi-a mai r\u0103mas de f\u0103cut s\u0103-\u021bi reg\u0103se\u0219ti pacea. R\u0103zboiul \u0103sta e deja luptat \u0219i \u00eencheiat, nu-l mai l\u0103sa s\u0103 continue \u00een sufletul t\u0103u. Ancoreaz\u0103-te \u00een prezent \u0219i vezi ce-\u021bi rezerv\u0103 viitorul. Va fi bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219\u0103ri, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 apreciezi aceast\u0103 rubric\u0103, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. 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